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When you accidentally put “king shaming” instead of “kink shaming”

Basic consent practice you should do: when someone tells you a boundary or a need, thank them. Healthy relationship dynamics aren’t just about not doing shitty things. You need to actively cultivate a dynamic in which everyone is comfortable articulating boundaries and needs and knowing that those needs will be respected and the boundaries adhered to. Thanking someone for articulating a boundary when we are otherwise told to disregard our boundaries or keep them to ourselves is not only really affirming, it also encourages them to do that in the future, and makes them feel that prioritizing themselves is something others will appreciate rather than be upset by. Because you should respect all that, you should be thankful that someone trusts you enough to speak up, and you should be happy for them. So express those things to them so that routine conversations about boundaries and consent will be a positive experience for them, rather than something anxious, fearful, or negative.

polyamorous-miss-deactivated202

It’s easy to do once you’ve done it the first couple times, and makes such a big difference in your relationships.

millenniumitem

+ this absolutely applies to all relationships, not just romantic ones. encourage and thank your friends for articulating their boundaries! affirm them! its good for everybody!!

meanplastic

blue--green

the fuck is this?

selfhelpbook-blog

....is she supposed to be Bambi's mum?

iamryanhenly

Parents should not be reading your journals

Parents should not be searching through your trash

Parents should not be snooping on your private social media messages

Parents should not be taking your bedroom door off

Parents should not be invading your privacy

sapphichollstein-deactivated201

reblogging this because when they go through my phone and find my tumblr they’ll see this

becausedragonage

As an actual mom, I approve this message. If your parents say it’s a normal part of parenting, no. No it’s not. They are wrong.

kendallroynsfw

carrie fisher isn’t just princess leia. carrie fisher isn’t just an actress we all admire from a famous series of movies made a long time ago in a galaxy far far away. carrie fisher isn’t just another name on the list of shitty things 2016 has done to people i admire.

carrie fisher is a woman who struggled with addiction and mental illness and never sugar coated it - she spoke honestly, openly, about every ugly truth, and made me so much less ashamed of the things i struggle with in my daily life.

carrie fisher is a woman who fought back against body shaming and misogyny, against agesim, who looked at critics and said “yes, i am a woman who has aged, and had children, and struggled with depression and addiction and my body has changed, so you can just shut the fuck up and deal with it”, and it was absolutely beautiful.

carrie fisher is a woman who was placed in the role of “princess” but didn’t conform to the typical hollywood idea of what a princess should be. she’s loud, brash, crass, and unapologetic for being so.

she’s an idol and an inspiration and she’s a woman who saved my life many times just by being who she was and never shying away from it or feeling the need to say sorry. carrie fisher is so much and more and i cannot begin to stomach the thought of 2016 taking her away from me, from her family, from the rest of the world and those of us who love her so dearly.

i love you, space momma. we all do. keep fighting the good fight.

palominocorn

All this, but with one correction: Carrie Fisher has bipolar, not depression.

janothar

Just a reminder that her most recent tweets are masterpieces of sarcasm as she mocks the movie reviewers taking cheap shots at her age because she didn’t portray young Leia in Rogue One underneath the CGI.

scrptrx

Mic decided to investigate these claims for themselves and see if this alleged former Trumpian was telling the truth. They set up a $1 recurring donation to the Trump Campaign, and when they tried to cancel it, Mic confirmed that there was no cancelation option.

Not only that, but you could not edit or remove your credit card information on the website.

Mic concluded that the way to stop donating is to call your bank and cancel your credit card. If not, you will be donating to Trump forever.

To be fair, Mic also set up recurring $1 donations to Clinton’s campaign to see if they too tried to trap you into an eternity of donating. Mic noted that it was very simple to cancel donations on Clinton’s website.

[kind of important]

[how to cancel]

ghostclvb

LIAR, SCAMMER, MESSY ORANGE GOBLIN WHO LIVES FOR DRAMA

archiemcphee

Today we learned that gravity is a fine musician. A team of Japanese filmmakers constructed an incredibly long wooden xylophone along a steady slope in the middle of a beautiful forest in Kyushu in southern Japan. Once the awesome instrument was built and carefully tuned a wooden ball was released at the very top. As the ball rolls down the xylophone it strikes each wooden bar once, producing a single note, performing Bach’s “Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring“ accompanied by the gentle sounds of a peaceful forest:

Click here for an orchestral performance of the same piece.

To learn more about how this clever forest xylophone was made watch this behind-the-scenes video:

[via mental_floss]

kimlongewing-deactivated2021070

Amazing.

bibliophilicwitch-archive

*SLAMS FIST ON TABLE* I demand more forest gravity music

ithelpstodream

mulderscullyinthetardis

Congratulations on the sex.

- - Carrie Fisher’s parting comment to the pregnant ‘Today’ show host, 21 Nov 2016 [x]

eroscestlavie

THIS IS ANISH KAPOOR’S INSTAGRAM I AM SCREAMING AT HOW PETTY THIS IS

quinoaphoenicks

God

frankenfemme

Who’s the narc that gave him the pink

veryfemmeandantifascist

I’m screaming

ofmanynames

But the statement is the best:

Kapoor or one of his agents has, it’s worth noting, violated the terms of service put forth on Semple’s website, and Semple isn’t happy. He expressed his deep concern over the situation in an email to artnet News:

We are all extremely disappointed to see that Anish Kapoor has illegally acquired the world’s pinkest pink. He’s walked into this paint war with a gesture that cannot be misconstrued. He’s given the art community a bright pink middle finger. He is still very much at large. Not only has he refused to share the black, he’s now stolen our pink. Rest assured, we will get to the bottom of who has purchased this on Anish Kapoor’s behalf and broken their contractual agreement with culturehustle.com, and we will instruct our lawyers to take appropriate action against such breaches. We are pleased to note that he has not managed to get his hands on the World’s Glitteriest Glitter—yet—and we urge purchasers not to share the product with Kapoor or his associates.