some people low-key do deserve to be hurt but its not ur job to hurt them and its not a morally positive thing to be the one doing the hurting
i say this to my reflection every morning
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some people low-key do deserve to be hurt but its not ur job to hurt them and its not a morally positive thing to be the one doing the hurting
i say this to my reflection every morning
It’s striking how often the neurodiverse community polices itself. I see more and more of it every day here on tumblr - someone expresses frustration or anger at systemic ableism, or even just points out that it's happening and the response is almost immediate:
"Life gets so, so good once you learn how to meet neurotypicals halfway!"
"You just need to adjust, the world isn’t going to change for you!"
These statements might come from a place of wanting to be supportive, but as far as I'm concerned they are a glaring symptom of respectability politics. We are pressuring OUR OWN to shrink, to accommodate, and to smooth over their own discomfort, even when it's perfectly justified, and I'm not going to stand for it.
Here are the problems with this type of thinking.
ND-to-ND respectability politics centers neurotypicals. The message implies that the goal is to make them comfortable, or force ourselves to be comfortable around them no matter how they're behaving towards us, rather than to create environments where neurodivergent people can thrive.
It silences anger and critique. Frustration with neurotypical expectations and prejudices gets reframed as a “bad attitude” or even a "superiority complex" instead of legitimate response to structural inequities.
It creates a hierarchy within our own communities. Those who play nice and do cross-stitch and make posts with lots of exclamation points about how friendly the world is to everyone no matter what are rewarded with social acceptance; those who resist or have "youth-coded" rather than "elder-coded" hobbies or have more PTSD symptoms or point out that this isn't the case everywhere/for everyone are seen as “difficult” or “ungrateful.”
We need to name this shit for what it is. Respectability politics is not the harmless advice you might think it is. It’s a tool of control that we have come to use to police each other instead of challenging the systems that marginalize us, and it's even more insidious than the Aspie-supremacy bullshit from 10-20 years ago where you'd see people saying shit like "I'm autistic too but I don't use it as an excuse to act weird/be unemployed/not drive a car/etc." because it gets couched in cutesy, progressive-peacemaker language.
Our value should not be measured by how little space we take up, how agreeable we are, or how much we make others comfortable. Neurodivergent anger, intensity, and boundary-setting are political acts. They are acts of survival.
why do people say that Utena is magical girl, anyhow? I play along because it's funny, but I have no idea why they say that.
genre is more like a conversation than a checklist. the things that something is associated with matter as much as anything that it does. so Utena coming out of Sailor Moon so directly means that, especially for people at the time, a major audience for the show would have been fans of Sailor Moon, aka, magical girl fans
Utena is a magical girl anime because it has been considered a magical girl anime for 30 years, just like how Precure is a magical girl anime because it's been considered a magical girl anime for 20 years
I think people conflate individualism-the-personality-trait with individualism-the-societal-trait way too much.
Societal individualism is not when you, a singular person, prefer having private time and space, enjoy activities that don’t revolve around The Group, or don’t want to have more than surface-level relationships with most people.
Societal individualism is when everyone is expected to handle everything alone, and needing support gets treated as some pathetic personal failure. It’s when even basic, impersonal considerations like wearing a face mask, not parking like an asshole, or not turning every shared environment into a sensory endurance test are framed as tyranny.
Plenty of collectivist cultures still have some version of “mind your own business” or “don’t be a nuisance” built into their social norms. That matters.
Because a lot of the fantasies I keep seeing about “moving beyond individualism” sound less like building mutual responsibility and more like applying collectivist language to the existing American culture of suburban surveillance, taking other people’s preferences personally, and mandatory golden-retriever sociability.
And honestly? That sounds hellish to me.
I feel like contouring is lowkey racist
Is this a joke?
Noo lol I knew I’d regret phrasing it that way. This is tumblr, after all…
It’s not “people who contour are themselves automatically racist” but that the desired face shape created by contouring is one that, at the end of the day, pretty much reflects existing white standards of beauty. A thinner, pointier nose, smaller chin, high angled cheekbones and (on occasion) smaller lips. Also if you’re darker skinned you have to use a much lighter shade of foundation thus ending up with an overall lighter face.
I probably could have phrased that better.
No, you are absolutely correct. In fact it is not even lowkey in the performance arts/entertainment world. I’ve known how to contour since I was 9, because I was in ballet. I was taught by an older Asian dancer who told me that I was already darker than everyone else, my face couldn’t look different too. So she showed me the basics, then left me with a picture of a white person as the goal to emulate.
It’s always been explicit and intentionally racist in terms of what is considered correct contouring technique is to emulate white associated features. Which is not to say that contouring is bad, but it is good to ask ourselves why we do not contour to make our noses look wider and more distinguished. Or why we don’t shadow and highlight to make the face look perfectly round? While contouring is not bad ( and is actually very cool to literally be able to control the way people perceive your face, it’s like magic) it’s good to ask ourselves why we contour the way we do.
Movie Version "Revolutionary Girl Utena: Adolescence Apocalypse" DVD Jacket, March 3, 2000. By Shinya Hasegawa.
Scan from page 161 of the Hardcore of UTENA - Illustration Side, a massive tome I'm scanning cover to cover, slowly, in 6k, for Empty Movement's Bibliothèque, a scanned archive of print media relating to Revolutionary Girl Utena. When the entire book is finished, you'll be able to grab it in even larger 10k from Empty Movement's account on the Internet Archive!
GO SEE THE UTENA MOVIE IN NORTH AMERICAN THEATERS JUNE 21 AND 22, THANKS TO GKIDS!
Happy Pride Month to those two women dancing together in the foreground of the boat scene in Godzilla (1954).
I’m sorry your romantic foibles were overshadowed by a big ass atomic lizard thing.
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That maddening frustration when there's something in a popular work of fiction you have a pretty deep critique of but the discourse around it is so toxic that you'd rather eat lead paint than post about it, so you look around said discourse to see if anyone has said anything touching on that specific critique but no, no of course not, they're all talking about a bunch of more obvious shit or just, like, matters of personal taste and AAAAAAGH you feel crazy you feel fucking crazy no one can see it aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaugh
Hmm, I wonder if the opening number from Gigi is actually as creepy as I remember it being...
OH GOOD CHRIST NO
I really do love visual novels as a medium. I like RPGs in general, but I'd say my biggest problem is that I'm much more fond of the Role Play element than the Game element of them. My favorite RPGs integrate the two so well that the game parts don't feel like a slog, but, like, at the same time, I'm pretty sure if you offered me a version of each one that had the gameplay cut out and replaced with cut scenes so I could just do the roleplaying bits... I dunno, I'd be at least tempted to try it at least.
And a visual novel is pretty much an RPG that's all RP and nearly no G, so, like, when done well, it's my ideal form of an RPG. Especially since most visual novels are heavily focused on romance, because, you know, I'm an unfathomably sad and pathetic creature who can only experience romantic love vicariously through works of fiction, so doing some romance heavy RP is good for my malnourished soul.
...it just kinda sucks that most visual novels available here in the US are kinda ass.
And, like, they think they're cute about it, you know? All "Tee hee I made a visual novel as a joke lol!" and you can just feel the disdain for the very concept at its core. Or maybe not disdain, necessarily, but, like, a lack of sincerity - they refuse to let you think for a moment that they aren't in on "the joke" that they think the genre is.
Like, I played Date Everything, and that work definitely had some love and craft go into it, sure - a lot of talented voice actors, some very sharply written jokes, incredibly well-drawn gijinkas for the various talksprites, lots of genuine work went into it for sure. But it's kind of a shallow experience when you go through it - I had fun playing it, but I have no desire to revisit it, and that's kind of damning for a novel in my opinion. A novel, visual or otherwise, should have enough meat to it to be worth revisiting.
Compare it to Sucker For Love, which, yes, is also admittedly a comedic visual novel that's kind of dunking on the very premise of visual novels (tee hee the anime girls are actually eldricth abominations that will maim/kill you), but nonetheless takes the medium and its characters seriously enough to tell a very compelling story despite its irreverence. Like, for Estir's chapter, sections of it are a play written in trochaic octameter, i.e. the same meter that Edgar Allen Poe's poem "The Raven" is written in, which is clever as hell given that the the snippets of the play The King In Yellow that appear in the novel of the same name are clearly inspired by Poe's short story "The Masque of the Red Death," so giving it that meter makes Sucker For Love's version of The King In Yellow an authentically Edgar Allen Poe vibe!
That's clever! That's something you can dig your teeth into! It makes the world of Sucker for Love, and Esiter/the King in Yellow herself for that matter, so damn appealing and interesting that I'm kinda pissed it's so damn short! My only real complaint about that game is that there isn't more of it - I don't want one episode with Estir, I want a 30 episode whirlwind romantic horror comedy fulls of wacky shenanigans, heart-melting romance, and gut-churning cosmic horror!
And yeah, that's probably why Black Tabby Games's visual novels have such a vice grip on my brain - they're well written and fucking substantial in size, so there's a lot for me to chew on, you know? So much to gain from reading and rereading them, exactly what the medium should be doing. But, like, I don't want just one studio making visual novels of that size and quality, you know? We should have more! More! More in quantity, more in variety, hell, even make some nonromantic ones for the people who are aromantic or just don't need/want fiction to cover that topic for their sad, pathetic vicarious wish fulfillment.
...but don't stop making the romantic ones, I need... I need them. They're precious to me.
(Ideally we'd be able to import more Japanese visual novels too, get some of the genre-makers over here in the states. But I'm not holding my breath on that - nor am I competent enough with computers to get that shit working on my laptop.)
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Literacy crisis WHO? This was said in the most vocal fried Californian accent ever. I hope The Girls enjoy some Russian lit this summer.
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so much crime discourse is implicitly predicated on there being an ontological distinction between Criminals and Ordinary People that the justice system should be able to immediately intuit by mystical introspection, like why would you let Criminals out on bail? why would you put Ordinary People on trial? if police already knew who was guilty in advance then their actions really would look even more perverse than they already are!
"in order for the desktop app to connect to your account we need you to log in through your browser. in order to log in through the browser you need to enter the verification code we sent to your email. in order to open your email you need to enter the verification code we sent to your phone. in order for us to send the verification code to your phone you need to re-enter your phone number to confirm it's the right one. set a recovery email? set a home address? set up biometrics?" I'm going to "set" myself on fire in front of you
The Danish training ship “Georg Stage” (1934) dresses in rainbow colour, 2021
not the kind of gay ship I’m used to seeing on tumblr but cool
ship georg is an outlier but SHOULD be counted
i grew up around muslims, i am also trans and leftist.
people in every queer and trans community i go to set an expectation: i should ofrever abandon my muslim past, i should explicitly stop associating yourself with it whatsoever, you either get to be queer or you either get to be raised-muslim.
in reality, there's no such expectation for christianity, and none of them are ready to dismantle their "inner christian" in their heads as much as they expect be to dismantle my "inner muslim"
none fo them get to admit how most first world countries are culturally christian, because christianity is "default" to them, as well as first world, as well as white.
me having a complicated relationship with islam doesn't mean i absolutely despise every piece of it. it means i distanced myself from ummah, but won't hear islamic criticism from non ex muslims at all, because you expect us to dismantle "our inner muslims" in ways you aren't ready to dismantle imperialism and racism in you.
your expectation is us "acting white", you don't want us unless we're that, which means you don't want us at all.
a lot of people claiming to want to uplift brown queer voices and such don't procced to do anything meaningful for them, or for brown people at all. it's just virtue signaling, homonationalism. you'd only care of brown people being queer, and you want the "brown" part of it gone as much as possible.
a lot of people say they want the leftist agenda to stop being us centric and imperialist, but then it's just pretending to care about it. you already made is so little and unhearable you'd have to get out of your way to seek for us speaking. then you'd not seek or if you find us, you will just pass by. hoping someone else would amplify the voice you took from us? and that someone else would hope for that too, so what?
you want us only when we agree with everything usa says about us, you want us until our lives don't put you into too much discomfort. when they put you into too much discomfort, you don't ask why, you'll restore the comfort by banishing us again. your tolerability of us is so intricately conditional, to meet those a third worlder has to build themselves into a first worlder mindset. this is your (inter)nationalism hey.
anyway, islamophobia hurt me more than islam did. now what