oh my goodness WHO CARESSSSS
this is always the problem. someone tells jason (in canon and fanon) that bruce is trying, that bruce is doing his best-- framing their issues like it's jason's fault because he refuses to bend and buckle. they try to act like jason just needs to meet bruce halfway and it's his unwillingness to acknowledge that bruce is "trying" that's keeping their relationship so tense
but bruce ISNT trying. this is what he said before barbara said that:
bruce isn't trying because his solution is to make JASON try harder. bruce is saying the easy part-- simply telling jason to leave behind his vigilante identity, which isn't even a compromise because he expects jason to do what he alone wants. JASON has to try to actually leave it behind, to maintain a new one, to go back to the bat way of doing things. that's all on jason. bruce saying he'll help him find a better path means nothing because he isn't gonna be doing any of the heavy lifting.
what is the point of his apology if it means dust? all he says over and over in various comics is i'm sorry i failed you. okay, great. now what are you gonna do to actually make it up to jason because so far, you've only failed him further.
every time, jason is framed as the unreasonable one, like bruce is some kind of toddler and jason's being a big meanie by refusing to play games with him. why should the burden to fix their relationship be solely on jason? why should bruce "trying" be enough for jason?
bruce is not trying to fix shit if his solution is to make jason do everything while he gets to sit back and enjoy the end result. batman means everything to bruce to the point where his real relationships are impacted by it because he refuses to let go of that identity. yet he expects jason to let go of the red hood when the red hood means everything to jason.
but yeah girl, he's trying. stupid jason omg can he stop making everything so hard