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[imaginevalley]

Sometimes all you need is to go out and a change of environment...

Even the tiniest act such as wearing a new dress or just going for window shopping and trying out funky clothes can do wonders to your mind.

These tiny things DO help

[soft-butch-cassidy]

doing anything is hard when you’re depressed but sitting around in apathy ain’t gonna help. get the fuck up. seriously. do one thing. open the curtains. dust your monitor. throw away those leftovers in the fridge from last week. clean the bathroom sink. its an ocean of bullshit and you need to swim. break the cycle of misery and guilt and apathy so you can get better. its hard. do it anyway. recovery starts with breaking the cycle. baby steps, but steps.

[soft-butch-cassidy]

it’s not ableist or anything to tell someone with depression to do something. look. it’s hard. it sucks. but you wont get better if you don’t do anything. depression is a cycle. you dont have energy to do things, so things dont get done, so you feel guilty, which makes you more depressed, with less energy, and so on. but you can’t recover if you dont start. you can’t get help without getting it. that’s a verb! you need to do it! do something! break the cycle and you’ll start to recover. it’s a long, difficult process, and you can’t do it alone, and you might need medication and therapy, but you can’t get on the road to recovery if you’re staying inside with the curtains closed. you can’t even open the curtains without taking baby steps. you can’t take baby steps until you stand up. so stand up.

[afronerdism]

I’m so happy to see that the notes are mostly* filled with people agreeing with and talking about how they’ve done this to help break the cycle of depression. Got me like

[queerplatonicpositivity]

[ ID: Three separate images with different quotes. Each has “National Coming Out Day 2019″ at the bottom. First image: background of oak leaves and acorns on a rock. The quote reads, “Coming out is my decision and mine alone. No one can decide for me. I have agency over my own life and identity.” Second image: background of orange-gold front-like plants in a field. The quote reads, “It’s okay if I decide not to come out. It is not always safe or wise to come out. Choosing to stay in the closet is valid, and I get to decide what is best for me. Third image: background of yellow tulips. The quote reads, “It’s okay if I am out to some people but not out to others, or if I am out in some spaces or with some identities, but not with others. This is my life and my choice, and I am valid.” ]

So I’m a couple days late on these, but friends I have been battling severe anxiety due to some family stuff and p much just turned on the queue and have been taking each hour as it comes. Sorry these are late and I hope people still find them helpful. These are all things I needed someone to say to me at one point or another in my life.

[chairemoji]

as someone who is severely mentally ill it’s important to know that i am not alone but people who tell me that i am not alone because everyone goes though hard times in their life are doing the opposite of helping. i completely understand why people say that sort of thing but it just reinforces what my mentally ill brain is already telling me, that i shouldn’t complain, that people have it so much worse, that it’s not bad enough to seek help. when telling a mentally ill person they aren’t alone you should be telling them that you are there for them and are there to listen and understand them. sometimes sympathy is more important than empathy

[pozitivass]

Saying NO is one of the best act of self care.

[miniature-stigmata]

people talking about your confidence is a fat girl thing, isn’t it? 

i really can’t tell you how many times i get this in my inbox:

i love your confidence! your confidence is sexy! i envy your confidence! 

and a thin girl recently told me: confidence is the most attractive thing a women can carry though, and that is only something you can control.

but i have never seen a thin girl be told it’s their confidence that makes them attractive. when i get these messages it really reads like: fat girls aren’t supposed to be confident and comfortable in their skin but you are!! and that’s kind of gross honestly.

[miniature-stigmata]

told yall

[rusccc]

[miniature-stigmata]

believe us

[afronerdism]

Honestly. Truly. And really

[pozitivass]

Self care tip#4

Eat healthily I’m not talking about only eating salads or counting calories for every meal that you take, what I want to tell you is to eat only when you’re really hungry not because you’re bored or thirsty (your body has difficulties differentiating between hunger and thirst) and in appropriate quantity. If you’re the type to eat snacks every one hour, when you should drink water instead (that way you can reach those 12 glasses per day) or if that’s too much for you don’t eat the snacks straight from the bag, pour it in a small bowl and eat a small portion instead of the whole thing.

[thelightentersyou]

remember to forgive yourself everyday.

you deserve to be at peace with yourself.

and if you can’t forgive yourself today, it’s okay.

do the best you can.

it’s enough.

you still have time.

[pozitivass]

SELF CARE ISN'T SELFISH!!!!!

[pozitivass]

Self care tip#3

Drink water as we all know drinking water is good for us in many ways but not everyone drinks 12 glasses of water a day (about 2 litres). Here’s a tip, when you wake up before doing anything else drinking a bottle of water and drink another bottle before going to sleep, that’s how I do it. If that’s not working for you then instead of drinking, eat the water; eat fruits like watermelons, strawberries, peaches, oranges, etc. 

[pozitivass]

Positivty always wins... Always.

- Gary vaynerchuk

[pozitivass]

[estebun]

So I just got this message literally few minutes ago

And if YOU get this message in the future DON’T YOU FUCKING DARE CLINK ON THE LINK I FUCKING SWEAR TO GOD I WILL CUT YOUR HANDS OFF

A warning to all of my followers there no such a thing as @exposingthoselosers I just thought any form of information is good and can protect my followers from getting their phone or any other devices hacked if you’re connect to the wifi they might hack all of the devices connected.

DO NOT FUCKING CLICK ON ANU LINK YOU GET NOT EVEN FROM UR FRIENDS ON TUMBLR BECAUSE THEY COULD GET HACKED 👀

Pls share this awareness ⚠

[izzyfandoms]

Also blogs get hacked or something and send these without the blog owner’s consent. I got this message and then afterwards the person who sent it to me said they didn’t send that.

[angelcatsiel]

got a message from a mutual today similar to this and they later messaged me to say it wasn’t them so yeah be careful

[djpaige13paige]

Basically if you get this message, don’t click on it, instead tell the person that you received that message. That way they know that they were hacked.

If I ever send you any message, especially if it has a link, message me back about the message before you click on the link. I will understand because things like this^^ can happen.

[liviastudiespsych]

Guuuuys. I’ve received this

I’ve checked with the person running the account and it was a virus. Sooo… Be careful

[a-shakespearean-in-paris]

I just got a message like this and thought it sounded familiar. Be careful everyone!

[hazel2468]

Yeah hey followers I do NOT go around randomly sending links, so if you get something like this from me, let me know because I did NOT send it.

[afronerdism]

This is why I never click any links I’m sent on here ever

[afronerdism]

The conversation surrounding cultural appropriation has been so severely mutilated by white “allies” that the original intention behind that conversation has become almost unrecognizable in most social contexts.

[afronerdism]

To explain what I mean, the conversation around cultural appropriation was started by black and native people to discuss the frustrations we feel at being punished socially and financially for partaking in our cultural heritage while white people could take, I.e. appropriate, aspects of our culture that we are actively shamed for and be heralded as innovators. It was about the frustrations we feel when the same white people who shamed us would take our culture and wear it as if they were the ones who created it while still actively shaming us for doing the same.

The original push behind naming cultural appropriation and having these conversations were so that we as a society could evaluate why we were punished for our heritage while white People were not. It was supposed to be about seeking solutions. The idea was to create a society where we could celebrate our cultures with impunity. It was never about telling white people that they “weren’t allowed” to do certain things. We did ask that white People stop doing certain things because they weren’t doing them respectfully and were not invited to do them, but the primary reason we asked them to desist was to reclaim the things they had stolen and to reassign them culturally back where they belonged.

White “allies” saw these conversations happening and instead of trying to aplify our own voices or even try to learn about the complexities behind why we were saying what we were saying, they instead began screaming over us and creating a narrative that was hardly even the bones of what we originally set out to say. It was like they took the conversation we were trying to have, completely decontextualized it, and stripped it of all it’s nuance in order to gain social currency by seeming progressive.

So the conversation around cultural appropriation went from “This aspect of our heritage belongs to us and we find it egregious that we are shamed for it. What steps can we take to address the racism that’s creating this situation as well as rehome the things that have been stolen” to “you’re not allowed to do that because if you do that you’re racist, we don’t really understand why that’s racist but you’re not allowed to do that and if you do that you’re a klansman no exceptions. So you’re not allowed because because”

At the end of the day, did I like the fact that sally was wearing dreads? No. But my primary concern was not that sally was wearing dreads but rather that sally could wear dreads and I couldn’t. THAT was the intended focus of those conversations. It was about addressing the inequality. It was about us. Now the conversation is just about sally and were completely forgotten.

White People are always asking me what they can do to help. You want to know? Stop talking. Aplify our voices and shut the fuck up because you all have pretty much derailed this conversation and many more like it to the point that we no longer are trying to make steps to understand and dismantle the racism around cultural appropriation and instead are just using it as social shaming tactics.

Edit:

White People, this is not me saying that we should allow y’all to just culturally appropriate our cultures. This is me saying that I need white allies to know why it’s bad beyond just “that’s racist” it is racist. But we need y’all to know why and to be able to work towards solutions. Why is that not clear here.? I don’t like y’all.

[pozitivass]

Self care tip#2

Exercising I know not everyone likes to go to the gym or have the means to but exercising doesn't necessarily mean going to the gym, you can go for a walk like I said above, or you can do some basic exercises like push-ups during a commercial break while your watching tv, or instead of going to school/work by bus/car go by foot or if you can by bicycle.

[pozitivass]

[i-am-a-fish]

respect people's pronouns!!!!!!! because it's easy!! and sexy!