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Fun things they don’t teach you in sex ed.
Talcum powder has asbestos in it. Has for years. Leave it be
Herpes is the only STD that can be passed through kissing.
This usually happens when one person has a sore on or around the mouth and then kisses another person. It can also happen during a select number of days throughout the year when the virus is more active in a person’s body and when they may have no symptoms at all.
Teenage boys as young as 16 are experiencing symptoms of erectile dysfunction due to excessively viewing aggressive and hardcore pornography, an expert has revealed.
You don’t say.
“The men struggle to distinguish porn scripts from real sexual assault situations. One observes, ”That feels like a sexual assault.” Another speculates that the situation before him is a #MeToo story. At the conclusion of the video, it is revealed that all of the scenarios were taken from pornography.”
Now we’re connecting some dots.
“What does it mean when pornography, the primary form of sexual education for young people, is indistinguishable from real life sexual abuse of women? What does it mean for women and girls? What does it mean for men and boys watching this content regularly, and from childhood? What is the impact on sexuality, intimate relationships and attitudes towards women when men and boys are socialised to find enjoyment in the abuse of women?”
Is this the new “People are Violent because of video games”? First of all there are plenty of women that enjoy dominant sex and should not be shamed for it. And second it is not that hard to distinguish porn from reality. Porn is like any other movie production and should not be viewed as real life. And lastly the general rule of thumb is if a woman gives you consent then you have a green light to do whatever she wants to her. If she says no and keeps protesting then you are a scumbag that should be locked up. So the porn is not to blame if your privileged ass thinks just because some paid actors in a movie are having hardcore sex then you need to force yourself on women wether they want it or not
Hi, I’d like to introduce you to a field of study known as Sociology. It’s basically the study of society. See, we understand that culture does in fact impact who we are as people, as much as we want to believe that we are in complete control of who we are, that is simply just not true.
Advertising companies wouldn’t spend make any money if advertising didn’t work. The human brain is like a sponge, constantly absorbing messages subconsciously. And an orgasm is a very powerful psychological conditioning tool. Porn use does in fact impact people.
Here, have some research:
Porn use:
There are over 420 million pages of pornographic material online worldwide. (IFR)
72 million searches for porn are logged monthly. (IFR)
25% of all daily search engine requests are for pornography (68 million searches daily) (IFR)
42.7% of internet users view porn (IFR)
100,000-plus websites are devoted to child pornography. There are over 116,000 daily requests for this material. (IFR)
20% of men admit to accessing pornography at work (IFR)
35% of those purchasing online porn make $75,000-plus annually. (IFR)
The United States is the top producer of pornographic web pages with 244,661,900, or 89 percent (IFR)
Worldwide revenue from mobile phone pornography is $1 billion-plus and growing (Bryan-Low, Cassel and Pringle, David. “Sex Cells: Wireless Operators Find That Racy Cellphone Video Drives Surge in Broadband Use.” The Wall Street Journal, May 12, 2005)
Ex-porn star testimonies:
Corina Taylor: ”When I arrived to the set I expected to do a vaginal girl boy scene. But during the scene with a male porn star, he forced himself anally into me and would not stop. I yelled at him to stop and screamed ‘No’ over and over but he would not stop. The pain became too much and I was in shock and my body went limp.”
Jenna Jameson: ”Most girls get their first experience in gonzo films – in which they’re taken to a crappy studio apartment in Mission Hills and penetrated in every hole possible by some abusive asshole who thinks her name is Bitch.”
Alexa James: ”The first shoot I did was with a man who was probably 40 and he was as thick as a soda can. He held me down and shoved it in me with no lube tearing my vagina. When I started to tear up and cry he flipped me over and continued from behind be so they wouldn’t get me crying on film. He pulled my hair and choked me over and over again even when I told him it hurt and I could barely breathe.”
Linda Lovelace: ”My initiation into prostitution was a gang rape by five men, arranged by Mr. Traynor. It was the turning point in my life. He threatened to shoot me with the pistol if I didn’t go through with it. I had never experienced anal sex before and it ripped me apart. They treated me like an inflatable plastic doll, picking me up and moving me here and there. They spread my legs this way and that, shoving their things at me and into me, they were playing musical chairs with parts of my body. I have never been so frightened and disgraced and humiliated in my life. I felt like garbage. I engaged in sex acts for pornography against my will to avoid being killed.The lives of my family were threatened.”
Andi Anderson: ”After a year or so of that so-called “glamorous” life, I sadly discovered that drugs and drinking were a part of the lifestyle. I began to drink and party out of control! Cocaine, alcohol and ecstasy were my favorites. Before long, I turned into a person I did not want to be. After doing so many hardcore scenes I couldn’t do it anymore. I just remember being in horrible situations and experiencing extreme depression and being alone and sad.”
Alexa Milano: ”My first movie I was treated very rough by 3 guys. They pounded on me, gagged me with their penises, and tossed me around like I was a ball! I was sore, hurting and could barely walk. My insides burned and hurt so badly. I could barely pee and to try to have a bowel movement was out of the question. I was hurting so bad from the physical abuse from these 3 male porn stars.”
Jessie Jewels: ”People in the porn industry are numb to real life and are like zombies walking around. The abuse that goes on in this industry is completely ridiculous. The way these young ladies are treated is totally sick and brainwashing. I left due to the trauma I experienced even though I was there only a short time.”
Genevieve: ”I had bodily fluids all over my face that had to stay on my face for ten minutes. The abuse and degradation was rough. I sweated and was in deep pain. On top of the horrifying experience, my whole body ached, and I was irritable the whole day. The director didn’t really care how I felt; he only wanted to finish the video.”
Jersey Jaxin: ”Guys punching you in the face. You have semen from many guys all over your face, in your eyes. You get ripped. Your insides can come out of you. It’s never ending.”
Elizabeth Rollings: ”I didn’t want to feel the pain of penetration from an over average sized man, being told to freeze in a position until the camera man was happy with his shots was very painful. I had peoples body fluids forced on my face or anywhere else the producer pleased and I had to accept it or else no pay. Sometimes you would get to a gig and the producer would change what the scene was supposed to be to something more intense and again if you didn’t like it, too bad, you did it or no pay.”
Lucky Starr: ”I was worried about my first anal scene for quite a few days … then the big moment arrived. It REALLY hurt! I almost quit and said, “I can’t do this”. When it was all over, I was so happy and relieved I was able to do it…”
Ashlyn Brooke: ”I honestly felt that if I had to have another strange man in my face, his hands (God knows where they’ve been all over me) him calling me his baby and having to exude some sort of forged passion for the world to see, I probably would have exploded. And what would have been stuck to the walls would have probably been nothing, just pieces of skin, bone, the brain of a robot, and what would have been left of what would have existed once as a huge and warm heart.”
Roxy: ”After only 30 movies I caught two sexually transmitted diseases. Herpes, a non-curable disease and HPV, which led to cervical cancer where I had to have half of my cervix removed. Porn destroyed my life.”
Anita Cannibal: ”Yeah, there are a lot of cover-ups going on. There is a lot of tragedy. There are a lot of horrible things.”
Tamra Toryn: ”As for myself, I ended up paying the price from working in the porn industry. In 2006, not even 9 months in, I caught a moderate form of dysplasia of the cervix (which is a form of HPV, a sexually transmitted disease) and later that day, I also found out I was pregnant. I had only 1 choice which was to abort the baby during my first month. It was extremely painful emotionally and physically. When it was all over, I cried my eyes out.”
Jessi Summers: ”I also did a scene where I was put with male talent that was on my no list. I wanted to please them so I did it. He put his foot on my head and stepped on it while he was doing me from behind. I freaked out and started balling; they stopped filming and sent me home with reduced pay since they got some shot but not the whole sce
porn trends:
“teen” is the most commonly searched porn term
child pornography is one of the fastest growing businesses online.
how pornographers feel about women:
“I’d like to really show what I believe the men want to see: violence against women. I firmly believe that we [pornographers] serve a purpose by showing that. The most violent we can get is the cum shot in the face. Men get off behind that, because they get even with the women they can’t have. We try to inundate the world with orgasms in the face.” - Bill Margold, porn industry veteran, quoted in Robert J. Stoller and I. S. Levine, Coming Attractions: The Making of an X-rated video; 1993.
“There’s nothing I love more than when a girl insists to me that she won’t take a cock in her ass, because — oh yes she will!” -Max Hardcore, interviewed in Hustler (June 1995).
“My whole reason for being in this Industry is to satisfy the desire of the men in the world who basically don’t much care for women and want to see the men in my Industry getting even with the women they couldn’t have when they were growing up. I strongly believe this… so we come on a woman’s face or somewhat brutalize her sexually: we’re getting even for their lost dreams. I believe this. I’ve heard audiences cheer me when I do something foul on screen. When I’ve strangled a person or sodomized a person, or brutalized a person, the audience is cheering my action, and then when I’ve fulfilled my warped desire, the audience applauds.” - Bill Margold, porn industry veteran and Free Speech Coalition board member.
“It might promote violence against women in the United States, but I say, ‘Good.’ I hate those bitches. They’re out of line and that’s one of the reasons I want to do this … I’m going through a divorce right now. … I hate American women.” - What pornographers really think of women (Deutsche Presse-Agentur, 14 October 1999)
2010 study on popular porn films:
88% of scenes contained physical aggression, including spanking, gagging, and slapping.
Women were overwhelmingly the targets of aggressive acts, and men the perpetrators.
Following instances of aggression towards women, in 95% of cases the women expressed pleasure or neutrality.
cases of porn leading children to commit sexual assualt IN THE UK ALONE:
February 2014: A 13-year-old boy told a UK court that he raped his 8-year-old sister after viewing pornography at his friend’s house. The teenager told police he “decided to try it out” on his sister because she was small and “couldn’t remember stuff,” reported the Lancashire Telegraph.
November 2013: A different 13-year old UK boy pleaded guilty to raping an eight-year old girlwhen he was 10. A pornography addiction since age 9 was said to have played a significant role in his crimes.
March 2013: Two boys aged 14 and 15 admitted to a British court that they were re-enacting scenes witnessed in violent online pornography when they beat, brutalized, then raped a 14-year-old girl they had tied to a chair.
March 2013: A UK report found that thousands of British children had committed sexual offenses. In all, 4,562 minors – some as young as five – committed 5,028 sexual offenses over a three year period from 2009-2012. Experts blamed “easy access to sexual material.”
January 2012: Children’s aid and sex abuse organizations in Australia largely blamed 414 cases of children sexually abusing other children on the explosion of pornography made accessible to children.
August 2012: A 13-year-old Canadian boy pleaded guilty to repeatedly raping a 4-year-old boy who lived in his foster home. The boy said the idea came from watching “gay porn” on his foster parents’ home computer.
April 2012: A child therapist reported a case of a 13-year-old boy who raped his 5-year-old sisterafter developing a “complex fantasy world” warped by “two years of constant porn use.”
racism in porn:
Latinos and Hispanics: Pornography tends to stereotype Hispanic women as feisty, “hot and spicy Latinas”, sexy Señoritas, with a high sex drive and low impulse control. Many are portrayed as maids, illegal immigrants to the United States, or unfaithful wives. Since Latinos and Hispanics can be of any race (many are white Hispanic Americans, Mestizos etc.), cultural characteristics are sometimes portrayed via iconic items like South and Central American national costumes, sombreros, maracas, or Mexican dresses.
Asian women: Are viewed as sexually willing or submissive. Asian men are hardly portrayed in pairing with white women and not as common compared to white men with asian women porn. Asian women are mainly portrayed as the: “Dragon Ladies”, as servile “Lotus Blossom Babies”, “Innocent School Girls” in private school uniforms, “China dolls”, “Geisha girls”, war brides, or prostitutes. Japanese media have also at times sensationalistically promoted the stereotype of Japanese women overseas as “yellow cabs”.
Black performers: Large penis size in Black men is consistently emphasized in pornography, often by exclusively casting actors with larger than average penises such as Lexington Steele, Kid Bengala, Jack Napier and Mandingo. Men are often treated to stereotypes of gang affiliation, working class labor, and are overrepresented in gang rape fetish films. Also, they are represented as overly aggressive and demanding, and are performing with white women. Similarly, black women are often portrayed with large breast and buttocks, or ‘booty’. They normally play a submissive role while performing with a white male.
Kid’s access to pornography:
Youth who look at violent x-rated material are six times more likely to report forcing someone to do something sexual online or in-person versus youth not exposed to x-rated material. [12]
Middle-school aged boys who view X-rated content are almost three times more likely to report oral sex and sexual intercourse than boys who do not use sexually explicit material[13]
A study in the southeastern U.S. found that 53 percent of boys and 28 percent of girls (ages 12-15) reported use of sexually explicit media. The Internet was the most popular forum for viewing. [14]
The words “sex” and “porn” rank fourth and sixth among the top ten most popular search terms. [15]
Roughly two-thirds (67 percent) of young men and one-half (49 percent) of young women agree that viewing pornography is acceptable.[7]
Nearly 9 out of 10 (87 percent) young men and 1 out of 3 (31 percent) young women report using pornography.[8]
Experts have warned that the rise in the viewing of pornography was implicated in a variety of problems, including a rise in the levels of STDs and teenage pregnancies. Additionally, males aged between 12 and 17 who regularly viewed pornography had sex at an earlier stage in life and were more likely to initiate oral sex, apparently imitating what they had seen. [9] [10]
Internet pornography was blamed for a 20 percent increase in sexual attacks by children over three years.[6]
One out of three youth who viewed pornography, viewed the pornography intentionally.[1]
Seven out of ten youth have accidentally come across pornography online.[2]
Nearly 80 percent of unwanted exposure to pornography is taking place in the home (79 percent occurs in the home; 9 percent occurs at school; 7 percent other/unknown; 5 percent at a friend’s home).[3]
Kids experience unwanted exposure to sexual material via:[4] A link came up as a result of an innocent word search (40 percent), Clicking on a link in another site (17 percent), A pop-up (14 percent), Other (13 percent), Misspelled web address (12 percent), Don’t know (4 percent), Pictures involving animals or other strange things (10 percent)
Type of material youth encounter when unwanted exposure to pornography occurs:[5] Naked people (86 percent), People having sex (37 percent), Violent pictures (13 percent)
Nearly 74 percent of pornography websites surveyed display adult content on their homepage (accessible to anyone) before asking if the viewers are of legal age. [11]
American children begin consuming hardcore pronography at an average age of 11
Four out of five 16 year-olds regularly access pornography online
Findings from the Youth Internet Safety Survey indicate that 15% of 12-17 year olds have purposefully looked at x-rated material online.
Data from the PEW Internet and American Life Project suggest that 70% of 15-17 year old internet users accidently view pornography “very” or “Somewhat” often.
Child Pornography
Child pornography is a $3-billion industry. (Top Ten Reviews)
Child pornography is one of the fastest growing businesses online, and the content is becoming much worse. (Internet Watch Foundation) Internet Watch Foundation confirmed 1536 child abuse domains in 2008.
The fastest growing demand in commercial websites for child abuse is for images depicting the worst type of abuse, including penetrative sexual activity involving children and adults and sadism or penetration by an animal. 58% of child sexual abuse images depict this level of abuse. (IWF, 2008)
69% of all victims in child abuse images are between the ages of 0 and 10 years old. (IWF, 2008)
In a study of arrested child pornography possessors, 40 percent had both sexually victimized children and were in possession of child pornography. Of those arrested between 2000 and 2001, 83 percent had images involving children between the ages 6 and 12; 39 percent had images of children between ages 3 and 5; and 19% had images of infants and toddlers under age 3 (National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, Child Pornography Possessors Arrested in Internet-Related Crimes: Findings fro the National Juvenile Online Victimization Study. 2005).
Your brain on porn:
further decline in dopamine levels
further decline in opioids and endorphins
drop-off in GABA, which is an anti-anxiety neurotransmitter
rise in brain stress hormones CRF and norepinephrine
elevated dynorphin which inhibits dopamine and lowers your pleasure response
one week after quitting the reward center sprouts new nerve cell branches, which correlate with cravings to use
More sources on addiction to porn
Common porn addiction withdrawal symptoms include:
Anxiety
Restlessness
Irritability
Insomnia
Fatigue
Headaches
Poor concentration
Depression
Social isolation
Loss of libido (Can take days to manifest, and last a long time)
Adult (>18 years old) exposure to pornographic media is connected with:
Believing a rape victim enjoyed rape
Believing women suffer less from rape
Believing women in general enjoy rape
Believing a rape victim experienced pleasure and “got what she wanted”
Believing women make false accusations of rape
Believing rapist deserve less jail time
More acceptance of the rape myth
More acceptance of violence against women
More likely to go to a prostitute and to go more frequently
Increasing their estimates of how often people engage in sex with violence
More self-reported likelihood of forcing a women sexually
More self-reported likelihood of rape
Creating more sexually violent fantasies to get aroused
Engaging in more sexual harassment behaviors
More likelihood of forcing a woman sexually
More likelihood of future rape
Using physical coercion to have sex
Using verbal coercion to have sex
Using drugs and alcohol to sexually coerce women
Having engaged in rape
Having engaged in date rape
Having engaged in marital rape
Being an adult sex offender
Being a child molester
Being an incest offender
Engaging in sexual abuse of a battered spouse
More willingness to have sex with 13-14 year olds
More sexual attraction to children
Having sexually abused children
Life and death of a porn star:
all the women who don’t make money from the porn industry.
the women who are kidnapped, tortured, and forced into snuff films.
the skeletons that NAFTA keeps hidden in cobweb-ridden closets on the U.S.-Mexican border.
their average career length is 3 months. [x] [x]
If you don’t feel like reading:
Shelley Lubben: Porn as a driver for prostitution and sex trafficking, (Vimeo)
Cindy Gallop: Make love, not porn (Adult content)
“They call it fantasy,“ - Andrea Dworkin
Ex-Pornstar Jan Villarubia tells her story
Dr. Gail Dines addressing porn culture and rape culture’s intersecting roles in patriarchy
“Two Ex-Porn Stars Uncover The Truth About Porn.”
This guy stopped watching porn — and he wants you to know why.
Facing Life Head-On: Satan’s Final Frontier—the Sex Industry
Dr. Gail Dine’s lectures on pornography on youtube (1, 2, 3, 4)
This video has footage the porn industry doesn’t want you to see. Women are abused, screaming, crying, raped and in pain on the porn set…No woman should have to go to work only to return home beaten and traumatized.”
On the show Date My Pornstar, porn fans get to interact and converse with their favorite pornstars about their experiences in the industry
The story of ex-pornstar ‘Sal’, (Pink Cross Foundation)
Porn actress Sierra Sinn Leaves Porn
On the Joni talk show, ex-porn actresses come forward to share their experiences on what drove them into the porn industry, how it impacted their lives and what drove them out.
Just links:
Here is a site that has testimonies from lots of porn stars. The site is run by an ex pornstar who has dedicated her life to helping the women in the industry.
Here is an article about Linda Lovelace, star of Deep Throat, basically the first pornography film, talking about how the film was her being raped, and the other atrocities she went through in the porn industry.
Here is a video of a talk show where three porn actresses speak out against the industry and tell their stories. I can assure you, these are not extreme cases. This is the average life of porn stars.
Here has great information on the porn industry, and if you scroll down to Porn and the Performer, you can read statistics about the porn industry and porn actresses and what they suffer through.
Here is some facts about porn from Shelley Lubbens website.
How porn harms the economy
How porn harms relationships
How porn harms gay men
How porn harms gay women
How porn harms POC
Stop Porn Culture’s FAQ
400+ dead porn stars obituaries
more databases on dead porn stars
More testimonies
100+ stories
anti porn documentaries
DianaRussell.com
Shelley Lubben.com (Ex porn-star helping other porn stars)
Shelley Lubben’s MySpace Website
List of Dead Porn Stars and How They Died
Where My Ladies At (About porn and it’s connection to hip hop and rap.)
Feminist Fred: A Place for Men to Learn about Feminism (Also home of Pornsick Pat)
Compulsion Solutions
Internet Pornography Statistics (InternetFilterReview.com)
Porn and Sex Industry Statistics (Enough is Enough.)
Pornography and Sex Trade Statistics (Most thorough and documented.)
PBS Documentary “Porn In America”. Full video and lots of information.
XXX Family Values: ABC Primetime Show about Porn Star Sunny Lane. (Sunny’s parents are her managers. Transcript and video clip at link.)
ABC Primetime Interview with Porn Star Belladonn (Tells the harsh truth about porn.)
Porn Profits: Corporate America’s Secret (ABC Primetime Show.)
Anti-Pornography and Prostitution Research Group (Japan)
Pornography: Creating Demand for International Sex Trafficking (By Shared Hope International)
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And also, have some testimonials from previous porn stars:
Wow, you type fast!
As someone who just got out of the online industry(aka camming) the one that hit me hardest was Jenna Presley describing that she no longer was herself and she was her alter ego. I spent a better part of the last five years in that same place. I was constantly having to switch between my personas and eventually I just felt like no one. My true self took a backseat but I kept saying “that’s just work! that’s just how it is! im fine!” When NOTHING about my life was fine. That’s such a danger that almost no one talks about. What I’ve seen in the industry the last year+ is a major escalation of accessibility. Now you can join the porn industry from your bedroom! It’s easy! It’s fun! I’m seeing girls show up and explode into popularity at the age of 18 without leaving their house because they’d seen it for years before they should. Your favorite YouTuber is doing it! It’s cool! It’s talked about in Teen Vogue and CosmoGirl and on open public extremely accessible platforms and girls are just jumping right in before they’re even close to real adulthood.
But how many of us were miserable but just couldn’t stand the thought of someone telling us we were wrong?
reblog EVERY time
now THIS is a masterpost
massive trigger warning for this whole thread, but i encourage young folks, esp teen girls, who watch pornography, think kink shaming is the worst, think men choking/strangling women is sexy as fuck, think daddy kink is great, think the obsession with pia in porn and the hyperfocus on penile entry is just good sex, etc to read all of this
adding this from leztempsrouler from elsewhere in the comment threads (who is in the prostitution industry as a stripper)
“I personally see the effects of “good men” who watch porn at my job every day. Fathers who come in and say I look like their daughter and then ask me to fuck them. Men who think they want to try BDSM from watching porn and go ahead and yank me by my hair to the floor with no warning. Men who assume I’ll do whatever they want because porn shows women willing and able to do whatever twisted shit they want. Please get off your fucking high horse about how much “research” you’ve done and how you’ve always been respectful to women even though you watch porn. You can see the testimonies of HUNDREDS of porn stars who were raped daily on set and were forced to say it was consentual. Like honestly shut your mouth and listen to the women telling you FROM EXPERIENCE how disgusting porn is and what it does to women. And if you still want to watch porn after hearing all this and ignoring all of our suffering then yes you are personally evil and I hope you are offended.”
I wish I knew enough to really add to this. what I can say is that I’m a kid. a freshman in high school. and this shit starts young. one of my best friends was sexually abused and manipulated starting in seventh grade. he was only a few months older than her. another of my close friends watch repeatedly raped by her cousin when she was nine and he was 14. I just got out of a relationship with an 18 yo with an unhealthy obsession with ddlg. the type of guy who thinks the type of shit that happens in porn is just part of sex
I only have a few friends who can honestly say they’ve never directly experienced the effects of porn, especially violent porn, on teenagers. and even then, they can name so many more.
we’re sorry. we’re doing our best out here but we don’t have enough money to effect widespread cultural and political change.
Using porn to regain equilibrium
Last night I found myself at a comedy club where one comedian was like, “who here loves porn?” and explained that even when the hot Asian chick with the big booty rejects you at the club, you can still go home and get on pornhub to search up “hot Asian chick with big booty.” I know, what was I doing in this comedy club? I did get up and leave for the rest of his set but when I returned he was telling a story about an Amish woman who was racist towards him so he got on pornhub and looked up “racist Amish girl.” This got me thinking about my old roommate Jeff back in Portland in 1996. Every time Jeff and I would argue about the dishes or cleaning the bathroom, he would take off for the nearest strip club, as if to reset his brain from an argument with a strong female.
Does anyone else have a story about someone using porn specifically to reset their testosterone equilibrium?
If I was excelling in my career my ex would go to strip clubs. I made a lot more money than he did so I’m sure that hurt his manhood
Horrifying
this is disturbing and incredibly creepy. i bet men do this when lesbians reject them
Yeah I’m sure they do
Wow i never heard of this or had this happen but it doesnt suprise me
This is an incredibly alarming and potentially dangerous habit to take up
You encounter someone you get pissed off at - in this case, women.
You look up porn with the intention of it being a stand-in for said women.
You masturbate to said porn, thus paring your hatred and anger for/towards women with positive reinforcement (masturbation).
This isn’t ‘regaining equilibrium’ or whatever bs you tell yourself to make you feel better about your habit. You are literally conditioning yourself to associate hatred and anger WITH your sexual arousal AND women.
DON’T. DO. THIS.
There are guys who masturbate when they’re mad? Like… Why even? That just sounds like a weird, confusing, frustrating time. Can’t they just listen to music or play a video game or something instead?
It’s a foreign concept to me too. Maybe someone can mansplain it to us.
Sex=dominance and control for men.
It’s a rapist’s mindset. Any man who does this is a potential (if not already) rapist.
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How To Teach Your Kids About Gender
How to Use a Male Condom
I just had to explain this to a 24-year-old who has been sexually active for years, so we’re all getting a refresher course in condom use before we give each other fucking gonorrhea. Step One: Acquire a condom. No money? No problem. If you wander close enough to a planned parenthood, someone will throw them at your face. Got money? Good for you. Go buy them. Get them ribbed or studded or kumquat-scented or whatever the hell you kids are into these days. Get them fucking glow-in-the-dark for all I care. Just make sure they fit. And whatever you do, don’t use them after their expiration date and don’t store them in your goddamn wallet. Step Two: Get a willing partner. And I don’t mean like “Yeah, sure, whatever, I guess I’m okay with this” willing. A shrug and an awkward silence isn’t fucking good enough. You need someone with goddamn enthusiasm. You need someone who hungers for your loins like a starving cheetah eyeing a piece of zebra ass. Them begging you for it is optional, but kind of fun. Step Three: Open the condom. Like a human. With your fingers. Ripping it open with your teeth like a starving hyena is not only bad for your teeth, it’s an awesome way to rip a hole in the damn thing. Any sex appeal you might have somehow gotten from chewing the condom open will immediately evaporate when you’re spitting out lube and reaching for a second condom. Just open it properly. Step Four: Figure out which way it goes. Seriously. Condoms aren’t like toilet paper rolls, where there’s a right way and an incorrect-but-I-guess-it-will-do way to put them on. There is one correct way only. Look at it. When you put something hard and penis-shaped into the tip, it should roll right down with minimum effort. Pay attention, because if you put this thing on backwards, there’s no turning it inside-out and trying again - you have to throw that shit out and start over. Step Five: Before you put it on, pinch the reservoir! You know, that little balloon-y tip on the end? Pinch it. Push out all the air, and hold it. Your condom should have less air than the surface of the moon. Forgetting to pinch the reservoir is a recipe for a broken condom, and nobody has the time or energy to deal with that shit. Step Six: Roll it on. Stick it on the head of the penis, and roll it down until the whole shaft is covered. Penis not erect? You’re not ready for a condom, play with it a little and try again. Accidentally put in on backwards? Throw that shit out and start again. Condom doesn’t roll down without yanking on it? It’s too small, throw that shit out and get a different size. Condom fitting too loosely and not staying put? It’s too big, throw that shit out and get a different size. Were you actually in need of a female condom? Throw the male one out and get the right one. Step Seven: Have at it. Do the thing. If you feel the condom slipping or if it comes off completely, you need to stop immediately and go back to steps one to three. Do not pass Go. Do not collect $200. And if one of you changes your mind about continuing, you stop right the fuck now. Immediately. Step Eight: When you’re done, the person wearing the condom has to grab it by the base, and pull it all the way out. You’re gonna go soft after that, and if you let the condom slip off before you’re all the way out, then you just let a lot of package-opening and rubber-unrolling skills go to waste. And once you do take it off, wrap it up in toilet paper and toss it in the trash - don’t you dare flush it, your plumbing will not be happy with you. So that’s it, folks. That’s how you put a condom on a penis that needs to have a condom on it. Play safe out there, people.
This piece about slut-shaming is some kind of expansion of this post and companion to this post about prude-shaming. None of my stuff is ever intended to be totally comprehensive or the last word on any subject. For example, in this piece I didn’t even have a chance to talk explicitly about gender, or mention intersections with race, or overlaps with rape culture, or the way slut- and prude-shaming work together to create a terrible double-bind. But if you follow SexEdPlus, maybe I’ll get to some of that stuff later!
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normalize sex education and sex curiosity
normalize the idea that anyone can rape or abuse someone if they’re not educated on how to not do those things
normalize infinite diversity in sexuality and allowing people to define what sex means to them
normalize having boring adult conversations about sex with your partner!!
destigmatize STD’s and normalize their treatment and discussion.
normalize talking about cheating, open relationships, polyamory, and monogamy
We are proud to announce our partnership with Sophie Labelle of @assignedmale in the creation of sex ed materials for trans youth. “Inclusive” sexual education is not enough, we need quality sex ed made by us, for us!
“No” ≠ “convince me.”
Don’t try to convince people out of their boundaries.
Arguing someone out of a plainly stated boundary isn’t romantic and it’s not proof of caring or passion, it’s pressure and it’s disrespectful.
Don’t say “no” if you do mean “convince me”.
You’re allowed to say, “I’m not sure. Convince me?” or “Help me decide. What are some reasons you think I/we should do this?”
A respectful person will hear “no” and believe that you mean it, because you know your needs and desires better than they do.
In healthy relationships, people communicate their boundaries without having to convince the other person that they are allowed to set each boundary.
When the people around you respond to a “no” as though it is a “convince me”, you may be pressured into situations you don’t want.
You may eventually feel uncomfortable setting boundaries at all if you know you will have to argue about it each time.
A “yes” given reluctantly/as a response to pressure isn’t real consent, it is just a survival tactic in the face of someone who will not accept a “no”.
Refusing to let another person set boundaries without arguing with you about it each time is abusive.
“No” and “convince me” are two different answers.
Infographic I made for my feminism final!
This took a ridiculous amount of time but I’m very proud of it! Feel free to share!!
Meet the amazing clitoris! I learned so much about this incredible fun-loving structure, most of which is located inside the body, snuggled around the base of the bladder and uterus. It’s more than meets the eye!
New Clitoris pins coming to the store this week!
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