7 depression tips and why they work, from someone whoâs been hardcore depressed for two years
hi so im recovering from a really mean depression and there are some things i learned and that i would like to tell you.Â
1. you need to reappropriate your space and time. depression is lying to you and generally shrinks your living space (aka: you spend your time in bed/behind your computer/in your roomâŚ). visit and do something (even if its just scrolling down social media) in each room you have access to. expand your perception and space, youâll breathe more easily.
2. plan depression outfits. a depression outfit is a comfy one you still can go out in. to me, itâs old ripped jeans and a turtleneck, my old work uniforms, sweaters. dressing up is one of the most important parts of managing depression. first of all, youâll feel less like pathetic with proper clothes on (nothing worse than staying in your pj all day). secondly, and itâs a crucial point: it allows you to get out to run some errands. imagine you have to go grocery shopping or to the post office. if youâre in your unwashed pajamas youâve been wearing for three days or more (been there done that) what you have to do is to undress, shower (if you can), and put on real, clean clothes. which is three things. depression messes wih oneâs ability to start things, so itâs very likely youâll drop your errands and just stay at home feeling like shit. but if youâre already wearing clothes, you just have to put on a coat and get out of the house. which is, trust me, 10 times easier than doing the whole dressing up thing.
3. itâs okay if you stay the whole day in bed but force yourself to get up in the morning (anytime before noon) and drink a glass of water/juice. again, depression messes up with your ability to start doing things, but if you concentrate your will to just get up and drink something before going back to bed, i promise youâll feel less shitty and might actually end up getting up for good since youâve been through the trouble of getting up. Youâll feel better (and also you need water!)
4. do one (1) physical, material thing that will improve your life conditions per day. aka: washing a single glass, scrubbing the mirror, etc. youâll feel proud of yourself, and the tidiest your environment, the less shitty your brain will be. plus, again: if you manage to wash a single dish, maybe youâll find yourself cleaning the whole kitchen without noticing. and thats a good thing. no pressure: just do one single thing. and donât beat yourself up if you canât, of course, but try, itâs gonna be better that way.Â
5. open the window (especially at night, i personally find it very soothing) and just⌠breathe fresh air, looking at the horizon or closing your eyes, and breathe in and out slowly. itâs great to take fresh air. bonus if you have anxiety/ptsd, honestly. opening the windows is one of the easiest ways i know to stop a panic attack.
6. brush your teeth everyday, even if itâs the only thing you manage to do. i know every depression guide recommends it, but itâs really important. not showering for a few days is okay, youâre not gonna get sick that way. but dental hygiene is capital. not to mention youâll feel less rotting in the inside if youâre less rotting in the outside. you can use your phone to schedule your teeth brushing of the day! really helps.Â
7. think about your hobbies and force yourself to do something related to an old hobby of yours. i know itâs no fun. i know you canât feel anything, so why bother? but really, do bother. do it and eventually as you recover it will be fun again. you havenât lost your passion, your goals, your motivation. itâs still there, but depression is like a blanket that covers it all. forcing yourself to still act on your hobbies (especially if those are not screen-related: books, gardening, etc.) will help digging through the depression layers to expose your will to live again. trust me on this one. i really thought i was just an apathetic mess, but actually depression was just mean. i believe in you!Â
and finally:Â hold tight and itâs gonna be okay! recovery is possible, and itâs gonna arrive sooner than you expect. energy and motivation are good things and theyâre still around here waiting for you!Â
feel free to add your own! youâre all gonna make it i promise.