daddy's princess

[quotes]

[trialsofaninternallybrokenwomen]

[infjwinchester]

You have done nothing but tell me how bored you were.

I was the chore, the job you didn't want to do.

To me?

To me you were everything.

-Yelena Belova, Black Widow

[mentalhealththingz]

[mentalhealththingz]

[alwaysscreechingbasement]

[c-ptsdrecovery]

Common triggers in Complex PTSD

These triggers can often result in emotional flashbacks: surges of unpleasant feelings like shame, fear, sadness, despair, and rage.

[snorlax-and-co]

[the-healing-mindset]

I always realized that I would get especially triggered around people who were poking fun at me as a child and on into my teenage years. That was because I never really felt safe around my relatives in my formative years because they always wanted to do the shaming thing for just about everything I was involved in. It has caused me great insecurity around myself and self-expression, but it is yet another of those things I have to take responsibility for in my healing.

Source: Facebook

[mentalhealththingz]

[snorlax-and-co]

[notabled-noodle]

to anyone who lives with a past abuser who is not currently abusive:

the fact that they’re not hurting you as much anymore doesn’t invalidate the trauma they gave you. the fact that they’re not hurting you anymore doesn’t mean you have to forgive and forget.

you’re still allowed to want to escape. you’re still allowed to be hurt. you’re still allowed to want to cut them out of your life one day. you still deserve better. and you shouldn’t feel guilty about whatever complicated feelings you have

[only-knives]

you know what? the idea that people shouldn't call themselves a victim of abuse because it'll impede recovery and encourage a "victim mentality" is utter bullshit.

i am a victim. i am also a survivor. this is not a contradiction. i can empower & heal myself as a victim. the idea of a victim mentality puts the blame on us - for the sole crime of having a natural response to horribly life changing events.

if "i'm a survivor" doesn't mean "my trauma is all i am," neither does "i'm a victim." even if it did mean that, there would be nothing morally wrong with us. we don't need to "transition from victim to survivor." we can be both, if that's what helps us most.

this underlying belief that we cannot decide what we want or need - that's the same belief our abusers had. and how can we empower ourselves if someone else is trying to control us?

[will-i-ever-be-ok]

I dont think im ok, i dont think i ever was.

[snorlax-and-co]

[happy-place-for-sad-people]

[infjwinchester]

A daughter is not supposed to have to earn her mother's help or her love. It is supposed to be unconditional.

-Brooke Davis, One Tree Hill