Shhhh. It's a secret

Heyo it's Jesse! We're diagnosed unspecified dissociative disorder! Currently 211 of us, don't check the alter page it isn't up to date. Lmao

[system-x]

Ugh we have always wanted to make a youtube since youtubers became a thing. And now with everything happening in the world and the DID community, and with us self-isolating, it would be such a great time... except for the fact that we could only record on our phone. And X is very much a perfectionist and has always wanted to at least have a good video camera and microphone before we started but we don’t have the financial means for that rn. So its just been a constant battle of just do it with crappy quality but plenty of time to devote to it, or wait for the good quality equipment but possibly no long have the time or energy to produce anything. I don’t know we’ll probably put it off forever aghhh

[secretsystemandstuff]

Yo

You should totally make a YouTube channel even with shitty quality video and audio

Here's why

We have a YouTube channel, we accidentally haven't uploaded any videos in months but we plan on fixing that soon

If people will watch regardless of the quality, you know you've got the right charisma and camera personality

People are more likely to sit through painfully boring content if the AV quality is high, but they're also more likely to sit through bad AV quality if the content is good

Use poor AV quality as your gauge for if you should do YouTube at all

Don't wait and waste money if it's not something you can do, dig?

× Jesse

[rupertbbare]

Vietnamese Mossy Tree Frogs

[secretsystemandstuff]

I want a partner system too.

One of our mutuals got a similar message and now I have to know. I have to know. Why? Who sent this? Pretty sure the last time we posted about this was either last year or 2017. I won't be mad, who are you? 

Grey

[menacevessel-deactivated2020083]

You say “I’m baby” but you’re not. You are not baby. You are not capable of being baby. You possess neither the limitless potential of baby nor the driving curiosity of baby. You have some similarities. You cannot function on your own. You depend on others for your most basic needs. But where baby eventually outgrows these flaws, you are already hardened by your failures. You will not grow. You are not baby.

[yimra-deactivated20250209]

[kiwipeel]

in someplaces, time works different. you know when you’re in an airport and youre drinking a vodka soda at 7am? find out which timeless space you are 

[jelloapocalypse]

I recommend this quiz

[mcapriglioneart]

how to draw arms ? ? 

[swagginsloths]

holy fuck

[shoutsofthunder]

holy fuck is right… but… does it work with legs???

[mcapriglioneart]

yes !!

[empresspinto]

but how much extend

[thunar]

^^^^^^^^^^

[kvothe-kingkiller]

[gabbyzvolt25]

I NEARLY CHOKED

[lifeofcynch]

ENJFDFNFATFVFDF

[deactivated-blog]

finally. i can be accurate

[shiny-charming]

This is too fucking great to not reblog

[wishem]

I give it MASCLES

BIG MACHO

[keithislactoseintolerant-deacti]

🤣🤣

[urhella-gaychloe]

LMAOOOOOO

[fernacular]

Okay but for anyone who legit wants to know how to calculate it correctly:

The elbow joint on average rests a couple inches higher than the navel, so if you measure how long the distance is from the middle of the shoulder to that point then you have the length of the upper and fore arms!

[fernacular]

So if anyone’s wondering about legs too, the simplest rule of thumb is that the length from the top of the leg to the knee is equal to the distance between the top of the leg and the bottom of the pectorals:

And I wanna stress that when i say “top of the leg” i’m not talking about the crotch (please don’t flag me tumblr it’s an anatomical term) i’m talking about the point where the femur connects to the pelvis, which is higher up on the hips:

It’s easier to see what I’m talking about in this photo of a man squatting: 

So yeah if you use that measurement when using this technique you should get fairly realistically proportioned legs:

But remember! messing with proportions is an important and fun part of character design! Know the rules first so you can then break them however you please!

[im-a-hyperion-vault-hunter-deac]

HOW THE HELL DID I FIND THIS POST OMG

[erasaure]

[i-am-corbin-dallas]

Licherally in the midst of drawing a guy and crying at how bad the arms are. Thanks Tumbles

[drrockbell]

I only ever saw the part where people started drawing the limbs outrageously long and genuinely wanted to know how to fix that, so I’m really thankful to see the rest.

[panopticoncooperative-moved]

I think we should bring back the concept of empowered multiplicity.

-Astrid

[panopticoncooperative-moved]

Since @chesed-universe-180 asked, here’s the Astraea’s Web definition of empowered multiplicity (cw: outdated terminology):

Empowered Multiples - Most often, it refers to multiples who do not take a victim stance and who are not overly dependent on psychotherapy to the point that they become enmeshed in the therapy culture. Any multiple system can be empowered. Empowerment is the ability to take responsibility for one’s life and make conscious choices rather than simply going along with what someone else says.

Empowerment is for all multiples. It is not only for natural (non-trauma) multiples; you can be empowered and be a multiple who was born as one person and split due to child abuse. In fact, if that’s your situation, empowerment is what you need more of, and is something your therapist (if any) ought to be encouraging.

Empowerment does not mean “perfectly functioning in every conceivable aspect with not the slightest trace of a problem in any area of your life and no abuse or trauma of any kind at all in your past.” Empowerment does not mean rejecting therapy, or even medication, if those are helpful to the system. Empowerment is simply placing a high value on personal ability to choose, rather than becoming overly dependent on authority to define and guide your life. Even a therapist – even a good one. Empowerment also means the right to interpret one’s own system, rather than automatically believing everything therapists (or anyone else) tell you about yourselves. Empowered multiples are those whose people learn to cooperate, perhaps to communicate with each other (whether through notes or directly), to organise themselves into a responsible operating system, and see multiplicity as a positive part of their lives – regardless of how their multiplicity originated. (Shaytar)

-Astrid

[secretsystemandstuff]

People get pissed about this though. Especially in the system community, there's a trend of some people trying to tell others how their system should operate. The motivation here is basically a drive to be a "good person", a "positive influence", to the point where they will force people to accept help they did not ask for and do not want or need. So when you behave this way, where your system is basically letting all y'all's hair down and operating only in the way y'all wanna, it pisses some people off cuz they wanna have more control over your life.

Which is exactly why we do this lmao

[masculinepositivity]

yknow what?

shoutout to the boys with DID/OSDD-1. shoutout to the boys who struggle with their gender identity because of the fact theyre in a system. shoutout to the boys who share a body with nonbinary or girl alters, making their life just a little bit more confusing. shoutout to the trans guys in systems who have to deal with not being able to transition because their alters disagree, or shoutout to the trans guys in systems whos transition is more difficult because they dont feel connected to their bodies. shoutout to the guys whose appearance in the headspace doesnt match their body at all. shoutout to you guys.

[everythingfox]

Mission failed

[mapelie]

Ummm. Abort.

[roane72]

The yawn is what kills me. “Oh. Yeah, i was gonna take a nap. So sleepy honkshoo.”

[followthebluebell]

This is a really good example of appeasement behavior in cats. 

The kitten wants to play, but stops because the older cat has their ears back.  Kitten backs down to show a loss of interest— at that point, you can see the older cat blink slowly.  This is one of the ways cats demonstrate trust and understanding.   The kitten turns away, to further cement a lack of interest in playtime at the moment. 

The kitten lies down slowly, occasionally looking to the older cat for more approval.  Finally, the little yawn at the end isn’t to go ‘i’m sleepy’, but rather as a calming signal.  Cats consider sleeping to be a communal activity.  By settling down and imitating the older cat, the younger cat is displaying ‘yes, I understand Now Is Not Playtime, we’re cool, right?’

[264571956-deactivated20210621]

friendship IS romance : 1. / 2. / 3. fleabag / 4. / 5. / 6. / 7. / 8. a little life, hanya yanagihara  / 9. / 10. 

[secretsystemandstuff]

@cheapdope I'm coming for my 31 minute hug lmao

× Grey (and Ontario, and I demand a separate one)

[jellycatstuffies]

All Jellycat frogs currently available 

(from left to right, top to bottom: Geek Frog, Starry-Eyed Frog, Fergus Frog, Riverside Rambler Frog, Felipe Frog Prince, Tad Tree Frog)

[secretsystemandstuff]

We'll have to buy all of these one day

For the uhhh

The littles, yeah

Not me, noooo, lol

[ms-demeanor]

While I’m being all vocally and visibly mentally ill and discussing PTSD on main:

It’s okay to mourn for the you that didn’t get to be. It’s okay to be sad about what you could have done if you weren’t stopped and changed and rewritten by trauma. You’re right to be angry if that got taken away from you.

But you also don’t have to keep chasing it. You’re never going to be the you from before, the way is shut, these halls are closed. It’s okay to mourn that branch; it’s not okay to strangle yourself at the roots to try to get back to it.

You’re different now. That’s okay. You don’t have to be more than you are or healthier than you are or less afraid or more stable. You don’t have to exhaust yourself struggling to get back to before. Before isn’t baseline.

What you DO have to do is find out what your baseline is now and how to maintain it, how to care for yourself and cultivate the growth of who you ARE as a person, not who you could have been.

[woemanlyremade]

cis women with facial hair isn’t as rare and “abnormal”/“unhealthy due to uterine cysts therefore dangerous” (and still shamed despite not being within a persons control?) as t*rfs think it is. i can think of 4 cis women i work with just in my department alone who have visible facial hair. sometimes your body just does it. it’s not that deep. it’s not any different from leg hair being thicker than average on some people. being a deeply flawed and hateful person really does give you brain rot. can you imagine just blocking out the details of people’s faces constantly because you don’t want to admit that the arbitrary lines of “sex characteristics” are more blurred than you ever cared to admit?

[scallioncreamcheesebagel]

yeah exactly, it's especially common for jewish cis women and cis women of color to grow facial hair, a thing white goyische terfs love to ignore. i (an afab nonbinary jewish person) and many cis women in my all-jewish family grow facial hair, which we then shave due to societal stigma. terfs love to believe that all cis women look exactly like the cis white goyische image of womanhood they have in their head.

[secretsystemandstuff]

Does being forced to stay on a medication you can’t stay awake for longer than 2 hours on count? Yes, that counts as a red flag. Treatment providers should always weigh the benefits of the treatment against the side effects, and they should let you decide if it's worth it. Like a cancer patient refusing chemo because it would make their life miserable.

Yeah idk when you sent this or what post you're talking about lol but we've stopped arguing with people and just let them prescribe something and just never take it now

We do the research to figure out interactions with the meds we like and decide from there

[mentalhealthscribbles]

PSA:

Learned helplessness is where, due to a series of negative experiences where you were/felt you were unable to escape or act, you naturally give up and relent in difficult situations. Recognising if and when you do this can give you the opportunity to change your behaviour patterns and reverse feelings of helplessness.

[secretsystemandstuff]

But once you've recognized it what do you do

[jonghyunkazoo]

Granny: No printer, just fax!

[md-admissions]

I know this is for a kdrama show but like fuck this speaks to the patient population I care for and my frustration with the US right now. 

[secretsystemandstuff]

Oh my god it's the grandma from unstoppable high kick isn't it

[movedto-rimmymftim]