allegedly existing

they/them. queer. aroace. mentally ill. obsessed with fictional media. passionate about restorative justice and prison abolition. sometimes I write shit to send my thoughts into the void.

[ramblingaro]

"In the end, that was the problem with romance. It was so easy to romanticize romance because it was everywhere. It was in music and on TV and in filtered Instagram photos. It was in the air, crisp and alive with fresh possibility. It was in falling leaves, crumbling wooden doorways, scuffed cobblestones and fields of dandelions. It was in the touch of hands, scrawled letters, crumpled sheets and the golden hour. A soft yawn, early morning laughter, shoes lined up together by the door. Eyes across a dance floor.

I could see it all, all the time, all around, but when I got closer, I found that nothing was there.

A mirage." - Loveless, Alice Oseman. pg. 200

"I felt like I was grieving. I was grieving this fake life, a fantasy future that I was never going to live.

I had no idea what my life would be like now. And that scared me. God, that scared me so, so much." - Loveless, Alice Oseman. pg. 234

Alice Oseman's Loveless remains one of the pieces of media closest to my heart. While the mc may experience nonromantic forms of love I do not, it is still the most I have ever felt seen in a piece of fiction. These two quotes here helped give me the language to describe things I have felt/experienced in coming to understand my aroace identity. The latter one is ultimately what led to me using grief and other darker affects in my writings about identity/being aro.

[ramblingaro]

sobbing at these texts I received this morning

[aromantic-diaries]

They're inventing a type of guy who kind of doesn't want to be here and they're calling it the Me

[aromantic-diaries]

[thedogeveryonehates]

👠👠👠

[zoidbergs-muse-deactivated20250]

Apex Predator

[atomicapplebees]

Never have I seen someone's idea of misogyny so fucked as when they come at trans men to say that "men and people aligning themselves with maleness have a responsibility to understand the potential they have to hurt women." No one else has that responsibility or potential, apparently. It blossomed within you the moment you decided to call yourself a man.

It fucking bothers me how misogyny has been watered down into "individual men oppressing individual women." It's not a societal problem that literally every one of us internalizes. It's not something weaponized against anyone perceived as a woman or even too feminine. It's the default state of people who identify as men.

If they can even admit that women can internalize misogyny, or weaponize it to empower themselves, or that men can also be targeted, it's not as bad I mean different (and barely worth mentioning).

Are we actually concerned with societal misogyny or do we want to pretend there's a singular Source so we don't have to think about it. Wait don't answer that.

[genderkoolaid]

you there, adult! quickly! explain why children are a socially vulnerable class of people without defaulting to "they are stupid and their brains don't work"

[steampunkette]

Their position within society is one in which they are viewed more as property than people and the rights they possess are deferred to their parents.

They lack life experiences required to recognize they're being manipulated or abused and do not actually understand the intricate nature and structure of lies which makes them easy targets for con artists and abusers.

Their position within society is one in which they are viewed more as property than people and the rights they possess are deferred to their parents.

Their lack of experience with negative feedback results in a lack of scale causing them to respond to even minor inconveniences with dramatic rejection that could cause them to leap to a different extreme and harm themself unintentionally in the process.

Their position within society is one in which they are viewed more as property than people and the rights they possess are deferred to their parents.

Due to the formative nature of everything they experience being a baseline for their lives their isolation from socio-political topics reinforces a idealized youth, later in life, wherein politics "Weren't a thing" that leads them to desire to avoid the topic as adults.

Their position within society is one in which they are viewed more as property than people and the rights they possess are deferred to their parents.

Their constant need for stimulation as they grow results in an endless drive for novelty combined with a natural human response to dive into the familiar for comfort results in a deeply uncomfortable psychocsocial battle which can be paralyzing when even simple choices are presented making them apt to default to the desires of authority figures.

Their position within society is one in which they are viewed more as property than people and the rights they possess are deferred to their parents.

[historicity-was-already-taken]

There’s a lot of very blatant horrifying Fascist Shit going down and coming out every day. There’s stuff I would normally be screaming about as loudly as possible. Like this:

Texas is offering land for Trump mass deportation facilities

The state's land commissioner bought a 1,402-acre plot on the Rio Grande and has offered it to the incoming Trump administration for immigra

Because in my day, we called them “transit camps pending deportation to the East for labor.”

I’m burnt out from the book writing process, and I’m struggling to grapple with all the very fucking Holocaust-Esque shit which is/going to be coming out of the Trump Administration, and all the incitement to violence historians will face from his supporters when we speak out.

This is going to be/already is very bad, and I need to build my strength and resilience.

[ramblingaro]

this may just get added to the pile of thoughts half written but I’ve been thinking a lot recently abt “redemption” as a concept and 2 of my favorite takes on redemption in fiction - Shadow Weaver (SPOP); Viren (TDP); and a third that while some ppl find controversial, I really enjoy - Zephia FE Engage.

Each of these three have different goals, the characters themselves take different views on their actions, the characters around them perceive them differently, and they tell different stories to the audience. But I also think they utilize a lot of similar qualities, although the implement them very differently.

[greelin]

in my documence. straight up “writing it”. and by “it”, haha, let’s justr say. Words certainly

[greelin]

hey.

[melindamagpie]

This is where we are. Anti-trans pogroms have begun and the community is living in fear. Things are so bad that some of us are unable to live anymore.

Where is the left? Where are our allies?

#TDoR2024

[meshugenist]

Crowd cheered as two transgender women were attacked in Minneapolis, advocates say

The pair moved from Iowa to Minnesota last year under the 2023 ‘Trans Refuge’ law, according to a rally organizer

article in screenshot

[cardentist]

"harmful gay stereotypes" and it's a feminine man

[cardentist]

using "twink" derogatorily is not different from using "gay" or "fag" as an insult and I'm tired of pretending otherwise.

using femininity as short hand for Bad, stereotypical, or fetishistic queer representation Is homophobic, and in particular punishes gnc queer people.

fandoms are so fixated on their yaoi not having "a girl one" in fear of homophobia and mischaracterization that they've started treating All visible queerness and gnc presentation as a bad thing. And That's Bigotry

I promise you teenagers making a cartoon man a babygirl is not more bigoted than insisting a character would Never be one of those queers.

[themunflower]

Project 2025 ain't gonna roll out all at once. So what we're gonna wanna do is make passing each individual part of it as difficult as possible, so there's less to undo once we finally get this country back on the rails.

[tobiasdrake]

Resist every step and do not get distracted by stupid bullshit. Distracting people with stupid bullshit is one of Trump's favorite political techniques. We saw it all over the place in the first term.

Trump will say something like "You know the Hispanics actually punch kittens, it's what they do."

And the news will be like "TRUMP SAID HISPANIC PEOPLE PUNCH KITTENS" for three weeks.

And while they're doing that the Republicans in Congress have quietly deleted healthcare.

Do not get distracted by stupid bullshit. Trump is a dancing monkey whose greatest asset is the ability to yank the spotlight off of everyone else. Keep your eyes on Congress.

[victusinveritas]

Hunter S. Thompson wrote this a week after 9/11

[sunfortune]

everyone keeps talking about men being radicalized etc etc but no one mentioning the elephant in the room that majority of white women voted for trump too

[wildflowerveins]

like!!!!!!!! i know that no one wants to hear this for some fucking reason but white women are actually the problem. you wanna talk about latino men who make up 6% of the electorate?? let’s talk about white women, half of whom keep voting in republicans while the other half are wishing deportation and death on arabs and latinos bcus they’re mad their girlboss queen wasn’t elected. white women in america have no interest in “dismantling the patriarchy” or whatever the fuck, they simply don’t want patriarchy to affect them. they are solely interested in accessing the privileges and powers of white malehood, and will scapegoat anyone who gets in the way of that.

[trans-androgyne]

Genuinely, what happened to “feminism is for everyone”?

That’s the feminism I grew up with: encouraging people to recognize that fighting sexism and restrictive gender roles helps folks of every gender. We’d push back on the idea that feminists hate men, pointing to inclusive feminist literature and how many men are feminists.

Now, there are so many people insisting that the solution to patriarchy is to openly hate and ostracize men no matter what. Why? What is the benefit? It’s certainly not effective in fighting oppressive structures to exclude half the population from your cause on the basis of immutable traits. It may feel cathartic to say horrible things about men and try to punish them for your frustrations with patriarchy. But the only actual effect I see is the increasing right-wing radicalization of young men, who are being told that the left hates them for the way they were born and presented with an abundance of proof that it’s true.

Why are we going back to treating men and women as different species? It doesn’t fix things to say “well women are the good gender and men are the bad one” this time. If you sincerely want to dismantle sexism, you’re going to have to unpack and let go of all sex and gender essentialism—even that which considers women inherently pure and men inherently immoral.

[questionableadvice]

“To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness.

What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If we remember those times and places—and there are so many—where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act, and at least the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction.

And if we do act, in however small a way, we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory.”

~ Howard Zinn

[cindypinkmoon]

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[aroacedragongirl]

WANT

[acidwashed-genes]

[sugarkat]