I'm being sincere!

Lynn. Transbian, white, commie, horrible goblin. (She/they/fae)

[kayla-denker]

My roommate is transmasc. We were just talking about their reluctance to use the men's bathroom even as they "pass" more and more as a man, which is starting to cause people to give them concerning looks when they use the women's. They said they still use the women's because they feel more comfortable there. Which is fine, we shouldn't have gendered bathrooms anyway. But I told them "you might not feel as safe when you eventually get 'accused' of being a trans woman in the women's bathroom." To which they replied "oh, I'll lust lift my shirt and show them my mastectomy scars. That'll prove I belong in there."

Oh but "everyone is subjected to transmisogyny," right?

This is the point of TME/TMA. This is why non-transfeminine people aren't subjected to transmisogyny.

I can't fall back on my AGAB to "prove I belong" in women's spaces.

[hoodiegal]

"if someone confronts me about being a trans person in the wrong bathroom, i'll just expose myself to them" is an incredibly TME thing to say

[saxypunch]

Using the men's restroom because that's where I naturally feel the most comfortable as a feminine person.

Oh no! A man has confronted me because I am visibly out of place what with my jiggly caboose and my use of moisturizer and so forth

But there's no problem! I'll just lift my skirt and show him a little special something that will prove we're more alike than different, and he'll soon see that because we have a shared —

Ah, I'm in the hospital somehow

[saxypunch]

I have a little trick I use for psychological fortitude (which I have passed on to my wife by teasing them relentlessly) called "What if Dracula?"

If you're anxious about an upcoming event because you keep imagining nightmare scenarios, thinking only about the worst way it could possibly turn out, ask yourself: "Well, what if Dracula was there? That would be pretty scary too. And if I were being attacked by a vampire I'd definitely blow the interview. Better not go. Dracula might be there."

But then you summon all your courage and put a clove of garlic in your purse just in case the worst happens and you go to the interview anyway. You can't let the fear of the undead hold you back. Dracula could show up anywhere. He's not going to control your life. And then even if the interview doesn't go so well you get to look forward to eating the garlic so it's win/win.

[saxypunch]

feverishingly scrolling down my feed to find 3-5 things to add to my reblog queue before I dare to bother anyone by queueing my own thoughts

you gotta space that shit out

[fiore-firelily]

while I am talking to you about something gay and stupid a mosquito lands on my arm and sucks all my blood out in an instant, swelling to the size of a person as my remains flutter cartoonishly down to the ground, and it continues the conversation where I left off in a high pitched approximation of my voice

[saxypunch]

It is my conviction that almost no one actually likes driving, and you can tell by the way everyone is in an incredible hurry to get where they're going so they can stop driving. People weaving in and out of lanes to move forward two car lengths so they can stop driving 3 seconds sooner. Cutting in front of an 18-wheeler to make the light in time so they can stop driving 10 seconds sooner. Maybe they'll die. That would be okay. They could stop driving, then.

[get-more-transfem]

To the trans girl reading this: it is never to late to transition. It is never too late to question your gender identity. It is never too late for anything. Live your dreams and be your happiest self. Don't leave yourself wondering of what could've been when it could be now. I will wrap my arms around you and embrace you, even if you want to transition in your mid 30s or 40s. Even if you've already had puberty and your body has developed. It will never be too late.

[saxypunch]

Started transition at 36, and now at nearly 44 I'm the happiest I've ever been. Basically every aspect of my life is massively improved, and I don't think I've really changed that much as a person — I just developed a willingness to advocate for myself, and that has made all the difference. And that's a skill you'll need to learn; it can't stop at just talking to a doctor and expecting everything else to fall into place. Your transition has to come from a real conviction that you deserve better than this, or you'll just be a sad lump with a prescription. Forge yourself. Decide who you want to be, and Climb. Those. Steps.

[saxypunch]

Have never related to the transfem enthusiasm for stories about magical instant feminization. The whole thing has always had a stink of internalized bioessentialism to me. Ah, yes, you've always "felt like" a woman but thankfully the sex leprechaun has appeared to click his heels and now you're a real lady. That sounds so interesting! What an interesting story! I am ghosting you!

[saxypunch]

"Not to defend X, but the person responsible for X belongs to a category that you're not allowed to criticize" is... I mean, it's not exactly defending X, but only because you have declared that X categorically requires no defense. You ain't slick.

[saxypunch]

all my haters become detonators when I snip the blue wire of success

[saxypunch]

Climbing into bed with your partner and grinding on them a little bit as a warm up to something really spectacular and then uh actually that was pretty nice do you want to cuddle goodnight

[saxypunch]

Sometimes you run into a girl who obviously doesn't find het relationships satisfying, constantly complains about how they put her at risk, realizes the men she dates don't respect her at all — but at the same time she won't walk away from all that, because she finds the attention of men validating or affirming somehow.

And there's nothing you can say to these girls! You just have to sadly walk away like she's nobly soloing the boss to let you escape. We will never forget your totally unnecessary sacrifice. That was an optional dungeon actually. RIP.

[saxypunch]

Even if you try to switch to an algorithm-driven feed (the "For You" tab) it's completely useless because the feed will be 90% shit you already saw on your Following within the last week and 10% completely random guesses. They're just pulling shit out of a hat over there. "Yeah, you seem like somebody who... wants to read more X-Men? No? Uhhhhh do you want to imagine men from a hospital drama making out? You don't? What the fuck. Here's a cute rabbit that —ugh you already saw it. WAIT. WAIT. Picture of Gerard Way from 2006. This one always — god, you don't like anything, do you."

Explore isn't even worth discussing, it's like being suddenly dropped into a room full of 8-year-olds who are simultaneously obsessed with Taylor Swift and Batman. All you can do is cover your ears and run for the door.

[wurmgurl]

dog posting

[kalina-c]

May 20, 2026

Jessie Gender @jessiegender.bsky.social‬ We see here how the concept of “male socialization” leads directly to transmisgony. “Stop acting like a man or else you’re not really a woman, nor are you transitioning hard enough.” Fuck off. No woman, trans or cis, has to act a certain way to be a woman, nor do you gatekeep someone’s transition.

broccoli ‪@billymayslesbian.bsky.social‬ the fastest ive ever seen "male socialization" debunked was the time in a gender studies class three cis men argued if trans women had male privilege for like ten minutes while a trans girl sat patiently with her hand up the whole time.

jenny tightpants ‪@jtp.bsky.social‬ wokely trans women haven't done the work to unlearn the idea that they deserve to be taken seriously when they speak. that's only for men.

[lesbianchemicalplant]

I don't block for it, but I don't love the "using 8 for the letter B" thing people do on here either. thanks for intentionally making the post more difficult to read....?

[lesbianchemicalplant]

I know it's a homestuck reference. it's incredibly tedious to have to read in any context but homestuck posting itself. frankly it's also tone-deaf in discussion of any serious subject matter ("still8orn")

I urge anyone doing this bit to explore other quirks and personality traits for yourself

[lesbianchemicalplant]

not exclusive to the 8/B typing quirk either, this goes for typing quirks in general:

you do not need to be doing that. all you are doing is making your words artificially more tedious to read. this sucks for anyone who uses screen readers, or is reading English as a secondary or tertiary language, which is a lot of fucking people! please stop that

[saxypunch]

tbh if AI use among students shifts teachers away from assigning homework in favor of more class discussion that's a good thing actually.

sorry that the only thing that would convince you to let children have free time was your rampant distrust of them but a win's a win

[saxypunch]

The fact that you're autistic and the topic of discussion is your special interest is not a guarantee that you are actually well-informed. Sorry. It's possible to be enthusiastically wrong.