Girls Like Complaining Like Boys Do

for sapphic women, girls, and female-identified people who love complaining. saltiness and bitterness and negativity encouraged, but not towards each other. all wlw are loved here. trans-inclusive, no TERFs.

[saltysapphics]

I haven’t used this account in over a year and I’m sorry for not updating but for god’s sake stop sending me asks asking me if I’m a gold star lesbian

[district3-deactivated20230204]

i obviously hate cishet transphobes but i absolutely fucking despise transphobic lgb people. like you have to be a special kind of brain dead monster to go through bigotry and the fear of death and violence and then turn around and do the same to others. the same with racist lgbt people. trans people of color BUILT this community and you fucking demons have the fucking nerve to bask in what they did for you while spitting in their faces

[pussysoupforthesoul-deactivated]

lesbians: *makes jokes about how certain hairstyles n clothing are a part of lesbian culture*

every gnc straight women in the vicinity: “hi, straight girl here! yes i have a shaved head and yes i wear plaid and guess what! im still straight. it’s almost like how u look doesnt reflect ur sexuality?? i love men and i love combat boots too! they’re comfortable! how dare u say that makes me a dyk- i mean lesbian?!”

[rubyfruitnb]

I know a lot of lesbians that used to identify as bi who worried that coming out as a lesbian would contribute to invalidating bisexuality in some way, by making it seem like a “stepping stone” to coming out as gay. I’ve also known bi women who identified as lesbians and changed their labels later, and worried that they were contributing to some kind of idea about how men can ~turn lesbians. I just wanted to say that it’s no individual lesbian or bi women’s responsibility to fix straight people’s perceptions of us. Like, it’s not your duty to serve as a political symbol! It’s your duty to find happiness even if that means changing ur label at some points.

[feralsounds]

Part of me is like “I want a strong woman to hold me and take care of me” and another part of me is like “I want to be a strong woman and hold and take care of a girl” and the great thing about lesbianism is that I can have both

[tankaramo]

after realising you’re gay it’s truly a never ending series of “oh i used to do/feel that because i’m gay”. it really never ends

[bisexualgambit]

Told one of my friends that I unfriended my homophobic/transphobic uncle on facebook before coming out and they responded with “but how can you open his mind that way?” so just a reminder:

My job is to exist. My job is to be happy. My job is not to educate, I am willing to help you educate yourself, but above all else, it is my job to find peace that I’ve wanted for years. If someone does not make me feel good, why should I have to be a part of their life? I do not have to suffer so that others can grow. A blooming garden is not expected to keep it’s vines and weeds, so why am I?

[spaceraptor]

“I do not have to suffer so that others can grow.” Remember, it is not the responsibility, (nor can it be), of the oppressed to educate their oppressors.

[a-bold-move]

“ronald reagans grave is a gender neutral bathroom” is the most powerful sentence I’ve ever read 

[sunbutch]

Would you mind elaborating on the “wanting to be a lesbian is a symptom of being a lesbian” thing? Sorry to bug you. It just caught my eye and now I’m curious

what i mean by that is that many repressed or questioning lesbians don’t think they can be a lesbian for whatever reason, but they want to be. they’re drawn to the word lesbian, lesbian culture, and lesbians in general. they dread the idea that they’ll have to settle down with a man eventually. they wish they could be a lesbian so that they’ll have a reason to not be with men, but they think they’re not cool or brave enough, or that maybe they could possibly, theoretically love a guy at some point so calling themselves a lesbian would be wrong. so to all those questioning wlw out there, i’m telling you right now: if you want to be a lesbian, you’re probably a lesbian. you’re allowed to be a lesbian. 

[femgayprivilege]

hot take but transphobia and homophobia are inexorably linked and saying “this thing is transphobic, not homophobic!” or “this thing is homophobic, not transphobic!” is absolutely useless in most contexts. jokes about how ugly and weird “men in dresses”, jokes about someone breaking gender roles, jokes about someone looking like the “opposite” gender… legislation saying that two people of the same legal sex cannot get married or adopt… trans people of every orientation and cis gay people face so many of the same problems!

that’s WHY it’s LGBT! it’s why gay people and straight trans people work together! because homophobia and transphobia and intertwined and linked and you cannot dismantle one without dismantling the other! ignoring either homophobia or transphobia in favor of the other is missing the point!

[100-121-107-101-deactivated2019]

me as a 12 year old: yeah, women are just objectively more beautiful. like its just true. women are always more attractive than men, thems the facs. it is nature, god’s will, if you may. i am heterosexual.

[pizzaback-deactivated20201011]

i dont care if theres a genetic basis for being gay. i dont care if trans people’s brains resemble their gender. i don’t care. can we please stop focusing on answering why people arent cishet and more on how to actually stop homophobia and transphobia? because going out of our way to show that trans and gay people are weird variants on “normal” cishets isn’t helping.

[pizzaback-deactivated20201011]

‪why are cishet people so insistent on “solving” gayness and transness anyway? why not just accept us how we are. how’s that for a concept‬

[pizzaback-deactivated20201011]

nobody is trying to figure out why people are cis and het, it’s accepted as the norm! why are we not treating transness and gayness the same way? it’s homophobia and transphobia!

there’s no need to diagnose transness and gayness! absolutely none!

[saltysapphics]

Straight people are obsessed with whether or not they’re the one who turned someone gay, like I’ve met a couple men who are like “I think I might be why you’re a lesbian” or “is your dad the reason you’re a lesbian” and I’d just like to say to all those men, yes. You’re the reason I’m a lesbian, you singlehandedly showed me how vastly disappointing men are actually

[nitrosplicer]

So I just heard about “Primed: The Back Pocket Guide for Trans Men and the Men Who Dig Them.” It’s the first sexual health resource written by and for gay, bi and queer trans men/ transmasculine people, put out by Rainbow Health Ontario, and it’s a very frank guide that answers basically any questions you might have about safer sex. They’ve released it for free download here.

[damnitmiles]

A similar guide geared towards trans women/ transfeminine people (though not really sexual orientation specific) is “BRAZEN: Trans Women’s Safer Sex Guide.”

[nitrosplicer]

^^^

[armandyke]

Good morning gay sex is completely healthy and natural and gay people shouldn’t have to feel dirty or ashamed for having or wanting sex. It’s healthy and natural for a girl to fantasise about having sex with another girl, or for a boy to fantasise about having sex with another boy, and they aren’t predatory for doing so ✨

[towardsmorning]

To any trans women and transfeminine followers of mine, did you know there’s a pretty huge Etsy store which does gaff underwear and swimsuits specifically designed for trans people amongst its products? They go in a pretty decent range of sizes, including sizes for young girls, and while I do not personally know anyone who has used them, there’s a fuckton of positive reviews on the Etsy store. They have a ton of colours to choose from, different fabric choices, the works.

And for once they’re not marked “for crossdressers” too, they actually under “transgender”, so that’s (depressingly) unusual.

I’m mostly posting this because I’ve seen a lot of younger people recently in particular saying they never knew what gaffs were… a lot of people find them WAY MORE comfortable and convenient than tucking, so I would recommend looking into them if you’ve never done so before!

And even if you yourself don’t use or need this stuff, do pass this kind of info on to any friends of yours that might, guys! There’s always like a million more PSAs about transmasc stuff as opposed to transfem stuf tbh…

[lesbianherstorian]

“when you meet a lesbian person” published in an atlanta lesbian feminist newsletter, 1976