She felt awed, flawed and very small.

This is where I write and do everything that I want to do online.

[geekandmisandry]

no one sends hate out of desperation. except me. cos im desperate for u to realize how big of a cunt u are.

So we both agree that you’re desperate and your world is about me. Excellent.

#gendered slurs

[redapplesoul]

Youse popular @geekandmisandry.

[tayelchapo]

[redapplesoul]

This was/is someone's child. Remember that.

[fandomsandfeminism]

As of 2012, only three countries do not mandate paid time off for new parents: Papua New Guinea, Lesotho, and the United States.

Every country in South America. Every country in Europe. Every Country in Asia. Every country in Africa and Oceania except for those 2. Mexico and Canada. All the countries in Central America. Everyone had mandated parental leave.

But not us. 

Let that sink in.

[marshals-to-dictators]

I’ve always wondered why that is

[the-2nd-crusade-deactivated2017]

So are we forcing businesses to do things now? SOUNDS LIKE FREEDOM TO ME

[volcel-official]

We’re also one of the only countries, at least in the developed world, where people actually have free speech

[therepublicofrapunzel-deactivat]

>force employers to pay for maternity leave >employers discriminate against women >force employers to hire women >less work is getting done because people are being hired for their genitals and not their skillset >less work is getting done because women are away while pregnant and the store is losing money >small businesses have to shut down because they can’t afford to pay their employees anymore

[fandomsandfeminism]

You know that the other 192 countries on Earth haven’t devolved into a hellscape of destroyed small businesses because of paid parental leave. 

Like, this isn’t some theoretical debate. We have 192 samples to see how this works in practice. 

[explainguncontrolandsafespaces]

You are also listing 192 countries that don’t have the freedoms we do. 

Forcing others to give you money for not doing work is not freedom. 

You ignore the fact that American was founded on individual freedom over the collective good. Because to enforce the collective good you have to use guns to force people to do things against their will. 

[goosedawg]

I don’t know what fucking planet the OP is on but my wife both times got paid for maternity leave. She worked two different jobs when each child was born. The OP is a fucking liar.

[geekandmisandry]

*whispers* mandate, honey, mandate. You choosing not to read doesn’t make other people liars.

[redapplesoul]

Well he poster who said his wife got paid, you have one hell of a job because her jobs are the exception, not the rule.

[lickmyhoney69]

PSA: The wage gap isn’t real

[fandomsandfeminism]

So fun fact! Depending on your sources, the wage gap varies, but it really isn’t the fundamental issue when we are looking at pay inequality in the US. 

There are many other factors that come into play when talking about PAY GAPS: Women have less success in gaining promotions than their male counter parts (and other Glass Ceiling effects), women are dissuaded from higher paying fields (such as STEM fields) through institutional hostility, women are expected to take unpaid maternity leave for child care when men are not (regardless of whether or not they will), women are less successful at salary negotiations and are sometimes even penalized by employers for trying at MUCH higher rates than men, work that is traditionally female dominated being undervalued on a cultural level (women might be cooks, but not chefs; nurses, not doctors; etc.), when women begin to work in traditionally male fields in higher numbers the pay for those fields drop, and men in traditionally female fields tend to be promoted more quickly and get paid more, and a myriad of others.

We know, for example Women need an additional degree in order to make as much as men with a lower degree over the course of a lifetime.A woman would need a doctoral degree, for instance, to earn the same as a man with a bachelor’s degree, and a man with a high school education would earn approximately the same amount as a woman with a bachelor’s degree.

The fact is that women, on average, DO make less than men, and the issue isn’t always direct illegal wage imbalance. The issues are often far more wide reaching and speak to a cultural misogyny that has to be confronted beyond just legislation.

I mentioned maternity leave earlier. (Did you know that the US is one of the only “industrialized countries” in the world to NOT have guaranteed paid parental leave? yeah. That’s fucked up.) The entire notion that women, more so than men, are expected to take off time from work for family is one of those cultural aspects of inequality that I mentioned.

And all this discussion fails to take into account things like disability, trans people, sexuality, and race, which makes all of these issues even more extreme and complicated.

This is a really good article to read for more information:

Explaining the Wage Gap

[i-was-a-naive--antifeminist]

This is my shit!

fandomsandfeminism talked about several of the major contributors to the wage gap, including:

1. Discrimination in promotions

Women are typically overqualified compared to their male counterparts, are promoted less frequently, and are passed over for promotions when they have the same experiences and qualifications as men. For example, white male professors who do the least service and mentoring get promoted the fastest. Female managers are also held to stricter standards for promotion than men. Women with more than a high school education do not leave jobs more frequently than men, and female managers even have slightly lower turnover than male managers.

2. Dissuasion from higher paying fields

Millennial men are less open to accepting women engineers than older men are. Only 41% of millennial men are comfortable with women engineers, compared to 65% of men 65 or older. Women get burned out working in the tech industry because they are underpaid, undervalued, and underappreciated in their Millennial male-dominated fields.

3. Structural disadvantage

Paid family leave is not mandated in the US, but women are more likely to return to work after having a baby when they have paid family leave, and men who take paternity leave spend more time on child care later.

Investing in a universal, free childcare system, in which workers are paid a decent wage, would create 1.65 million jobs and reduce the gender pay gap. Most of the investment would be recouped through increased tax revenues and lower welfare spending. In Canada, women’s participation in the workforce increased substantially above trend levels when marginal taxes and the net costs of child care were reduced.

4. Penalties for negotiating

Both men and women are more likely to rate women as “less nice” and are less interested in working with them if they ask for more money. Women are aware of how they’ll be viewed if they ask for more money, and therefore don’t ask. Women ask for much more money if they’re negotiating for someone else because they don’t have to fear appearing selfish and greedy. Employers outright lie to women more often during negotiations. Furthermore, a recent study in Australia found women ask for pay raises at the same rate as men but receive them less. 19% of women vs. 33% of men got raises when they asked.

5. The devaluing of work associated with women

People view men’s and women’s work differently. There is a tipping point at which men flee an occupation, and in the absence of perfect information, workers take the percentage of female employees as a proxy for an occupation’s prestige. When teaching in the US became female-dominated, the pay decreased. When programming in the US became male-dominated, the pay increased. Doctors save lives and go to school for many years no matter where you are in the world. But in Russia, they are paid the same wages as secretaries, making about 12,000 US dollars a year. A study of Census data from 1950 to 2000 found that when women enter an occupation in large numbers, that job begins to pay less, even after controlling for a range of factors like skill, race, geography, and occupational crowding.

Men’s low-wage jobs demand far less in terms of skill, education, and certifications than women’s low-wage jobs, yet the male-dominated ones usually have higher hourly pay. Janitors, who are mostly men, make 22 percent more money than maids and housecleaners, who are mostly women, despite the jobs requiring identical skills.

6. Special treatment for men in female-dominated fields

Even in even in job fields where women dominate, men are paid more for the same roles. Men in nursing outearn women by nearly $7,700 per year in outpatient settings and nearly $3,900 in hospitals in the US after controlling for a large number of variables. Men in female-dominated fields aren’t marginalized at all; they get special treatment, are fast-tracked to the top, and receive preferential hiring (often by other men who were also fast-tracked to the top).

7. Disabled people, trans people, gay people, and people of color also see wage gaps with their more privileged counterparts

There are many other important reasons for the wage gap, including:

8. Pay secrecy

You can’t demand higher pay if you don’t know you’re being underpaid. In the 11 US states where pay secrecy is unlawful, the gender wage gap is smaller. In government jobs, where pay transparency is required, the gender pay gap has shrunk to just 11-13 percent. Unionized workers, who also require pay transparency, have a wage gap of 9 percent.

9. Women’s unpaid labor

Women tend to put in fewer hours of paid work than men, but when unpaid work is added to the equation, women all over the world tend to work slightly more hours per day, per week, and per year than men. Women in the US proportionately still perform much more housework and childcare, such as managing children’s schedules and activities, taking care of sick children, and doing chores, than men. Men still perform only half the housework and childcare that women do. This doesn’t look like it will change soon: Fewer than half of Millennial women believed they’ll handle most of the child care, but two-thirds of their male peers believe their wives will do so. When the time women spend on unpaid work shrinks to three hours a day from five hours, their labor force participation increases 20 percent.

10. Long hours != greater contribution to company

The worth of work should be evaluated by productivity rather than time. Long hours backfire for people and companies. Managers can’t tell the difference between those who worked an 80-hour week and those who pretend to. Pharmacists have one of the smallest wage gaps because the pay is measured by productivity rather than time.

Even in workplaces that offer flexibility, however, women have reported penalties for taking advantage of flexible work options, such as loss of responsibility or longer hours than promised. Flexible work hours will work only if that attitude changes.

The point that “men earn more because they put in more hours at the company” is untrue anyway. The wage gap between women and men remains steady whether we compare employees working 40 hours a week, 41-44 hours a week, 45-49 hours a week, or  50+ hours a week.

11. Motherhood penalty

Women earn 10% less for each child they have, while men earn 6% more for each child they have. Mothers face a lot of stereotypes at work: they get competency ratings 10% lower than other women, and they’re also called back half as often as fathers for jobs. To the contrary, studies have found that moms are more productive workers. The thought-leadership industrial complex has even called having kids a “productivity hack.”

12. Implicit bias

Even after controlling for all variables known to affect earnings, there is still a wage gap of about 6.6% in the US. Accounting for these variables explains only about 60% of the wage gap in the US. In Australia, these factors only account for about 40% of the gap.

There are almost innumerable examples demonstrating implicit gender bias. Resumes with women’s names are given 12% lower starting salaries than the exact same resumes with men’s names. Employers are more likely to hire a male job applicant than a female job applicant with an identical record. Employers reported that the male job applicant had done adequate teaching, research, and service experience compared to the female job applicant with an identical record. If there is only one woman in a pool of candidates, her chances of being hired are statistically zero. Mentoring does not provide the same career benefits to women as men and that women are “championed” less often by senior management for promotions and raises.

Luckily, people can overcome their unconscious biases. Employers for university STEM faculty were 6.3 times more likely to make an offer to a woman candidate when the employers had been presented with an intervention, including discussion of implicit bias. Sadly, women who bring up concerns about diversity in the workplace receive worse evaluations from their bosses than men who bring up the same concerns.

13. Just blatant sexism

Married men with stay-at-home wives are significantly more likely to view women in their workplace unfavorably, are much less likely to take jobs at companies with female board members, and pass over female co-workers for promotions.

Three-quarters of Millennial women anticipate that their careers will be at least as important as their partners, while half the men in their generation expect that their own careers will take priority.

Women are not as respected as men in leadership roles, especially by the men over whom they have a leadership role. Women in leadership positions receive less favorable evaluations because they are perceived to be violating gender norms. Male students systematically overestimate the knowledge of the men in their classes in comparison with the women despite clear evidence of women’s superior class performance.

Millennial men are less open to accepting women leaders than older men are. Only 41% of millennial men are comfortable with women engineers, compared to 65% of men 65 or older. Likewise, only 43% of millennial men are comfortable with women being U.S. senators, compared to 64% of Americans overall. The numbers were 39% versus 61% for women being CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, and 35% versus 57% for president of the United States.

There are many proven ways to reduce the gender wage gap, including:

Mandate paid family leave.

Invest in universal, free childcare, or at least invest in reducing marginal taxes and the net cost of childcare.

Confront implicit bias through training and intervention.

Raise the minimum wage.

Mandate pay transparency.

Prohibit employers from inquiring into prospective employees’ wage histories.

Create more flexibility for jobs by valuing productivity over contact hours.

Remind workers of their rights.

Perform your fair share of unpaid labor.

Change cultural norms so it is more acceptable for moms to work and dads to take care of children.

Support women’s ideas in your workplace. When a female colleague’s point is ignored, pile on and emphasize the point, making sure you acknowledge that it was her idea. When a qualified female colleague is consistently passed over for a promotion, ask your boss to promote her.

But we can’t get any of these done because these idiots are out here plugging their ears and saying “the wage gap isn’t real.”. If you need more convincing of why you should help the gender pay gap, please read this post.

[southernsideofme-deactivated201]

[eternal-nova-deactivated2018011]

dogs are so amazing, we aren’t worthy of them

[history-inpictures]

The wedding rings of all of the Holocaust victims, 1975

[randgaengerin]

Auf dass Auschwitz nie wieder sei.

[herkulesstrahlen]

look at this. and then tell me how you could vote for right wing parties

[as-per-usual]

You don’t need the Super Bowl to snack like a champion.

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[redapplesoul]

I had queso and chips and pizza and Cheetos and beer and beer. Yeah

Yeah, what Super Bowl?

[micdotcom]

Trump didn’t realize what he was signing when he gave Steve Bannon unprecedented power

Trump raised a lot of eyebrows by elevating his chief strategist Stephen Bannon to a permanent seat on the National Security Council.

Democrats, though, apparently weren’t the only ones stunned by the move. Among the people caught unaware was one Donald J. Trump. 

The New York Times reported on Sunday that Trump hadn’t realized what he did when he signed the 2,100-word executive memorandum that elevated Bannon to the NSC.

“Mr. Bannon remains the president’s dominant adviser, despite Mr. Trump’s anger that he was not fully briefed on details of the executive order he signed giving his chief strategist a seat on the National Security Council.”

Read that again: The president of the United States, Donald Trump, was “not fully briefed” on a document he signed, a document that carries the force of law. Read more

[theroguefeminist]

Again like I said, Bannon is totally using Trump.

[npr]

Some have called “This Land Is Your Land” an alternative national anthem. Others say it’s a Marxist response to “God Bless America.” It was written and first sung by Woody Guthrie. Over time, it’s been sung by everyone from Lady Gaga to the Mormon Tabernacle Choir. Folklorist Nick Spitzer has the story of an American classic.

Woodrow Wilson Guthrie was born in 1912 in Okemah, Okla. He recorded “This Land Is Your Land” during a marathon April 1944 session in New York for Moses Asch, who founded Folkways Records. Guthrie was on shore leave from the Merchant Marines, one of his many occupations during the Depression and war years.

Growing up in small-town Oklahoma, Guthrie heard church hymns, outlaw ballads, blues, fiddle tunes and popular music. The Guthries had been fairly prosperous — Woody’s father was a small-time politician and businessman — but the family unraveled in the topsy-turvy oil economy of the ‘20s and '30s. The Guthrie family relocated to Pampa, Tex., after Woody’s mother was committed to a mental institution for a mysterious nervous condition. That’s when Woody took to the road.

As a boy, he’d already proven himself to be a gifted street entertainer — dancing, playing guitar and harmonica, making up songs as he went. Words and music became a growing passion for him.

The Story Of Woody Guthrie’s 'This Land Is Your Land’

Photo: Courtesy of Library of Congress

[sixpenceee]

Horror games you can play at sleepovers

This time it’s with everyone’s favorite: a possessed doll

Be careful 

[sixpenceee]

Kid watching Martin Luther King’s “I Have A Dream” Speech. Aug. 28, 1963.

[cryptogamist]

it’s no coincidence to me that liberals have taken aim at women holding signs about vaginas, uteruses, and specifically female-centered issues during the women’s march, but wouldn’t dare suggest that “black lives matter” activists should include “white lives” or “blue lives” in their signs and slogans too, nor did they see fit to inform occupy wall street protestors that its “not all rich people.” women are the ones who have to step aside and make room at the podium for others. women are the ones who have to be reminded that it’s not okay to put ourselves first. women are the ones who need to sacrifice precious time, space, and voice at a public demonstration to make sure others are heard and seen, too. women are the ones who have no specific experience worth naming and discussing, no specific interests worth protecting.

woman does not exist.

[wine-and-queer-deactivated20180]

i want to reblog this 100 times

[doingoxyinchurch-deactivated201]

Don’t make fun of right-wing children. Don’t bully right-wing children. Don’t scream at, lecture, or swear at right-wing children. I say this because I was that child. I was the child forced by my parents to stand outside of clinics holding signs that say “Abortion Kills Children.” I was the child who went to church every Sunday and could parrot every bull shit argument opposing gay marriage. I sounded smart. I sounded like I formed those opinions on my own. The reality was I was being psychologically abused. I was brainwashed and indoctrinated. I had no sense of self until I was much older. I had been wiped clean and filled with garbage. I have PTSD in part because of my childhood. Today, I am telling you, that those children NEED you! They need you to show love and patience and compassion. They need you to guide them out. Those children holding those signs are children begging to be seen. See them.

[passingbutchchewbacca]

To add - this is a tactic right-wingers use to push their kids further right! The kids see well-meaning lefties being assholes and think “wow, I guess my parents were right, lefties ARE bad people who don’t think of the well being of the children and attack the underdog” etc., for real, these are kids and have in all likelihood experienced some degree or other of cult conditioning/abuse.

[sixpenceee]

I found this while scrolling through my newsfeed. I can’t stop laughing omg.

[genderatheism]

on alternate ways of dealing with dysphoria

Someone sent me a message asking about this earlier.  I want to respect their anonymity but they told me that what I said was helpful to them so I feel like sharing it with the rest of you.  So here’s some things I do that help me manage my dysphoria:

Reality check

It’s helpful to me to remind myself that dysphoria is not reality, it’s a mental disorder that alters your perception of yourself.  You can think of it like other disorders like anxiety– if I’m feeling really anxious about something, I try to imagine my situation from an outside perspective and ask myself “is this really something I need to worry about or is this just my anxious brain being anxious?”  If I’m feeling really dysphoric I do similar mental exercises, like “I may feel this compulsion to change my body because I don’t like it, but that doesn’t mean there’s anything objectively wrong with my body.  Regardless of how I feel about it, this is the body I have, even if I were to alter it it would still be the same one.”

Physical activity

This is something I’m really bad at keeping up with because I’m a little cave gremlin who doesn’t like to be away from my laptop for too long.  But if you want to feel at home in your body, doing things that make your body do things helps a lot with feeling centered.  Part of the reason I got a dog was so that I would have to get up and move every day, no excuses.  I also enjoy yoga and swimming a lot.  You don’t have to do those particular things, but if you can find something physical you like doing I highly recommend it.

Positive affirmation

Okay, this one sounds really cheesy but I swear it makes me feel better.  When I’m getting ready for the day I take a few extra moments to look in the mirror, give myself a big smile and say something like, “I’m okay the way I am,” “I’m ready for this,” “I am enough,” or something to that effect.  Sometimes it’s barely a whisper, some days I don’t want to say anything out loud at all.  It’s the thought that counts though.

I hope this is helpful to someone, and if anyone else has other methods of coping with dysphoria that they’d like to share, please do!

[redapplesoul]

I really needed this now.

[gencritical]

today in my biopsychology class we were talking about the practice of lobotomy and how it so quickly moved from being a (entirely unsupported by evidence) theory into widespread clinical practice. At the end of class my professor asked if we could imagine something like this happening today- a poorly researched procedure becoming so accepted despite lacking ethics or appropriate evidence that it works and isn’t harmful. the class was divided with some people saying yes it is possible and others saying no, the standards of medicine have changed and that could never happen nowadays but I would argue it is happening?? like hormones and puberty blockers are being advocated so strongly, and for young kids too, but we don’t know the side effects!!! and the side effects that we do know are already SO harmful!! like??? it just does not make sense to me how this is becoming such common practice 

[lesbian-lizards]

Has anyone seen that post going around about the signs of heart attacks in females and a trans woman is like “as a dmab on hormones, what would my signs be?” and someone legit is like “nobody knows actually!”

[refinery29]

Everyone cringed at Tom Hiddleston’s uncomfortable tangent about South Sudan during his acceptance speech at the Golden Globes

Like all of the other Globe winners, Hiddleston took to the stage to give an acceptance speech. He started out strong, calling the award for “The Night Manager” "lovely" and thanking his fellow cast and crew. And then… something happened.