In other news, "Friend-zone" is still complete bullshit.
Saw this today. Don’t remember the exact wording, but the gist was this:
‘Don’t let her use you for deep and satisfying conversation while she’s fucking some guy who barely texts her. Know your worth.’
The following commentary is what I’d call cis-heteronormative, and even a bit lazy. I’m just frustrated and have to get this out.
If the conversation is satisfying, why are you worried about who she’s fucking? Are you a reductive asshole who thinks conversation is just the key to her pants? Is that the ultimate endgame for every relationship with a woman who isn’t your mother or sister? Are you also similarly usurious of your relationships with men, using friendship as means to selfish end?
Once again for the guys up in the nosebleed seats who maybe still haven’t heard:
“Friend-zone” is bullshit. If “knowing your worth” hinges on whether or not she thinks you’re more fuckable than some other dude, you probably don’t know your worth, and definitely don’t know hers.
In case it got past you, you are allowed to have deep, satisfying conversations with friends while dating other people. She can do that. So can you.
And for anybody on the other side of this (i.e. facing direct criticism from somebody you thought was a friend but who’s mad that they’ve been so nice to you and you give it up to some asshole because that’s your goddamn decision to make):
You probably already know this, but there’s nothing wrong with you or your decision. The problem lies *entirely* with your “friend’s” insecurity and extremely limiting priorities. That person is not ready to be your friend.
It’s entirely up to you to decide whether you have the patience to wait for them to get their shit aligned and catch up with you.
Apologies for the cis-hetero-mono-normativity.
Rant complete. You know, for the moment.