the way transgender women convince themselves that their only other allies in this world are other transgender women is really sad
the idea that there is one group of people that you will only ever find sanctity in and every other group of people on the planet is just waiting to betray your trust is just. Fucking!! Sad!!! It leads to so so so much self isolation because the myth of The Only People You can Trust as a TGirl Are Other TGirls gets perpetuated so often by women who have been hurt and see it as an innate truth rather than the product of circumstance
Trans girls I promise most queer cis women empathize with you a lot more than you might think. Lesbians have been some of the most affirming, accepting people I've ever interacted with and commiserating over our shared experiences as queer women has been some of the most beautiful moments of genuine affirmation and connection I've ever had.
Men are not the devil and masculinity is not evil. I promise there are men out there who can empathize or even relate to your experiences. I've met some genuinely kind, compassionate, and empathetic men over the years who helped me feel just as loved and accepted as other women.
I'm going to let you in on a little secret.
You ready?
YOU HAVE TO STOP TEARING YOURSELF DOWN.
Tearing yourself down is harmful to other people who might want to connect with you. It is painful for other queers to see someone hate themselves that much. It attracts the kind of people who really like that you don't have standards or self respect. You deserve better, and you need to believe that before you can really connect to others.
I've seen so many groups of trans girls that fall into this death spiral of self hatred. This belief that nobody else understands them is hiding the fact that they're pushing anyone who might understand them away by existing in this malaise of destructive behavior.
The world is not out to get you. There are people in the world that ARE out to get you, and they have a vested interest in convincing you that you are alone. I promise that you aren't. I promise that people who aren't trans care about trans people. I promise other queers understand what it's like to be in our position and want to help, even if they aren't perfect about it. Please, work on building some confidence and understand that nobody can connect with you no matter how much they might want to if you internalize them as a threat.
