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[raccoon-queer-deactivated202502]

all persecutors have value.

all persecutors are worthy of love.

all persecutors deserve respect.

all persecutors can recover.

all persecutors have valid emotions.

there is no such thing as a persecutor who is purely evil. even if they haven't recovered, and even if they don't want to recover. persecutors do not deserve to be treated like they're less than other alters.

endos DNI. this post is not for you.

[syscurse]

if DID wasn't caused by trauma, we would know by now -_-

Psyches have been trying and failing to prove that trauma isn't a necessary factor for as long as they've known DID to exist

[night-wyld-system]

Plural Kit & Communicative Accommodations

Okay so due to a few posts we saw recently we realized the discussion of Plural Kit has come up once again. We made a post that was very poorly written a bit ago that we took down due to how ineffective it was to explain what our stance is as well as additional conversations this has reminded us of. To us this is a very important topic and something we are deeply interested in discussing.

Before we get into the meat of this post we want to clarify: We are not the one and only source of authority on this topic. We are a freshman in college and we often make false conclusions or have holes in our logic. We are VERY open to being critiqued and informed where our stance falls apart, or is wrong.

Plural Kit

Plural kit is not and never will be an accessibility tool. Accessibility tools are things like screen readers, alternative text, image descriptions, etc. These are things that the lack of could make information fully inaccessible to a person with a disability. We often need to both hear and read information to understand it, now we don't always have to use subtitles or a screen reader, but we often do. This is a form of disability accommodation.

Plural kit, though very clearly capable of being moderated and easy to us, is not easy to everyone. It requires much more aggressive and intensive moderation than other things and many people do not have the time or energy for that. Previously we had written that it's not hard to moderate but we have realized that what is and isn't hard differs from person to person. Objectively PK requires more attention and excessive moderation than other things and as such it is reasonable to not wish to use it on your server. However we do not think this should be said because it is "hard" to moderate- we prefer the verbiage of "it is more taxing to moderate". (Which is just semantics).

What Plural Kit is however, is a communicative accommodation.

Communicative Accommodations

Now, what do we mean by this term? Much in the way that Howard Giles intended with his Communication Accommodation Theory (CAT), we believe there are things that people do to make communication, conversation, and discussion flow better and bring everyone to the same level.

We believe that this can be applied to types of disability accommodations- nowhere near as vital as accessibility tools or physical accommodations, they are still incredibly important to having strong relationships.

Another form of this would be tone indicators that people use within conversations that include autistics. We are autistic and we struggle to comprehend what people mean with their tone and can often misconstrue their statements due to this imbalance and differentiation in forms of communication. As such a good way for allistics and autistics to get along better in communication is the addition of tone indicators and tone tags (things such as: /gen, /sar, /pos, etc.)

We believe plural kit would fall into this grouping/category as well, alongside systems in close relationships with others simply stating who is fronting. Communication can become slightly difficult when switching and amnesia (for traumagenic systems specifically) is involved. In our experience, we often retell the same stories, ask the same questions, restate the same points, and confuse others by how different our personality can be. For a while we had been under the impression we had a mood or personality disorder, but somehow never fit any of the other symptoms.

Having an indicator the you have changed who you are talking to can be helpful to communicate more effectively. The way someone would better get along with Theodore/Theo is a lot different than they would with me, he cannot properly handle most discourse and struggles to sympathize (we all however have low empathy). I often sympathize with others and communicate very broadly and tend to get into the nitty gritty.

Someone who we are talking to would likely find it jarring for us to switch from him to me with no clear explanation. It could mess up the flow of conversation and eventually put a strain on a relationship or conversation.

Endnote

We do not believe anyone is bad or wrong for not using PK on their server, nor are we saying your relationships will fall apart if you don't use it. Merely it can be helpful for better communication. We personally have seen it on servers that have a lot of political discussions or discourse due to the fact that these enviorments have very in depth conversations which need as much accommodations as possible to get everyone to the correct conclusions.

It is basically as effective as changing your nickname or tagging your posts/messages or signing off. It's just a way to try and improve communications.

Everett

[eternalsyscourse]

dear internet:

you cannot "create" a system. yes, this is directly targeting systems of origins that aren't traumagenic, because those aren't a real thing. yeah, it's possible for people to be traumagenic and not realize it, but true endo/tulpa systems are not real.

i don't care if you're "coping" with something. i don't care if you're trying to keep yourself comfortable. it's not a thing. systems are caused by trauma, dissociation, and fragmentation of a personality and identity that should have formed as a whole. they are caused by repetitive childhood trauma.

believing that you have a severe mental disorder like DID can in itself be considered a disorder or a delusion, but it is not DID.

[ultrabright-flashlight]

Alter 1: Out here living my best life!

Alter 2: The host is drowning

Alter 1: This ain’t about them

[adviceforsystems]

It can be really tough to be an alter who doesn't relate to or identify with the body. Whether you feel dysphoria, psychosomatic symptoms due to parts that don't exist on the body (eg wings, horns, tails, extra height, extra limbs etc.), or just the general discomfort of not seeing yourself in the mirror, please know that you are not alone in this. Your experiences are still absolutely valid, and you still deserve the space you need to be yourself.

[lovecore1]

OSDDID IS A DISORDER AND ALWAYS WILL BE.

I have seen way to many people (specifically endos) trying to demedicalize OSDDID. OSDDID IS a disorder it’s in the names of both of them.

Stop trying to take resources away from severe trauma survivors.

(he/they/it)

[metan0ia-netw0rk]

Endos stop comparing being a system to being trans. They aren’t the fucking same.

Being trans = NOT a medically exclusive thing that doesn’t require medical attention unless you wish to transition

Being a System: A medically exclusive thing that requires medical attention and care in order to be able to heal and function in society

Y’all always be comparing “sysmeds” (which is a transphobic term itself) to being TERFs, but,,,,,we’re not excluding Jack shit. The only thing we’re doing is keeping fucks like yall who think you can be a system without trauma OUT of our spaces because it’s dangerous to our community. This is NOT an experience comparable to being trans, as a trans system, they are two separate things that are quite the opposite. You cannot “transition” or “become” a system for ANY other reason apart from trauma in early childhood. STOP comparing the two, it’s both transphobic and ableist. Check your privilege and shut the fuck up.

[peenalize]

say it with me. radical inclusion is inherently harmful.

[the-withering-system]

Wtf, having a LITERAL DISORDER that makes you a system and not wanting people to demedicalise it, is not fucking comparable to being a transmed.

We lived through the main run of transmedicalism, we were effected by it, it made us spend more years suffering then we could have. Being trans is an identity, gender is an identity. It's not a medical condition, it's not a disorder.

Being a system, having DID/OSDD/UDD+ are disorders, actual disorders.

Really showing your transphobia by still fucking comparing being trans to a disorder aren't ya?

-Harley

[noxcaelum-constellation-deactiv]

There are multiple ways to heal with DID. And yes, that includes both final fusion and functional multiplicity.

Fusion is not m/rdering [u] alters, it’s coming together as one to heal, and the thought of that is badass. Ya’ll are overcoming trauma and coming together to help yourselves, and that’s so cool of you. You deserve that!

At the same time, Functional Multiplicity is not anti-recovery or “an Endogenic excuse to continue roleplaying” (yes I’ve actually seen someone say that). It’s lowering amnesia and communication barriers to work TOGETHER with your other alters to overcome trauma and deal with everyday life. That’s amazing too!

Everyone’s healing journeys are different, and that’s totally valid! Some systems don’t have the option either. I’ve seen systems whose therapists and other professionals they work with say that final fusion would be contradictory to their healing and would cause more damage mentally and physically. On the other hand, I’ve seen systems who cannot work towards functional multiplicity because of the same reason.

You’re valid no matter what your healing path is. Every system is different and that’s ok. We are diverse people and it sucks that we hound at each other for our different ways of healing from trauma. To anyone who has been criticised because of the path they’re taking towards healing, I’m so sorry. You are so valid and deserve the world. /gen /p

-The Hydrangea Collective

[auraquartzsystem]

Heya guys! Decided to start a new challenge for the sys community; make a picrew of how the body looks (left) vs how you look (right)!

Heres the picrew https://picrew.me/image_maker/165901/complete?cd=68XhJpnl7X

Taggin @fog-system , @melancholy-corner , @greenhillsys , and @foreverfunkin !

[mapofthewrld]

cute idea! tagging @burnt-toast-life @ecosys-coining @jupitrr @licoricemeat @questionmarksys @thecollectionsystem @unknown-lost-system @bloodysys @liminal-s0ul @the-vultus-system @thecrimeboys @malakaiii @bitter-bloodbank @enderexpresso @hqtism @catboyzinc @strawberrycornsnakesystem @boxedforyourdemise @moonlit-main @blu-cheavy @automated-players @brazilianblacktarantula-system @caffeine-system-coins @piesystem @spectres-craft @my-brain-is-hatching @thespacecolonyarksystem @mosaic-system @sportstapeboiii @polyfragmantedchaos @carnival-of-carnage @dewdrrop @wireboy @system-cypress

okay i THINK i got all of our system moots; no pressure to do this and if i missed anyone im so so sorry- feel free to do this anyway!

[licoricemeat]

they didnt have zombie marks :-(

tagging: @sysmedsaresexist @snailcryptid @thebeesyndicate @timedeo and anyone else who wants to :-)

[sysmedsaresexist]

Okay, cute

[rosemarysys]

cute!

[sleepybelphagor]

what hyaena-bites is doing is disgusting and wrong. xe has encouraged endogenic systems to make awful blogs and send death threats to people and blame it on their “persecutors”

xe doesn’t know what that does to us, actual system persecutors. people call us evil, disgusting, and think that we’re just awful people. xer blog should be deleted.

i mean, queerautism has stated that we should take system accountability, which we have. but it has the “no accountability needed” card?

pathetic.

[cosmic-syscourse]

fixed an endo post <3

[peenalize]

"sysmeds dont want singlets engaging in syscourse or speaking over them but are fine with singlet doctors diagnosing them and speaking as authorities"

yes. because they are professionals. they study a mental fucking illness. obviously they know better than some 13 year old who wanted to make a system because they think did is sooooo cool

[exclamaquest]

(source 1) (source 2)

bigger explanation: the studies found that blood flow to areas of the brain changed depending on the alter that was fronting in patients with dissociative disorders. this shows that alters have a biological component and can be proven to exist. this is associated (in the clinical term, meaning they're not going to traumatize children to prove it 100% but they're 99% sure) specifically with and is a symptom of traumagenic disorders. if you don't have a dissociative disorder, you don't have alters. what you're experiencing might feel similar, but they are not alters.

[oops-all-syscourse]

“You want your system to be medicalised?”

YES oh my god yes I want to actually get help and have the government pay for it are you serious