safalafal musings

yes im a sysadmin. no, the reason why I'm mentally ill is not completely because im a sysadmin. eurofan

[redstonedust]

its actually easy to de-enshittify your digital experience all you need to do is install this browser extension and this browser extension and this browser extension and input this custom script into the advanced box and go into your system settings and reconfigure all these options you didnt know existed and change your entire workflow and switch to this alternative operating system and this alternative web browser and this alternative chat client and this alternative word processor and this alternative- sorry that one turned out to be malware delete that one okay now double check your task manager for unwanted background processes and element block these ads and invest in a good VPN and append all your searches with AI blocking keywords and wait a few years until everything you just did becomes shitty too so you can do it all over again okay kitten. its literally that easy.

[spockvarietyhour]

For All Mankind "This Land is Our Land"

[safalafal]

windows 8 linux edition

you've got to admire this project: https://github.com/er-bharat/Win8DE bringing metro back to life! If you are that person liked the win 8 interface, this is for you

[bimboarsonist]

Today I learned something new about Windows! That I hate! Apparently, shutdown is no longer a real shutdown. According to my coworker, Windows puts everything into a save state. However, RESTART will shut everything down and bring it back up.

Fuck Windows!!!

I’d like to formally apologize to Linux. You are a more sane operating system.

[safalafal]

So this is quick boot. So in defence to MS lots of other OS's do this as well. Its a soft hibernate to improve performance. It isn't actuallt inherently evil tbf; especially on laptops

[exwife-of-frankenstein]

Youtube is full of ads, spotify is full of ads, tumblr is full of ads, pinterest is full of ads. Everything uses ai. Every new update makes the website/app worse. Youtube auto translates almost every video I want to watch. Sometimes pinterest only loads ads for me. Check out this new ai feature. Here's a new update that breaks ur laptop. Here's a new update that breaks ur phone. Why are u complaining about ur phone, just get the newest iphone lol. Join my patreon. Join my membership. Pay a monthly membership to get all features. Upgrade your membership to get even more features. Subscribe to netflix. Subscribe to disney. Subscribe to amazon. Subscribe to hulu. This content isn't available in ur country. This content was removed. This website was removed. This feature only exists for apple. This app only exists for apple. U need to a WiFi connection to play this game. U need an account. We need your email to finish creating this account. We need your number to finish creating your account. We need your id to finish creating your account. In order to delete your account please write an email. In order to delete your account you need a laptop. Oops our database was hacked and ur information was stolen. Ur data was sold from this random website u used once 10 years ago. Spam call. Spam call. Spam call.

[hazedxg0]

Been seeing too many pop-psychology attachment theory posts that demonize avoidant attachment lately, so for the record:

You are not entitled to anyone else's time or affection.

People are allowed to leave you if they do not want a relationship with you.

People do not have to give you a reason that you approve of, or even a reason at all, to leave you if they do not want a relationship with you.

Your own co-dependency issues and attachment to someone else does not trump that person's ability to deny consent.

No-one is obligated to give you attention just because you want them to.

No-one is obligated to stay in a relationship they don't want to be in, even if the other person hasn't done anything wrong.

No-one is obligated to stay in a relationship they don't want to be in, even if the other person is mentally ill.

Attempting to force someone to stay through coercion, guilt tripping, or threats of suicide/self-harm is abusive.

[yearofheartbreak]

This is the exact reason all these people are running around thinking it's okay to lead others on and break people's heart under some self inflicted guise of 'I can't'. No you just want your cake and to eat it to.

Say what you mean and mean what you say. If you don't mean it then move out the way for someone who does.

This thinking is just as bad as the 'pop psychology' posts.

Yes they can leave at any time but not after they've lovebombed you to make you believe you want them and then start acting shady without an explanation.

Yes they are obligated to give me attention if they told me they wanted a relationship and did everything to get my attention and then lovebombed.

Yes if you told me you loved me and wanted to be with me, then I deserve to know why you either lied about that or changed your mind.

For all the ones that have been discarded. Don't let people like the OP make your feelings less than. If your heart was broken then it was broken and you deserve closure.

Avoidants are not good people that know exactly what they're doing.

[hazedxg0]

Given that someone else already tried to talk some sense into you and it didn't work, I really don't have much hope for you. But for the record, replying to a post about how it's wrong for people to weaponize the demonization of avoidant attachment to justify abuse and disagreeing with it, isn't a good look.

Also no, having avoidant attachment does not inherently make a person abusive or toxic. You're taking your own previous negative experiences to assume that all avoidant people are intentionally and maliciously emotionally abusing people, which is demonstrably false. The things you are describing in your reblog are not the things I am discussing in the original post.

You're also assuming that I'm trying to invalidate people who have been hurt by romantic rejection, and I'm not. Let me make this as clear as I possible can: this post is calling out abusive behaviour. The things that I list in the post, that you are defending, are forms of abuse.

Threatening self-harm and suicide when someone tries to leave, demanding a partner give you reasons you deem appropriate before they are "allowed" to leave, assuming you are entitled to another persons' affection and attempting to coerce them into giving it you when they do not want to, are all examples of abuse.

You are defending abuse.

It's especially horrific that you appear to disagree with the statements: "your own co-dependency issues and attachment to someone else does not trump that person's ability to deny consent" and "attempting to force someone to stay through coercion, guilt tripping, or threats of suicide/self-harm is abusive".

You very clearly do not respect other people's consent and autonomy by this response, and no amount of you attempting to deflect by further demonizing avoidant attachment is going to mask that.

If you feel called out and offended by me stating that abuse tactics are immoral, perhaps you should reflect on that instead of spewing demonizing and misinformed word salad on other people's posts.

[safalafal]

It's the slippery slope. In principle - the concept that everyone gets closure, everyone gets a reason and gets their time respected is well meaning and in an ideal world we'd love everyone to have closure. But, and this is where people miss the point completely, the same concepts that can be used for good, are more often than not used for abuse, for cohersive control and other forms of relationship abuse.

You have to understand that the difference between things can be done for good and ways people abuse and hurt each other is a lot closer than most people think that it is. And that's why we come back to one of the oldest sayings in the book: that

No.

Is a complete sentence.

It's usually a good idea in life, if you can to hear people out and try and end things amicably. But there are also times, to say no, or to simply walk away and say nothing at all. Trying to tar people under a personality label denies peoples whole experiences.

[pipewire-official]

micro text editor <333

[safalafal]

i adore micro. One day, the vim and emacs crowd will accept the true supremacy of micro

[cryptidk9]

“You shouldn’t use your DID as an excuse to forget important things!”

Love, darling, dear, honey, I have news for you

[safalafal]

my favourite saying is, i have no memory of that, but it sounds totally like something I would have done, so whatever lol

[cryptidk9]

“You shouldn’t use your DID as an excuse to forget important things!”

Love, darling, dear, honey, I have news for you

[ksixey]

i think osc needs to start gaslighting mclaren during the next season like imagine that during the race week he's like "idk guys, i'm not so sure about the pace this week/the car is shit :(" and then BAM POLE POSITION

[fal-con]

max verstappen

[safalafal]

Verstappens idea of terrible/awful/undriveable is the car being 99.8% perfect tho its not even a blag

[aenslem]

STAR TREK: DS9 || The Wire

[cachyos-official]

Year of the linux desktop?

[safalafal]

as much as I love Linux, twice nothing is still nothing

[safalafal]

why do things in IT keep getting worse

bit of a history lesson this one but basically the reason is this: in the mid-2000s we had a bit of a gold rush situation going on. Microsoft had hit the jackpot with the launch of Windows XP, a successful attempt to merge the two main tyeps of Windows (the 95/98/ME domestic path and the NT/2000 enterprise path). in addition, with .net framework, visual studio code coming up MS made it stronger than any point in it's history to code software. And on the opensource side, MYSQL 5 was launched in 2005, PHP5 as well. In short - for MS or in free software, the web was flourishing. And so - when people built software they built software for hyper-specific usecases a lot of the time. You wanted a finance package, you probably used a local provider in your country. You wanted it to be able to do specific things, then you might pay them, or even develop functionality in-house. So in short, the link between the software devs and the actual people using it was very short and it was simpler to get functionality achieved. The problem with all of this is however, is that this is a support nightmare and basically led to the classic IT greybeard image and it's incredibly hard to train people on how to run these things, which makes them more risky. So people went to generic software packages, and thus, it's now a case that software before did every feature, and now software didn't by the time we got to generic on-premise software in the mid 2010's. And then, by the time that we get to the cloud, the problem is even worse with Cloud software, frequently being feature-light compared to on-prem software. But it does reduce a lot of the risk, so businesses like it. so tl;dr - software functionality sucks because basically IT is little more sometimes than risk management

[coolhumanoidbeing]

"Your alters are all a part of you."

We're all parts of a person that could be. Hell, maybe even a person that should have been.

But they are not a part of me.

I'm as much of an alter as they are.

I have parts in me, as in, I have moods and tastes and goals. Those part are not alters.

Alters are their own separate entity, although we are all parts of a dissociated potential whole.

I am an alter. They can't be parts of me if im also a piece of the puzzle.

Edit: I will delete (both sides of) any arguments, unless they are respectful on both sides. By respect, I mean debating against points and not the person you're talking to.

[safalafal]

we all have parts. some of us have parts, that aren't to be confused with parts that's others have. of course, those parts, can have parts themselves, and that's before we talk about the parts of those parts who have parts.

being serious, i agree with the above, even though we personally use the term parts, not alters, but I think we're using it in the same way that @coolhumanoidbeing is here and for us, parts isn't about suggesting that one "part" is more valid than the others. We've been down that way of thinking, I think most systems have and it never ends well.

[proxmox-official]

[safalafal]

no matter how many times i see this, i still laugh my head off

[torchickentacos]

'Just switch to linux', 'Just switch to firefox', 'Just switch to ellipsus', 'Just buy a VPN and pirate it' okay, or- hear me out- tech companies can stop making their products worse, because I shouldn't have to change my entire workflow and spend time and money learning new programs and tools just to have a bearable online experience

[the-magic-duck]

While you're at it, why not start your own Internet?

Which is fun to do as a hobby, mind you - but it shouldn't be a requirement for basic freedoms

[safalafal]

the absolute sad truth is that tech companies are the ones that have and do start their own internets to run alongside the public internet, with all of the t1's doing this for moving data around as required. I don't think people realise that there isn't just one internet, there just happens to be one that at present hubs the whole thing together with a load of "private" networks connecting them. I can never figure out if it's ominous or not.

[spockvarietyhour]

Star Trek Voyager "State of Flux"