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[cute-st]

Rescued Guinean migrants recount Tunisia "nightmare"

Through sobs and sighs, a visibly exhausted Ibrahima Barry and Dame Mariama Barry recount their journey home to Guinea from Tunisia after Pr

TW: anti-blackness

[cute-st]

Why is it always “Would you date a Black Girl?” and never asking Black Girls, “Would you date _____?”. I’m sorry but why are we assuming that a Black Girl would date the men they ask this question to and if so where does this come from because I’m confused 😐

I’m reminded of an article when a Brown boy was highlighting his marriage and the title was “We don’t date Black people” but speaking as a West African I know that my family also wouldn’t be too happy if I brought home a Brown Man but no one’s going to highlight that are they? and that’s why I regularly describe the world as “fake” or “agenda based” on my blog because it wants to position Black Women in a certain space almost as punishment for our choices/ behaviour/inaccessibility. There’s this weird imaginary rejection surrounding Black Girls around who would and wouldn’t date them (the real reasons for the latter are rarely expressed but I digress…) but is your average Black Woman checking for these men? You and I know that this is not the case. Next time we ask this question, can we check if there’s a Black Woman willing to date him first ?🤣😒

[lookupmedicalmisogyny]

Elderly women are an extremely important demographic for feminism. If a woman cannot be childless and then live comfortably taken care of in her old age, then there is still coercive incentive for children. Social security and elderly womens programs are very important.

[cute-st]

“As a Black Woman you can’t rely on this world to tell you who you are. You need to stop seeking validation from this world because it is not going to tell you the truth about who you are and if you base your choices on what others tell you, you are unlikely to reach your full potential as a Black Woman.” - OTN

Source: Narratives are Ruining Black Women’s Lives | Be Careful About What You Internalize

[jennifersbod]

anyway normalize women not wanting children as a happy ending

[animentality]

[swagpaws]

god i hate how normalized diet culture and shit like bmi and calories are. bmi is based on eugenics. calories are a measurement of how much energy something gives u and not at all of how much weight or fat ull gain. diets have been proven to be harmful and ultimately unhelpful in actually losing weight. fatness has been largely proven to not be inherently unhealthy and doesnt inherently cause health issues.

if anyone has more good links to add on then please do and if anyone knows more on this stuff than me then dont hesitate to correct me!

[more-beanies]

FOOD IS GOOD. FOOD IS GOOD. FOOD IS GOOD!! if you’re eating, ever, and even/especially if it’s hard, know that i am personally SO SO proud of you

[normal-horoscopes]

The BMI was invented by Adolphe Quetelet, the 19th century statistician who invented phrenologist anthropometry. He wasn't just a eugenicist, he was one of the founding fathers of racist pseudoscience. Please do not listen to anything he has to say about your body.

[uglymelon]

“And get this: While epidemiologists use BMI to calculate national obesity rates (nearly 35 percent for adults and 18 percent for kids), the distinctions can be arbitrary. In 1998, the National Institutes of Health lowered the overweight threshold from 27.8 to 25—branding roughly 29 million Americans as fat overnight—to match international guidelines. But critics noted that those guidelines were drafted in part by the International Obesity Task Force, whose two principal funders were companies making weight loss drugs.”

Source: https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2014/08/why-bmi-big-fat-scam/

Why BMI is a big fat scam

Body mass index is used to sell weight loss drugs, set insurance premiums, and counsel patients. There's just one little problem.

[female-uncle]

I think women should stop posting our selfies online tbh. For one thing, people can now generate porn out of you with a push of a button. For another, it is free labor we are doing that inevitably will become wank material for a man. I think a women's strike needs to be taken to the digital world and this would be a great way to start.

[thefiresontheheight]

A woman not shaving or wearing a dress or wearing makeup or wearing femme clothes or having styled or long hair or caring how she looks or using a masc name or whatever else is actually a neutral thing and not a sign of her being depressed or giving up or being sad or whatever

[rabidwolf2point0]

Something that gets overlooked in the discourse about women who struggle to connect with women and get along better with men is that they typically aren’t good at connecting with ANYONE… its like when people say they LOVE animals, but hate people. That man is going to laugh at your jokes no matter what and that dog is going to beg for a scrap regardless of who’s at the table. If you can’t connect with other women, it’s not that other women are opaque and inconsistent. You are just gravitating towards a predictable source of social validation. Tragically the same shallow nature of connections with men that make them easy to access also stalls development, of relationships and of skills

[artemissreborn]

One of the points that drew me to the Blackpill/Separatist/Women's Liberation posts was the tenant that you may not care if male violence and depravity is socialized or innate, you just know you do not want to deal with it in your life. And you are free to live a life separate from them, and by extension, women who want to enmesh their lives with males, despite the clear risks.

These were also posts that said, point blank, you don't need to feel guilty for that and that you don't owe these women anything. They often choose to live with and around males, despite knowing the same statistics and facts about male violence and crime we do.

We are free to judge, and we are free to live in a way that prioritizes our safety and peace.

[zyei]

truth. not feeling the need to shoulder other women's burdens freed me from the validation cycle that so many women willingly spend their energy on. i could never make their behavior make sense so i spent ages going around and around with them when, if anything, the women i was speaking to hated me more than their selfish-loser-sexpest men because i had the gall to tell them they didn't need to put up with the bullshit and to be walking the walk (hence i never had any selfish-loser-sexpest rants to go on in turn to reassure them that their behavior was acceptable). me and hetpartnered women are both happier for my not telling them they can do better. i still identify as a feminist in that women's economic and social freedoms benefit myself and other sovereign women but anyone choosing to put their neck under the boot... have at it. i'm not fighting you to get you free.

[criptochecca]

Also dykes look so boring in tv shows i wanna see shows with lesbians that look like this

[veri-bright]

Exactly! Where’s the immersion and personality?!

[limeade-l3sbian]

Oh, I can answer! They are mad uncomfortable with butches and studs who know they're womyn and don't want to propagate independence from gender roles and male validation. So to display them with layers of personality would imply there is a world beyond what is often sold to us. And in that place, you can retain your objective state of being as well as explore avenues of personal interests that misalign with their agenda. So you will mostly be given they/thems, he/hims, dead by the end independents, and (intentionally) poorly designed "queer" characters meant to repulse outsiders with cringe and inspire shame in those being represented, driving them to distance themselves from the caricature of representation. And, subsequently, the community.

Also, they think dykes are stinky.

[anonymusbosch]

People often react to the phrase "carbon footprint" with something about how it's coined by the fossil fuel industry to direct blame from producers to consumers, but I think there's still something extremely valuable about looking at emissions per capita -

graph one: total CO2 emissions, NOT per capita, by region. By 2020, China, the US, the EU, India, and Russia are the largest players, with the entire rest of the world barely surpassing China's emissions.

Graph two: The same regions but weighted per capita.

The US is unique in being extremely emissions-intense per capita while also being large and wealthy. This graph doesn't count emissions generated in China to produce goods shipped to America - it counts those under China's emissions.

[probuccalfat]

i cannot emphasize enough how important it is that you should ideally give birth in a fully equipped and staffed medical facility or if you insist on giving birth through an alternative method you should be within minutes of a hospital and i mean under 5 minutes if you’d like me to be really fucking frank

[probuccalfat]

like i can get on board with so much feminist theory and stuff, truly, and i do acknowledge that obstetrics and gynaecology as a field holds blind spots that are egregious (e.g. infant and maternal mortality in the black community) but there is no empowerment in risky birthing practices that our foremothers, and i’m not mincing words, often suffered through. birthing is natural, but it is not “easy” or even “innate”, it is best practiced guided and witnessed by those that know what to do in an emergency. you are not reconnecting to any innate feminine nature by practicing dangerous birthing practices—you are recreating a time when the bodies and lives of women barely mattered and it was expected that death would/could occur at insane and tragic rates.

[probuccalfat]

this is a hill i will spend the rest of my days fighting on because while i am not interested in birthing children myself, i have an incredible passion and interest in the field of labour and delivery. it’s been one of my greatest joys to play even a small part in delivering neonates. i do not want anyone to risk their babies over a deeply, deeply misguided idea of free birth being “the natural way” when natural is not always synonymous with the safest way.

[anarchohellenism]

So many people think it's either midwife or doctor. It's not. Have your midwife or doula in the hospital room with you, I promise the doctors don't give a shit. Hell, you can have her do the delivery itself and just have the doctors there as emergency backup! But for the love of your baby, go to the fucking hospital.

[probuccalfat]

yup. a lot of hospitals are willing to work with you to realize your birthing plan as much as they can within safe limits and parameters. my hospital is closely and highly allied with midwives all up and down the coast, with the explicit instruction to call the midwife when we know a labouring patient is about to deliver so we can respect their plan. genuinely, you can have almost any kind of birth you want—just make sure that there are qualified professionals in attendance, and it’s not just midwives or OBGYNS you need. you have no idea when you’ll need a respiratory therapist on call, you have no idea when you will need a blood transfusion within minutes or risk certain death, L&D nurses do not have the same training as NICU nurses if a baby declines rapidly. it’s a literal thousand things that can go wrong and you should be in the best place for them to go wrong.

[sailyourshipsaroundme]

People do not realize just HOW FAST things can go sideways in childbirth. My own experience under the cut:

My firstborn came out after a textbook delivery and right as we were basking in those first few minutes of meeting, I started to feel Bad and Weird out of nowhere. The medical team jumped into action so quickly that I had no idea what was happening until it was over. They never specified the amount of blood that I lost, but I the look on my husband's face told me it was a lot.

If I hadn't given birth in a hospital, I would have hemorrhaged to death before even getting to give my child a name. If my secondborn had not been a c-section, my OB/GYN did not mince words when she said there was a real possibility of one or both of us having major complications or dying. I survived giving birth twice. My babies are now big, healthy kids. I don't take that for granted.

Nature wants the species to continue. It does not give a shit about you specifically.

[hagiomoto]

The growing popularity of home births in the US in particular have everything to do with... systemic antiblackness and racism in American hospitals.

If you want people to return to the hospital, you need to make hospitals less racist.

[starlightshadowsworld]

A 30 year old Sudanese man in Belfast was charged with attempted murder by stabbing and it has unsurprisingly sparked racist riots across the city.

Migrant homes are being set on fire and people are having to be evacuated into emergency accommodation. With the youngest being a 2 month old baby. It doesn’t stop there either, their cars are being set ablaze and migrant owned businesses are being destroyed.

Schools are sending pupils back home because they’re afraid of more violence breaking out.

It’s just…I don’t even have words for it you know. I do hope the victim is able to heal and get justice for what happened to them.

But it doesn’t warrant this.

Why is it when one white person does something wrong it’s only the individual who gets punished. But if the perpetrator happens to be of the global majority then we’re all punished for it.

It’s not all men but somehow it’s all Black people, all immigrants, all Asians etc.

People are being burned out of their homes and for what? No one whose participating in this violence is doing it cause they care about the victim.

They’re just using a tragedy as fuel for their racist bullshit. It fits their narrative so they’re going to go to town and do what they have always wanted to do.

But now suddenly feel they have a pass for.

If you’re BAME in Belfast I hope things will be okay for you. I hope all the violence dies down and you can rebuild what you’ve lost. God I can’t even say stay indoors anymore because that’s not even safe anymore.

Who does this protect? Who feels safe seeing all of this? I guarantee no one does.

[petewentzisblack1312]

we do have to contend with the fact that the reason there is this like perpetual conflation funnel that turns aave and other black dialects into 'gen z slang' and memes and the reason non black performers keep putting on blaccents and the reason pictures of black people just existing gets turned into memes is the same and its because its all minstrelsy.

[nuancecomprehender]

my life isnt perfect but at least im not doing a mans laundry