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terry // she/they // BLM // keep scrolling if you like puppies 8-) jamz

[planeterryum]

honestly shocked and surprised to find out that i have to learn to love myself to make up for feeling that i’ve never been loved in a romantic way

[animeblgging-deactivated2021110]

i’m always simultaneously both joking about everything and deadass serious about every word that comes out of my mouth

[retrogamingblog2]

Pastel Gameboy Pokemon Terrariums made by Winnie Sumida

[planeterryum]

i know this is a very common thought individuals have but probs something ive been dealing w on and off since 8 yrs old and the hardest thing for me to accept/get over:

always feeling that friends around me are closer to each other than to me, for the majority of my life holding someone as a “best friend” in my eyes but not being theirs back

part of the reason i wanted so desparately to be in a relationship bc i felt that was my way to guarantee that i was someone’s first pick. welp. i was in a relationship. loved (still love) them deeply, fully, wholely. i dont doubt she loved me. but i do doubt that i was her number 1. dont think/feel i was.

i’ve moved away, gotten a new job, made new friends, kept up w old, been added to grouo chats, created group chats. i see their group dynamics and wonder what role i serve in it. what purpose do i have. the group chats start to die down and neither i nor the others reach out. what are we? we say we’re friends but for how long?

[planeterryum]

i can feel friendships growing distant and im sad

[violentwavesofemotion-deactivat]

Sir Charles George Douglas Roberts, from Selected Poems; “In September,”

[bramblepatch]

Nicholas J Fury spent one weekend in the 90s hanging out with a cool lesbian and then spent the next twenty years trying and failing to find another superhero with her general degree of competence or emotional maturity

[juls-baby]

when u like someone and ur stomach feels like 🌹🌹🌹🌼🌼🌸🌺🌺🌺🌸✨✨🌙⭐️🌟🌟🌤🌤☀️🌙💫✨✨☄🌙

[alraunee]

[skypirate]

[xxthesmittenkittenxx]

making my wahy downtown

wahking fast

faces pass

[solardivulger]

*walks around my house looking for scissors while making a scissor motion with my fingers*

[gamecubist]

a masterpost

[yellowbloods-deactivated2021051]

as someone who experiences the passage of time i really relate to this

[mymathematics]

ANGLES

[timbllr]

via weheartit

[geek-scientist]

jane the virgin: portraying a bisexual man in a healthy relationship and slaying biphobes since 2017

[axsha]

*switches language to talk shit about you*

[merrybitchmas91-deactivated2019]

Why "doing something relaxing” does not help your anxiety

A lot of the time when people give advice intended to relieve anxiety, they suggest doing “relaxing” things like drawing, painting, knitting, taking a bubble bath, coloring in one of those zen coloring books, or watching glitter settle to the bottom of a jar.

This advice is always well-intentioned, and I’m not here to diss people who either give it or who benefit from it. But it has never, ever done shit for me, and this is because it goes about resolving anxiety in the completely wrong way.  

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO when suffering from anxiety is to do a “relaxing” thing that just enables your mind to dwell and obsess more on the thing that’s bothering you. You need to ESCAPE from the dwelling and the obsession in order to experience relief.

You can drive to a quiet farm, drive to the beach, drive to a park, or anywhere else, but as someone who has tried it all many, many times, trust me–it’s a waste of gas. You will just end up still sad and stressed, only with sand on your butt. You can’t physically escape your sadness. Your sadness is inside of you. To escape, you need to give your brain something to play with for a while until you can approach the issue with a healthier frame of mind. 

People who have anxiety do not need more time to contemplate, because we will use it to contemplate how much we suck.

In fact, you could say that’s what anxiety is–hyper-contemplating. When we let our minds run free, they run straight into the thorn bushes. Our minds are already running, and they need to be controlled. They need to be given something to do, or they’ll destroy everything, just like an overactive husky dog ripping up all the furniture. 

Therefore, I present to you: 

THINGS YOU SHOULD NOT DO WHEN ANXIOUS

–Go on a walk

–Watch a sunset, watch fish in an aquarium, watch glitter, etc.

–Go anywhere where the main activity is sitting and watching

–Draw, color, do anything that occupies the hands and not the mind

–Do yoga, jog, go fishing, or anything that lets you mentally drift 

–Do literally ANYTHING that gives you great amounts of mental space to obsess and dwell on things.

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO WHEN ANXIOUS:

–Do a crossword puzzle, Sudoku, or any other mind teaser game. Crosswords are the best.

–Write something. It doesn’t have to be a masterpiece. Write the Top 10 Best Restaurants in My City. Rank celebrities according to Best Smile. Write some dumb Legolas fanfiction and rip it up when you’re done. It’s not for publication, it’s a relief exercise that only you will see. 

–Read something, watch TV, or watch a movie–as long as it’s engrossing. Don’t watch anything which you can run as background noise (like, off the top of my head, Say Yes to The Dress.) As weird as it seems, American Horror Story actually helps me a lot, because it sucks me in. 

–Masturbate. Yes, I’m serious. Your mind has to concentrate on the mini-movie it’s running. It can’t run Sexy Titillating Things and All The Things That are Bothering Me at the same time. (…I hope. If it can, then…ignore this one.) 

–Do math problems—literally, google “algebra problems worksheet” and solve them. If you haven’t done math since 7th grade this will really help you. I don’t mean with math, I mean with the anxiety. 

–Play a game or a sport with someone that requires great mental concentration. Working with 5 people to get a ball over a net is a challenge which will require your brain to turn off the Sadness Channel. 

–Play a video game, as long as it’s not something like candy crush or Tetris that’s mindless. 

THINGS YOU SHOULD DO DURING PANIC ATTACKS ESPECIALLY:

–List the capitals of all the U.S. states

–List the capitals of all the European countries

–List all the shapes you can see. Or all the colors. 

–List all the blonde celebrities you can think of.

–Pull up a random block of text and count all the As in it, or Es or whatever.  

Now obviously, I am not a doctor. I am just an anxious person who has tried almost everything to help myself.  I’ve finally realized that the stuff people recommend never works because this is a disorder that thrives on free time and free mental space. When I do the stuff I listed above, I can breathe again. And I hope it helps someone here too. 

(Now this shouldn’t have to be said but if the “do nots” work for you then by all means do them. They’ve just never worked for me.)

[lovelyplot]

This would’ve been great an hour ago

[elliesgaymachete]

If your anxiety includes rapid heartbeat for no reason then it may help to exercise! It helps for me because I’m focused on whatever moves I’m doing and breathing, and it gives my heart rate a reason to be that high so that I can start the slow cooking down process and (hopefully) bring that heart rate down with it. Look up a quick cardio workout on YouTube or something and just do it in your room!

[systlin]

This is so, SO true. 

All ‘doing something relaxing’ ever did for me was give my brain MORE free time to FREAK THE FUCK OUT. 

[noriannbraindripshere]

I like how this boil down to grabbing something then tell the brains weasels to GO FETCH YOU PIECES OF SHIT

[systlin]

I mean. 

That’s basically it tho.