Be the person to be physically and mentally abused by her grandmother and mother (& neglected by her father)
Forced to seduce a wealthy man when she was still a girl
Be the one who does a lot/most of the housework (she is cannonically the only one of the three sisters who can cook)
Hating Fae and the Children of the Light just to see her sister being abducted by a fae, probably feeling crazy to be able to see through Tamlin's glamour, as she watches her father and Elain suddenly forgetting everything (she was probably also freaked the fuck out by Andras' body too)
Seeing her father sit on his ass and doing nothing despite him being a merchant who probably has a lot of connections over the years
Look for her sister, trying to enter the Spring Court with no way to defend herself, hoping she could rescue Feyre
Probably seeing her friend Clare Beddor being abducted and their house burnt to the ground
Seeing her sister at least 3-4 months later in a fucking crown, no longer human with three other fae she had never seen her entire life
(Having to survive the line "I eat and fuck better too" aswell because WTF ew)
Helping her sister, despite being terrified about the fae
Also being abducted by an Attor
No longer in an environment where she had friends, surrounded by her sister's mate's friends who hate her for months, Feyre being gone in the Spring Court, while a war is brewing?
Her agency being taken away by her sister's husband and his friends
If I was Nesta I would have gone full crash out. If Nesta was a man, many of the criticism would cease to exist. Oh no, an eldest daughter who refuses to be parentified and refuses to bow down to her sister... The horror