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Avery | 19 | he/him | literal dumpster fire

[daloy-politsey]

You do not want there to be a gay gene, and if there is one you do not want people to discover it. Please learn from disability activists.

[windwardstar]

In case anyone wants some perspective on how utterly random triggers can be. I haven’t lived in a house with a garage door in four-ish years. Right now at this moment, I honestly can’t recall what they sound like, except something metallic moving and rather clanky.

There was one on tv. I wasn’t even paying attention to it, I had my headphones on and was actively trying to tune the show out. My ears picked up on the sound of the garage door, and a jolt of adrenaline shot through my body as I grabbed my laptop and moved to get out of my seat and run to my room.

I realized what happened after about two seconds.

The sound is gone from my ears, but my heart is still racing and I’m waiting for the door to the house to open, to hear the jingling of my mother’s keys and her footsteps moving through the house. My muscles are still tense and I’m fighting the urge to run to my room and stick a board in front of the door.

For years, the sound of a garage door was my warning to pack up what I was doing quickly and retreat to my room if I was out of it.

I can’t remember the sound of the garage door right now, but I can’t tell my brain to stop trying to react to it.

[windwardstar]

This can be reblogged, if anyone was wondering. I wrote up this post with the intention that hopefully people who read it and didn’t really get triggers would understand a bit.

[the-real-seebs]

So, a thing that’s particularly important here: The trigger here is not the bad experience itself.

[jumpingjacktrash]

after my super funtime medical adventure, i had to change all my bath products, because my brain had associated the scent of them with being terrified and in extreme pain.

these were products i had chosen myself because i liked the smell. and they got connected to the medical phobia because i was using them to wash off the hospital reek and the fear sweat and so forth. i don’t know why they became a trigger. maybe because washing off the hospital smell didn’t make me not in pain. maybe because their ‘fresh pine ocean breeze bluegreen spicy stuff’ smell didn’t really replace the hospital stench, just mingled with it.

but for whatever reason, smelling these objectively nice soaps made me do flashbacks and get all hopeless and wobbly. so they had to go.

triggers are random. they’re often something that was simply present during a trauma, and you can’t guess what they’ll be. no one who hasn’t heard me explain this would ever associate suave naturals ocean breeze body wash with unbearable abdominal pain. so i guess the takeaways here are twofold:

- if you have triggers, remember other people can’t predict them, and don’t expect to be protected from them all the time. that’s up to you.

- if you don’t have triggers, don’t assume you can judge what a ‘real’ trigger is, and if someone asks you to accomodate them, don’t be a dick about it. even if you don’t want to make that accomodation, decline politely and apologize, don’t disparage their request.

[tear-dropp-deactivated20241031]

I can’t believe 2021 is in 3 months

[kudzuman-deactivated20220925]

[dankmemeuniversity]

[ardri-na-bpiteog]

Tbh it is kinda funny how so many Americans are convinced that every house over like 10 years old has a ghost.

"This house is ONE HUNDRED YEARS OLD. People have DIED in here" like ok and...?

[0v9]

yea but in europe when they’re like “someone died here” they mean that like 4 generations have lived peacefully and passed of old age in this home. in america, “someone died here” is like “some dude locked his mom in the basement and she starved to death”

[hexane-harpy]

This^^^

[marithlizard]

This! 

[piroco]

AO3 offer a comfortable, no payment, ad-free service in exchange for donations specifically to KEEP THE WEBPAGE UP AND RUNNING and people still complain?!

[nympholouis]

you know what, i know too much about america. social media is so american-centric i could probably tell you more about there than my home country. i would like to forget some information about america please. i would like for someone to say “I am from Oregon” and for me to reply “haha is that some kind of herb?”. please erase america from my knowledge. thank you

[thebootydiaries]

company trying to market something to millennials: homie 😎⚠️👆,consumerism 😂💰😂 is on fleek bae!! We should 💯💯💯 go to our nearest bastion of capitalism 💳💸 and get turnt with your bff 👯💅💁

[killrockstar]

i'm not laughing. i'm not laughing and you're not joking and i'm not dead i only dress that way out nowh

[draconym]

Chillin

[misssophie0-o]

whats your hoard

from iguanamouth

[beeslybee]

This is so important to me

[idjitmonkey]

oh my god.. I need all of the things.. @cross-marian @chocolateandcherrysours DRAGOOOOOONS! 

[mooonbride]

You really don’t realize how disconnected from reality rich people are until you have to work for them bro, like I just had a woman start crying because I told her that the leather recliners she wants to order would take 2 weeks to ship and she goes “We just finished our custom home theater room and I have a get together this weekend and I have kitchen chairs in there. do you have any idea what thats like?” HELLO????

[fucko]

[exmilitarydeathgrips]

communism fandom grab your hammer and sickle

[solavei]

a summary of the consequences of my life because I read percy jackson

[solavei]

1. I steal my older brother’s PJO books, read them, and download Pinterest on my Kindle to get my first taste of fandom 

2. I spend a lot of time online, secretly, and am exposed–for the first time–to the fact that it’s weird that I share a room and bed with my dad and am not allowed anywhere else 

3. My dad brings me to a corn field and tells me obama is the anti-christ who’s been sent by god to end the world, as foretold by the bible. I believe this and cry when he’s elected because i don’t want to die 

4. I begin googling and discover that my situation is not great. I begin a careful attempt to ~distance~ myself from my father by sleeping anywhere else through any means possible. Eventually, I’m allowed to sleep in my own room

5. Now that I’ve been exposed to the real world and the fact that I’ve been groomed, I’m not ~obedient~ anymore and my dad Dips(™) to find a new kid. We lose our house and have to move to government housing in a new city 

6. Eventually my parents divorce because of this. My dad moves to a horse ranch. I visit him on the horse ranch, think it’s cool, and invite my friends over for a sleepover. I have my first gay kiss with a girl in a tent. The next day my father tries to ~kill~ me on the horse ranch(™) with a golf cart

7.My dad disappears from the face of the earth. He forgets his phone is connected to the family iMac. We know all about the crimes he is committing. He fakes a heart attack in a Wal-Mart at some point, idk

8. The FBI is onto his life of crime. He flees to Romania to escape them and lives with a millionaire Romanian woman. She’s suspicious of him after a while. She hires a private investigator and unearths his life of lies and crime. He flees to Alaska. He gets a roommate in Alaska. The roommate goes to federal prison. We never hear from my father again. He is, perhaps, dead.

9. It’s revealed to us that my grandmother is also involved. She’s been smuggling drugs from the hospital. She also goes to federal prison. Also apparently my older brother and I aren’t related. This was another scam from my father

[solavei]

Understandable response

[jem-jam]

uhhhh hh hh hhh

[link-the-feral-anon]

Anyone else wonder how Uncle Rick would react to this

[officialcyndilauper-deactivated]

i found their headquarters

down with cis

[puffer-fishes-deactivated201508]

This isn’t even funny….. Like really? You’re gonna fight fire with fire? Maybe you should try being the bigger person because as a cis female who supports ALL LGBTQ and is bi, this is kind of fucking offensive and you’re just making tension worse.

[officialcyndilauper-deactivated]

are u upset that i found your base of operations 

[best-of-memes]

[thtrwrr-deactivated20220422]

OKAY but like the woman is a super famous sculptor herself. Two major players in their own respective industries and they don’t know it! What are the chances? Life is amazing!

[sheldrakus]

Ok, so I flipped back through the notes to find the name of the artist who isn’t Jay Z - she’s Ellen Grossman and it turns out her work is massively cool! She makes drawings and sculptures that look like delicate lace or something, but are actually based on topographic maps and scientific data - ‘the sensuous aspects of water currents, land masses and the wind made visible’. I THINK SHE MAY BE A WIZARD. Anyway, check it out - ellengrossman.com

[soulofasub]

It’s amazing that this woman is famous in her own right, but just for a moment I wanna point out that when she didn’t know the man next to her from a hole in the ground, she was still so immediately all about his success.  “I’m proud of you.” What a great person.

[anotherhawk]

Here’s some of her art for those who may be curious.