hii!! welcome to my blog!! i post about a ton of things here such as American Psycho, Extreme Cinema, JJBA, Dislyte, and other things i like. i'm also a selfshipper! i have 60 f/o's but my main two are Patrick Bateman and Timothy Bryce (BOTH NONSHARING) from American Psycho (2000 film)!!
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Boundaries + Before You Follow:
-i'm VERY picky with who gets to interact with me. pls dont get upset if i softblock you, either you fit my dni criteria or i dont like your vibes
-PLEASE DONT SEXUALIZE ME OR MY F/O'S AROUND ME!!
-i am sex repulsed. i will reblog posts talking about sex repulsion. my opinions/views may also lean to sex negative territory. if you have an issue, fuck off my blog.
-on top of being sex repulsed i am very anti sexual things (sex in general, k*nks, f*tishes, etc etc) and i call myself a puritan to reclaim?? if thats a thing idk im a proud puritan idgaf
-i would prefer to be mutuals with people who are not sex favorable or you talk about sex often due to past experiences and personal comfort (current moots are okay!)
-i block freely. the block button is my best friend and i will not hesitate to use it.
This will probably make quite a lot of people mad, but whenever I see someone going from repulsed to favorable or aspec to allo; I get disappointed. Since now they just fit most of the population's ideals & standards, lose all the relatibility & are more likely to become aphobic or discriminatory towards other repulsiveness/aspecs.
Cause there's not a single person on this Earth to have a willing attitude change to the more disliking one.
being a sex repulsed adult is truly awful i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy. i dont want to be in spaces full of kids, but there's basically no nonsexual 18+ spaces. even if they arent /about/ sex, people will talk about it from time to time or make jokes. and if you bring up that you dont want to be in conversations about sex the response is usually to just exclude you from those conversations because they dont feel like having to censor themselves in adult spaces. which is.. i mean i guess its valid, i cant force them? but then it comes down to me having to choose between being extremely uncomfortable and grossed out and panicky depending on how explicit it gets or not having any friends my own age, every single time. they never have to choose between having friends or talking about sex life, its just me.
like idk i wonder where the 'repulsed aces are all super childish' stereotype comes from, when everything 'adult' contains sex. i want to watch stuff with a dark tone, i want to have adult friends i can have grown-up conversations with instead of teens who only care about fandom, i want to go out at night, theres so many experiences i want to have but cant, because i cant predict whether the people there decide to have a drawn out conversation about their sex life. and if i ask i get left out! other than other sex repulsed aces, who dont even seem to make up the majority of aces, theres nothing accessible. so then as a minority of a minority of a minority who cant talk to anyone who isnt like me, what do i do.
sex-repulsed people are fully within our rights to be cranky and blunt about not liking sex and how it's fucking everywhere btw. we shouldn't have to tiptoe around and make sure our phrasing is perfectly squeaky clean because people interpret any criticism of sex and sexualization as puritanism. venting about compulsory sexuality is not purity culture. maybe you could stand to learn a thing or two from us.
Sex repulsed asexuals are not prudes, puritans, or slut shamers for simply being grossed out by sex. No one’s saying you shouldn’t be allowed to have sex. We’re just saying we would like to be allowed to be uncomfortable with it and not participate in it or anything related to it. We’re asking for the same sexual revolution you get to have. We’re asking to be liberated from the chains of being told we have to do something that isn’t what we want.
I hate the stereotype of ace people being more down bad for their favorite characters than allo people are because if I'm being honest seeing my favorite characters sexualized genuinely makes me want to cry. and then I usually get so nauseous I have to lay down
what does constantly saying that "aces can have sex!" accomplishes politically?
how does it help us promote our interests and boundaries? society already assumes that everyone will and wants to have sex by default! asexuals included because our experience and orientation isn't even taken seriously at all
why do we need to keep reassuring people that they can have sex? no one is stopping them from doing so.
why don't we talk more about the fact that no one HAS to have sex? both allo and ace included. yes, you heard that right! sex is only something you should do if you're fully on board with the idea and have a consenting partner that wants it also. it's not an obligation, you don't owe sex to anyone, not society, not your partner, not to anyone
why don't we talk more about that having boundaries is important and you should never compromise yourself for anyone. never let anyone pressure you into anything you don't want. isn't this a more important message to send into the world that is still full of sexual coercion and predators lurking about?
why don't we put more effort into protecting the most vulnerable members of our community instead of reassuring people endlessly that yes, you can still do everything that society already expects you to do..
being seeing all kinds of bs lately silencing repulsed aces and it's pissing me off
if one is not supportive of repulsed aces, they're not supportive of aces period
my repulsion is part of my queer identity! I should be allowed to express that same as anyone else
obviously that doesn't mean being openly rude to someone personally
but I should be allowed to speak that sex is distressing and disgusting to me. that I don't want to see it
why can other queer people say whatever the hell they want and I can't? gay people can hate forced heterosexuality, trans people can hate forced wrong gender etc.. and I can't hate sex being forced and shoved in my face 24/7?
Being apothi is so frustrating because aro ace spaces are still screaming how they can date and have sex and it feels so invalidating like you can’t identify with your own label
Kind of tired of how other queer and asexual folks keep pushing compulsive sexuality, and moralizing having sex or sexual thoughts.
Like, I'm tired of the "better be a pervert than a prude", the "we all are a little freaky", the "asexuals write the best smut", the "we don't want prudes to be writing hcs"... Like, we have to participate in sexual topics and behaviors to be normal, or we are prudes (can y'all stop judging and insulting people based on their personal experience with sex? Y'all learn that "virgin" was a bad insult and turn to use "prude" instead but you are still doing the same bs)
The fucking "Well, if people call you a puritan, maybe it's because you sound like one" posts being frequently posted in the asexual and sex-repulsed tags, because asexuals need to watch how they talk and complain about sex being forced unto them again, and again, and again, or they will be linked to purity culture (even tho purity culture STILL WANTS PEOPLE TO HAVE SEX, BUT ONLY AFTER MARRIAGE AND IN A HETERO RELATIONSHIP. PURITY CULTURE IS NOT SEXLESS), while queer folks continue again and again to paint it as morally superior to be a pervert (it's morally neutral. You being horny 24/7 doesn't make you morally superior to anyone).
Y'all love to reblog posts that say the basic "asexuals are valids!" but also reblog and post a ton of posts saying that being a "prude" is bad, not being a pervert is bad, every human is a pervert deep inside and people that denies it are bad, not being into kinky sex is bad, not being comfortable with some kinks is bad, not wanting to participate in some sexual acts is bad... So no, I do not feel valid and I do not feel supported, I feel exactly the same as before I discovered asexuality: broken and inhuman.
YouTube really needs to let you select "don't recommend channel" in the actual search results. I'm tired of looking for asmr videos and seeing female asmrtists using thumbnails that are clearly meant to be sexual or "seducing" in nature. It makes me feel gross when I'm just trying to find a way to relax. Like id so much rather be able to nerf them from my search results. I'm looking for soothing sounds / visuals, not some girl with her fingers in her mouth, half lidded eyes, and her shirt pulled down enough to tease a glimpse of her boobs. Aside from being uncomfortable, it also really damages the already iffy view people have of asmr. People already think it's a sexual thing and it isn't. Like yall aren't helping take that somewhere else 😭😭😭
EDIT CASE IN FUCKING POINT this popped up as soon as I made this post and searched YouTube again I fucking hate this shit
Kind of tired of how other queer and asexual folks keep pushing compulsive sexuality, and moralizing having sex or sexual thoughts.
Like, I'm tired of the "better be a pervert than a prude", the "we all are a little freaky", the "asexuals write the best smut", the "we don't want prudes to be writing hcs"... Like, we have to participate in sexual topics and behaviors to be normal, or we are prudes (can y'all stop judging and insulting people based on their personal experience with sex? Y'all learn that "virgin" was a bad insult and turn to use "prude" instead but you are still doing the same bs)
The fucking "Well, if people call you a puritan, maybe it's because you sound like one" posts being frequently posted in the asexual and sex-repulsed tags, because asexuals need to watch how they talk and complain about sex being forced unto them again, and again, and again, or they will be linked to purity culture (even tho purity culture STILL WANTS PEOPLE TO HAVE SEX, BUT ONLY AFTER MARRIAGE AND IN A HETERO RELATIONSHIP. PURITY CULTURE IS NOT SEXLESS), while queer folks continue again and again to paint it as morally superior to be a pervert (it's morally neutral. You being horny 24/7 doesn't make you morally superior to anyone).
Y'all love to reblog posts that say the basic "asexuals are valids!" but also reblog and post a ton of posts saying that being a "prude" is bad, not being a pervert is bad, every human is a pervert deep inside and people that denies it are bad, not being into kinky sex is bad, not being comfortable with some kinks is bad, not wanting to participate in some sexual acts is bad... So no, I do not feel valid and I do not feel supported, I feel exactly the same as before I discovered asexuality: broken and inhuman.
meanwhile society: SEX SEX SEX SEX! KINK KINK KINK KINK! ROMANTICIZING RAPE! ROMANTICIZING RAPE! ROMANTICIZING RAPE! BOP BOP BOP! THOT! HO! DIH! PUH! BADDIE! sex sex sex sex sex sex sex sex seeexxxx!! ☺️
I WISH i lived in this made up world where everything is puritanical and sex doesn’t exist or whatever lala land ya’ll are living in. Literally walk into any bookstore and the first bullshit you see is just porno books right in your damn face. This “puritanical” bullshit is so PATHETIC LMFAO
The whole "attraction not action" and "sex favourable" thing has completely degraded the acceptance for sex repulsed people. Even in ace spaces, it's impossible to escape the insistence that everyone wants/haves sex and how "we f*ck just like everyone else uwu".
Turning "asexual" into an "umbrella term" has completely removed my ability to identify myself because people still expect me to f*ck.
Even the "ace" community hates people who wouldn't have sex and they call us bad stereotypes, unemotional freaks and prudes while they want to use the asexual identity to virtue signal about how they are monogamous and wouldn't look at anyone but their soulmate.
I know that people like rallying for nsfw on tumblr but is it weird to say I prefer the sfw vibes? I mean I went to bluesky to take a look at my favorite ship and it was almost all nsfw. I am a minor so I am not sure why it got through.
I get that people like their freedom but where will I go?
Sorry if this is too weird or something
Nah, I feel that. I feel the same. It's an unpopular opinion for sure but as a sex-repulsed ace across the board I'm kinda doomed to feel that way.
It's a curse. I don't really look at my feeds anymore anywhere and I haven't for years 'cus I just know I'm gonna see something that sends me to the bathroom with nervous poops in a matter of minutes. Filters are far from fool-proof. People forget to tag. I've been asking myself "where will I go" for years but realistically there isn't anywhere for us to go, I don't think.
Atp I stalk blogs and pages I like from time to time, which definitely isn't an ideal way to experience social media, one is bound to miss a lot ig, but at the same time somehow it IS an accidentally very useful way to avoid doomscrolling lol
(PS: Ngl, I should mention that, as much as I don't feel safe to look at my feeds on most platforms, I'd still take that any day over places that overpractice censorship. It's a matter of principle. I'd always prefer for people to be able to express whatever they want at my own risk than the alternative. Can't have authentic connection without that, methinks.)
I hate the stereotype of ace people being more down bad for their favorite characters than allo people are because if I'm being honest seeing my favorite characters sexualized genuinely makes me want to cry. and then I usually get so nauseous I have to lay down
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