Post that are pro guy

All kinds of guy. Although this is clearly a very trans-adjacent topic and many posts will include trans language, I want to make it clear I also explicitly mean cis men and masculine people of all kinds.

[2-point-5]

i like being a lesbian and all, but holy shit, men are so cool. i hope all men reading this have a wonderful day.

[basilpaste]

i like being gay and all, but holy shit, women are so cool!!!! i hope all women reading this have a wonderful day as well!!!!!!!!!

[2-point-5]

[image description: the epic handshake meme. one arm is labelled gay people and the other is labelled lesbians. in the middle it says "fuck yeah bro". end id]

[2-point-5]

hey guys, quick reminder! this post is about uplifting other people!!! tags like 'ugh, but men are gross lol' or 'op has never met a man' are not welcome and will recieve an insta block! men are cool! women are cool! thank you for coming to my fucking ted talk! :-)

[pitchburgh]

saw someone trying to roast this guy on reddit but all the comments were just like "fuck off, that's based"

nature is healing

[augustdementhe]

FUCK YEAH.

[lgbtranswoman]

Ice cold takes from a Transgender Woman:

Men are not inherently Evil

Everyone has the capacity for evil

Transgender Men are men

Transgender Women are women

Excluding Cisgender Men from your spaces requires Transgender Men to out themselves if they want to engage (Same for Women)

Anyone can be Non-Binary, there is no "look" or requirement

Non-binary masculine presenting people should be welcome in queer spaces, many are just treated as men and predators

Non-binary feminine presenting people should be welcome in queer spaces without being seen as "Woman-Lite"

Edited the wording on the first point because too many terfs keep thinking I'm their friend.

[artsekey]

Is the whole “performative male” thing just another way to make fun of guys doing non-masc shit??

[artsekey]

A lot of people are replying and saying yes, but I found this reply interesting!

"It's obviously making fun of men who pretend to have different political views and interest to get into women's pants. They don't actually like the things they own and do, hence the performativeness Why does everyone miss the point of this phenomenon and think men who fake their identity to sleep with someone are the victims here?"

I've been seeing young women approaching young men and saying "fake feminist" or "male performance" to guys who are just... (god forbid)... reading books on feminist theory. Or wearing scarves. And it embarrassed the guys!

Like, they're joking, right? But it got me curious about the whole thing and I really think it's just another generational re-skin of the "progressively acceptable" homophobia.

I get the qualifier is that these "performative males" are doing this to get a girlfriend, right? But when the qualifier is "man likes female singer, drinks a specific kind of coffee, and is reading a book written by a woman", your Venn diagram of 'potentially a performative male' and 'potentially a regular guy living a normal life without adhering to normal masc stereotypes' is a circle.

It's going to create an environment where men who actually are just Like That are going to feel shame in a world that already heavily criticizes being anything other than 'classically masculine'.

Again. I understand the whole 'problem' is that they're being inauthentic (i.e. lying about who they are as people). But the issue is the inauthenticity, not the 'look' or 'lifestyle' associated with this stereotype.

Maybe I'm just not online enough to understand lol

[gaphic]

if there is no way to distinguish between The Good Ones and The Bad Ones except your own personal judgement of 'sincerity,' then you don't actually care about sincerity, you just want an excuse to keep hating people even when they're doing the right thing

[natequarter]

beyond being an irritating sign of how sex-negative society at large is, "ugh this writer has a fetish!" is very much just a specific form of the general observation that writers tend to have recurring fixations. those recurring fixations can be anything from an incredibly broad theme like grief to just some really random object like skeletons and yet the only one people ever get up in arms over is when the focus of that fixation is overtly (or even just implicitly) sexual. nobody ever says "ugh! terry pratchett explored a relevant political issue through fantasy tropes again! evil man!" because that would be laughable. but god forbid one guy be a little bit into feet.

[genderkoolaid]

the problem with the idea that we can bully cis men out of toxic masculinity is that toxic masculinity is fundamentally about bullying people seen as men into "proper" behavior. the patriarchy is absolutely in love with casual cruelty and shame as a way of modifying behavior. and whenever i see people trying to use toxic masculinity tactics but for feminist aims it makes me want to bite the walls. oh wow you are telling depressed boys that if they feel bad about themselves its all their fault for being a whiny bitch? are you also selling a $200 get rich quick scheme and sawdust supplements by any chance

[genderkoolaid]

#wild to me because I keep seeing people like “oh I should be nice and friendly to someone who's actively trying to kill me then?”#like no there is in fact a middle ground between. checking my notes.#being mean to struggling people. and being personally responsible for struggling people to your own detriment#there are in fact a whole spectrum of middle grounds#“ignoring someone” is in fact an option#but the same people who are like “what do you want me to be personally responsible for a man's transformation?”#will then use bullying tactics and claim the shame will help the men in a transformation?#it sounds like you're still using energy to get involved but you just get mad when people ask you to do it in ways that are effective praxis#you can't have it both ways. either get involved in an effective and humane way or. like. don't get involved LOL!

pulling out these tags because they are great. specifically i think more people need to hear "hating on men is still giving men your energy and you aren't even spending that energy on effective praxis"

[lastoneout]

It really is dissapointing how many women these days hear "it's okay to be critical of men as a class and the ways in which society prioritizes them" and go "okay so that means I dont have treat any men including and especially marginalized ones and children like human beings" like bestie. Where the fuck did we lose you.

[lastoneout]

If you legit say something like "I don't care about little boys becoming indoctrinated into misogynist beliefs I only care about the little girls who have to listen to the things they say" then you are not serious about ending systemic misogyny.

[moosekleenex]

Some body positivity for the men!

[genderkoolaid]

"oh you're bi too? haha attracted to every woman and five men amiright" don't put words in my mouth. don't put your baggage on me. if you saw the men i wanted to fuck you'd hurl.

[themainspoon]

“I like women because they’re amazing and I like men because I can’t stop making bad decisions haha.”

Well when I like women it’s because I’m fucking awesome, and when I like men it’s because I’m fucking awesome. Your take on your own sexuality fucking sucks, I’m better than you.

[sailor-crusader-deactivated2025]

Many neutral human traits have been simultaneously associated with femininity and stigmatized, artificialized, and denounced.

Now, some feminists solution is to disassociate with these traits as much as possible. This has the issue of not actually challenging the belief that these traits are inherently stupid or artificial. Ostracizing anyone who genuinely have these traits.

Other feminists have the opposite solution. To tout these traits has wholly good and superior. This has the issue of assuming these traits are actually inherently tied to womanhood. Implying that women are a different breed of human compared to men.

The correct solution, in my eyes, is to both destigmatize all these traits while also acknowledging they are not inherent parts of being a woman. Likewise, we should also dismantle the concept of "masculine traits".

[itoldyouthings]

reminder to all 14-19 year olds girls. that grown man does not like you. you are a victim

[fingerlickinbutch-deactivated20]

He doesn’t like you, he likes your naivety and willingness to put up with shit most women his age probably won’t

[baby-brunette]

"you're mature for your age" "you're so special" "you're so different from other girls" pls run in the other direction!

[judai-sm]

I don’t actually care if someone thinks this is derailing because it’s important.

This applies to all genders on both sides. Teen boys often get left out of these posts, but they are also preyed upon like this, by men and women and also people who are neither because no one is incapable of being a predator. This post shouldn’t be gendered. You can say it happens to girls more, and it could be true. But it happens to boys and they are less likely to talk about it when they get hurt. Less likely to get support if they do, especially if the older person was a woman. I don’t think we have an accurate statistic on how often it happens to boys because of this.

But regardless. Don’t you think they should be told how to stay safe too?

[youngestthunderbird]

One of my coworkers told me about a good friend of his, a guy that ‘had a thing’ with an older woman in her mid-twenties that started when he was about fifteen. He talked about how their friend group thought it was cool, how they were a little jealous of him. She was pretty and interested, which is any fifteen year old boy’s dream.

The older they got, though, the weirder it got. She got pregnant by this kid when he was still seventeen. Thankfully he went to the authorities and got custody of the baby when he was an adult, but my coworker kind of laughed it off as kids being stupid. I think he thought I would just dismiss it, which is heartbreaking.

I asked him if it would have been okay if it was a fifteen year old female friend and a twenty five year old guy. He immediately replied that it would NOT have been okay, he and his friends would have beaten the guy up.

The dissonance is real, guys. There’s a kid who was groomed at fifteen and a single dad at nineteen because his friends and family only gave this message to girls. This message matters to everyone- no matter your gender, no matter the gender of the other person- if you are a child and an adult is ‘interested’ in you, RUN AWAY. They don’t have your best interests at heart, and that’s not love at all.

[transandrobroism]

really cannot emphasise enough that "All Men Bad" and "masculinity is inherently violent, dangerous, and evil" are load-bearing pillars of radfeminism and these ideas cannot have a place in any truly progressive queer theorising.

[lgbtranswoman]

Ice cold takes from a Transgender Woman:

Men are not inherently Evil

Everyone has the capacity for evil

Transgender Men are men

Transgender Women are women

Excluding Cisgender Men from your spaces requires Transgender Men to out themselves if they want to engage (Same for Women)

Anyone can be Non-Binary, there is no "look" or requirement

Non-binary masculine presenting people should be welcome in queer spaces, many are just treated as men and predators

Non-binary feminine presenting people should be welcome in queer spaces without being seen as "Woman-Lite"

Edited the wording on the first point because too many terfs keep thinking I'm their friend.

[soup-mother]

A "real man" wouldn't do that. and yet to varying degrees they all do. what does this mean for your sense of self?

[soup-mother]

I would personally think attempting to weaken misogyny by saying that being a misogynist places you in some inferior "un-man" gender category is a bit of a circular firing squad but what would I know? I'm not a man. does that mean I'm a misogynist?

[mxwhore]

i love the -with mama trend but sometimes i get sad because that is clearly papa and he aint getting any credit raising those darn kids...

[mxwhore]

happy fathers day! me pointing out that sometimes, in nature, males do the most of childrearing really pissed off the terfs like. Somehow hyping up good dads is sucking the balls of the patriarchy?

[oceanasky]

Let's huddle in the sand with Papa (Western Snowy Plover males tend to the chicks before they fledge)

Let's go for a ride with Papa (Emperor Tamarin males also do most of the childcare, passing them over to mama when it's time to nurse)

Let's strut with Papa (Male Cassowaries incubate and care for the chicks while mama goes off to find a new mate)

Let's be born from Papa (Male seahorses and other pipefish are the ones that give birth)

Let's hop around with Papa (Male midwife toads carry the fertilized eggs around for up to 6 weeks)

Let's stay warm with Papa (Male Emperor Penguins take care of their chick for months while Mama goes to get food)

[luxiomahariel]

not only is it pride month, but it is also mens mental health awareness month

take the time to check in with the trans men, nonbinary men, intersex men, queer men, disabled men, and men of color that you know

let them know that you support them

[luxiomahariel]

a radfem screenshot this lmao

reblog to show your support for marginalized men : >

[luxiomahariel]

gonna combine all the reblogs into one message!

happy pride month to trans men! happy pride month to nonbinary men! happy pride month to male-aligned nonbinary people! happy pride month to intersex men! happy pride month to queer men! happy pride month to disabled men! happy pride month to men of color!

happy pride month to indigenous men! happy pride month to filipino men! happy pride month to romani men! happy pride month to men with ptsd! happy pride month to men with scoliosis! happy pride month to men with alzheimers! happy pride month to men with mental health issues!

happy pride month to men that were mentioned multiple times on this list!

[virovirokun-has-adhd]

happy pride month to trans and/or nonbinary masculine people who instead prefer more neutral language for themselves or prefer "boy" or "guy" over "man" or "male"

happy pride month to trans and/or nonbinary masculine people who instead prefer more feminine language while also identifying as masculine or "man"-aligned so they don't identify with the words "man" or "male"

happy pride month to trans and/or nonbinary masculine people who as well as being called a man also like to be called more feminine terms like woman or girl. never let being a boy/man stop you from being a girl/woman

[mxwhore]

i love the -with mama trend but sometimes i get sad because that is clearly papa and he aint getting any credit raising those darn kids...

[mxwhore]

happy fathers day! me pointing out that sometimes, in nature, males do the most of childrearing really pissed off the terfs like. Somehow hyping up good dads is sucking the balls of the patriarchy?