my name is serenity, and i am a beautiful black girl here to spread my magic with the world.
this is a space for girls to feel empowered, uplifted, and inspired. it’s all about self-growth, self-love, and stepping into the best version of ourselves—so we can shine our light unapologetically.
i’ll be the best friend you’ve always wanted and the super cool older sister you’ve always needed.
let’s show up, do our best, and let God do the rest.
what you’ll find on here:
౨ৎ self love ౨ৎ self care ౨ৎ self improvement ౨ৎ motivation ౨ৎ advice ౨ৎ academia ౨ৎ confidence ౨ৎ faith ౨ৎ & all things girly
tags:
౨ৎ #serenity's secrets ~ my thoughts, rants, overall me yapping lol
౨ৎ #serenity’s sanctuary ~ where you'll find all my posts on self care, self love, and self improvement
౨ৎ #serenity’s studies ~ all things school related + study tips
౨ৎ #serenity’s soul ~ for faith, inner peace, and spiritual growth
social media has normalized having a singular aesthetic so much that being multifaceted has become a foreign concept to many people when in reality that is who we really are.
‧₊˚ 🦌✩ ₊˚ 🏔️ — mentally i am in this quiet corner of nature, listening to the birds singing, talking to the deer, finding peace and tranquility in the rustling of the leaves ✶
gentle cleansers, green tea, at home workouts, fruit bowls, face masks, spf 50, pink nails, jewelry always, hair masks, body milks, late night runs, sparkly claw clips, hair massages, lip serums, balanced salads, night routine, vitamins and supplements, sunglasses sun hat combo, princess treatment, floral bouquets, vogue videos.
social media has normalized having a singular aesthetic so much that being multifaceted has become a foreign concept to many people when in reality that is who we really are.
all my classes went really well but my 3rd class of the day was probably my favorite.
during the first half of that class we watched a very interesting court case and during the second half we got to "play pretend" and act as if we were part of the case. people acted as lawyers, the jury and even a judge!
guess who i was...
the judge! 😁
it was first going to be a rock, paper, scissors decision but my classmates just decided that i would be a good judge and they chose me!
it was honestly so fun and i really love the other students who are part of my class (will definitely miss them when i move 😔).
but that was definitely my favorite class of the day.
i was able to leave early from school today and the craziest thing happened to me.
while i was waiting at the bus stop, another student from my school (we can call her layla) sat beside me on the bench and just started a convo with me (okay it's not the craziest thing ever but here me out).
she was a grade below mine and i had seen her around at the bus stop and at school but i never talked to her, and if i'm being honeslty, i never thought that i would.
but today she just decided to spark a conversation with me and it was honestly really nice. i got her instagram and i feel like i gained a new friend. like she was honestly so sweet!
i never thought that something like this would happen to me. i always thought i was the awkward introverted girl but i was able to hold this conversation and everything turned out really well.
i feel like leaving my old friend group really allowed me to step outside my comfort zone these past couple days and weeks.
i'm feeling way more comfortable with myself and with others.
i kinda wish i was able to experience these things before in the past year and it kinda sucks that all this amazing stuff if happening the year that i'm moving, but i'm honestly glad that its happening at all.
my life is honestly amazing and im forever grateful.
my desires desire me too. what i want wants me too. who i want wants me too. everything always works out for me the way i want it to. i deserve to live the life that i want with the people i want wherever i want and however i want, and i will. i am.
the day is not over yet but i wanted to start writing and tell y'all about something that i'm super proud of myself for doing.
i sat down and ate lunch in the cafeteria, by myself.
i know i know, it's not like i found the cure to cancer or anything but it's something that i always dreaded but now that i've actually experienced it, i realized that i've been worrying for nothing.
essentially the reason why i sat by myself today was because im in a friend group of 3 (including me). one of my friend was sick so she didn't come to school today and the other friend (lets call them jo) just decided to sit with their "other" friends.
the friend that is sick is the one that keeps the friend group together. jo and i aren't close so we mostly only talk when the 3rd friend is around.
i honestly wasn't too bothered by this, however, i wish they communicated a bit better about the whole situation. buy i'm also glad they didn't in a way because i was able to face a fear.
guys, just sit by yourselves, from experience (yes from this one time of me doing it lol) people are just doing their own thing and talking with there own friends, they are not focused on you what so ever.
if they are talking badly about you, then they are weird and good news, you have fans now!
but honestly life is to short to care about what others think or what they say about you
1. Before making a decision, ask yourself, “Is this beneficial for me?”
2. Second ask yourself, “Do I want to do this? If so why?” Make sure that whatever you do is serving your best interests.
3. Always take care of your needs. Treat yourself like you would your child. Maintain your basic hygiene. Make sure you've eaten and drank water. Keep up with your skin care. Give yourself compliments and support your dreams. Be financially stable and provide security for yourself. Give yourself everything you desire.
4. Don’t rush or let others push you into doing something you don’t want to.
5. Put your standards on the pedestal. Form your own judgement about things and don’t be persuaded easily.
6. Do what you set your mind to regardless of opposition.
7. Always be in tune with what you desire and never compromise your standards.
8. Fill your own cup first. Invest in yourself.
9. Set clear boundaries and start saying no when you mean it.
10. Release all shame surrounding your self prioritization. Understand, people won’t care about your wellbeing. You have to be the one looking out for you.
11. Gate-keep yourself from those undeserving of your love and energy.
12. Don't tell all your business. Move in silence and cherish your privacy.
13. Stay self-sufficient.
14. Do the things YOU enjoy. Have your favorite cup of coffee. Eat your favorite snack. Watch your favorite show. Do tarot readings. Read occult books. Wear makeup. Dress up. Don't shrink your beliefs, lifestyle or presence just because someone else disagrees with it.
15. Ignore unsolicited advice.
16. Stop trying to prove your worth and just be. You are already enough as you are. You habe nothing further to prove.
a couple weeks ago i decided to make a very abrupt decision to leave the friend group that i've been in for the past 3 years. i say it was abrupt but it wasn't really...
since last year i had felt like i wasn't really fit for the group and that we had started drifting apart, however i still decided to stay, thinking that this feeling would pass (spoiler alert, it did not).
i still stuck with them at the beginning of this school year however a shift was made once i figured out that i would be moving next school year.
as someone who thought they would be staying in the same country and same school until they graduate, this was a big shock for me, however it taught me 2 great lessons:
change is inevitable ~ change will happen whether you like it or not, the only thing that can be controlled is how you handle the situation.
life is too short ~ it's too short to stay in situations and be around people that make you feel unhappy.
once i understood these lessons i decided to just go for it and sit with new people, and let me tell y'all, that had been the best decision i have made thus far.
i felt like being with that friend group limited me so much. were they bad people? not necessarily, but we just didn't align anymore and i think that subconsciously i was allowing them to way me down.
now that i have left, i am sitting with a way smaller friend group (2 compared to 8 lol) which makes me feel better because the interactions feel more personal and i actually feel heard in conversations. i also talk with way more people outside that friend group that i never would have. lastly, i no longer feel judged for the things i do or the people i talk to. i feel more free and going to school (the social aspect at least) doesn't feel so bad anymore.
all this to say...
if you are going through something similar, where you feel like you don't align with with your current friends, i encourage you to leave and make way for bigger and better blessings.
contrary to popular belief, there doesn't have to be any "beef" or "drama" for you to leave a friendship. it may be that they are someone that you have outgrown and that is 100% okay.
like i said earlier: "life is too short to stay in situations and be around people that make you feel unhappy"
i personally want to look back on my life and see that i did what i wanted to do and i am so proud of myself for leaving and doing what i felt was best for me, no matter what anyone thought.
i'm not going to lie to you and say that it will be easy, because it wont, however, when all is said and done, you will feel amazing about making that decision (like a weight is being lifted from your shoulders).
all in all, trust yourself and trust your intuition. things will workout for you & life is worth living my love <3
i woke up at 6am, prayed, did my 10min pilates, ate my yogurt bowl, made it on time for my bus, talked with many different people at school, laughed a lot, had a fun time in math class (unheard of lol), honestly had a good time in all my classes, came back home early, ate the lemon blueberry muffin that i made on saturday, folded and put away my laundry, organized my closet, & had a chill evening <3
i honestly think that this good day was attributed to my praying this morning. i've honestly been slacking in the spiritual aspect of my life recently and i need to get back on time of that fr.
good news: tmrw is a new day which allows for a fresh start 😊
bad news: tmrw is also when my period plans on starting 😔
you are shaped by what you absorb: visually, mentally, emotionally. if you constantly take in noise, negativity, and mediocrity, your perception dulls; the world starts to feel flat. but when you surround yourself with depth, beauty, and intentionality, your inner world expands. the books you read, the art you admire, the way you speak to yourself - it all becomes part of you. choose carefully, because what you consume is what you become.
this is a true saying and more people need to take it into consideration.
its important to never make self deprecating jokes in front of others or allow others to make fun of you, even as a "joke".
Once people see how you talk to yourself and how you allow others to treat you, they'll treat you way worse (even subconsciously).
people will treat you, how you treat yourself.
even if you have done this in the past, its never to late to create boundaries with others, but be prepared because friendships and relationships may fall apart.
even if this may be the case, your life and your happiness is 100x more important than what others think.
stand your ground, set boundaries and distance yourself.
do what you need to do, to make your life feel better, because you only live once, and idk about you, but i want to look back at my life feeling proud of the decisions i made, because i did them for me. i lived my life for myself, not for the validation of others.
