This is gonna be super long, so, I’m not entirely sure how to explain things at the moment, but this is what I know about everything that happened. And I’m still angry about it and I’m not an angry person.
This is between 4 people. Myself, my two friends and we will call the crazy person D. For purposes of keeping track, I am A, and my two friends are B and C.
Okay, so the four of us are OCs that were brought together pretty randomly. A and C gamed together before we met B and D. My character was made to exist in C’s character’s universe, as a friend. Obviously, the friendship turned romantic. Before it turned romantic, however, D came into C’s life and they became friends. They began roleplaying together with their OCs and it was fine for a while. Until, my character and C’s character became a couple. And then, according to C, D pitched a bitchfit. I don’t know exactly what was said as I only found out about it later, but that’s beside the point. Things calmed down, they started an AU.
Around the time I started following D - they’re a great writer, do not get me wrong- a certain subject came up that happens to trigger me. It wasn’t tagged and as I read her reply to the thread, I realized quickly what it was and all that was implied. I messaged her asking her to tag things with tw: rape from then on, just so the thread would go away and I didn’t have to deal with it. I logged off after that - but recently discovered she never did. So, I got a message from her later apologizing for triggering me and we got to talking. As it turns out, her other OC and my character sounded like they’d get along.
So we started threading. At that point, my life compiled and I had to consolidate and drop verses and threads and mentioned to her that the verse her oc and mine were in were getting shifted into a singular verse where I had other threads as it was easier to keep track of. At that point, she was really kind of pushing the idea that our ocs end up together and I quashed it because I wasn’t interested. She tried to guilt me into it. I said no. So, she pigeonholed her character into being best friends with mine, which consistently smacked of romantic undertones whenever she replied.
Now B’s character and my character are in a relationship. And D’s original OC starts flirting and gets her own verse with B’s character. This is fine. All is well, we’re all friends. Life’s good.
My life completely hits the toilet. I lose drive to reply to anyone. D decides to sly dig the shit out of me for replies. I don’t give in and continue game play with C and B since they don’t pressure me and we honestly have a better friendship with one another. C and B are constantly making me laugh myself stupid and I could not have found better partners in them.
I noticed that C dropped D’s threads as well, not long after the initial incident involving triggering me. I never questioned it. In hindsight, maybe I should have. Because now, D’s not only sly digging me, they’re sly digging C too. And they don’t tag anyone in the digs or guilt trips, leaving them open for us to think it’s about us.
So, finally, I message C about it because I’m annoyed. And it’s taken me a while to get this annoyed. I discover that the thread where rape was pretty much written out by D - between D’s OC and C’s character’s roommate - Cnever agreed to that. What was agreed to was D and the roommate sleeping together. It made C uncomfortable and C dumped the thread. I don’t blame her in the slightest.
As we’re discussing all of this, I come to find out that D’s been pressuring C to thread again and C’s given her dozens of ideas, none of which D wants. D posts an open starter which C replies to and D never responds back. C posts an open starter which D responds to and then gets pissed off because it’s not the reply she wanted.
And the sly digs continue.
And then I get a message from B. Apparently, D’s angry at B for something B can’t control (B goes to school and focuses more on studies than rp, which is how it should be).
The sly digs and guilt trips grow more frequent. I snap and call D out on their bullshit. I get a reply back that ‘they aren’t sly digs’. (tdlr; when you post something like, ‘we don’t talk anymore, so just unfollow me so I don’t have to feel bad when I unfollow you’ it IS a fucking sly dig. If you are that upset with someone, you go into an ask box and nicely ask to thread and then come to a compromise. Super simple stuff. You don’t let it sit on your blog and make people think it’s about them).
And then in another of D’s threads with someone else (they talk to a lot of people but constantly tag us in things) their OC is in an abusive relationship, which is another of my triggers. I mentioned it to D. ‘Oh, it slipped by me’. And then D never went back to tag it.
All of this compiled over 3-4 months of gaming. And then last night, it all kind of snapped. D yelled at B about no longer being friends and pretty much made B feel like shit. I had enough, C had enough, B had enough, so we all unfollowed.
True to form, my url tag gets a 1 next to it, which is D apologizing, but it was too little too late and I may or may not have tore her a new one, explaining to D all of the things that compounded my ire and why I chose to unfollow them.
All in all, D was just a shitty mun who doesn’t know how to take no for an answer, who can’t discern roleplay from reality and just all around was a horrible person hiding behind sugar coated sweetness. Part of me actually feels bad for reacting as I did, but after all of this shit, I’m pretty sure I’m in the right here.
