Rambles of a random nature.

Deep conversations, shower thoughts, fandom non-sense, and everything else.

[twilightofadead]

[selfcarereminder]

crying is just your body processing emotion, and letting it out helps more than most things. no need to hold it in

[selfcarereminder]

look at old photos that make you happy. your brain forgets good days faster than bad ones, but they still happened

[selfcarereminder]

tomorrow is a completely new day and you are allowed to leave today right here. you don’t have to carry it with you

[flimflix]

me and my band of dumbshits on our fuck machines

[elancholia]

I think the concept of introversion may have harmed a lot of people, tbh

[elancholia]

It makes it easy to make an identity of being scared. And it's easy to hear a loosely medicalized idea like "I am just fundamentally de-energized by social interaction, unlike other people, who aren't", and then dig in. And really you're just scared.

[astropithecus]

A key differentiator: Introverts aren't naturally awkward or uncomfortable in social situations.

Things like "I'm nervous introducing myself to strangers" / "I feel intimidated around groups of people" / "I hate small talk" / "I miss a lot of social cues" aren't signs of an introvert, they're signs of social anxiety. Social anxiety has lots of causes - neurodivergence and behavioral disorders among them. But it's not caused by "being an introvert."

Even if there's truth to the charge/drain extrovert/introvert dichotomy, all humans need both regular social interaction as well as alone time. An introvert at a social function will feel happy and have fun, the same way an extrovert can enjoy reading a book or taking a walk alone.

Signed,

- An extrovert with a clinically diagnosed social anxiety disorder; I thought I was "an introvert" until I was almost 30

[snipertrifle]

I think there’s also a lot of self fulfilling prophecy in the “draining.” Doing new things in new situations can be very stressful and draining. But the more you do it, the less draining it gets. The less you do it, the more new social situations freak you out. It’s a muscle you build. Just like the first day at the gym leaves you a wreck, but not the 100th.

Show up to the same book club 20 times and those people might become the ones who “don’t count” as draining you. Show up to 20 different kinds of events and you get the hang of making introductions and small talk. The more times things don’t go badly the more resilience you have to new things.

Not saying introversion is bad or needs to be “fixed.” God knows the world needs them. Just don’t confuse a preference for a quiet night in, for a fear of telling the server you asked for no pickles.

[lingonberry24]

Something I have to mention that I'm trying to drill into my mother:

If you are in an upper-middle class/conservative/christian/some other kind of community full of assholes where you are forced - neurodivergent or not - to suck up your entire personality up your asshole and pretend to be perfect all the time or face social expulsion, ALL INTERACTION WILL BE DRAINING.

FIND BETTER PEOPLE.

Find community online! Find a place nearby that doesn't suck maybe.

My mother was brought up in a rural christian conservative racist community, and she may well die without ever truly understanding that you're supposed to be able to share your opinions with others and not get publicly shamed and eviscerated for any perceived misstep.

If you grew up like this, unlearn it! Social interaction is not supposed to make you feel like killing yourself.

[whatbigotspost]

Some really good shit here.

I’ve never identified with being an introvert but I was team “I’m an extrovert with social anxiety!!” for years and years and that was ACTUALLY called “the factory standard setting for an AuDHD brain” 😅

[margindoodles2407]

@/dailymanners's (from whom I reblogged this) tags are worth preserving:

[risarambles]

Huh. Maybe why I feel firmly in the middle depending on the situation? Psych said I'm an "omnivert." I didn't even know that was an option

[annabelle--cane]

sometimes someone I follow falls victim to severe Character delirium to the point where they stop even saying the character's name and just refer to them by an epithet like some kind of malevolent entity whom they don't wish to accidentally summon, so if the sickness sets in quickly enough and I don't pay close attention for a week I'm just Never going to figure Who this bastard haunting my friend Actually Is. and I'll spend months scrolling my dash occasionally seeing appeals to "that fucking horse" or "my evil grub."

[scribefindegil]

testing the composition of mystery fabrics makes me understand Sherlock Holmes and the cigar ash.

[goldensunset]

i’m really sorry about my behavior. you see, growing up, my family- *remembers blaming all my problems on other people is really annoying and unhealthy* i mean. i am responsible for all the evils of this world and i bear sins like the sky bears the stars

[unheavenliercreatures]

[heedra]

if you really want to fuck a vampire then i’d say you’re down for the count

[heedra]

damn thats a lot of notes and a lot of vampire fuckers, i guess its time to raise the stakes

[peachfromcmbyn]

They should invent a method of asking for reassurance that nobody secretly hates you that doesn't make people secretly hate you.

[god-monsterr]

this reply deserves to be here.

[korokposting]

disabled person who isn't pushing themself to their absolute limits and feels guilty about it I love you

disabled person who cannot 'keep it together' I love you

disabled person who straightforwardly can't do certain things I love you

disabled person who thinks they should be doing more I love you

disabled person who 'gave up' I love you

[risarambles]

Why would this honestly make me melt?

[amygdalae]

As a bisexual person I'm keenly aware of how such stereotypes are inevitably harmful to us, but unfortunately when I see bisexuals in fiction who are Evil and stylish and fuck like champions I can't help but go "oh work" for a sec. It's a difficult conundrum

[dykeisagender-deactivated202305]

one time i went through the taco bell drive thru and when i tried to order a baja blast i said “mountain boo bah” and then i just left. couldn’t recover

[getalittlemoreclosetome]

a friend of mine once went to order a beefy bean and cheese burrito but ordered a “beedo beedo” instead and i think of it every time i go to taco bell

[cryptid-sighting]

[arasdain]

After seeing this for the first time, I told my cousin that calling it "Mountain Boo Bah" was a new trend and that the taco bell employees would know what he meant.

He very confidently ordered a mountain boobah just to be met with a pause and ...what?

He goes am I the first person you've heard call it that?

Obviously

He turned to me and dead pan says why would you lie to me like that

[absurdlogic]

love is stored in the kitty cat

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