ateez san sfw alphabet, please? ❤️
A = Affection (How affectionate are they? How do they show affection?)
I feel like San is very affectionate, though it’s hard to tell when you first meet him. He’s got such an rbf but he’s such a sweetheart, something you didn’t know until after getting to know him better.
When you do uncover his affectionate side, he does not like to let you go. If you don’t like touchy and/or affectionate partners, you’d have to have a talk with San about it 😭
Every time he sees you, he greets you with the most affectionate bear hug ever, feet dangling above the ground, type of hug. He’s also the type to shower you with kisses every time you’re sitting remotely near each other. Always wants you either on his lap or snuggling against you and vice versa.
He just loves kissing in general. Every time he sees your face he just wants to kiss you and tell you how much he loves you. When you wear anything on your lips, San is quick to insist he ‘needs some too.’
He loves surprising you with acts of service, no matter how small or grandiose they may be. One day, he’ll make you a delicious breakfast to surprise you in bed and the next day, he’d buy you an expensive necklace just because. He always wants to show how much he cares for you and how much you mean to him.
B = Best friend (What would they be like as a best friend? How would the friendship start?)
San is that friend that likes to indulge you in your (harmless) delusions. He likes being delusional together. You’re always making each other laugh. To the point where it starts to annoy people around you 😭
Though, he’s mostly a goofball, he can flip the switch quick. One moment he’s making you cry with laughter, the next he’s acting as your personal bodyguard. It’s that ‘no one’s allowed to make fun of them but me’ type friendships. San will not hesitate to start an argument over you if he feels you’re being disrespected.
Honestly, I feel like a friendship with San would just start with a quick conversation with each other. Y’know when you say an off-handed comment and someone near you responds? That’s how your friendship with San would start. The more you talked, the closer you became until you’re basically attached at the hip.
San likes personal time, so he asks to hang out a lot. Whether it be driving around together or chilling in his room listening to music. He just loves the quality time you two spend together. Just like in a romantic relationship, San likes to show that he cares.
C = Cuddles (Do they like to cuddle? How would they cuddle?)
San loves cuddles. He loves putting his face in the crook of your neck and snuggling against you. He likes the feeling of your bodies warming each other up. Every time he cuddles you, he finds himself getting swept by your beauty. He loves seeing how gorgeous you are, even when you’re not trying.
San likes to spoon, alternating between big and little spoon. He likes wrapping his hand around your waist and keeping you flush against him. He also always ends up sliding his hand under your shirt to feel your soft skin against his hands. When you’re the big spoon, he expects a hand around his hip as well. He doesn’t like sleeping with lots of covers, so your body is basically his substitute blanket.
D = Domestic (Do they want to settle down? How are they at cooking and cleaning?)
I feel like it would take San a while to feel comfortable settling down, but when he finds that he wants to settle down with you, he wants it bad. He just wants to have one of those relationships where you can grow together. After a while, he’s basically already settled in because his stuff is scattered throughout your apartment and he’s always there anyways.
He practices his cooking and cleaning to make life easier for you and satisfy you 🙈 He’ll even buy himself a cute little apron to wear around the house while he acts like a good little househusband. He always makes you taste test his cooking before he serves anything.
He has a playlist specifically for housework, so be prepared to hear singing and dancing coming from each room as he makes his rounds through the house. The playlist contains the quintessential house cleaning music (the ratatouille soundtrack) 😛
E = Ending (If they had to break up with their partner, how would they do it?)
Pretty maturely, under most circumstances. Unless you did him dirty, he’d be quite amiable about the entire thing. If you treated him poorly however, be prepared to be greeted with a petty side to San you’ve never seen before.
He’d sit you down and have a conversation with you, very calmly. He tries to stay neutral so emotions don’t affect his decision. He’d answer any questions you have, but he’d try to get it over with quickly. He has that ‘rip off the bandaid’ mentality, so he really doesn’t like to drag things out unnecessarily. He’d definitely cry about the split after the fact, though.
F = Fiance(e) (How do they feel about commitment? How quick would they want to get married?)
San takes a while to commit. Not in the sense that he’s a playboy who will cheat on you, but that he takes a while to feel he can spend the rest of his life with someone. His love is intense and gradual and so is his commitment. It’d probably just come to him one day, too. Y’all are just laughing together as usual and he sees your glowing face and he just thinks ‘I wanna marry them.’
I feel like it’d take 2-4 years before San was fully ready to lock it down and get married. Not just because he’s noncommittal, but he also takes into account his busy schedule, the cost, how big or small he wants it, months of planning, and the cost of potential divorce. It takes a lot of thinking about before he’s ready to dive in head first into wedding talk. This man would take at least a month before he even knew how to propose to you, so planning a wedding would take him even longer. He would just want it to be perfect, the literal definition of a fairytale wedding.
G = Gentle (How gentle are they, both physically and emotionally?)
San is as gentle as you need him to be. If you want him to give you the hard truth about something, he will, but if you need him to just listen to you vent about your problems, he can do that just as well.
Physically, San tries to be as gentle as he can, but sometimes he doesn’t notice his own strength, it’d take him a while before he learned how gentle to be with you. He loves to horseplay though. That might be the only time he’s rough with you, but not in an intentionally malicious manner. He’s just competitively playful 🤞💯
Emotionally, I feel like San is very mature, though he definitely wasn’t always like that 😭 It took him a lot of trial and error and maturing before he got emotionally mature. He always tries to hear your point of view, even if he stills thinks he’s in the right. He’s not the type of person that feels like you have to agree with absolutely everything your partner says and does to have a healthy relationship. If he doesn’t reach an agreement with you, he’s fine to agree to disagree and he moves on. Differing opinions is not enough to throw away the relationship he has with you.
The only thing I feel he’d need to work on was getting in touch with his own emotions. It’s not in a ‘I’m too manly to have emotions’ type way, but he’s just used to holding it in until forgetting about it. Especially as an idol when he’s always too busy to really think about it much. But with you, he starts to open up… slowly but surely. Just give him time and he’ll open up to you, and once you have his trust, you really have it until you show him you don’t deserve it anymore.
H = Hugs (Do they like hugs? How often do they do it? What are their hugs like?)
Sannie loves hugs. His favorite thing about them is breathing in your scent, it comforts him in a way. He loves the familiarity of your perfume/cologne and it just makes him think of happy memories between the two of you. He likes being pulled into hugs by his waist (because he’s babygirl), but also because it makes him feel secure and warm. Like I said in the beginning, San constantly gives bear hugs. He loves picking you up and spinning you around while he squeezes you almost painfully tight. Good luck getting away from his grip when he’s excited about something.
Every time you sit even remotely close to each other, he needs to be touching you in some way. That usually includes his hands wrapped around your waist and his lips periodically leaving kisses to your neck. He also loves to hold you in his lap and rock back and forth.
I = I love you (How fast do they say the L-word?)
It depends. If the pair of you were friends beforehand, it doesn’t take him long at all. However, if you met with the intention of getting together, it takes him longer. It’s not something he overthinks to the point of anxiety, but he definitely waits for the right moment before he says it.
He wouldn’t mind if his partner said it first, he’d likely say it back. He always just takes a minute to hype himself up enough and wait for the perfect moment. He also tries to wait for cues from you as well, like if you’re more affectionate than usual or if you’re more romantic than usual. He likes to lead into it, not just go out and say it.
Like starting with a regular conversation and then transitioning to a mini speech about the things he loves about you (romantic type rizz y’know 😎💯)
Gives you a huge kiss afterwards 😻
J = Jealousy (How jealous do they get? What do they do when they’re jealous?)
San loves to swear up and down he’s not the jealous type, but he’s not subtle about his jealousy at all. If you talk to a man too long in his presence, he starts to get antsy. He always has his hand around your hip around other guests.
When he gets jealous he gets very passive aggressive and cold. He starts to make little jabs, to the point where you have to pull him aside and tell him to calm down. After that, he’ll be mostly okay.
His jealousy would definitely cause a couple arguments. Because his jealousy transforms into swearing, you’re cheating on him. Even with reassurance, it takes him a while before he fully trusts you.
K = Kisses (What are their kisses like? Where do they like to kiss you? Where do they like to be kissed?)
His kisses are very tender and romantic. He always takes his time with the kiss, it’s never rushed nor sloppy. He always makes sure his lips are at least somewhat moisturized before he kisses you. He likes to place his hair in your hair and run his fingers through it or on your neck because he can tilt your head the angles he needs to to kiss you properly.
He likes to kiss his partner's lips the most, no surprise there. He just loves making out. The intense longing you feel, the dry humping desperate to get friction against each other's clothes. The heavy breaths and giggles in between kisses, those are some of his favorite moments, almost more than sex.
He also loves to kiss your neck (it’s his favorite place to leave hickeys too 🤭) He loves feeling your pulse jump with his touches. The skin under your earlobe is so sensitive. He loves to make you shiver by dragging his lips across it.
He likes to be kissed on his chest, abs, and lips. When you kiss his chest it makes him feel so pretty. There’s nothing more intimate than caressing your hair as you mindlessly suck his nipples. If you’re looking to get him riled up quickly, plays with his nipples and he’ll practically be throwing himself at you.
L = Little ones (How are they around children?)
He's better around kids than one would expect. He tries to come off more friendly looking, smiling and laughing a lot more. He plays with them a lot and he likes to do activities with them.
He's a very good babysitter tbh. If you introduced him to younger family members, he would get them to love him very easily. Kids are just drawn to him, specifically toddlers. He honestly likes kids and when he settles down with you, he wouldn't mind having some with you. Though, he would not want more than 2, maybe 3 if he really has baby fever.
M = Morning (How are mornings spent with them?)
Usually, he tries to stay in bed as long as possible. If you try to get up, he pulls you back down and forces you to cuddle for "five more minutes." And if you try to get up, he persuades you with kisses, love bites, and whispers in your ear. He's also not above persuading you with morning sex, or at least morning head.
If it's a special occasion, he'll surprise you with breakfast in bed and gifts. He likes to go all out for birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Every time he has a day off with you he tries to make it a little special because it doesn't happen often. Rigs your alarm to blare stupid songs every once in a while to keep things interesting. You never know when to expect an obnoxious tune blaring from your phone at 7 in the morning.
Also changes your alarm when it’s your birthday.
N = Night (How are nights spent with them?)
Nights in with San are very fun. He likes doing something with you. They range from simple things like board games or spa treatments to full dinner spreads or slow dances through the house. It really all depends on what he’s feeling at the moment. He likes to feel out the mood a little before suggesting to do something, like making sure your in a good enough mood to do something.
He likes stargazing with you, he thinks it’s romantic and he likes to flex his knowledge of constellations 😎🤞 His favorite thing is to drive around at night, the heater warming the car while music softly plays in the background. The late night conversations in his car are his favorite way to spend time with you. Y’all have had some deep philosophical conversations in the car at 2am. San gives surprisingly good advice as well.
O = Open (When would they start revealing things about themselves? Do they say everything all at once or wait a while to reveal things slowly?)
San takes a while to open up. One, because of his fear of judgement and that if he reveals too much of himself too quickly, he’ll scare you away. It takes a lot of convincing and reassuring before he’s ready to break down his walls a bit. And even when he’s comfortable, he’ll only reveal things in small increments, never all at once.
Not only because he’s secretive, but also because he secretly likes your interest in him. He likes watching your face as he tells you stories and secrets about himself. He kind of likes acting mysterious around you 😭 It makes him feel like you’re interested in him (even though you’d still be interested without his mysterious act) and it makes him feel cool deep down.
He’s just trying to be the mysterious bad boy of your dreams 😖🤞
P = Patience (How easily angered are they?)
I wouldn’t say he’s easily angered, but he’s sometimes easily irritated. If he’s had a bad day, it takes him a long time before his attitude gets better. Usually, he tries not to rub off on you, but sometimes that turns into him ignoring you in an attempt to shield you from his irritation.
If it bothered you, he would stop but it would take him a while. He just doesn’t want to risk starting an argument with you over his own issues, especially because he knows he would say things he didn’t mean.
Over time, his anger would get better and he’d actually start talking to you when he had a bad day and he found that talking to you made his mood lift much faster.
Q = Quizzes (How much would they remember about you? Do they remember every little detail you mention in passing, or do they kind of forget everything?)
I feel like Sannie is very good about remembering little things about you because he watches your reactions to things. If you become excited or giddy over something, he keeps it in the back of his mind. He won’t remember every single little thing you tell him, but he will remember things he deems important, whether they’re important to you or him or both.
He just wants you to feel like he pays attention because he does and he doesn’t want to come off nonchalant like he’s too cool to care about your interests. Plus, it gives him an excuse to guilt you when you forget something. “I remembered this about you, and you can’t even remember this?! I’m disappointed, Y/n.” Though, it’d be in good fun.
R = Remember (What is their favorite moment in your relationship?)
When he asked to be your boyfriend. A tad cliché, but it’s just his favorite thing to look back on when think ing about y’all’s relationship. He remembers how shaky and sweaty his hands were and how good you smelled. He remembered the coat you wore and the gold necklace that hung around your neck with your initial.
He remembers your smile as he explained the things he liked about you and how you lit up when he finally asked you to be your boyfriend. The kiss afterwards was amazing as well 🤭
If the two of you ever get married, that will be his favorite moment between the two of you.
S = Security (How protective are they? How would they protect you? How would they like to be protected?)
He’s very protective, sometimes too protective to be honest. He doesn’t like to risk anything happening to you so he pays close attention, especially when in public. He keeps his hands wrapped around your waist at all times in public. He gives dirty glares to any person that tries to flirt with you or makes you uncomfortable. He’s definitely not above getting into a fight over you, though that hasn’t happened yet.
If the roles were reversed, he’d like you to be just as protective. He wants you to keep your hands wrapped around him in public as well. He secretly likes the dirty looks you give people who show too much interest in San, though he always tells you to calm down. The protectiveness kinda turns him on, if he’s being honest 👀
T = Try (How much effort would they put into dates, anniversaries, gifts, everyday tasks?)
He puts in a lot of effort into things like this. Not only for you, but also to scratch that itch he has for excess. Plus, he gets great photo ops out of them. He pays extra close attention to anything you show interest in when shopping together. He always leaves a note in the gifts he gets you.
He tries to evenly split the chores and responsibilities between the two of you. He wears a “kiss the cook” apron every time he cooks for the both of you and he expects a kiss for his trouble as well. Through your relationship, he’s actually learned to like chores. You just make them so fun he can’t help but like them.
He’d make an excellent househusband tbh (househusband!san fic 👀⁉️)
U = Ugly (What would be some bad habits of theirs?)
He does not clean up after himself. Now, you’re probably thinking, “Min, didn’t you just say San likes cleaning?” Yes, I did, but the thing about that is he only started caring about that sort of thing after the two of you got together. Before he was the type to wait for it to get really messy before cleaning, a habit which you told him to knock off expeditiously because you would not clean up after a grown man.
He’s very competitive. Too competitive most of the time. He takes silly games very seriously and he is not the most mature loser. He won’t throw a tantrum, but he will sulk for a bit and request a rematch. Even when you tell him it’s just a game, his competitive nature won’t let him not care. Though, if he loses or starts to get upset, just distract himself with kisses and his attitude will be gone in an instant.
Tardiness. San is always late and/or running late. No matter how early he starts getting ready, he’s always rushing by the end of it. He takes forever to decide his outfit. Every time you have to go somewhere together, you make him pick out an outfit so he doesn’t take forever when the time comes to go to the event. When he has to go somewhere without you, he likes when you style him. Like picking his outfit and jewelry, deciding what cologne he should wear. He likes letting someone whose decisive help him get ready, with you styling him, he’s always on time.
V = Vanity (How concerned are they with their looks?)
He’s concerned with his looks, but not a concerning amount. Most of the time it comes down to what people think of him through the way he looks. He likes looking nice and leaving a good impression with people.
He also likes to look nice for you. He wants you to see that he puts effort into his appearance because he cares what you think of him. He wants you to see him at his best so he always dresses up for a dates and things like that.
W = Whole (Would they feel incomplete without you?)
I feel like he’d feel like he was 1 half of a duo. Like he didn’t have his best friend. He confides in you about everything so without you he’d feel like he had no one to talk to.
X = Xtra (A random headcanon for them.)
He really has a dream of owning a house with you one day. He wants to chose all the decor together and enjoy cups of coffee on the porch together on a warm morning. He wants to have little ones running around. He really wants to love that white-picket fence type of life with you. He’s very sentimental about that type of thing because it’s something important to him.
Y = Yuck (What are some things they wouldn’t like, either in general or in a partner?)
He doesn’t want someone who’s a pushover. He likes someone sure of themself and someone who can defend themselves and not get walked all over. He likes not being able to push you around, it makes him respect you in a way (and he likes being put in his place every once in a while 🙈)
He doesn’t like someone who has no ambition. If you’re lazy or just unmotivated it kind of turns him off. He likes someone with drive because he can relate to that hunger to get what you want in life by working hard. He likes someone with good work ethic.
He doesn’t like someone negative minded either. He likes someone who can be realistic but he doesn’t want you to suck the life out of the relationship either. He wants to have fun with you. He doesn’t want someone so serious all the time, he wants someone who can have fun and be serious when need be.
Z = Zzz (What is a sleep habits of theirs?)
He snores. He loves to dent it, but you’ve recorded him snoring to prove you’re not lying. He tries not to but if he’s dead tired he snores incredibly loud. You told him to get a nose strip so you could sleep in the same bed 😭
He’s very cuddly. If he’s found that you’re not cuddling in the middle of the night, he pulls you against him and cuddles you again. He doesn’t mind being the little or big spoons as long as your against him, keeping him warm. He likes snuggling into your neck and smelling your shampoo. It’s very hard to let him go in the morning and him pulling you against him and persuading you with kisses doesn’t help.
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