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PLAN TO FAIL™
If self-sabotage is a pattern, it means you’ve practiced it. Now we make it conscious.
Over the last 9 years of doing this work—on myself, with clients, through journal pages, rituals, and real-life sh**—there’s one truth I keep returning to: Most people don’t fail because they’re lazy or undisciplined. They fail because they don’t realize they’re following a failure plan.
Not consciously, of course. But in the small decisions. In the perfectly reasonable excuses. In the emotional patterns that feel like personality traits but are really just protection.
I’ve been there. I’ve delayed. Distracted. Decorated my life when I was meant to rebuild it. That’s why I created Plan to Fail™, a free tool that I share with you all as a part of my new upcoming Signature Self™ Challenge (launching this month), because I want you to see how powerful it is.
— Roma
1. IF I WANTED TO FAIL THIS CHALLENGE…
If I wanted to fail this challenge, ghost myself again, lose trust with myself, and stay stuck, I would:
Keep telling myself…
“I don’t need this challenge. I already know this stuff.”
“Now isn’t the right time.”
“Let me finish this other thing first.”
“I can always restart later.”
“I’m not ready yet.”
“I just need to get through this week first.”
“Other people probably need this more than I do.”
“I don’t want to waste my time again.”
“I’m too behind to catch up.”
“I’ll start once I feel more like myself again.”
“There’s no point until I can be consistent.”
“I’ll get serious after my next paycheck/vacation/birthday/new moon.”
“I don’t want to start if I can’t give 100%.”
“I’ll focus on me after I help everyone else.”
“This isn’t a priority right now... I have too much going on.”
“Once I figure out the perfect routine, then I’ll start.”
“Maybe I’m just not the kind of person who follows through.”
Your beliefs build your behavior. If these scripts are on autopilot, they’re making decisions for you.
Avoid doing…
Actually scheduling time to do the work
Participating in the WhatsApp group
Asking questions or getting support
Opening the workbook at all
Joining the live calls
Asking for help
Answering honestly
Letting myself be seen
Telling the truth (even to myself)
Writing down what I actually want (not just what I “should” want)
Mapping my energy leaks (because I know what I’ll find)
Reflecting on what my body has been trying to tell me
Admitting how long I’ve actually felt stuck
Making a decision I’ve been postponing out of fear or laziness
Letting someone witness me in my process, mess and all
Avoidance is the root of most self-abandonment. What you delay, you devalue.
Wait until…
Life “slows down”
My schedule is perfect
My emotions are stable
“I have more clarity”
"My schedule clears up" (which never actually happens)
The retrograde ends (or starts, or my mood shifts).
"I feel 100% confident in the next step."
I have more money saved.
I move into the new place/start the new job/lose 10 pounds.
I get one more sign from the universe.
I stop feeling like a fraud.
I figure out the entire plan before taking the first step.
"I’m not so overwhelmed" (but I never actually pause to un-overwhelm myself).
“I feel like myself again”
“Everything calms down”
Delay becomes denial. Waiting is one of the most seductive forms of self-betrayal. Life won’t ever “hand you” a better moment to become who you already are.
2. DISTRACTION INVENTORY
Sabotage doesn’t always look like destruction. It often looks like endless tabs open.
If I wanted to keep myself stuck, I’d distract myself with…
Scrolling IG and pretending it’s research
Watching one more episode of that show I’ve already seen
Venting about people I refuse to set boundaries with
Getting involved in other people’s chaos
Downloading more free content I'll never finish
Obsessing over validation from a man, a job, or someone who’s not choosing me
Starting a new self-help book instead of finishing the one on my nightstand
Endless planning instead of execution
Rearranging furniture instead of rearranging my values
“Thinking about it” instead of taking action
Checking my ex’s or a friend’s stories "just for a sec"
Spending hours “researching” healing modalities I never use long enough to work
Journaling around the issue, but never through it
Signing up for new courses instead of integrating the last one.
Being “available” for everyone else 24/7.
Creating mood boards with no action plan.
Watching “just one more” YouTube video on discipline.
Distraction is a decision. Every distraction feels innocent until you measure its cost in dreams deferred.
3. IGNORE ACCOUNTABILITY BY…
Not checking in on WhatsApp (our challenge group)
Saying “I’m just processing” as a cover for avoidance
Only sharing when I feel proud (never when I feel lost)
Saying, “I’m still processing” indefinitely
Thinking I need to have it all figured out before I say anything
Ghosting the group chat after a “bad” day.
Keeping my goals vague so I can’t disappoint myself.
Avoiding the person who believes in me the most.
Saying, “I’ll check in next week” and never circling back.
Overexplaining why I didn’t show up instead of just showing up.
Convincing myself no one noticed, so it doesn’t matter.
Believing that disappearing is less disappointing than trying again.
Your avoidance becomes your absence. This challenge is about building your self-leadership muscle (even when it’s hard).
4. COLLAPSE WHEN I FEEL…
Like I’m behind everyone else.
Like I’m not healing fast enough.
Like someone I admire doesn’t see me.
Like I made a mistake in my past and can’t outrun it.
Like it’s too late to change.
Like I’m too tired to “start over” again.
Like I’m faking my own growth.
Like everyone else has support and I’m doing it alone.
Like I need to prove I’m strong by doing everything myself.
Like healing requires me to lose people I still want to keep.
These are your emotional relapse cues. Name them now so you don’t mistake them for truth later.
DECODE THE “REASONABLE” EXCUSES
Self-sabotage rarely sounds like “I’m scared to do this.” It sounds like logic. It sounds like alignment. It sounds like “doing it right.”
You cannot heal with language that defends the version of you that’s still hurting.
6. YOUR ALIGNMENT FILTER
Use this 3-part filter anytime you feel hesitation, resistance, or “reasonableness” creeping in.
Does this feel like expansion or contraction? (Sabotage feels tight, foggy, and avoidant; while alignment feels clear, honest, even if uncomfortable.) – Here's a trick: Real rest restores you. False rest numbs you.
What would my Signature Self™ call this? Is this a true pause for recalibration or a recycled excuse?
What if I do this 10 more times? Will I wake up next month with momentum or regret? – Another trick: Don’t just look at the excuse, but look at its trajectory.
One choice won’t break you. Ten might. And what’s repeated becomes identity.
7. THE TRUE COST OF YOUR PLAN
Self-abandonment isn’t neutral. It has receipts. Here’s how to tally the price:
How many hours have I spent in the last 6 months thinking about change without making it?
How much money have I spent on books, programs, or journals I never used fully?
What opportunities did I delay, cancel, or talk myself out of because I “wasn’t ready?”
What version of me is waiting to be rescued (when I’m the one holding the key)?
8. YOUR TURN: CALL IT OUT
PART 2 COMING SOON...
In the meantime, the Signature Self™ Challenge begins on June 25th 2025 :) See you there...
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Reblog and you’ll find money soon!
Yes.
Also weird I reblobbed the other money one last night and a freelance check I invoiced for a month ago came in.
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seriously have nothing to lose
Did it once might as well let it stack. At least I’m not buying loto tickets
You guys, I reblogged this 2 days ago out of desperation. Today I was looking through my old wallet for coins to go to the vending machine because that’s all I can fucking afford. I haven’t touched this thing since July/ August. When I found a disappointing 15 cents in the coin pocket I went to the billfold to see if any coins were in there. That’s when I saw them. 5 crisp bills amounting to $22. I literally screamed and danced around my room out of joy before remembering that I’d reblogged this post.
Tl;dr - This post is fucking magical and actually worked for me.
I’m broke as fuck. Money gods pls send me like 100k.
I never reblog these, let’s give it a shot. BIG MONEY, BIG MONEY
I reblogged this last week and withing an hour I got a client after a month of silence! Literally gave me money to eat for the rest of the month.
Crazy enough but my mom randomly gave me 200 dollars after I reblogged one of these the other day…
I’m always down for more. xoSBLissa💎
I always thought these things were bullshit.. I think I maybe kust changed my mind. Reblogged a couple days ago… Woahh
I need 100k. !!!!!!!!!
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this guy cant even laugh any more... because of woke
I realise there is only so much advice you can follow. Ultimately, you have to live. That means making mistakes. You can’t go through life expecting that wise words will be enough. Sometimes you have to suffer to learn the lesson.
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Punch magazine, England, January 1, 1959
Okay, so let’s pretend that you’ve been asked to be a part of The Real DreamGirls of the Universe. A fictitious reality TV show that focuses on highlighting the level up journey of incredibly ambitious women like yourself. You’re feeling pretty good about your progress so you accept. Now, the good news is that you only document what you want. You’re the creatress behind this masterpiece.
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Plan a launch for your #DreamGirlDebut
This will be the date that you want to celebrate your improvements made over the last few week, or months. You can throw as many celebrations as you should like!
Schedule interviews and confessionals for yourself! Instead of asking negative and surface level questions, ask yourself deep and meaningful questions that give you more insight. You can just use a journal for this, or actually record yourself and create a folder on your phone or computer with your interviews!
You can download the worksheets for free here 💞
Create different tag lines and mantras that resonate with you! It will also be helpful to make a list of the qualities that you admire in your Signature Self (idea self).
This was a very fun exercise that I did with my clients and I hope that you all find it to be as helpful as they did! 💓
How many times have you decided that you were unworthy of your desires because of a single flaw in your character, a bad habit, or a weak mo
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So, what does #SelfHoneymoon mean to you?
Xo
“To spend time with yourself, get to know yourself, and love yourself . After all, if you don’t love yourself, who will? You’re your own first love.”
— JESSYCA FOSTER
“The devotion of regular time and space for self-care and self-love for the optimal function of one’s body, mind and spirit.”
— DOLLY MARSHALL
“To me, #SelfHoneymoon means to cultivate a place within yourself to go and experience self-love. It's a celebration of self.”
— NATALIE J.
“Loving myself just as much as one loves you after an accomplishment”
— DIONNE
“#SelfHoneymoon means to me that I should take the time off to just pour me a glass of myself. Which is investing time doing something that would make me feel, think and manifest riches!”
— DANI TAYLOR
“#SelfHoneymoon means to me a solo vacation, whether on an island or here at home. Uninterrupted time to yourself is so precious.”
— LAURYN H.
“Loving on yourself the good the bad the not so cute and embracing your flaws. Not rushing through your healing but understanding is a process and it’s worth it.”
— SHAUNTAY DUNBAR
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(me january 2022) seriously though its time to pull my shit together
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