How you feel about sex and/or romance can change over time. It can also be fluid or fluctuate. If you felt a certain way about sex/romance and it changed, that’s OK. You’re allowed to do that.
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How you feel about sex and/or romance can change over time. It can also be fluid or fluctuate. If you felt a certain way about sex/romance and it changed, that’s OK. You’re allowed to do that.
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If you realized you were LGBT+ late in your life, then I’m proud of you for doing so! Sometimes it takes a while to figure out, and it doesn’t make you any less valid! I love you all!
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take a moment to acknowledge that het ace women do, in fact, have it pretty fucking hard. they navigate a world where they desire a certain kind of relationship with men, but they face an immense amount of erasure and threat due to their sexuality and the nature of that relationship. it’s not easy to date when you have to constantly explain your boundaries and sexuality to every guy you date, and doubly hard when we take into account the fact that men can and do commit sexual violence against women unavailable to them. het ace women do have it hard, and they deserve to be seen for it.
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I had one of my closest friends confess that he would rather cheat on his wife than go without sex. He claims when he got married, no sex was "not what he signed up for." Like somehow marriage guarantees that his wife will put our for him whenever he wants. And the whole time I could not even fathom that mentality. He said he has "needs" and he is "tired of this." He says he has tried communicating with her about it, but she wasn't receptive. She always says "not now." And that "not now" seems to have turned into "never." I am in a wonderful loving relationship with a sexually healthy man who is heterosexual and he is absolutely respectful of my choice to not put out all the time, if ever. We go months without sexual advances. And he is so respectful of it. I would feel so trapped and helpless if my husband kept bothering me about sex as my friend seems to be doing to his wife. I would feel awful. I feel bad for her. I tried to help him see her side, maybe it's a confidence issue, maybe she has hormone imbalances, or maybe she was ace the whole time and thought she had to put out to have a happy marriage but now she is just tired of it and I don't blame her. But he needs sex apparently... And so to get what he wants he is willing to cheat on her. He says he won't, but that it's "getting to that point." He tried to compare it to being thirsty (no pun intended) and that your partner is the only one with water. But I just... You need water, you don't need sex, not in the same way. Can anyone help explain this? I'm at a loss.
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An AceBirb. ❤️ Very fluff.
Buy on redbubble (without the watermark).
Omg rly ??
yes! really!
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Okay so I just got off the phone with them. I talked to a trans girl named Aurora & she was super helpful! She gave me a few doctors to talk to & encouraged me to seek therapy instead of just rushing to get my pills. She literally found a trans friendly therapist in my town & I would definitely recommend giving them a call!
PSA
y’all
need
to
read
Shimanami Tasogare
It is an amazing manga with an almost entirely LGBT+ cast and talks a lot about gender identity, sexuality and troubles faced by those within the LGBT+ community (especially for younger members). Also it is fucking BEAUTIFUL.
Kamatani Yuuki’s use of imagery and visual metaphors never fails to take my breath away.
Please just read the damn manga.
Re: “discourse”
When people argue about who qualifies as queer or LGBT+, what they’re really arguing about is “Whose problems should we care about?” and “Whose voices should matter?”
When a person claims that asexuality and aromanticism aren’t LGBT+, it’s never in the sense of “Ace and aro issues are different from LGBT+ issues, so let’s make our activism intersectional, and inclusive of LGBT+ ace and aro people.” No, it’s always used to mean, “Asexuality and aromanticism are not oppressed, therefore I shouldn’t have to listen to or care about ace and aro issues.”
These people are not arguing a “discourse.” They are trying make excuses for why they shouldn’t have to care about other human beings. Petty, selfish people like this exist in every group, and they’re always looking for someone they can look down on to feel better about themselves. You’ll find the exact same mentality in right-wing circles among people making fun of “SJWs.”
Do not waste your time arguing with these people. You do not have to prove your humanity. You do not have to show them your scars, your trauma, your struggles. They do not deserve the honor of knowing you. If you advocate for ace and aro issues, speak to people who treat you with respect. If someone isn’t capable of doing that, block and ignore them.
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This guyyy… Right now, only the rainbow keychain is up on my etsy shop right here, but the others aren’t - however, if you want the bi flag, trans flag, or ace flag, just give me a quick message on here or etsy and I’ll put it up for you
If you want a different flag not pictured here, just let me know! All keychains are $5 + shipping, even if you request a flag not shown.
I’m trans and stuck in a toxic home, so all proceeds go towards being able to move in January 2019 - even if you can’t buy now, a reblog would help a ton!
Don’t want a keychain? I also knit things
HAPPY ASEXUAL AWARENESS WEEK
I hope all my fellow aces have a wonderful week
Happy Ace week!!!
Tag yourself See original { @aussiekirkland }
I'm Space Ace 😎
asexuality, like any other sexuality, is not a definite sexuality set in stone. We are human, we each live differently, view the world differently, and interact with the world, ourselves, and others differently.
If the label doesn’t exactly fit you word for word, but you feel comfortable identifying as ace, then identify as ace.
labels do not exist to confine us, they exist to put a word to an experience.
Hot take but
U can be asexual and like sex. Literally u dont have to experience sexual attraction to like the sensation or closeness it brings u and ur partner
Yes!!
You're asexual? But...
“but sex is what makes us human!”
in 1916 a French officer in his twenties writes his
doctoral dissertation under
heavy mortar fire.
he sends it by mail, a page
at a time, to his wife.
a week before he’s to step up to the podium and
defend his work rather than hiscountry
he is killed in action.
even as the bullets rip
through him he still wishes he could have become a professor
in French literature and
the university awards him a posthumous Ph.D.
sex is
a woman breaks down in tears on the phone because
a week is not enough time to
get over a breakup.
her sister drives an hour across town,
comes up the front steps with
a gallon of ice cream and somebeer
and together they eat moose tracks and marathon
every
single
Godzilla movie
ever made.
sex is
she’s late for work but her car isn’t
starting and even through her coat and hat she’s cold.
she knows she can’t be late again because she’s missed
one time too many already because her
father’s nurse was sick with the flu and someone
needed to help him bathe.
the clock ticks past fifteen after and she hits
the wheel like it’s a heavy bag as though that will help
steps on the gas like the car will go
and wonders how she will pay rent
and how she will feed her father.
sex is
it takes three people to hold the predator down because
even with the cover over his head
a bleeding eye and shattered wing
he is trying to hurt them.
none of them have seen this bird before in their lives but
they bandage his wing and head and give him a painkiller and
put him in a warm place to sleep and heal because
it is right.
at first he is paralyzed and cannot
fly but soon he is taking steps
and then fluttering, and then soaring, and
six months later he is whole and healed and hunting.
once he is gone they never see him again
which means they’ve done their jobs right.
sex is
in 1969 a girl watches grey-and-white footage on her parents’ tiny television and
can’t quite believe that what she is seeing is not a movie set but
another planet.
the men on the screen look a little like
aliens with bulbous heads and no faces and fat
marshmallow arms
but they are still men.
her mother puffs on a cigarette behind her and declares that
this is progress
even if it was just a small step.
the girl grows up to be not an astronaut but a secretary
and her boss calls her ‘sweetheart’.
but sex is
a boy is taught that real men don’t cry so
he doesn’t.
when his best friend dies from a self-inflicted
gunshot wound, he locks himself
in the shower every day and sobs under scalding
water until it runs cold
so nobody will see him grieving
so nobody will see that tears are just love that
has no place left to go.
he learns to dull love rather than suppress its expression and
soon the owner of the liquor store knows him by name.
three DUIs, two evictions, and twelve steps later,
he is feeding people at a homeless shelter,
and telling them it’s all right to cry.
Sex is
the broken man tells the comedian
that he didn’t mean to step in front of the car but the rain
made it hard to see.
he seems okay but his leg
does not.
the comedian clutches a grubby receipt with the driver’s
plate number scrawled on the back
in pink pen, stands out in the rain so the broken man
can have his umbrella,
and gives him the comedy routine that ruined his career
so the man doesn’t think about the pain in his leg.
once he’s out of the hospital, the fixed man sends him a thank-you card
with kittens on it.
what makes us human
yawning is contagious,
and there is a species of bird whose young we call “pufflings”.
melodic collections of sound, spaced by silence,
can move us to tears.
the tallest building in the world is
two-thousand seven-hundred and seventeen feet tall.
in less than eighty years we went from our first powered flight
to touching the moon,
and in one-hundred from the first phone call
to instantaneous connection between thinking machines of our own creation.
we make pies out of tree organs
and let cow’s milk ferment until it hardens and then
we put them together, because apple pie with cheddar cheese is delicious.
what makes us human is
the earliest fossils of anatomically modern humans are
two-hundred thousand years old .
we have had pet dogs
for sixteen-thousand of those years, longer
than corn
or the wheel.
the steps we take are part of
one of the most energy-efficient gaits the
animal kingdom has ever seen.
we invented the concepts of love
and hate
and justice, and mercy
and we invented the language to convey them.
we sharpened rocks, then metal, to convince other people
who don’t hold the same idea of those things as we do
because we think
it’s right.
we are two hundred millennia of love and disappointment and
sorrow and innovation and
mercy and kindness and dreams
and failure
and recovery.
but sex is what makes us human.
I’ve reblogged this before but I like a different verse best every time.
How many times does this need to be said?
Asexuality doesn’t mean “doesn’t fuck”. It doesn’t mean “doesn’t like sex” or “thinks sex is dirty” or, worst I’ve seen at this point “can’t get their dick up”.
Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction.
Not a lack of libido or sex drive. Not a lack of sex-positivity. Not a lack of the physiological processes that cause erections, tenting, production of vaginal lubrication, or other things of that nature.
Can asexual people feel or have a lack of those things? Sure.
Do they all? No. Are they defined by those? No.
Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. That’s it. Stop saying this shit to try to give a “hot take” or make asexuality out to be something it’s not to be easier to get people to exclude it.
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