Queer ED

This blog is dedicated to queer-identified individuals with eating disorders and is against the glorification of mental illness and self-harm. I post about recovery, symptom management, queer things, anti-pro-ana content, and mental health advocacy.

[aorarchived]

[aorarchived]

Guess what I should have done todayyyyy…

[howilearnedtocope]

I survived an unimaginable amount by just delaying action for 5, 10 minutes at a time

[shitborderlinesdo]

This is a really nice and easy method for dealing with destructive urges.  I have a much longer post in the drafts currently about how to cope with self-destructive urges, but in the meantime, this is a really easy and helpful way to cope with destructive urges (or any urge that may have negative consequences for yourself or others).

-Pandora

[timemachineyeah]

Ugh that post has gotten me thinking about fat acceptance in a way I haven’t in years. I’ve read more studies about weight and health than probably any other topic I’ve ever researched. And every time I see someone wail about health I am just like

Did you know that in post-mortem examinations there is zero correlation between weight and levels of arteriosclerosis and related diseases found?

Did you know that people with an overweight BMI have the longest life expectancy, that those with an “ideal” and an “obese” have about the same life expectancy, and that being “underweight” raises mortality rates more than being “morbidly obese”?

Did you know that losing weight and then gaining it back is worse for your heart than remaining at the weight you started consistently?

Did you know that 95% of people who lose weight do gain it back, and there has never been a single documented weight loss program that has been demonstrated to keep the weight off for five years or more in the majority or even a significant minority of people? Like, telling people to lose weight isn’t much use if we don’t know HOW to make that happen.

Like I have read The Obesity Myth by Paul Campos and Rethinking Thin by Gina Kolata and Big Fat Lies by Glenn A Gaesser (Ph.D!) And Fat!So? and several other books that I don’t own and so don’t remember all of their names I spent like four years reading every single study coming out and looking at the methodology and noting which ones had huge holes or terrible methods and which didn’t (the holes were almost always in the pro-weight-loss studies) and like

Big Fat Lies has 27 pages of bibliography. 27 pages worth of scientific citation. The book content itself is only 197 pages. That’s a page of references for every 7 pages of book. Reading the book is just reference after reference and study after study. Most of these doctors (like Linda Bacon, author of Health at Every Size) started out the same way. They wanted to use the scientific method to find a real weight loss program or health solution that worked and could be proven to work, and so studied everything they could about weight and fitness only to find out that we didn’t need weight loss in the first place. That all the studies calling for it were lacking or nonexistent. That weight and underlying metabolic health have very little relation. That the history of our relationship with health and obesity has little basis in fact and a LOT of basis in capitalism, politics, and fashion. No, really, the association between weight and health was first proposed by insurance companies looking for ways to charge people more by claiming risk. They also charged tall and short people more. And people with different skin colors. When they got in trouble for charging people for things they had no control over and had no bearing on their health, they set out to prove that weight was controllable and that fat was unhealthy to make money. 

These are also a lot of the same people who went on to invent the President’s fitness program, so if you went to public school you probably already hate them. 

Anyway, if you want a place to start reading about the issue, this article is a pretty good launching pad. 

[heavyweightheart]

This casual rant is like a primer on weight science. Amazing. I second their book recommendations, and would add to the list Body Respect by Drs Bacon & Aphramor, Body of Truth by journalist Harriet Brown, and What’s Wrong with Fat? by UCLA professor of sociology Abigail Saguy.

[bigfatscience]

#truth

[queer-ed-blog]

I apologize for not being very active lately. Things have been pretty busy with school and work. I know I have things in my inbox to answer, so I will get to them soon, I promise!

[kipplekipple]

When we talk about being fat-positive and we say, “weight is not an indication of health,” I will reblog it. But I want us to also say, “health is not an indication of value.”

I could be at any weight and I will never be healthy, because I am chronically ill. Someone might be chronically ill and fat, or they might be chronically ill and not fat, and it really doesn’t matter.

When you make it about health, you’re saying health is the pinnacle of human achievement, and you’re shitting on those of us for whom health will always be a pipe dream.

[signed-me-again]

They will run out of bricks before we run out of queers.

Historically, Pride wasn’t about not getting attacked. It was about proving that being attacked won’t make us give up. They will run out of bricks before we run out of queers. This is also part of why Pride allows allies–if they’re willing to physically get between us and the bigots who want us dead, we’re willing to let them. (source)

[innocencelives]

Childhood trauma can affect a person so greatly because of its prescence in the time of developmemt. Events that would normally change a person become embedded in every fiber of one’s identity. It is this time of life which is so crucial to your entire future. This is the unique nature of C-PTSD, which doesn’t merely change a person, it creates them. It builds every trait, interest, and understanding of the world with this toxin. Nothing is unaffected or unaltered because all there is to alter was created by the trauma. Moving forward is not moving back to before the trauma, it is in every essence a rebirth and reeducation of life itself. To move on we can not erase, because to erase trauma’s effect we in theory erase ourselves.

Understanding Childhood C-PTSD (via ughptsd)

[autostraddle]

That’s what’s tricky about disabled sexuality: most people, disabled or not or anyplace in between, have no idea how to discuss it. So fear of “saying the wrong thing” takes over instead and the problem feeds itself. We never talk about it because we don’t know how to start.

Carrie Wade, What I Want to Hear in Bed (via autostraddle)

[shitborderlinesdo]

Is anorexia a common co-occurring disorder? :0

Eating disorders can often be comorbid with BPD (and tons of other personality disorders and mental illness stuff).

-Kelsi

[queer-ed-blog]

Bulimia and BPD specifically have a high comorbidity rate.

[talesoftheviridian]

You don’t have to earn the right to live.

You don’t have to be productive to deserve happiness.

You don’t have to justify the space you take up in the world, the food you eat, the things you need physically or emotionally to keep moving forward another day. You deserve these things just because you are a living, breathing human being.

You don’t have to earn the right to live.

[queer-ed-blog]

Why do I have to pass? Why can’t I just be recognized and acknowledged for who I am? ‘Well, he’s pretty, the man’s gorgeous.’ This society is not at that level and so that makes it hard to maintain. It makes it hard to go forward. It makes it hard to sit and just accept your damn self. They say, 'We’re here to help.’ You don’t know what help is. Try walking a mile in my shoes. Fuck walking a mile — why not wear my shoes, throw on my hair, wear this tight-ass dress, tuck my dick and balls into a gaff, child, and then run in front of police, jump over cars, and then snatch off your hair, put on different clothes, change your shoes and then walk down that same street past the motherfucker that was looking for you in the first place. Then you can give me some shit about who the fuck I am.

Miss Major, excerpted from “Making It Happen, Mama: A Conversation with Miss Major” by Jayden Donahue

[chemicalheart-deactivated202009]

these statements are true at the same time and not actually contradictory: 

1) the pharmaceutical industry is deeply unethical and only interested in profit

2) medicines are an essential thing, they are a need 

[pro-hell-no]

SAY NO TO MEANSPO.

[thehumbledtherapist]

list of self-encouraging coping thoughts

because we all go through tough times, and sometimes we are also alone during these times - we need to encourage ourselves to stay strong. the following coping thoughts may be helpful:

- “This situation won’t last forever.”

- “I’ve already been through many other painful experiences, and I’ve survived.”

- “This too shall pass.”

- “I can be anxious and still deal with the situation.”

- “I can take all the time I need right now to let go and relax.”

- “These are just my feelings, and eventually they’ll go away.”

- “It’s okay to feel sad/anxious/afraid sometimes.”

use as needed. source: McKay, Davis, & Fanning, 1997.

xo

[chubbytubbytrans]

We Need Submissions from Chubby/Fat Trans People!

We have had some wonderful submissions and we are looking for more from you amazing people!

You can submit HERE or tag your selfie/writing/other stuff with the tag: chubbytubbytrans.

You must identify as fat/chubby AND trans (including but not limited to agender, bigender, demigirl, demiguy, genderfluid, genderfuck, genderqueer, neutrois, non-binary, pangender, third gender, trigender, transgender, transsexual, mtf, ftm, etc.).

It is important to have a place where our chubby and fat trans (and other non-cis identified) bodies are celebrated for the beauty they hold. ((If you are not going to submit, please boost this so that other people can view this blog. It is helpful for me, it could be helpful for someone else!))

[queer-ed-blog]

Can you tag posts like that fake diet post with something? I know it's just a joke, but even though it's poking fun at pro-ana it's still really triggering :( Thank you very much, sorry to be a bother.

Sure, I’ll tag it as #diet culture.

[projectqueer]

Queer ASL is a queer & transgender positive environment with a focus on creating a more accessible, affordable, and safer space for folks who want to learn ASL in Vancouver, BC.

Queer ASL focuses on introducing basic American Sign Language and Deaf culture to queer & transgender learners in Vancouver, BC. This involves learning the alphabet, finger-spelling, facial expressions, vocabulary, and grammar structures. At home, students access homework videos that feature the local queer signing community and a collection of Deaf culture information such as identity politics, cultural norms, history, current topics and issues, etc. The courses have a voice-off policy in order to both be respectful of signing spaces and to immerse ourselves in a signing environment. People who complete Queer ASL classes are able to carry basic conversations with signing queer folks and have a better understanding of the deaf/signing community.

The courses are taught through using powerpoints, videos, demonstrations, dialogue practice via partners and groups. All instructors are deaf and queer. Deaf queer guests (often folks featured in the homework videos) at times visit to provide additional perspectives and show students how we all have different signing styles. By having guests, this allows both signing queers and Queer ASL students become familiar with each other, thus building a bridge.

We generally have 3-4 cycles of classes per year. To keep an eye on upcoming classes, email us at [email protected] to be added to our mailing list. Also, liking our facebook and keeping an eye on our events can be helpful.

[fakescience]

Diet Tips From Science

[queer-ed-blog]

~~*~*~* some great ana tips *~~~*~*~*