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I hate when people ask me “what did you do today?” like buddy listen I woke up at noon and then it was five pm okay I don’t kn o w

Gotta grow the booty in 2018.

#fitness goals for this year #gotta get that peach right #ok motivation for myself i just need a reminder

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infinitimatti

just a quick note- no trans person has ever said “did you just assume my gender.” trans people are very aware of how their gender and physical appearance differ and that visually one might assume that they are a man/woman when they are actually not. that’s kind of the whole idea of gender dysphoria.

infinitimatti

and also you’ve beaten your “attack helicopter” joke into the fucking ground. cut that shit out.

infinitimatti

i wanted to add one more thing to this post that other people have pointed out: i know its an awkward question, but a lot of trans people are going to be 100% fine with you asking what their gender is, or with calmly correcting you if you get it wrong. and if they’re not, then they’re way more likely to keep it to themselves than get visibly angry with someone. this idea that trans people just go apeshit when people misgender them accidentally/when first meeting them is a complete fabrication for a stupid joke and that’s why i despise it so much.

petefoxshend-deactivated2018062

I can’t afford to get visibly angry about people misgendering me because that puts me in danger of getting harmed. once a cis person finds out my gender, one of two things will happen: they either accept me to various degrees, or they reject me and potentially escalate the situation. politeness is the only way I can decrease the risk of the latter.

the “DID YOU ASSUME MY GENDER?!” trope only serves to make trans people look ridiculous/unreasonable in the eyes of cis people, and places in their minds preconceptions about us that makes it harder, ultimately, for us to come out safely. if all they know about trans people are shitty jokes, then we as a people become those jokes to them.

gaylor-moon

yeah cis people, seeing as you’re literally the only people that make these jokes I’m gonna need you to reblog this

harperhug

Jokes aren’t innocent if they contribute to people getting hurt.

bioethicists

questions men should ask themselves more often

- am i being unnecessarily forceful/loud?

- am i talking over others? are those others mostly women?

- why does this person feel like that? how can i acknowledge their feelings?

- does she seem comfortable around me? if not, why?

- am i devaluing women as a joke/when they make me angry? am i insulting women’s appearance and sanity whenever they make me angry?

- am i listening to other people’s knowledge/experiences or am i only talking about my own? how can i share my knowledge/experiences in a respectful way that doesn’t monopolize conversation or infantalize others (primarily women)?