What I'm Learning from My Quarter Life Crisis @qtr-life-crisis - Tumblr Blog

Welcome to my shit show of a life at 20-something years old

If you’ve made it here, welcome. I’m not sure how you found my blog, but welcome. I’m just going to be sharing some of the life mistakes I’ve mad and lessons learned from the past few years as I work on healing the perfectionist & people-pleaser inside me.

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No, you aren't "behind in life".

But, it's okay to grieve the time you spent surviving. The time spent trying to figure out what was wrong. The time spent healing to become a person again.

It wasn't your fault.

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before you reach out to someone you miss, remember why they’re not there anymore. understand the possible consequences of reopening that door. it’s easy to impulsively run back to something that feels so familiar. but not every door is worth reopening.

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Nostalgia is a mind's trick

If I'd been there, I'd hate it

#Spotify

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alternatives to “i want to die”:

i want things to change

i want a different life

today was a shitty day/week

i don’t want to live like this

i want to be somewhere else in life

i’m not where i want to be yet

+ much more

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Here's a few that I started to say because I thought they were funny so I was more likely to use them!

Wack

Unfortunate (can be shortened to unforch)

Sub-par execution

I would prefer the opposite of this, actually

Not a fan of this approach

Not very cash-money

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unforch :)

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"I am about to become the joker" is one of mine

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some more to add to the list

Can we not?

I'd prefer that ya didn't.

This is not ideal.

This did not spark joy.

No thank you. (just, in general.)

Skill issue. (or, alternatively) Speed run strats.

Why are you like this? (aimed at the universe, not you)

Awesome. (it is, in fact, not awesome)

and my personal favorite

This is gonna be a whole thing, isn't it?

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You’ve grown into someone who would have protected you as a child. And that is the most powerful move you made.

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“i can’t do this anymore” says a girl who is not only going to do it but do it well

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men’s domestic helplessness is not cute or charming pls raise your sons to know how to cook a vegetable and wash their dirty sock i’m begging

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(alone after sunset on a sunday) Does anyone love me

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The most soul crushing thing is being in your mid to late 20's and comparing yourself with your peers. One of them is married, one has an amazing job, one just bought a house, one is pregnant, one is very successful. And you look at yourself and you have none of these accomplishments, you still feel like a kid inside, you're the same age but really you feel so much younger, so behind. You're living in different worlds, different lives, so far apart. And you observe them and all you want is to be like them, all grown, all independant and functional. And then the fear creeps in: What if I will never get there? What if my mental issues are always gonna keep me in the same place? And that feeling, that huge fear and doubt and incapability, I wonder if that's what they meant when they talk about a "quarter life crisis". You're gonna get there, in your own time. This is a normal experience millions of people our age have and have always had. It will be ok.

I would like to not become immediately attached to a man I barely know, please and thank you universe.

#anxious attachment #trauma #attachment issues #attachment styles

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I hate how people being loud around me sends me into overload and makes me want to cry. But I would also like to work in peace without people screeching and laughing right in my ear where it feels like they’re clawing my brain out.

#quarter life crisis #trauma #audhd problems #actually audhd #audhd #actually austistic

Only now do I realize what you did to me is $exua| hara$$ment. I can’t even talk about here without it getting flagged, but you did it and got away with it. People believed when you said you were the victim.

Little did they know all the shit you said to me when I told you over and over and over again to stop. When you told me I look like a teacher who would have a relationship with a student I stared at you dumbfounded because who the hell would ever say something like that? I gave you another chance because that’s what I was taught to do.

When you asked me if I had a crush on you, I thought “What the hell is wrong with this you? What are you trying to do to me?”

I gave you another chance because that’s what I was taught to do.

When you said it sounds like you have horns for knees, I literally had no clue what the fuck you meant. So you told me, and I was shocked into silence and embarrassment. But…

I gave you another chance because that’s what I was taught to do.

When you told me that I wanted you to give me head, and I literally thought, “What the hell?” When your friend asked if I had a crush on you I was like what am I doing to make them think I like her like that?

And I still gave you another chance because that’s what I was taught to do.

Only when you started to tell people I wanted to be in a relationship with you and have sex with you is when I gave up. I won’t ever let it get that far. I couldn’t even let my sister who’s around your age touch me because it reminded me of the shit you did to me that became so normal I ignored it until it was too late.

But people will still say I was the abuser and predator in the situation. They’ll say it was all my fault. They’ll be ashamed to look at me, talk to me, or say they knew me. I hope your happy. I’m done giving chances to people who hurt me.

#quarter life crisis #trauma #qtr life crisis #memory #teaching #education #school #teacher #this is harassment #lgbtq #abuse mention

Happy Mothers Day

To the mom who fed me, clothed, drove me to all events, and did what she thought was best

To the mom whose response to me coming out to her was, “Not here.” “Don’t tell your dad.” Text messages lined with the subliminal message of “Your choices impact me too, so think wisely” (as if this was a choice or me just experimenting with my sexuality)

To the mom who married a man who is strong and smart but mean and abusive (though no one would say that because what he does is normal for Christian’s in the south)

To the mom who didn’t let me take dance until my senior year of high school but forced me to play tennis and be friends with people who never cared about me

To the mom who when I start to find independence and a path for myself sends me random videos about how I’m supposed to care for my parents when they get older

Did you really take care of me?

Did you really love and nurture me the best you could?

You made me hate myself, my body, and pushed me to be someone I never should have had to be

You taught me the wrong lessons on codependency and people pleasing

So happy Mother’s Day to me I guess, because now

I’m teaching myself all of the things you never did

I’m loving myself the way you never did

I’m accepting myself the way you never did

I’m protecting myself the way you never did

I’m advocating for myself the way you never did

I’m parenting myself the way you never did, so that if I ever have kids, they will never have to do all the things I’m doing right now

On their own