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whenever someone tells me i need to relax:
I may be an absolute disaster of an adult but when someone younger than me asks for advice I turn into a Wise Professor
Youngster: how do you cope with exams/anxiety/time management
Me, who just had a panic attack while eating a bagel at 2 pm:
after experiencing “feelings” i have decided that this just isn’t for me but thank you for the opportunity
Self-care pick-and-choose to-do list for bad days
This is just meant to be a list of suggestions for small things and slightly bigger things you can do to feel better on bad days. It is mostly based on personal experience for what helps me feel better.
I know a lot of them sound like chores - and some of them are - but doing them can still help me feel better, and they might work for you too.
Just doing enough to be able to tick off one or two of the things on this list can be a real achievement some days, so if you managed to do that I am super proud of you!
Try spending the day on the sofa instead of in bed.
Go to the toilet. Stop holding in your pee.
Brush your teeth or rinse your mouth with mouthwash.
Take a quick shower.
Put on deodorant.
Put on clean clothes.
Drink a glass of juice.
Make a cup of tea.
Exfoliate.
Moisturize your skin.
Start watching that show that has been on your to-watch list since forever.
Write a page in a journal/diary.
Read a chapter in a book.
Read a fanfiction and leave a comment once you finished it.
Paint your finger nails. Paint your toe nails.
Send/answer an email you have been putting off.
Water your plants.
Buy a new plant.
Go grocery shopping.
Go for a walk.
Go for a jog.
Cook a hot meal (heat up pre-made meatballs, fry an egg, anything easy).
Try a new kind of food or drink.
Exercise for 20min (push ups, sit ups, jumping jacks, weight lifting).
Replace your dirty bedsheets with clean ones.
Vacuum/dust one of the rooms in your home.
Do the dishes.
Text one of your friends or message someone on tumblr.
Unplug your headphones and play some music, let it fill the room.
Dance. Badly. But dance.
Try to discover new songs you haven’t heard before.
Fill a bag or box with stuff/clothes you never use. Give it to a charity shop.
Write down two things you want to do tomorrow on a note and stick it to the fridge. Make yourself do those two things tomorrow.
“I lied and said I was busy; but not in a way most people understand. I was busy taking deeper breaths. I was busy silencing irrational thoughts. I was busy calming a racing heart. I was busy telling myself I am OK.”
— Unknown
trying to provoke an emotional reaction out of urself by watching sad movies when u’ve been numb and disconnected frm ur own body for days
Becoming ill cured me of my perfectionism. The pain and fatigue stole my focus and my time so I had no choice but to adopt the “done is better than perfect” mindset, and congratulate myself for trying. I am really glad I learned that as young as I did as I feel like a better person for it.
If I could just not be mentally ill & have a chronic illness, that would be so wonderful
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Metformin has me like…
Let me talk to you about PCOS otherwise known as Polycystic Ovary Syndrome.
This condition that I and many others suffer with is rarely talked about so please read and take note. It would mean a lot. Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is a common condition that affects how a woman’s ovaries work. It affects millions of women in the UK. Polycystic ovaries contain a large number of harmless cysts up to 8mm in size. The cysts are under-developed sacs in which eggs develop. Often in PCOS, these sacs are unable to release an egg, meaning ovulation doesn’t take place.It’s estimated that about 1 in every 5 women in the UK has polycystic ovaries, but more than half of these have no symptoms. The main features of the condition are:
cysts that develop in your ovaries (polycystic ovaries)
your ovaries do not regularly release eggs (ovulate)
having high levels of “male hormones” called androgens in your body
irregular periods or no periods at all
difficulty getting pregnant (because of irregular ovulation or failure to ovulate)
excessive hair growth (hirsutism) - usually on the face, chest, back or buttocks
weight gain
thinning hair and hair loss from the head
oily skin or acne
Me personally, I only have the three of these but one of my friends suffers from this and she has all them. She can not have children because of this disease. It was heartbreaking, seeing her face as she cried on my shoulder. She was only 15 when she was told this, 15 years old. Since she was little all she wanted was to be a mother and it broke my heart. There is medication you can try that even if you don’t get periods or have a worse case of this but it didn’t work on her. I however was more lucky, the medication did work for me but I didn’t want to take it at the time but it’s good to know i can take it if i need to.
Symptoms of PCOS usually become apparent during your late teens or early twenties. They can include:
Having irregular periods or no periods at all.
Problems with your fertility (you need to ovulate to become pregnant and you may not be ovulating regularly or at all).
Being overweight or have problems losing weight.
Having more hair than usual (hirsutism) on your face, around your nipples or on your lower abdomen.
Thinning of the hair on top of your head.
Oily skin or acne.
Anxiety
Depression
Patches of skin that are dark
Pelvic pain
Sleep apnea
For me i had quite a few of these but ultimately at first it was irregular periods that made me go to the doctors and shortly after they stopped all together.
There’s no cure for PCOS, but the symptoms can be treated. If you have PCOS and are overweight, losing weight and eating a healthy diet can help reduce some symptoms. Medications are also available to treat symptoms such as excessive hair growth, irregular periods and fertility problems but it can make you really ill in some cases. I for example was ill when i took mine for irregular periods and to me the extreme side effects weren’t worth it. But what i’m getting at is this is a condition you live with for the rest of your life with no cure.
PCOS can also lead to health problems, such as;
Menstrual cycle
Ability to have children
Hormones
Heart
Blood vessels
PCOS can also cause emotional effects, from medication to your self esteem and it effects us daily. It can cause you physical and mental pain, it can potentially be life ruining. I’ve gone through hell and back with this illness and so have many others. This condition needs more recognition and help. Some people even have the nerve to say PCOS isn’t a “real” or “proper” condition, which angers me to the core.
Please reblog, share, like, anything just please let this get more awareness.
4/25/19
Here’s a poem I wrote & don’t have the guts to share with anyone:
My throat is tight
My throat is tight
My throat is tight
The word alone is etched in my mind
Etched so deep it needed to escape
Now it’s etched on my leg
Resist
Resist
Resist
I feel like an elephant is laying on my chest
The only thing heavier than my mind
Is my chest, my breath
Up and down
Up and down
Up and down
Breathing is natural
It’s supposed to come easy
But my brain doesn’t comprehend so I repeat
Just in and out
Just in and out
Just in and out
The only thing I can keep in rhythm
Is my train of thought, circling and circling
It’s so fast I can only make out a few words
You’re Weak
You’re Weak
You’re Weak
Most people cuddle up to friends
I find comfort in the box cutter stashed beside my bed
The warm blood flowing down my thigh
Deeper
Deeper
Deeper
I can’t go any deeper my body screams
Do it anyway my mind retorts
But life is precious
Do it, DON’T
Do it, DON’T
Do it, DON’T
My breath is uneven
My solace is self-harm
My only constant is depression
Why God?
Why God?
Why God?
Every Sunday, my hands are raised
Found in a pew of a church
With friends I’ve invited in, praying for one thing
Deliverance
Deliverance
Deliverance
“I’m finally better” I exclaim
My friends let out a sigh of relief
“Maybe this is the time it’s real”
Cycle
Cycle
Cycle
False alarm, she’s not better
A new way to disappoint is found at every week
They all leave
One by one
One by one
One by one
I feel like I’m drowning
I hurt myself again
I promise I’m trying
Disappoint
Disappoint
Disappoint
4/25/19
Here’s a poem I wrote & don’t have the guts to share with anyone:
My throat is tight
My throat is tight
My throat is tight
The word alone is etched in my mind
Etched so deep it needed to escape
Now it’s etched on my leg
Resist
Resist
Resist
I feel like an elephant is laying on my chest
The only thing heavier than my mind
Is my chest, my breath
Up and down
Up and down
Up and down
Breathing is natural
It’s supposed to come easy
But my brain doesn’t comprehend so I repeat
Just in and out
Just in and out
Just in and out
The only thing I can keep in rhythm
Is my train of thought, circling and circling
It’s so fast I can only make out a few words
You’re Weak
You’re Weak
You’re Weak
Most people cuddle up to friends
I find comfort in the box cutter stashed beside my bed
The warm blood flowing down my thigh
Deeper
Deeper
Deeper
I can’t go any deeper my body screams
Do it anyway my mind retorts
But life is precious
Do it, DON’T
Do it, DON’T
Do it, DON’T
My breath is uneven
My solace is self-harm
My only constant is depression
Why God?
Why God?
Why God?
Every Sunday, my hands are raised
Found in a pew of a church
With friends I’ve invited in, praying for one thing
Deliverance
Deliverance
Deliverance
“I’m finally better” I exclaim
My friends let out a sigh of relief
“Maybe this is the time it’s real”
Cycle
Cycle
Cycle
False alarm, she’s not better
A new way to disappoint is found at every week
They all leave
One by one
One by one
One by one
I feel like I’m drowning
I hurt myself again
I promise I’m trying
Disappoint
Disappoint
Disappoint
How to Tell Your Friend That You Need a Break From Supporting Them
When I worked at a mental health crisis centre, I couldn’t believe how many people came to us, not because of their own problems, but because they were so lost in a friend’s pain that they couldn’t take it anymore. I saw a lot of people who were so worn down from helping someone else that they couldn’t sleep, eat, socialize or focus at work or school. They were consumed with guilt every time they put down their phones, went to sleep, or dared to enjoy themselves and have a good time. All because they had no idea how to set boundaries. Helping your friends through a tough situation is a wonderful and noble thing to do, but it only works if you’re mentally in a place to do so. If you’re dealing with issues or mental illness of your own, you’re not always capable of being someone else’s shoulder to cry on 24/7. And that’s okay. Sometimes, you have to put yourself first. You can’t help someone else if you’re a mess yourself. You can’t save a drowning person with a sinking ship. Telling a friend that you’re overwhelmed and you need a break is one of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do. Honesty is the best policy - don’t go radio silent on them, or avoid answering their messages. Be honest about how you’re feeling, and what you need from them. If you’re stuck on what to say and how to start the conversation, here are a few suggestions. Feel free to copy them exactly: It’s really hard for me to admit this, but I’ve been feeling like I’m on the verge of a breakdown lately. I love you and I care about you, but I need to take some time to take care of myself for a while. I’m really concerned about you, but I honestly don’t know how to deal with this and I’m worried I’ll say the wrong thing. I really think that you should talk to a professional about this. This is hard for me to admit, but I have a lot going on in my life right now, and it’s getting to be too much for me. Would it be okay if we talked about lighter stuff for the next little while?
You deserve more support than I can give you. I think you need to tell a close family member or professional about what’s going on.
It seems like every time we talk about this, things are worse for you. I’m worried that my advice isn’t helping you at all, and I think you should talk to someone more qualified than me.
I’m really worried for your safety, and it breaks my heart, but I can’t keep you safe all by myself. Would it be okay if we told someone else what was going on?
I’m sorry, but I can’t answer my text messages 24 hours per day. I really want to make sure that you always have someone to turn to if I’m not available. Are there some other people you would trust with this? I can help you tell them, if you’re not comfortable doing it by yourself. I hope these suggestions are helpful - best of luck to all of you, and make sure to put your own mental health first when you have to.
“I did then what I knew how to do. Now that I know better, I do better.”
— Maya Angelou (via goodreadss)
Anyone else feels like they overshare everything with others and at the very same time haven’t opened up at all to anyone
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