Treading Through The D/s Tumblr Jungle
I think the definition of a Dom and Sub can differ from person to person/couple to couple. Those interested in D/s need to find what works best for them and what makes them happy. On the other hand, I know exactly what makes a fake dom and a fake sub.
Fake Doms:
Think that just because you are a submissive that they can DM you sexual requests or inappropriate innuendos
DM you behaving as if they are already your Dom
Sends you unsolicited dick pics
Calls you submissive pet names without consent and with no idea who you are or what you are about.
Expects you to call them Dominant names without getting to know you or develop a D/s relationship
Uses foul language outside the bedroom on a regular basis and is generally uncouth
Is abusive mentally/physically to his/her sub to break him/her down as opposed to building them up
Does not respect agreed upon safe words
Manipulates their sub and regularly gaslights them
Is not available for their sub when needed and behaves as if being a Dom is a part time job
Is disrespectful and takes advantage of the D/s dynamic
Fake Subs:
Does not respect the needs of his/her Dom
Glamorizes self harm and abuse
Takes advantage of their Dom and is disrespectful
Purposely breaks rules and disobeys Dom to elicit a negative reaction
Does not follow the agreed upon rules/contract
Does not respect the fact that Doms are human too and sometimes they require the emotional support and encouragement that is necessary for Doms happiness and positive mindset.
Has partners and/or multiple Doms contrary to discussed contract/agreement/rules and without notifying Dom or obtaining Doms consent
General disregard of contract/verbal agreement
Is not willing to put in the work to make D/s relationship successful.
Think’s punishment is fun. Punishment and scenes/ play are completely different things. Punishment should not be “fun” for either partner.
There are many other sabotaging factors that can ruin a D/s relationship so please, treat each other with the love, trust, kindness and respect that is necessary for the deep bond between a Dom and sub to thrive. You will find that a true D/s relationship is a fairytale come to life. 🌸💗🌸
