Polyamory Networking

Welcome to PFN! this blog will serve as a basis of information and networking for those that are within a Polyamorous Family/Polycule, or simply Identify as Polyamorous/Polygamous. If you have any comments questions or concerns, feel free to use Ask, under Anon ✌ •-Selki is a Polyromantic mother of two who identifies as Polyamorous and NonMonogomous. -Selki does engage sexually separately from her Primary, and has an Open Relationship. -Selki runs this blog solo so Feel free to ask if you have any questions! 💞Lgbtqia+/MOGAI/Poly Safe Space!💞

[otterysaintcatchpole]

So I’m sick of the exclusive representation of polyamory as triads or quads, mostly and especially because of fanfiction, and that people see triads etc as the only viable, fair version of polyamory

Polyamorous people exist outside of that

Some poly couples date people that their partners are not dating

Some poly people date monogamous people and their partner does not date

Some poly people are not on triads and I think that’s important to remember

[prmtr-burial]

Kill love triangles, support Polyamory 💙❤🖤

[polyhorde]

30 Day Non-Monogamy Challenge

Here’s a writing challenge! (Since Tumblr seems rather fond of them.) You can write one prompt per day or take them by sections if you prefer. Good luck!

Basics:

1. Brief introduction. How do you self-identify? What are your defining interests/passions?

2. Describe your history with non-monogamy and/or alternative lifestyles

3.Describe the type of non-monogamous relationship you have. (You can use an existing category or make up your own!)

4. What was your introduction to non-monogamy? What was that experience like?

5. Why and when did you identify as non-monogamous? Or when did you accept it as a valid relationship style?

6.How do you feel about non-monogamy in general? Honestly….

Coming Out:

7. How do you feel about non-monogamous people outing themselves?

8. How do you feel about coming out yourself? How has it effected your life either positively or negatively? (If you haven’t how do you think it will?)

9. Describe the worst and best experiences you’ve had coming out to people about being non-monogamous.

10. Thoughts on PDA?

Relationships:

11. What is your living situation like? What would you like it to be?

12. What does marriage mean to you?

13. What does parenting mean to you?

14. What do you think about hierarchical non-monogamy? (e.g. having relationships that are primary v. secondary)

15. What type of relationship, if any, do you have with your partners’ partners?

16. Describe the best and worst interaction with a partner’s partner.

 Let’s talk about sex:

17. How do you define “intimacy”? Is sex required for it to be a ‘real relationship’?

18. How do you define “sex”?

19. Threesomes, foursomes, moresomes. What’s your view?

20. What, if any, agreements do you and your partners have about sex?

21. Thoughts on fluid bonding?

22. A majority of non-monogamous people are also kinky – what are your thoughts on kink?

The world at large:

23. What, if any, involvement have you had with any groups or organizations? How did you find them?

24. The stupidest argument or comment you’ve heard about non-monogamy, either for or against?

25. Your favorite Non-monogamous blog/tumblr/site/book?

26. A resource you’ve found especially helpful.

27.A favorite picture, song and/or video you associate with non-monogamy.

Mushy Stuff:

28. What’s an in-joke between you and your partner?

29. What is one thing about your partner that drives you nuts? What’s one thing that makes you smile?

30. They’re about to get on a plane – what do you say?

And finally:

31. (OPTIONAL) What do you get out of being non-monogamous - it’s a lot of extra work so why do it? 

[polyamoryfacts]

Fact: any given polycule has someone who has at least one of the following things on them at all times:

a sewing kit

a full set of dice

a pocket knife

a perpetual sense of dread

[pansexual-peep]

Well I carry at least one a day, today I have everything besides a full set of dice (in on my way to get them)

Update: I have all 4

Why am I like this

[kimchicuddles]

You’re not too much <3 TikvaWolf.com

[kimchicuddles]

Come have a seat at the table at Black Poly Pride <3 “A conference for everyone who understands why this conference is necessary!”

For more info on tickets, classes/schedule (and DONATING if you can’t make it): blackpolypride.com

Thanks, Evita Lavitaloca Sawyers, Chaneè Jackson Kendall, and Cheri’ Calico Roman <3

[realsuggestions]

Platonic love is not a runner up to romantic love. Platonic love isn’t second place. Platonic love isn’t less real, less valid or less powerful than romantic love. Don’t let your platonic love take a back seat to romantic love.

[polythought]

This polyamory blog is not anti-monogamy It is pro–relationship choice

[kimchicuddles]

TikvaWolf.com

[polyhammer]

[colorogasm]

Always Remember:

kissing can and will, get boring.

its ok to go to sleep on opposite sides.

forgetting favorites, dates and replies is only human.

you dont have to like, or be friends with all of their friends and vice-versa.

they have a right to spend weekends dedicating to their friends and family. you have the same right.

privacy is still in play.

trying simple things that they like, no matter how much you are sure you will dislike it, is a very small step you can take to show your love to them.

you dont gotta have the same taste in music, food, books etc.

saying i love you, thank you, take care, please and i missed you really helps.

you cant agree with all their life decisions and they cant with yours. keeping an open mind and having an honest and deep discussion about it helps. 

they dont need your permission to do things and neither you need theirs.

the intention and care behind the gift matters. not its price tag. 

dont try and change them. help them become better versions of themselves and get the same help and support and care from them. 

know what matters most and focus on that.

[devilearper-deactivated20200604]

Gay guys are not here to be your gay best friend

Lesbians don’t exist to be fetishized

Bisexuals aren’t greedy, more likely to cheat, or confused

Transgender people don’t just want attention and it isn’t a phase

Asexuals are completely valid and should be 100% accepted in the lgbt+ community

Pansexual is not the same is bi, nor is it less valid

Demisexuality is not the same as being a “regular” person. It is a valid sexuality.

Non-Binary pronouns are not hard to respect

Poly people are not gross or greedy, and deserve to be happy with their partner(s)

[just-shower-thoughts]

True love is when both people think they got the better end of the deal.

[kimchicuddles]

How do you show a satellite they’re special? TikvaWolf.com

[faesaridollie]

Normalize poly based relationships

So teens who realize they’re poly don’t think that even though they develop romantic feelings for multiple people, they don’t think they’re wrong or dirty

So adults who develop romantic feelings for a new person when they’re already in a relationship don’t think they’re somehow unfaithful or “never loved” their first partner in the first place

So we can have better seating arrangements in cars

[polyamorousfamilynetwork]

That last one

[mooooriiiitzz]

People think that intimacy is about sex. But intimacy is about truth. When you realize you can tell someone your truth, when you can show yourself to them, when you stand in front of them and their response is “you’re safe with me” - that’s intimacy.

The Seven Husbands Of Evelyn Hugo

[prsephonies-deactivated20200815]

acting like polyamory will solve cheating is ….. cracked . lol. infidelity is rooted in lack of respect for your partner and a general absence of integrity and decency. cheating doesn’t happen bc u are Constrained By Oppressive Monogamy. it is a choice. and you are an asshole

[butchmachine]

Cheating can still happen in polyamory