Help a trans queer mixed race guy with AuDHD get away from a toxic family environment
Hi there, you can call me Rain (he/they). I am fundraising so that I can leave… Rain Hazael needs your support for Help me to leave a toxic
AAAlright I really hate to do this but it seems I have no other options. I need to get away from this place. I care about my family, but we've all been through many things and it ends up with us in conflict. It's a difficult topic to talk about so I won't go into too many details, but there has been emotional neglect, name-calling, and physical abuse. Social services has been called on this household twice in my lifetime. It makes it more difficult that I am doubly neurodivergent, queer, and have suffered with mental health issues, which my parents don't understand or know how to deal with.
I can't stand being here now that I have had a taste of freedom at university, now being treated like a child again is unbearable. I can't relax here and it's taking a toll on my mental health and my studies. I am now having symptoms of PTSD and they are only getting worse. I need therapy, I need a storage unit for my things and a moving service, and I need to cover some rent.
If I am able to get out, it would greatly improve my mental health. I could strive for dreams that have been looked down upon by my family for so long. I could achieve a good mark in university, spend next summer learning to drive, maybe even purchase a car once I have a good job. It will also improve my relationship with my entire family, as I could have contact with them on my terms. The possibilities are endless once I get out - but for now I am severely limited by my circumstances.
Every single donation or share is an amazing help. Thank you so much for letting me leave this place and letting me achieve my dreams. I am so thankful to you all for taking the time to read this.
Thanks to a lovely anonymous individual, I'm now at 50/7000!
I have begun the process of moving my stuff. And by that I mean I've ordered a bunch of boxes online to see if that's enough to put all my stuff in.
I will be moving back to university on the 22nd of September. I need money for the moving service (which shouldn't be too expensive, actually) and at least some money for the storage unit until then. I have savings (don't worry I haven't just jumped into this impulsively, my ADHD isn't that bad) but they are not massive and student loans can't cover everything. Rent can wait as I have arrangements for term time rent, as can therapy because there's a 3-5 month wait even though I'm paying privately.
But Rain, why are you paying privately for therapy when you live in a country with universal healthcare?
Because 1. I don't want to wait 3 years for help, and 2. There is nothing on the NHS for mild or moderate CPTSD, if PTSD can be called mild. Access to therapy services can't treat CPTSD and community mental health teams only treat the 'most severe' of cases. So people with CPTSD who aren't having a crisis get no help from the NHS, at least in my area.
Does this sound like bullshit? Yeah, because it is! Feel like helping a fella out? Consider donating! Feel like helping a fella out but have no money? Consider reblogging! Or liking! I know that doesn't do much on this website but like it makes me feel better to know that people can actually see this!
Thanks! Sorry for the wall of text!
Boosting again! Pleased to say that I am now back at uni. My mental health is having heavy ups and downs - I've never been so happy and at the same time I've not had a crisis like the one I had a couple weeks ago in years. Unfortunately I haven't got enough money yet to move my stuff out of my parents house so it is still not fully safe for me to attempt to cut them off more (and probably won't be until I get my full time job hopefully around August 2026 - I'll get there eventually!)
I am seeking therapy due to this, the person who donated £50 has paid for my first therapy session so thanks so much again to them!!! Please consider sharing if you can't donate, it would really help me out a lot.
