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As helpful and informative as the posts from this-is-not-dissociative are, I find it unsettling when they make informative posts that are on subjects which have recently been a subject of conversation on my blog.Â
I know that this is likely a complete coincidence, and that this could be my own paranoia acting up, but they do begin these posts with an acknowledgement that they are addressing âconfusion that weâve seen in the communityâ.Â
I know another system (I wonât name them in case they donât want to be dragged into this) recently felt personally called out by one of their posts. So even if this is just me experiencing paranoia and feelings of persecution, I am not the only one who has experienced this.Â
I havenât gone as far as to block this-is-not-dissociative because on the whole, I think their posts are helpful and informative. They provide quality, helpful information to the DID community. But I do have their username filtered and blacklisted because the combo of that denial inducing username coupled with that feeling of âMaybe they are talking about me and that post I recently madeâ sends me into a tailspin of denial.Â
I donât think I would be so bothered by these posts if they were coming from individuals who I could identify as part of the DID/OSDD community. But this-is-not-dissociative is a group blog run by a collection of mods, and from their bios I canât tell if they are actually part of the community here on tumblr, or if they are just here to observe us and pass judgement. (Edit: I didnât mean to imply that they donât have DID/OSDD. I mean that I canât tell if they participate in the community here beyond their group blog.)Â
This is not dissociative, judgement passed.Â
I thought about just sending them an ask about my concerns, but I realized Iâd never be able to summarize my distress in such a small box. They receive so many asks anyway. It would probably get buried.Â
So I guess this is just me venting. I donât expect anything to come of this. Iâm just working through my distress so it doesnât send me farther into denial.Â
To my mutuals, it would be amazingly helpful to me if you would tag reblogs from this-is-not-dissociative with something that I can blacklist. Iâm at a point where I need to be careful about how I engage with their content.Â
We actually found ourselves gaining a conflicting opinion on them when we first joined the Tumblr DID community, since one of their recent posts at the time was about trans alters and it didnât sit quite well with us as a trans body + LGBTQ+-heavy system.
We find that their informative posts are well sourced and decent enough. However, when it comes down to the modsâ personal opinions, things can become uncomfortable or messy.
Alright, so, I don't see many posts on this and it brings me down. So, I'll be saying it straight up.
To any alters that are dating another alter in the same system, you're valid.
To any alters that are married to another alter in the same system, you're valid.
To any alters that are parents of any littles in the same system, you're valid.
You aren't fake for having two alters love each other. You're just as valid and I'm sorry that there isn't many people talking about it. You're okay. We support you.
hey uhhh local reformed persecutor turned host/avenger here to say weâre not all that bad, weâre just damaged and need extra hugs
we can be good i promiseÂ
-vincentÂ
Okay but, sometimes protectors interacting with the hostâs siblings is kinda cute. Nothing is funnier yet more wholesome than Mars jogging through heavy rain at an amusment park while pushing the hostâs baby brother
Tips For Surviving Fireworks With PTSD
Prepare a self-care tool kit. Consider positive things you can use for healthy distraction and comfort. Look through photographs that give you joy. Listen to favorite soothing music. Enjoy the fragrance of fresh pine, lavender, cinnamon or peppermint. Spend time playing with or grooming your dog or other pet.
Cover your ears. Wear inexpensive foam ear protection. When fireworks start with greater intensity or frequency, try other acoustic ear muffs or noise-cancelling earphones.
Drown out the noise. Listening to music may help. For some, calming music is best and for others, loud music that totally drowns out the explosive noises helps best. You could also try an engaging audio book or nature sounds to cope with the noise. Run a fan or other source of white noise to help mask and muffle the outside sounds.Â
Darken your room. If flashes of light bother you when youâre trying to sleep, shut the blinds, use a room-darkening curtain and/or wear an eye mask or bandana over your eyes.
Keep your lights on all night. For some, being triggered is scary and the dark can make it scarier. If that's true for you, leave your space well lit until the fireworks are over and your anxiety has passed.
Allow yourself to accept the reactions that you have. Donât be self-critical, embarrassed or ashamed. Millions of people have startle and upset reactions. Remind yourself you are ok; these noises are temporary, and you are safe.
Use a weighted blanket. These have gotten popular for everyone to use now, but they've been used for children with autism and to help calm anxiety for a long time now.
Cuddle up in bed. There is no rule or law that says adults can't cuddle up in bed with things that comfort themselves just like kids do. If you have a big pillow to hug or a stuffed animal, that can help. Have some of your favorite snacks with you and watch whatever shows are your guiltiest pleasures. Go into full self comfort mode.
Practice self-regulation and grounding techniques to help make your body and mind feel safe and more secure.
1) Position yourself to keep your back against something hard like a wall or a chair, sit so you feel the solid support of the floor beneath your feet if you are starting to feel fearful and unsafe.
2) Think about what makes you feel grounded and supported in other ways. Wear long sleeves and trousers. AÂ favorite hat may also help you feel more protected.
3) Practice S-L-O-W deep breathing. Emphasize breathing from the belly (diaphragm). Emphasize the duration of exhalation, breathing out nearly twice as long as breathing in. Breathe in to a slow count of three to four and exhale to a slow count of six to eight. Notice how the air entering your nose and mouth is cool and how itâs warm going out. Imagine blowing out candles on a cake as you do this.
4) Notice your surroundings, look around and even if you feel unsafe, remind yourself that you are safe and not in harmâs way in your current surroundings. Describe to yourself what you see around you that can keep you grounded in your present reality.
5) Practice a 5-4-3-2-1 sensory exercise to feel centered, grounded and calm. Identify: 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can feel, 2 things you can smell, 1 good thing you are grateful for or can say about yourself.
6) Practice mindfully eating a piece of fruit, noticing how it looks, the texture of its skin, the fragrance of its aroma, the temperature, flavor, and how it feels as you taste it. See how long you can enjoy each bite until you swallow it. Notice how it feels when you swallow each bite and before you take another.
You take care of you! Don't hesitate. You're the most important person in your life. Show yourself lots of loving-kindness and remember, the fireworks will end and life will be back to normal tomorrow. You will be ok.
Do any of you have any other tips that help you get through the 4th of July? Please feel free to share them here!
Some people may pop the remaining of their fireworks today, please be safe.
ok so i have an alter who's a gatekeeper/protector who controls who gets access to what memories. earlier one of my other alters tried to remember some stuff and they pushed them out and reacted... aggressively, in a way that frustrated alter #2 and hurt their feelings. they keep saying "there's a reason you don't have access" and i know they have good intentions, but they sometimes limit memories to the point where it's rly counterproductive... any advice for talking to them about this? thanks!
Hey Anon,
As a protector that holds a few memories, they could be doing this based on a plethora of factors, such as:
- Thinking said memories would harm the certain alter;
- Thinking they, for whatever reason, canât handle those memories;
- They think the alter is too young or unstable to have those memories;
- Etc.
I think itâs very important to find out the reason behind them withholding memories. Before confronting them about this, try to see (whether it be through reflecting or experimenting) if they withhold memories from certain alters or just everyone in the system. If they withhold it from certain alters, itâs best to think about what those alters have in common, then you can confront them by saying something along the lines of âHey, I noticed you wonât let [X alters] access certain memories? Is it because of [similarity]?â If they wonât let anyone in the system access the memories, then thatâs where things get more tricky.
Essentially: I believe talking to them about it is extremely beneficial and worth a shot, but itâs very important to not come off as 100% accusatory (i.e âWhy are you withholding memories? Why wonât you let [X alter] access memories?â) Try to theorize why they may be doing it, and bring up the theories to them, as sort of mentioned with the similarity theory above.
Best of luck,
- X
Blog Introduction
Hello,
We (the mods) have spent the past few days setting up this blog. Despite missing a few (unessential) links, we're ready to get this up and running!
To keep it short and sweet, this blog is for protectors and perseuctors, ran by protectors and persecutors. The main functions of this blog include, but are not limited to:
Acting as a place for protectors and persecutors to vent or rant;
Acting as a place for protectors and perseuctors to seek advice, tips, or assistance;
Occasionally acting as a place for hosts or other alters to ask for advice or tips regarding their protectors/persecutors;
Providing a general space for protectors and perseuctors;
Providing a space for protectors and perseuctors to share their experiences and daily life;
Etc.
Feel free to start sending in asks or to read the links found on our blog. If we can assist you with anything, we're here!