We're So Relatable

Welcome to relatable trans girl things! this is a 100% sfw blog for transfeminine individuals to share relatable feelings and ask our mods for advice! Please only follow if you are transfeminine (includes camab feminine aligned nb people aswell) 

[crossdreamers]

Finding love as a transgender person

Marianne Oakes has shared an amazing collection of transgender love stories over at GenderGP. 

Here are a few of them. 

Marianne wrote:

The myth that trans people struggle to find love is damaging to our future generations, if trans youth or worse still, their parents believe this, then the impact can be loss of hope. My experience is pretty much like all the lovely comments here, let’s stop the myth, xx

More here!

[fred-erick-frankenstein]

These stories help so much. Not just because of the trans people find love just like everyone else, which is an important message on its own, but because there are some stories of other people who didn’t know since they were kids and this is so fucking reassuring!!!

[jacine-the-queen]

Transphobes can die mad 🤷🏻

[femmesweetheart]

A closer look because these ladies deserve to be appreciated 💓

[crossdreamers]

Shozenji, A Japanese LGBTQ Safe Temple Run By A Transgender Nun

Matcha reports on Soshuku Shibatani, the transgender head nun of the Shozenji Temple in Moriguchi City, Osaka. It  is Japan’s first temple built as a refuge for the LGBTQ community.

Soshuku Shibatani, a 65-year-old openly transgender Buddhist nun, was assigned male at birth: 

She began to identify as a female in elementary school but never dared to express her gender identity at the time. As a university student, she met people similar to her and briefly lived at ease among like-minded peers. However, upon entering the workforce, she had to hide her true self once more…

According to Ms. Shibatani, “Buddha saw beyond the differences of gender.”

There is no need to hide your true self. Ms. Shibatani gradually became interested in Buddhist teachings and enrolled in community courses at the Graduate School of Koyasan University. She later resigned from her company, joined the priesthood, and went on to study Esoteric Buddhism.

Ms. Shibatani stated, “Shozenji is not exclusively for the LGBTQ community, but rather a temple for everyone.”

“The Kannon Bodhisattva has no gender identity,” Soshuku Shibatani says. A statue of Kannon, the Buddhist deity of mercy, is enshrined in the temple. Others see Kannon or Guan Yin  as a female incarnation of the Buddha.

[noodle--nerd]

They're gonna team up to fight the Armies of Transphobia.

[littlebabycrybtch]

hey full offense but the ‘use the right pronouns even if the person is horrible!’ statements arent made to coddle horrible ppl, its saying ‘dont view correct pronouns as a fucking privilege that can be taken away once people decide you’ve fucked up enough’, misgendering someone on purpose is transphobic no matter what bc it equates transphobia as a ‘punishment’ for bad people, pronouns are a part of baseline human respect, its that simple

[imjustevren]

❤️🧡💛💚💙💜

[lichen-punk]

hey i’ve been seeing this implied a lot in trans support posts so i wanna make it clear: binding and tucking are not equivalent

i know that to an outsider eye they may seem similar—they’re both trans things where you wear a special garment that squishes you into a shape you want to be.

but binding consists of compressing the breast tissue against the chest to flatten ones silhouette. it is not without its risks, ofc, but when done properly is not innately permanently damaging. tucking, by comparison, usually consists of pushing the testicles up into the body via inguinal canals and then holding them in place. it can be incredibly painful, and even if done correctly can cause an inguinal hernia (an injury in which the intestines actually protrude down into the scrotum, which, left untreated, can be fatal) and other injuries.

conflating the two hurts transmascs and transfems alike, especially younger trans people. it hurts transfems by normalising tucking and minimising it’s dangers. i’ve seen “tucking resources” and how-tos on lists of tips for transfem children. arguably nobody should be encouraged to tuck, but to encourage children to do something so painful and potentially life threatening so that they “pass” better is just unacceptable. and it hurts transmascs by making binding sound scarier! binding is not particularly dangerous or painful if done right, and the idea that it carries similar risks to tucking is an old terf myth to scare transmascs out of transtitioning

the fact that transfems are EVER expected to go through such pain and even risk our lives just to hide the natural shape of our bodies is despicable, but if you absolutely must encourage tucking in your resource posts please PLEASE make it clear that it carries serious risks and trade-offs that binding simply does not

[lichen-punk]

@socksmaybe only just saw this tag but yes!!! using tucking to refer to any shaping of the crotch area is an equally harmful conflation to make, as it both normalises actual tucking and makes gaffs/compression underwear seem scarier! same fucken problem!!

gaffs/compression underwear are garments you wear which, unsurprisingly, compress your external genitals and flatten out your silhouette. they can be worn with your genitals tucked as described above, but also can be worn as is, operating on more of the mechanics of a binder, and will make most folks as flat as they need to be without tucking.

[lichen-punk]

reblog this version actually

[ruinsoftheempire-deactivated202]

If you're living in Georgia, early voting has started for the Senate runoff race. Get out there if you can, and make sure your voice is heard. Mitch McConnell needs his power stripped away for the benefit of our country!

[highways-are-liminal-spaces]

Early voting in Georgia runs from 12/14/20 - 01/01/21!

[jewish-alluka-deactivated202401]

if you care about trans women, you need to care about all trans women. that includes trans women whose gender expression is gnc. that includes Black and Indigenous trans women. that includes all trans women of color. that includes aspec trans women. that includes Jewish and Muslim trans women. that includes all trans women of faith. that includes trans women who are sex workers. that includes nonbinary trans women. that includes trans women whose gender and attraction labels might be in conflict with your idea of what you think it means to be a trans woman. no one but ourselves can decide what it means to be trans women. 

[isfree2fly]

Muslim brothers and sisters

So I found this app called Scan Halal where you scan the bar code of your food and it tells you if its halal or not. It’s a free app too. Pass this on so others can see and worry a little less about their food/snack choices

[thislittlething]

Yessss, it is very handy especially in non-muslim countries

[hisnamewasbeanni]

If you reblog this for no other reason, do it because it’ll piss off Pauline Hanson. And pissing off Pauline Hanson is reason enough to do anything.

[totalsillyfilly]

Pissing off Pauline Hanson is my favourite pass time

[sockknitterporg]

If you reblog this for no other reason, reblog it to make a Muslim feel safer, more accepted, and/or more informed about food.

Other people and their needs are not your game pieces to use to offend others or make yourself feel better.

[inkyshark]

This is actually a cool app! I had a customer come into my candy store and we discovered that certain flavors of the same brand of candy sticks were okay to eat! It was really handy for them to be able to scan it rather than rely on the ingredient list, which could be flawed sometimes! 

[basinke]

Ooooh this is neat!

[elfwreck]

Nice!

For those wondering “why don’t you just read the ingredients”: Even if you trust the ingredient list, you don’t know which “natural flavors” were used, and you may not know where the various chemicals came from. And a lot of people have a hard time reading tiny print, and don’t want to stand in the aisle for five minutes trying to work their way through 95 words of 4-point type.

So glad this exists! We need more ways for people to find the info that’s important to them!

[female-twink-deactivated2021032]

anyway this is your periodic reminder that self-medicating hrt is epic and you should do it

[female-twink-deactivated2021032]

https://hrt.cafe/

[toxicgreenzleftthechat-deactiva]

But can’t that be REALLY dangerous??????

[female-twink-deactivated2021032]

no

[starblaster]

all the weirdos in the notes on this post  look extremely stupid trying to school a trans woman on the topic of hrt and  self-medicating with hormones considering the fact that once someone takes hormones   home  with them from a conventional pharmacy, they are the ones administering  it to themself anyway… hormones are hormones regardless of whether we get them at at pharmacy with a prescription from an endocrinologist or ordered it online. in the united states and other countries where hospital and health insurance systems make the acquisition of proper trans healthcare almost impossible, it is more dangerous not to tell people that medications like estradiol are available online without a prescription.

also estrogen  is not a controlled substance like testosterone is, stop reporting the op for posting a resource that will, no doubt, end up saving the lives and mental health of transfeminine people.

[female-twink-deactivated2021032]

since transméds got this reported & almost completely deleted before even though it’s completely legal and ethical

[imtootiredtocomeupwiththis]

You’re not faking it.

People who fake things do it because it makes their lives easier to fake it.

Of all the people I’ve met who are so worried that they’re faking their chronic illness, or autism, or adhd, or depression, or whatever else,

Not one single one has had their lives made easier because of their condition.

It makes their lives harder, and the guilt they feel because they think they’re faking it only adds to that.

You wouldn’t fake something to make your life harder.

So don’t worry about it, okay? 

You’re not faking it.

And you deserve support and treatment.

[mimikyufriend-moved]

can freaks on this site stop telling kids they have to hate themselves to be trans

[queenophydea]

This can lead you down so many rabbit holes, please, understand that you do not have to hate yourself and being trans is not a bad thing

[l0dge49]

suffering is not a prerequisite for trans existence don’t let people trick you into thinking transness equates pain and self-hatred 

[take-some-vampire-money-bro]

@ all trans people about to attend online school:

This will visually remove your deadname from any webpage. Obviously switch it off if your parents wanna check up on your work, but yee here’s the link fam!!!! BOOST THIS!!! SEND THIS TO ANY TRANS PERSON YOU KNOW WHO WILL NEED THIS

Deadname Remover

An easy to use Google Chrome plugin to automatically remove and replace deadnames

[a-lot-of-ace-archive]

This is really awesome!

[zero-bean-deactivated20241210]

i….hate my school.  they blocked this. like, wtf?

[connorsok]

If your school has blocked this I recommend using ‘InteractiveFics’. Its originally used for changing Y/N to your own name but it has a separate option where you can change any word/name to what you want.

It has a less likely chance of being blocked so I thought I’d mention it.

[catboymettaton]

WordReplacer II works as well, though it’s not specifically designed for deadnames

[towardsmorning]

To any trans women and transfeminine followers of mine, did you know there’s a pretty huge Etsy store which does gaff underwear and swimsuits specifically designed for trans people amongst its products? They go in a pretty decent range of sizes, including sizes for young girls, and while I do not personally know anyone who has used them, there’s a fuckton of positive reviews on the Etsy store. They have a ton of colours to choose from, different fabric choices, the works.

And for once they’re not marked “for crossdressers” too, they actually under “transgender”, so that’s (depressingly) unusual.

I’m mostly posting this because I’ve seen a lot of younger people recently in particular saying they never knew what gaffs were… a lot of people find them WAY MORE comfortable and convenient than tucking, so I would recommend looking into them if you’ve never done so before!

And even if you yourself don’t use or need this stuff, do pass this kind of info on to any friends of yours that might, guys! There’s always like a million more PSAs about transmasc stuff as opposed to transfem stuf tbh…

[transed-deactivated20210424]

i never see enough tips for trans women/transfem people so. here’s a video that came up about tucking :] (don’t worry she doesn’t use tape at all despite the thumbnail)

[fruitycherry-deactivated2020102]

TRANSCRIPT:

*rips tape*

“How to tuck for trans Male to Female, or if you’re just really curious.

First, take that fancy-dancy duct tape, that electrical tape, that athletic tape and... 

*throws it into a bin with an audible thud*

throw that shit in the trash!

It kinda works, but for the most part it frickin’ hurts, you gotta shave all the time and it’s really bad for your skin.

Instead, go to Walmart, get yourself a pair of high-waisted tights, and a pair of dr scholl's travel compression socks.

*tears packet for high-waisted tights*

Cut the waistband out of your tights, like so.

*tears sock pack with teeth*

You’re gonna take your socks, and cut to right about... here. Then you get this cool little cuff.

Feed waistband into said cuff.

Step into each loop of the cuff. Your thingy should lay nicely in the cuff. Pull up, put on a pair of cute panties and some shorts, and it’s like you never even had a penis!

[transed-deactivated20210424]

thank you so much for a transcript it completely slipped my mind :]

[relatabletransgirlthings]

Mod Ashley is a streamer now?

Hey yall, sorry for a bit of shameless self promotion but im going to start streaming on twitch again! Today we're playing Pajama Sam: theres no need to hide when its dark outside! I wont be doing announcements for future streams here, so if youre interested, be sure to give it a follow!

https://www.twitch.tv/missashleyrose