people existing and having sex is why it shows up around you because it is a common, and often important, part of many allo human relationships. language being sexualized is a part of that. because that’s how humans communicate. you sound like you’re one of those people who complain about “the fall of the west”. as an aspiring linguist, I can guarantee this phenomenon has always existed in language. words becoming taboo happens. in fact, people are more bluntly sexual than a hundred years ago where you’d have to interpret several layers of metaphors to comprehend the innuendo. and modern day (white cough) feminism is heavily centered around purity culture and censorship. people exist and have and talk about sex. anyways, kink belongs at pride and i hope people have freak nasty sex and make media they love about it and keep talking about it even if it’s stuff that doesn’t align with my sexuality. unfortunately wanting to censor things is… gasp… being pro-censorship. are you just denying this because you don’t like the word? I myself grew up calling my dad “daddy” and have changed this. I quite literally cringe when hearing daddy sexually (like it can actually at some times be upsetting) but I can understand the association of the word, and it’s my job to regulate myself and my emotions, not others. I mean, if you wanted to make a “feminist” argument, “mommy” being used sexually is increasingly growing in popularity in just the last two years (decades after daddy became sexualized). Not to mention “Leather Daddies” and “Daddies” are a huge part of gay social culture and history too. it’s like seeing old healed scars on someone outside who has healed and self-harm free, but telling them to cover up because they could “disturb” or “trigger” strangers. and yes, again, this is comparable to homophobes doing the same thing. I can’t imagine anyone asks for porn ads on anything, but typically it’s on illegal websites trying to get clicks for a shitty service or a virus. Additionally, the issue isn’t the content of the ad itself, but rather with capitalism and the absence of spaces without ads. Tumblr also annoyingly has risque ads but it’s because this website runs off of pennies and spite. And despite me disliking sexual ads, it’s the intent and quality of them, as I believe the porn ban was the worst thing to happen to this website. It’s those reasons, not “compulsory sexuality”. And simply just mentioning the sexualization of women to be able to passively say “I’m actually speaking on feminist issues” is soo interesting. I’m willing to bet your “feminist agenda” is just more censorship and shaming for sexuality, and not things like giving women more autonomy, respect and rights. Women like sex and writing about it too and should be afforded the opportunity to express it just as men have been free to do in the last few centuries. The issue is women only being seen as a pair of tits with no brain, not the fact that the tits are there and being enjoyed, and also choosing who tells these stories and HOW they are told. Kids are being shown targeted sexualized content on places like Youtube, and it’s a matter of Youtubers literally targeting children but also parents not having enough time, whether because of financial issues or otherwise, again a capitalistic and societal issue, to monitor their children’s internet usage and fill their free time with healthier things.
There are things in society that need improvement (duh). Simply hiding them and misnaming some things “comp sexuality” doesn’t fix these complex intersectional issues. All I’ve heard from you and similar arguments is just repackaged christian pearl clutching. Allo Queer people are a part of the group you are misguidedly (but you know, your opinion and everything) attempting to critique. Unfortunately, neopuritanism has bled into many queer and leftist spaces. People like the human form, and sex workers like to be paid (SWERFS are getting insta blocked btw). If you’re talking about random women and girls or boys being harassed and having to cover up, then yes, that is an aspect of how the patriarchy forces sexuality onto people. That’s called sexual harassment and will never be okay. But we’ve gotten to the point in leftist feminist spaces where women’s own autonomy is being erased because they openly engage in sexuality and that’s “bad”, so something must be wrong with them (especially concerning women, trans people, and kink). A lot of people think because something makes them uncomfortable that it’s bad and should be treated as something that should be hidden. You being a part of the LGBT+ community and not a bible thumper doesn’t change that the fact that censoring others is bad. Queer visibility is a good thing and has been something conservatives have pushed back for decades and only now have we been able to tell our own stories about real lives, experiences, or even fantasy. A lot more empathy is needed for others who aren’t like yourself, even if you can’t fully conceptualize why they do the things they do. A part of being human to interact with other people who are different than you, being sex repulsed and asexual doesn’t make that any different, no matter how many times you wanna pull that card. If I agreed with you, I would have regardless of your identity.
anyways (again, and it was implied) compulsory sexuality should be understood within the context of your own relationships and boundaries, and again, not policing others’. the fact that you think you aren’t arguing for purity culture and censorship is very telling. NEXT
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