Im Trying To Be More Positive

I had intended for this blog to be about all the things that could help me live in a mostly self-sufficient and sustainable community. It kinda turned into a place to be angry about the things i'm trying to escape about the society I already live in. I'm trying to get back to focusing on the cool stuff to look forward to. I'm working on it.

[eugeniedanglars]

randomly remembered “i have d cups, grandpa. the waitress thinks you have dementia” tonight so i decided to find the original tweet again and

[refrainboy]

[ID: A Tweet and self-reply by Twitter user Akira.

The original Tweet says "At a certain magnitude of cunt severity, getting misgendered by your family stops hurting and starts being funny. I have D cups, Grandpa. The waitress thinks you have dementia."

The reply reads: "UPDATE: she was right". End ID]

[kitstacean]

So, one thing I'd like to note here is

One of the lesser known early symptoms of dementia is that people start being more disagreeable.

Part of this is probably the natural result of being increasingly confused and upset day to day constantly. Another possible thing is that the same mechanism that causes dementia is also attacking the part of the brain that does emotional regulation.

And the thing is this is super early stage. By the time they stop remembering when's the last time you met, it's already way too late. But if an older person in your life starts acting way more like a cunt for literally no reason, and it's not particularly in character for them, it really might be worth testing for dementia or Alzheimer's because you have a lot more options catching it earlier.

[vaspider]

this is a good argument for not being an asshole: people will notice sooner if you get more argumentative.

[muffinly]

^ that is a great point

[desinteresse]

Talking to friends with inept parents is crazy. No wonder they’re like this if their parents kept fumbling

[desinteresse]

“I’m having trouble adapting to my adult responsibilities” well no wonder, nobody raised you 😭😭😭

[desinteresse]

Hot tip for future parents: you actually have to guide your kid to adulthood. Feeding them and waiting for them to grow up is not enough since they are not house plants. A little more thought and care is required.

[mosssreblogs]

for those lacking certain "adulting" skills, especially things around the house, check out:

mom, how do i...?

and dad, how do i...?

^ there are tons of other resources but these two will teach you some personal hygiene, home or apartment repairs, easy recipes and basic cleaning techniques, even how to schedule doctor's appointments

if youre a renter i cannot recommend the trans handyma'am enough, mercury is a lifesaver, and her channel and accounts are always accepting new questions

there are so many resources, a lot that you dont have to even ask for, just know how to look 🩷 much love

[metanarrates]

all women should be more hairy and sweaty and eat more food and laugh more loudly. my stance as a feminist and also my stance as a lesbian pervert

[valtsv]

if you're an adult behaving immaturely i'm not going to "treat you like a child" about it because i have a lot of respect for children as an oppressed and vulnerable class of people. i will however treat you like an embarrassment. which you are being.

[valtsv]

[valtsv]

it's always "you gnawed off your own leg to escape like an animal caught in a trap" and never "why didn't anyone try to help you out of the trap" or "why weren't you provided with any other resources to escape the trap with except for your own teeth"

[trufflesmushroom]

[temporalreplicsimile]

🌈rice🌈

[roycohn]

there's an old anne rice interview circulating on twitter rn that i remember reading ages ago where she makes a pretty salient point about how submissive men who have bdsm fantasies etc will go to a sex worker and basically order the ala carte version of their fantasy to be performed in real life but women don't really have that same option and certainly not at the same point of availability so they read her horny books instead. and honestly that argument has been in the back of my mind every time people get on their high horses about the popularity of booktok romantasy novels or heated rivalry or whatever the "women are horny and we're upset about that" cultural property du jour is ever since. women, especially straight women, have so few outlets for their sexual desires, especially if they have a partner who doesn't share them, and i will never understand why "someone ELSE'S private sexual fantasy makes me uncomfortable and therefore they should not be allowed to engage with it, even if i am in no way being affected by it or even aware of it at all" is such a popular party line among allegedly progressive young people.

[mamoru]

sorry to be brave on the internet but I think food labels should list every single ingredient and that there should be harsher penalties for mislabeling and deceptive labeling

[turtlesandfrogs]

Seconded.

[what-even-is-thiss]

Health classes really ought to teach people what the beginning stages of addiction are like because a lot of people don’t realize they’re addicted to something until they’re years deep into it.

[holy0ak6-deactivated20240421]

[squeeblr]

via bree newsome bass on twitter: 

“The widely circulated timeline created by @Zerflin does a great job in showing how recently slavery & segregation occurred & that they lasted longer than the modern era. 

“I'd like to offer this timeline as another way of viewing the same period of history to show the constancy of both Black resistance in US & efforts of the white power structure to maintain racial caste since 1619.”

https://twitter.com/breenewsome/status/986427881680228354

[queen-mihai]

This second picture is MUCH more accurate!

[queen-mihai]

I had the exact same experience the second time I looked at this picture as the first time. I was looking like "what is this green line? Like suddenly everything is OK? It's not. Racists are still trying to push us back to 1619. Nothing has been fixed. We still need to fight. Hard!

[thesituation]

i don’t feel like debating that topic much farther bc truthfully if it comes down to “women will lose to men in every sport bc they don’t have as much testosterone!!!!!” my elite feminist response is honest to god “ok we will lose with honor as equals instead of having our own special Easy Mode Female category so we can win amongst ourselves” like i’m sorry i just can’t be persuaded. i’m a brick wall. i want co-ed sports

[bluering8]

listen to me, this is so so important: you've gotta get used to really giving it your 60% as a default. like don't half-ass it necessarily but try not to go over 70% or so of an ass. you'll feel better and live a happier more fulfilled life, and on the rare occasions where you do need to lock the fuck in you'll be able to pull off bullshit that the sad miserable wretches giving it their 100% can never dream off, because they're busy draining themselves dry and you have energy reserves to spare.

[drtrinitysantos]

sdxfcgvzdxfcgvhzdxfcgvhbjnkmlcgvhbjnk science

[dizzyhslightlyvoided]

#the reason that lab safety regulations are the way they are is because literally all chemists are like this #as in 100% of them #no exceptions (via @prokopetz)

[dragon-in-a-fez]

obliterate the concept of "spoiling" a child. excise it from your lexicon like a cancer. that is some "the opposite of sin is suffering" Puritan ass bullshit. it is not possible to ruin a person through an overabundance of kindness.

[plannedscape]

that's not what I understood "spoiling" to mean at all? It's not about an excess of kindness, it's about a lack of lessons that their actions have consequences and their behaviors affect others. spoiled kids are not kids whose parents help them with dishes and cooking, but kids whose parents do all the dishes and cooking because they whine and weasel their way out of basic life skills they see as menial chores without any opposition

spoiled kids are kids whose parents stand up for them when their kid IS the bully, or even add on to the pressure

spoiled kids are kids who never express basic etiquette like saying "please" and "thank you", or whatever is appropriate to their culture. People who don't learn how to actually apologize or even seem to recognize that they should take it seriously when they upset someone and that sometimes their actions might merit an apology

and i am FAR from a person who is going to agree with the type of opinion that thinks children as a whole should have more discipline. There are a lot of problems with the culture around children. I have a lot of issue with children being viewed as property of their parent or guardian, and it makes me sad when toddlers and teens are unfairly dreaded.

but i think it IS possible to spoil a child in that way. The child who doesnt do chores or treat their parents kindly becomes the young adult who doesnt clean up after themselves and is abusive to roommates and partners. I dont mean that in a hypothetical sense. This is people ive known, even people I grew up with, as classmates and in friend groups. And as a child myself I could recognize that something was wrong when they would yell at their parents for being asked to clean up after themselves, or tell their parents to get out of the living room because they have a friend over and want to play video games, or their parents would bring us snacks and they wouldnt even look up in acknowledgement let alone thank them (though i did)

and I think those parents did a serious disservice for raising their child in that environment because the spoiled children became spoiled teenagers, became spoiled young adults who never apologized because they never took responsibility, and who snapped at and coerced their friends into getting their way, and over time we each told them we didnt like the way they treated us, and they yelled at us for saying so, and we eventually left. Theyre not part of the friend groups anymore, groups that have otherwise largely stayed together. And all of us who were driven away by mistreatment feel a little sad to have lost a friend but each independently and gradually decided it was no longer healthy for us. And each of us had noticed at some point how their parents never stood up to them, or if they did, caved to the slightest pushback. You don't spoil a child by being understanding and doing kind things for them. You spoil a child when you fail to teach them how to do the same for others.

[rimonoroni2]

my general opinion on what people should be "allowed" to portray and what topics they should be "allowed" to explore in fiction is that you can make whatever art with whatever themes you want but i'm also allowed to think the way you handled it was tasteless and should've been done differently. my negative opinion on your handling of sensitive topics is the price of admission for publicly showcasing your work. this is not a pro-censorship stance because i am not The Government

[rimonoroni2]

this is getting really popular so i’d like to add the important caveat that your criticism of a work is no more unassailable than the work itself. just as one is entitled to be critical of something someone else is entitled to disagree with that criticism. i add this because some of you pretend to give a fuck about thoughtful analysis and then when someone points out flaws in your argument you declare that all criticisms are valid. this is untrue. the status of a hater is no more sacred than that of a liker. get off your high horse and engage in the thoughtful discussion you pretend to believe in or perish by my blade

[i-post-hilarious-shit]

[butterfly-sapphic]

Do threats and punishments make people change their behaviour to the desired? Or does it make them prepare for the punishment? The answer will shock you.

[forfuckssakejim]

Yeah quiet quitting is great and all but have you tried chaotic working?

Like. I remember back in my grocery store cashier days I did so much crazy shit.

When WIC (Women, infants, and children voucher program to help low income mothers/families with children) people were in my line I would pretty much know who they were. Before the cards they had to tell us upfront they were WIC and show us their vouchers for what they were allowed to get (it was awful some times. Like. 2 gallons of milk. $4 worth of vegetables etc etc). They’d always have items hanging back, waiting to see what the total was and if they would have to take it off the belt.

I began to place the fruits/vegetables a certain way on the register scale so that like 1/2lbs of grapes read as like .28lbs or something. Then act shocked when I said that they still had X amount of lbs left. They got all their fruit and vegetables.

I think it started to kinda? Catch on to the women? Because I would have the same moms in my line month after month. And even after they switched to the cards (they worked like food stamp cards?) I’d still do the same thing. They were able to get more produce for whatever shitty max amount Indiana gave them.

Anyways. Be chaotic. It’s more fun that way.

[bshmatthews]