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autistic | ADHD | OCD | hypersexual | tired A side blog to have a space for dealing with my mental health issues, and anything else i feel like

[reasonscomeseasonal]

Reminder to myself: Don’t start to have any feelings of obligation with this blog. You literally made this blog as an obligation-free space just for venting and looking at comforting things. Feel free.

To those who come across this blog, some ground rules:

- all posts are ok to reblog unless stated otherwise in the post.

- no “how dare you say we piss on the poor” type responses will be tolerated. My vent posts are for myself and anyone who it resonates with, if it makes you mad it’s either not for you or you didn’t get it. good-faith asking for clarification is fine but no guarantee that I will have the mental bandwidth to give it.

- that’s all for now, peace and love on planet earth 🫶

[excuse-me-thanks]

“i should take a walk for my mental health” boring, tired, i don’t even really wanna do it tbh

“i need to check the perimeter” i need to check the perimeter

[aesungaia]

[punkrorschach]

[mxjackparker]

some of you need to re-learn the word "selfish" and stop calling everyone a fucking narcissist

[partywithponies]

I don't think adult humans get enough cuddles and I am so serious.

You look at almost any other species of mammal and they give each other physical affection all the time, but for some reason we've decided that physical affection when you're an adult should be exclusively romantic and to want frequent physical affection from your friends or family is strange or sus or a sign you actually view them romantically, and this can't be good for us I don't think.

[reasonscomeseasonal]

haha oopsie responsibility is a big theme of mine isn’t it 😝

[therpistlr]

🧠 How Daily ERP Helped Quiet Pure OCD (Without a Therapist) — Workbook That Mapped It All Out

Pure OCD isn’t obsession without compulsion — it’s obsession with invisible compulsions: mental checking, reassurance seeking, thought suppression, and analyzing the meaning of intrusive thoughts.

The themes vary — harm, SO-OCD, scrupulosity, existential dread — but the cycle is the same:

Intrusive thought hits

Mental rituals kick in (often instantly)

Temporary relief

More anxiety

Repeat

That’s the trap. The only way out? Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) — even when the compulsions are all mental.

💡 What ERP Looks Like for Pure O

Writing and re-reading scary thoughts on purpose

Sitting with uncertainty ("Maybe I'm a bad person. Maybe I’ll never know.")

Blocking mental reviewing, confessing, or reassurance-seeking

Letting anxiety rise, peak, and fall — without fixing it

ERP isn't about feeling better right away — it's about retraining the brain to see the thoughts as irrelevant noise. And it works.

📘 One Workbook That Actually Gets Pure O

If doing ERP alone sounds overwhelming, this helped tremendously:

👉 The Pure O OCD Workbook

It’s written by clinicians, but practical and easy to follow. Some highlights:

Breakdown of Pure OCD themes (harm, sexual, religious, etc.)

Worksheets to build a personal ERP plan

Imaginal exposure scripts tailored to intrusive thoughts

Strategies to interrupt mental rituals

Relapse prevention and tracking tools

It teaches how to face the fear without giving in to compulsions — step by step.

⚠️ What Keeps OCD Going (and ERP Stops)

Rumination (“Why am I thinking this?”)

Reassurance-seeking (Googling, confessing, analyzing)

Avoidance (of people, triggers, media)

Treating the thought like it’s meaningful

Needing certainty before moving on

The more the mind tries to “figure it out,” the tighter the OCD grip. ERP breaks that cycle — and the brain learns that uncertainty is safe.

✅ Recovery Is Possible

Pure OCD can feel isolating and exhausting. But with consistent ERP — even without a therapist — things can change.

The thoughts may still come, but they lose power. The anxiety fades faster. The freedom grows.

It takes work, but it’s worth it.

👉 Here’s the workbook that helped make it doable, one day at a time.

[sesamie]

learning that addiction is a progressive narrowing of the range of things that make one happy was kinda life changing for me. i apply it to everything not even just addiction i am always checking to ask if i am narrowing my range of happiness or widening it

[argumate]

always good to check whether your coping strategy has become something that needs its own coping strategies

[huariqueje]

The Ocean at Dusk -  Kate Jarvik Birch 

American , b. 1977 -

Gouache on paper , 10 x 10 in.

[fayriequeene]

[b0nkcreat]

2026 I Will Not Obsessively Ruminate On Stupid Bullshit That Makes No Sense And Is Not Real

[reasonscomeseasonal]

Graaaaaaa I hate that I need MONEY I just want to do art without feeling bad about it cuz I’m unemployed or feeling bad that I’m not getting paid for the art and then feeling bad that I even want to be paid for something that I enjoy doing for fun and community, I hate my stupid baka life 💥 🔨 💥 🔨 💥 🔨

[ittybittybumblebee]

i guess nothing can be done

[oobbbear]

I drew this stupid burger I saw that brings me comfort and joy

[meanplastic]

[ellieisnotoldyet-deactivated202]

I’ve been reading through the notes and I just have to say that I absolutely promise, promise, promise you that nobody in the dental surgery is there to judge you, and we’re certainly not mad at you. Cavities happen. Even to dentists. You think your dentist has a mouth full of virgin teeth? Unlikely! They’ve all visited eachother’s surgeries to get a quickie filling (ooh, saucy) between patients. They understand that life can get in the way of oral hygiene sometimes. They understand that life’s too short not to eat chocolate. They understand that you’ve got to live. I swear to you that everyone in that room is just there to help you. Please, please, please don’t stop going to the dentist because you’re worried they’ll be mad at you. It’s really not the case. They understand. It’s fine. It’s really, really fine. Please go to the dentist. I promise you it’s ok.

[realityremedy]

You would not believe how comforting this is.

[sydcores-moved-deactivated20210]

[julia-beatrice]

As a kid my teeth were pretty much ruined. The dentist blamed my mother not me.

[needstobehelped]

OP I’m sure you mean well and the sentiment is nice but the Notes make it pretty clear that getting a Nice Dentist is the minority experience, and that most people have had very real pain or judgement thrown onto them by their oral hygenists.

Different take, but just don’t take shit from bad doctors, mental, physical, oral, or otherwise. This is obviously limited by a lot of factors, like funds, transportation, finding someone in your insurance network (if you even have insurance), and the general anxiety of phone calls and new doctors and the like, but finding a doctor that works right for you makes all the difference.

Remember, those fuckers work for you! You are paying for a service! I’m on my second or third doctor for a lot of my care, and that’s a relatively small margin for more chronic issues to be taken seriously, but you shouldn’t pay for help that isn’t helping! They want to dismiss your struggles, ignore your pain, act entitled on some moral high horse? Boot their ass.

[twistcmyk]