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forgive yourself. forgive yourself for all the versions you couldn't become. forgive yourself for the wrong things you said. forgive yourself for not knowing any better at certain point of your life. for fucking things up so much that the grief still haunts you. forgive yourself for the darker and shadowed parts of you. you have to learn to integrate all parts of you, even the ones you desperately want to disown. it'll be alright.

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If you develop anxiety as a result from being abused, and you keep fretting about what people will think of you and say to you, sometimes you’ll hear advice such as ‘It’s not all about you! People are too self absorbed to even think about you, let alone judge you’ and it’s more of judgement than an actual advice. It translates as 'stop thinking you’re so important you’re always on everyone’s mind, get over yourself, nobody is looking at you or thinking about what you’re doing’. It’s dismissive of our experiences.

When you live with abusers, your experience of other people will be smeared by what they do to you. And abusers thrive on giving you the least attention possible then tearing you up for fun. They do look at you only to pick you apart, to shame and humiliate you for your every step. They live for it, they cannot exist without passing judgment and threats and degradation, and when you’ve been in that company for a prolonged amount of time, your brain adapts and gets to the only possible conclusion: People are harmful. People will see you struggling and tear you down. They notice your every mistake and hurt you for it, they see your every effort and make you feel stupid for it. People are dangerous and should be avoided and feared.

Because you can’t build an image of what people out there are like, while surrounded with people who will have a go at you every day for no other reason than to feed their own ego and feel superior to you. So once you get out, you still keep that same perception, same fears, and sometimes, you’re likely to run into even more abusers, who then repeat the same, and it affirms your perception. It doesn’t feel abusive, or off, it just feels like more of the usual, more of the thing that was correct to do to you all of your life. You can’t easily clock it was abnormal, cruel and vicious behaviour, because your brain is adapted to it and responds to it as if it was an every day thing.

Giving us advice that says we’re too self-important for fearing the outside reaction to us, is a judgment of how we survived the abuse. We don’t feel we’re too important, we feel like we are a target, because we need to be ready to constantly accept blows. We can’t afford to relax or have a moment of vulnerability because we’re used to it being used against us. And still, our anxiety that kept us ready to accept blows, is now used against us, to make us into a new target, now we can get berated for 'acting too important’, so we better hide that too. We better walk with our every weak point hidden.

You’re not telling us to relax, you’re telling us to hide our anxiety better. If we’re given chance to live without being a target, we will eventually adapt to it, and our fears will lessen. If we’re given chance to recognize what the abusers did to us, and how insane, cruel and abnormal that was, it will help us to get angry, and to clock that behaviour as a red flag. That will enable us to cut out anyone else who does it, and not have to live in fear of it. Telling us we’re wrong to feel threatened will never help us feel less afraid.

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Like most people don’t like to admit this, but one of the reasons a lot of us have so many mental health issues is because we live in a world that has basically become untenable. People can’t afford basic necessities, let alone to cultivate their interests or take breaks and rest or do any of the things necessary for good mental health. People my age are wracked with debt, working at jobs they hate or studying topics they hate, living in a shitty apartment with five roommates. We live in a world that’s very hard to be healthy in. So while yeah, a lot of people obviously do have mental illnesses that would need medication no matter what, they are greatly exacerbated by these issues, and a lot of people have basically just been thrust into an eternal situational depression. So if that doesn’t change, medication is just a band-aid.

quotemadness

“Some things are hard to write about. After something happens to you, you go to write it down, and either you over dramatize it, or underplay it, exaggerate the wrong parts or ignore the important ones. At any rate, you never write it quite the way you want to.”

— Sylvia Plath

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The Underrated Disney movie squad:

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SOMEBODY SHOULD HAVE PREPARED ME FOR THIS MOMENT

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When you are Deaf and you try to listen to music but it is weather news…. :(

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This is so CUTE they’re so cute I’m mad

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Nyle! 😘

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“who said it?”, pt. ii

this time, we’re going to have a list of the common and popular quotes you find all over the place that are quoted all the time and their authors!! enjoy! (: (find pt. i here)

“Though my soul may set in darkness, it will rise in perfect light; I have loved the stars too fondly to be fearful of the night.”

An Old Astronomer to His Pupil, Sarah Williams

“The woods are lovely, dark and deep. But I have promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep.”

Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening, Robert Frost

“Don’t walk behind me; I may not lead. Don’t walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend.”

Albert Camus

“Do I dare disturb the universe?”

The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock, T.S. Eliot

“And now that you don’t have to be perfect, you can be good.”

East of Eden, John Steinbeck

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.”

Paradise Lost, John Milton

“Sometimes I can hear my bones straining under the weight of all the lives I’m not living.”

Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, Jonathan Safran Foer

“We live as we dream—alone.”

Heart of Darkness, Joseph Conrad

“To the stars who listen— and the dreams that are answered.”

A Court of Mist and Fury, Sarah J Maas

“We are all broken. That’s how the light gets in.”

a mashed up quote from Leonard Cohen and Ernest Hemingway

“Keep your eyes on the stars, and your feet on the ground.”

Theodore Roosevelt

“Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage at the dying of the light.”

Do not go gentle into that good night, Dylan Thomas

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.”

Helen Keller

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.”

Aristotle

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one.’“

C.S. Lewis

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.”

Oscar Wilde

“We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars.”

Oscar Wilde

“If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything.”

multiple authors (incl. Malcolm X, Alexander Hamilton, Irene Dunne)

“The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”

Mark Twain

“There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment.”

The Truth About Forever, Sarah Dessen

and there we have it, a collection of popular quotes from others! i hope this was helpful, and stay tuned for pt. iii and more!

yours, joce xx

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I’ll reblog this until it stops being so relevant

quotemadness

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about those who don’t. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would most likely be worth it.

Paulo Coelho (via quotemadness)