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I’m pretty all over the place, and am constantly thinking different things. I’m learning to express myself, so enjoy my creative journal. FOLLOW thequestiongirlspace !!!!

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How I’m feeling today

I’m feeling quite weird today, I think most people are trying to adjust to this life that’s very different now and I think that definitely has had an effect overall. However I’d say today I’m feeling especially low as I’m trying to pursue a little venture of getting more people asking and answering questions. 

It’s called The Question Girl, and I’ve been doing it for the past 5 weeks. I’ve had mixed reactions every week as I’ve released a different question every week, which I guess has to be expected. However this weeks hit different. It’s difficult, I’m trying to learn to not expect from anyone. Which is really difficult for me, as I've always followed the rules of treat others how you wish to be treated. I feel that those two “rules” to say are both the complete opposite, as I expect a lot from myself to be the best person I can be - especially to others. 

Since doing The Question Girl I’ve realised how many people aren’t in touch with the deeper side of things, which makes me a little sad. As I’ve got the impression from others that life is supposed to be deemed as simple. When I don’t think it’s simple at all, so if it’s not simple then why are we thinking in a simple way? 

Take for example this weeks question was “if education was your responsibility what would it be like and why?” and I hardly got any response, which makes me then think about voting? Are people the same? Do they see it going on, give the impression that they are going to answer the question for example and then don’t? Do people do that with voting? 

This whole sheep mentality is very much a thing, and I think to break that mould we need to be more accepting and open to those that are thinking outside of the box, or a little more deeper into things. I’m fascinated with the human brain, and it just baffles me that others aren't. It’s a human computer, and there’s people dumbing ourselves down. No. I’m sorry, I refuse to accept that. 

As my writing this evening, you might get the impression that I'm feeling a little negative and down in the dumps. If you didn’t get the impression, then just know I am. I care too much about the world, human potential and just being a genuinely nice person. 

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The Question Girl was created to give others a space to be able to share their opinion, experiences and solutions, improve critical thinking and to really get people thinking. The questions will bring others together, creating friendships and even a community. 

Bringing up different subjects that range with importance will help others in many different ways, and to also remind others that we’re all a lot more similar than what we realise. You may even find someone on a similar journey as you! 

This space is a judgement free! Negativity will not be tolerated, and you will be asked to keep your negativity to yourself or to leave this space. The choice is yours. The Question Girl is here to bring up subjects that may be personal, weird, wonderful, complex, simple, vulnerable, inspiring, the list is endless. Either way there will always be a reason for you to join a LIVE. 

How am I communicating you may ask? The Question Girl will go LIVE EVERY THURSDAY @ 7PM. This gives you, me and everyone else a chance to discuss different topics and to get a conversation going. There will be times where I’ll be interviewing different guests to help bring light to their opinions. 

You can find The Question Girl over on Instagram @thequestiongirl @ruby_khristinaadams. My personal instagram is where the LIVE will be taking place, and TheQuestionGirl Instagram is where you can find that weeks question, cools facts and any updates you might want to know. 

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Well this is what I’ve been up too for the past 4/5 weeks! Come have a look, and leave your own comment! I would love to hear your opinion!

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I think I’m going to start writing again, just a personal diary to say. I’ve changed a lot of things in my life to improve my mental attitude and I’d like to help some people in that sense, give people a diary to read making you feel less alientated and to give you the opportunity to take these things on to potentially help you in your life.

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I took some photos of my friend today, how beautiful is she.

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I know when things don’t work out it’s too easy for us to say we weren’t enough and that’s what makes it impossible to feel closure. But just because you don’t marry someone it doesn’t mean they didn’t feel something for you, like a lot, and it doesn’t mean they aren’t going to think about you ever again. Because they are. People who I’ve gone on one date with and decided I never want to see again still cross my mind when I pass a certain restaurant or someone mentions the town that person said they’re from. You’re not forgotten and you didn’t “mean nothing,” I promise you. So just because it’s over, it wasn’t pointless and you aren’t worthless to this person. This person is still going to think about you, probably a lot, even if they already replaced you, even if you really hurt them. That’s just human, you meant something at one point and you will always mean something.

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Beginning your deep meditation

If you want to learn how to meditate deeply you must find a place where you won’t be disturbed for about 20 minutes.

20 minutes is about the ideal time for deep meditation

Although when you’re starting off, you may want to meditate for a shorter period, say 5 – 10 minutes.

But aim to build up to 20 minutes.

Also, the room you’re in should be dark or have very low lighting as it’ll be easier to achieve deep meditation.

You’ll need a timer. (You can use the one your mobile phone).

Then, get a straight-backed chair such as a kitchen chair or an office type chair.

But don’t use an armchair as it’ll be too easy to fall asleep.

Beginning your meditation

Set your timer.

Sit in your chair, close your eyes, place your hands in your lap and take a deep breath.

Now, as you breathe out allow your shoulders to drop down and relax.

Repeat this breathing and relaxing another 2 times.

Then focus on either your right or left hand – whichever is dominant.

When I say focus I mean “feel”.

You focus on your hands so that you can “feel” them.

Why is it important to feel your hands?

Because when you can “feel” your hands (or any part of your body) you’re in the present moment – not lost in memories of the past or thoughts of the future.

But you’re in the here-and-now.

Why should you focus on your hands especially?

You focus on your hands because you’re more deeply connected to them than the rest of your body.

And it’s easier, at least in the beginning stages of your meditation journey, than focusing on your feet for example.

Also, if you’re right-handed you’ll be more connected to your right hand.

And if you’re left-handed you’ll be more connected to your left hand.

So start-off with your dominant hand.

Now, either dim the lights, or turn the lights off completely as it’ll make your meditation easier.

Concentrate on your right hand (or left, if you’re a lefty) on your lap.

Try to “feel” your hand.

Focus on just your thumb. Try to “feel” your thumb.

If you have trouble feeling it, just move it a bit. Then stop moving it and try to feel it again.

When you can feel it, keep focusing on it and you’ll notice it getting warm, or you may experience a tingling sensation.

Either way, you want to increase the sensation of warmth or tingling.

When you can focus on your thumb and really feel it, then move your concentration to your first finger.

Repeat the process and focus on your first finger just as you did with the thumb.

Take your time and really “feel” your first finger.

Then, move onto your second finger and all your other fingers in turn.

And then start back at your thumb again.

Continue this until you can feel each finger and then do the same on your other hand starting with your thumb.

When you’ve done it on your other hand then concentrate on the middle of your forehead.

Now it starts to get bit complicated – but take your time.

You don’t have to do it all in one session – you can break it down into as many as you need.

So, you concentrate on the middle of your forehead as if it were a window and you’re “looking” out through the window into the darkness in your mind.

When you “look” through the middle of your forehead in a darkened room you’ll see darkness.

But it’s not totally dark, even if the room is completely dark.

There’s usually some light in the darkness. And this is what I want you to look at.

But when I say “look” I don’t mean to look with your eyes as if you were straining to see something in the distance.

But rather you “look” with your mind.

For example, think of a tree – you can “see” the tree with your mind not your eyes.

So, continue to look through the middle of your forehead as if looking through a window.

Now, at the same time go back to concentrating on your dominant hand.

Focus on your thumb – try to feel it.

Now you’re doing 2 things at the same time – looking through the middle of your forehead and concentrating on your thumb.

Actually, your attention will tend to switch from your hand to your forehead and back to your hand again.

But this is perfectly ok.

When you can “feel” your thumb, move your concentration to your first finger.

Then continue with each finger in turn, all the time concentrating on the middle of your forehead as if looking through a window.

When you’ve “felt” each finger on your dominant hand, do the same on your other hand.

Now, when you’ve “felt” each finger on your other hand you then concentrate on both hands together.

Start-off with both of your thumbs – become aware of both thumbs so that you can feel them.

Then concentrate on each pair of fingers in turn still looking through the middle of your forehead.

You may find it easier to join your hands together whilst they’re resting in your lap.

So your left thumb is touching your right thumb,

your left 1st finger is touching your right 1st finger,

your left 2nd finger is touching your right 2nd finger,

your left 3rd finger is touching your right 3rd finger

and your left little finger is touching your right little finger.

Now, concentrate on your thumbs – feel the pressure at the point where they meet.

Concentrate on that point until you can “feel” your thumbs.

Then move your concentration onto your 1st fingers.

Repeat for all pairs of fingers.

And then come back to your thumbs again.

Now, as you’re doing your meditation a thought may pop up.

It could be a recent thought or it could be a memory from your distant past.

Watch the thought by looking through the middle of your forehead, without making any judgement, positive or negative.

Watch the thought as if you were a distant, uninvolved observer.

If you get lost in a thought (which you eventually will), you’ll forget to be aware of your fingers and your forehead.

But when you realise this, you’ll immediately snap back to awareness and you’ll continue concentrating on them again.

So your meditation will usually start out by you being aware of your hands and forehead.

Then becoming lost in a thought. Realising that you’re lost and coming back to awareness.

Then getting lost again; and so it goes – it’s a constant battle.

But every now and then you may experience the quiet-mind-state.

The quiet-mind-state is where the constant chatter of your mind is silent.

And your mind is quiet and still like the surface of a lake on a windless day.

When your timer goes off don’t jump up out of your chair straight away.

Open your eyes, and look around the room.

You may feel a bit different, so allow a couple of minutes to adjust before standing up.

How do you feel?

Are you less stressed than when you began?

Do you feel more aware?

Are you more relaxed?

But this is not merely relaxation but deep meditation

And, unlike relaxation, deep meditation can transform you, change you, improve you like no other practice under the sun.

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OPEN CONVERSATION! Watch now, let me know what you think!

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10 Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You’re An iNtuitive

The MBTI inventory classifies iNtuitive types as those who place more interest (and often more value) in theories, abstractions and the exploration of possibilities than they do in the concrete realities of the world around them.

iNtuitive-dominant personality types (mainly ENFPs, ENTPs, INTJs and INFJs) are almost always more interested in what isn’t being said or considered than what is.

But since we live in a sensor-dominant world, intuitive behavior tends to stick out like a sore thumb. Almost every iNtuitive personality will be able to recall many experiences in which their loved ones were thoroughly confused by their reasoning or behavior. Here are ten behaviors people often don’t understand are associated with being an iNtuitive personality.

1. Spurring debates.

iNtuitives don’t fully understand an issue until they’ve considered it from every possible angle. These types aren’t debating because they want to be difficult or impolite – they’re debating because they need to test the validity of the topic by arguing it from every side. They want to see if any holes arise in their reasoning as they go, and some of their best learning takes place through the process of debate.

2. Obsessively planning for the future.

iNtuitives live almost exclusively in the future – they love considering which options may arise for them, which goals they ought to set for themselves, what their lives may look like in twenty or thirty years, etc.

Of course, it’s impossible to plan every detail of one’s life… so the plan is subject to getting readjusted. For extroverted iNtuitives (xNFPs and xNTPs), the readjusting happens almost daily. For introverted intuitives (xNFJs and xNTJs), readjusting happens as needed – but the need tends to arise regularly.

3. Viewing the rules as suggestions.

It’s not that iNtuitives are rebellious for the sake of it – it’s just that they analyze why a rule exists before deciding whether or not to follow it. These types despise arbitrary action, so if they perceive a rule to be outdated or ineffective, they have no problem casting it aside and doing things their way instead.

4. Over-analyzing everything.

For the iNtuitive, it isn’t enough to understand how a given issue applies to them – they have to also understand the global implications of the issue, or the underlying theory that ties is all together. iNtuitives want to know the intangible explanation for every tangible problem, and it can drive those around them a little bonkers.

5. Placing little trust in authority.

iNtuitives types trust competence over qualification, and they want to make their own judgments about how competent they find others to be. iNtuitives are highly aware of the human tendency to favor convenience and prestige above analysis, and they aren’t quick to trust any established system simply because it’s been in place for a long time.

6. Relentlessly seeking variety.

iNtuitive personalities are naturally drawn to the abnormal, the uncouth and the unconventional. These types spend their entire lives attempting to piece together a comprehensive worldview, which means that they seek to understand as many different oddities as possible. Whether they’re seeking novelty in their studies, their lifestyles or both, these types are always on the hunt for new lenses through which they can view the world.

7. Developing obscure interests.

Since what they don’t know is almost always more interesting to the iNtuitive personality than what they do know, these types are likely to take an interest in niche topics or theories. Many iNtuitives enjoy exploring conspiracy theories or other such ‘unfounded’ methods of reasoning, as they enjoy the ‘mental gymnastics’ aspect of linking seemingly unrelated things together (even though they often don’t believe the actual theories themselves at the end of the day).

8. Socializing selectively.

Extroverted iNtuitives (mainly ENFPs and ENTPs) are considered the most introverted of the extroverted types. Introverted iNtuitives (mainly INFJs and INTJs) may be more traditionally introverted in nature, but put any of these types around in a room together and the conversation is likely to flow on for hours (if not days, if not endlessly)!

iNtuitive-dominant types are often quickly exhausted by engaging with their physical environment, but they are endlessly energized by quality conversation. These types tend to consider themselves to be ‘selectively social’ – they’d rather be alone than around people they don’t connect with, but put them around other iNtuitive types and their social side suddenly emerges with fervor.

9. Playing devil’s advocate.

If there’s a sure-fire way to get under an iNtuitive’s skin, it’s to insist that basically any issue is black or white. These types are quick to assume the role of devil’s advocate in any situation where they feel as though the opposing party is forming an opinion without considering the alternative point of view. These types are prone to vehemently arguing points they don’t even agree with, just to prove that an issue is more complex than those around them are assuming it to be.

10. Pursing an unconventional life course.

iNtuitives are naturally drawn to the strange, the provocative and the unconventional. They may be more prone than sensing types to have an entrepreneurial streak, to engage in non-traditional relationship structures or to experiment with lifestyle choices that are outside the societal norm.

Because these types take a ‘why not’ approach to their lives (or in the case of introverted iNtuitives, their research and learning), they often find themselves unintentionally rebelling from the rest of society. It’s not that they want to do everything differently – it’s just that an iNtuitive’s lifestyle tends to reflect their mindset – and the mind of an iNtuitive is a very strange territory indeed.

By Heidi Priebe, via consciousreminder

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Lemony Snicket / The Blank Book

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FIRST YOUTUBE VIDEO!

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HELLO! YES YOU! STOP!

Hey! Thanks for stopping, I’m starting my own YouTube channel where I get to discuss my own opinion, as well as yours on different topics around the world. I want to talk about those things that YOU don’t feel are spoken about!

I NEED YOUR HELP!

I would be so grateful if you could comment what you feel isn’t spoken enough in today society as I’m wanting to get other people’s opinions on board too! I’m always open to finding out other people’s experiences, and I really would love to share that as well as mine too!

Thank you in advance! Have an amazing morning/day/night.

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VLOG 1 - WORK DAY.  So! Here’s my first vlog with my new camera, it was a work day so isn’t too exciting but definitely a good day to have a good at filming what I could film. This was something that I had put together, started creating something else and then went back to this to finish *kinda rush* and upload, so there’s definitely a few tweaks I would make in this video. I’m still editing my bank holiday vlog, which I’m struggling to do as there’s not enough space on my laptop. But I’ll get there, I’m in no rush and I’m definitely not putting any pressure on this. It’s fun, and I’ve been really enjoying it so far.

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Notice how the trees in this canopy don’t cross branches with each other - a neat effect called Crown Shyness

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Do  NOTHING for 1 min!

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I’m in love...

This reminds me of exactly how humans need to be living. You see how each tree has its own shape, and even when they move they still stay within that shape. So, like the caption explains about Crown Shyness it’s almost as if they respect the tree next to them and their shape so when they come to gether they fit like a puzzle almost.

In the world we live in today, we need to learn to respect one another and come together. With the disasters happening at this very moment it’s really scary knowing that humans had a once in a billion, trillion, gazillion chance on the only planet we know of to be able to habit life. And we were also the only living thing that fucked it.

We don’t have any control over what is natural, we don’t deserve to have any control over what is natural. But what we do have control over is our actions, and it’s time to start respecting the world you live in. For your own benefit, you’ll feel extremely happier when you appreciate life and how precious and amazing it is. Not just for yourself, but everything around you.

Whether or not you believe in climate change, what you do need to believe in is respecting this planet and what will live on if human race was to be vanished. Just think.