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[positive-percy]

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[positive-percy]

General Wellness Check

When was the last time you ate or drank something? If it’s been a while (my self-standards are 5-6 hours for food and 1-2 hours for water), please make an effort to get some.

When was the last time you moved? If you’ve been in one position for a while, I suggest perhaps walking around the room a little, moving to a different spot, adjusting the way you’re sitting, or even just stretching your arms.

Are you able to get some fresh air? Is it safe and viable for you to open a window a little or step outside for a moment? If not, may I suggest lighting a nicely scented candle?

How’s your hygiene? If it’s been longer than you’d like, please make a commitment to take care of it soon!

When was the last time you spoke with someone you care about? Consider reaching out to them, and letting them know they’re in your thoughts.

Have you been interacting with things that are damaging to your mental well-being? If you are, please stop! Purposefully interacting with things that cause you emotional or physical distress is incredibly unhealthy, and a form of self-harm.

Do you need to take your medication? If so, please take it.

Are you holding tension in your jaw and shoulders? Relax it.

Remember that you are important. You have infinite value, simply because you exist. I’m grateful to have you here on this planet with me. You deserve to take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy.

[positive-percy]

General Wellness Check

When was the last time you ate or drank something? If it’s been a while (my self-standards are 5-6 hours for food and 1-2 hours for water), please make an effort to get some.

When was the last time you moved? If you’ve been in one position for a while, I suggest perhaps walking around the room a little, moving to a different spot, adjusting the way you’re sitting, or even just stretching your arms.

Are you able to get some fresh air? Is it safe and viable for you to open a window a little or step outside for a moment? If not, may I suggest lighting a nicely scented candle?

How’s your hygiene? If it’s been longer than you’d like, please make a commitment to take care of it soon!

When was the last time you spoke with someone you care about? Consider reaching out to them, and letting them know they’re in your thoughts.

Have you been interacting with things that are damaging to your mental well-being? If you are, please stop! Purposefully interacting with things that cause you emotional or physical distress is incredibly unhealthy, and a form of self-harm.

Do you need to take your medication? If so, please take it.

Are you holding tension in your jaw and shoulders? Relax it.

Remember that you are important. You have infinite value, simply because you exist. I’m grateful to have you here on this planet with me. You deserve to take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy.

[positive-percy]

Percy, how do you desk with grief? I've had to go through it so often, you'd think it gets easier, but this one just hit harder for some reason, and I don't know what to do

Grief is a very difficult thing to deal with, it’s alright that it’s not really the sort of thing you can get used to. I struggle with coping with it myself, and fully recommend seeing a licensed psychotherapist if you are able!

What will work for some people won’t work well for others, but perhaps some of these may be a good starting place?

Make sure you intake plenty of food and water, and get a regular amount of sleep! These are often the first things to drop off the list when we’re struggling, but they’re the most important to our continued wellbeing. Perhaps find a buddy to check in with periodically to make sure you are take care of yourself.

Grief is complicated, and sometimes never really goes away. Try to be kind to yourself and not get frustrated if you experience emotions you thought you had “gotten over”.

Reach out to others who may be feeling similarly. Support can mean a world of difference, and it’s alright to need a shoulder to cry on. (Though do ensure that those you turn to who are not licensed counselors are aware that they are able to step away if needed. It is hard for people to support each other if their own needs for wellbeing are not being met. It is not a judgement of you or your grief if someone needs space.)

Remember that it is okay, and encouraged, to cry! You deserve a safe space to express your feelings and release the chemicals that build up in the brain.

Understand that your best may not look the same as it did prior to the event that has caused you grief. Try to be kind to yourself. You’re struggling, it is alright if your best effort looks different.

Keep some structure in your life, especially when it comes to your needs. A regular schedule may help deter potential spirals.

It’s alright if you need to take breaks and escape into fiction. Don’t deprive yourself of the enrichment you need.

Above all else: keep going. You will hurt and you may never feel the same as you once were, but you are strong enough to survive. Sometimes courage is going to bed and knowing you will try again when you wake up. I believe in you.

[positive-percy]

Hey, Percy. I'm currently having a lot of trouble eating and I constantly starving myself and skipping meals. Any tips or help on how to stop it?

I think the cause would be worth looking into if you are capable, as that may help you find ways to resolve the issue. Perhaps in the meantime (or if professional help is not available to you), you could try:

Keeping snacks on you to eat whenever you feel even a little hungry (mindless snacking is a very good way to get food down when you're struggling!)

Having someone sit and eat alongside you

Dedicate periods of the day where nothing is scheduled except to eat

Try pre-prepared meals that can be reheated, if the energy cost of making food is daunting

Have a video or book or music or other form of entertainment on hand that helps keep you from overthinking about eating

Celebrate every bite you manage to have! Eating may be necessary, but it isn't easy for all of us, especially when bodies and minds are fighting against us. Know that you are doing great with every effort to take care of yourself

If nausea is an issue, I find that taking little sips of cold water can help sometimes

Find foods that you have an easier time eating, and find some ways to add some more nutrition to it! (For example, adding a bit of butter to pasta, using heavy cream instead of milk, or even wrapping a cheese stick in a slice of your preferred deli meat!)

I wish you the best of luck in this battle, and I have confidence that you will arrive on the other side, victorious. Always remember that the goal is to get your body the energy it needs, regardless of what corners need to be cut to get there!

[positive-percy]

Hey Percy!! This is a reminder that you're amazing and we all love you /p

Thank you for your kindness! You are all quite spectacular as well.

[positive-percy]

Yes actually I do want a hug AND cookies /nf

Then you may have both!

[positive-percy]

Hey, Percy, can I have some hugs and some good vibes cuz my life is starting to go to a downhill of really bad stuff and I dunno if I can handle it..

Of course! A hug that lasts thirty seconds or longer triggers the release of chemicals in your brain that lift your mood.

I may not know you personally, but I can tell that you're a very strong person, even if you don't think so yourself. You've made it through so much already, and I know that you can make it through this, too. Life has to go downhill before it can start going uphill, sometimes. You're not alone. Time will continue moving forward, and someday, things will get better. Hang on until then.

[positive-percy]

By the way, this blog supports people of all kinds, including people who self diagnose physical or mental issues, or identify as endogenic systems. No one owes you an explanation or a justification for their existence, and if you feel the urge to harass or be cruel to someone for existing, I urge you to seek to reform your thought patterns for the health and safety of both yourself and others. The existence of people just trying to live their lives is not a threat just because they are different.

[positive-percy]

General Wellness Check

When was the last time you ate or drank something? If it’s been a while (my self-standards are 5-6 hours for food and 1-2 hours for water), please make an effort to get some.

When was the last time you moved? If you’ve been in one position for a while, I suggest perhaps walking around the room a little, moving to a different spot, adjusting the way you’re sitting, or even just stretching your arms.

Are you able to get some fresh air? Is it safe and viable for you to open a window a little or step outside for a moment? If not, may I suggest lighting a nicely scented candle?

How’s your hygiene? If it’s been longer than you’d like, please make a commitment to take care of it soon!

When was the last time you spoke with someone you care about? Consider reaching out to them, and letting them know they’re in your thoughts.

Have you been interacting with things that are damaging to your mental well-being? If you are, please stop! Purposefully interacting with things that cause you emotional or physical distress is incredibly unhealthy, and a form of self-harm.

Do you need to take your medication? If so, please take it.

Are you holding tension in your jaw and shoulders? Relax it.

Remember that you are important. You have infinite value, simply because you exist. I’m grateful to have you here on this planet with me. You deserve to take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy.

[positive-percy]

You have infinite value, simply because you exist.

[spacemancharisma]

the body positivity movement needs to start moving hard into including disabled bodies and this is what I mean by that. yes, it was a good step forward to change the rhetoric from “your body is a good body if it meets these arbitrary aesthetic standards” to “your body is a good body because it completes these tasks for you” (ie: walking, eating, laughing, hugging, etc.) but that rhetoric is still not fully body positive, because it excludes bodies that do not do these things. the same as saying how we need to “focus on healthy bodies not skinny bodies” sounds good at first, but it completely misses the point that unhealthy bodies deserve to be appreciated too. disabled bodies are still beautiful and still fundamentally good, not because “your body is kind to you so you should be kind to your body”- because not everyone’s body is kind to them. but all bodies are still good bodies because they are what houses your soul. your body is what allows you to exist and live your life in whatever way you live it, and for that reason, it is a good and beautiful body. your body is what your loved ones see when they look at you and the love they feel for it as an extension of you makes it a good and beautiful body. your body doesn’t have to look a certain way or behave a certain way to be good. it is good just for being here.

[friendlyneighbourhoodpapergay]

Yet another reminder that faking is a conscious choice that you make.

It is not something you can do accidentally, regards of what you're talking about.

You can't accidentally fake depression, or anxiety, or bipolar disorder, or schizophrenia, or any other mental illness.

You can't accidentally fake Borderline Personality Disorder, Histrionic Personality Disorder, personality disorders.

You can't accidentally fake ADHD, autism, Tourette's Syndrome, auditory processing disorder, aphasia or any other neurodivergence

You can't accidentally fake being trans or ace-spec or aro-spec or any other LGBTQIA+ identity.

You can't accidentally fake chronic illnesses like CFS, fibromyalgia or any chronic illness.

You also can't accidentally fake being good/intelligent at something. You didn't fool your peers into reaching your position.

You can't accidentally fake trauma, PTSD/cPTSD, DID/OSDD/DDNOS or any other trauma-based disorder.

Tldr:

Faking is a conscious choice.

You cannot do it by accident.

If you are worried that you are faking, that in itself is proof that you are not.

[norahjakobs]

Hey shoutout to

People with “minor” disabilities who aren’t sure if they belong in disabled spaces

People who have rare disabilities and don’t see other people with the same disability, even in disabled spaces

People who’ve been told nothing is wrong with them even though is something clearly wrong that now feel like they’re just making stuff up

People who have been dismissed by doctors because they didn’t fit the image the doctor had of what a “sick” person looked like

People who tried to get help for their problem and are still waiting

People who have unaddressed health problems in general

Y’all are great and deserve the world!

[positive-percy]

General Wellness Check

When was the last time you ate or drank something? If it’s been a while (my self-standards are 5-6 hours for food and 1-2 hours for water), please make an effort to get some.

When was the last time you moved? If you’ve been in one position for a while, I suggest perhaps walking around the room a little, moving to a different spot, adjusting the way you’re sitting, or even just stretching your arms.

Are you able to get some fresh air? Is it safe and viable for you to open a window a little or step outside for a moment? If not, may I suggest lighting a nicely scented candle?

How’s your hygiene? If it’s been longer than you’d like, please make a commitment to take care of it soon!

When was the last time you spoke with someone you care about? Consider reaching out to them, and letting them know they’re in your thoughts.

Have you been interacting with things that are damaging to your mental well-being? If you are, please stop! Purposefully interacting with things that cause you emotional or physical distress is incredibly unhealthy, and a form of self-harm.

Do you need to take your medication? If so, please take it.

Are you holding tension in your jaw and shoulders? Relax it.

Remember that you are important. You have infinite value, simply because you exist. I’m grateful to have you here on this planet with me. You deserve to take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy.

[positive-percy]

More things for disability pride month

We do not need to preform the same as abled people to be worthy of respect and equal rights.

Disabled is not a bad word.

Fat disabled people’s disabilities are just as real and valid as skinny people’s are.

Invisible disabilities are just as real and valid as visible ones, and both types deserve better treatment from governments, doctors, ableds, other disabled people, etc.

There is no “one size fits all” for disabilities. If you want to be accessible, you have to be flexible.

If a disabled person says no to something or needs to stop or leave, LISTEN. We know our limits better than you do. Pushing us past our limits is actively causing us harm.

Disabilities come in many forms, many more “socially acceptable” than others! This does not mean that people with those disabilities experience no ableism, and they deserve better accessibility, too! (Ex. The cost of glasses.)

Disabled BIPOC deserve equal rights, respect, and accessibility too!

[ace-and-aro-wlw-positivity]

Disability Etiquette - Some Do’s and Do not’s!

Hey all! It’s your local disabled Mod Ife! Since it is disability pride month, here is some simple etiquette to keep in mind in your daily interactions with disabled people! 

The Do’s

Do use the word disabled! Disabled is not a bad word! Differently abled or physically challenged often come across as condescending and it is better to just use the word disabled. 

Do try and increase accessibility! A simple way of doing this right now can be adding captions to your posts, or breaking up large blocks of text into smaller paragraphs. 

Do listen to disabled people! If there’s an issue involving disability rights, listen to our voices! There are many of us willing to discuss these issues in depth! (Also understand that every disabled person you meet or admire does not have to give you their in depth opinion on every issue!)

Do talk to or ask questions to the disabled person, not their companions! In most circumstances this is what the person with a disability will prefer, as you talking about them while they are right there is often hurtful (especially if it is coming from a medical professional). 

Do try and see how an individual with a disability refers to themselves. (in example “a person with autism” (person-first language) vs “an autistic person” (identity-first language)) 

There is no real hard and fast rule for this so if you’re meeting someone who is disabled and want to know which they would prefer, if they have a preference, listen to how they refer to themselves!

The Do Not’s

Do not assume that a person who is disabled needs your assistance. While it can be kind to ask if they need help, you shouldn’t just jump in without asking first!

(For example if you see someone struggling to get their wheelchair up a ramp, please ask before just pushing them up!)

(Not only can it be scary and rude to be suddenly grabbed by someone and have no control over your movement, but you never know if that person feels they need to make it up that ramp themselves.)

Do not assume that because you can’t see or determine a person’s disability that they aren’t disabled. There are so many people in this world with invisible disabilities and they don’t need to hear from you that you think they’re faking it.

Do not assume that because a mobility aid isn’t needed constantly and at all times that the person is faking their disability. There are many people with disabilities who need a mobility aid only part of the time!

Do not ask disabled people personal questions about their illness, disability, etc. - particularly in public - and particularly if you don’t know them. Most disabled people are not willing to give you their medical and or mental health history just to satisfy your curiosity.

If you really really need to know, AND you know this particular disabled person, you can ask if it would be ok to ask them questions about their disability.

Do not assume that life with a disability is miserable, or not worth living. People with disabilities can and do lead happy lives!

Do not assume that people with disabilities just need to “try harder” to be “normal”. Disabled people are often already trying their hardest, and to be told that it isn’t enough hurts.

-Mod Ife