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AL • butch leatherdyke • late 20s • fat • disabled • butch4butch • wear a mask • 🍉

[sharps-al]

2026.

Year of the fist

Year of the scalpel

Year of piss

[rvnrgrv]

Untitled (Tony) triptych by Robert Mapplethorpe,1973.

[femmeespeon]

“san francisco 1990”

photo credit: tanzerphoto (reddit)

[sharps-al]

hey out of curiosity is it.. safe ??? to put stinging nettle on genetalia ?? like my automatic thought is. yeast infection. or some kind of other medical side effect which like if you're comfy with that thats you, but i was just curious

It depends on what safe means to you and what risks you are or aren't willing to take. Everyone's body is going to react differently to different kinds of play, especially when you get into things chemical play!

Some things that I have done to mitigate risk with nettles specifically is to do a test patch before more prolonged contact (did this before my first time to ensure I wasn't like Actually really allergic), take a shower after a scene, and if it's really uncomfortable afterwards I can take an antihistamine (but I like lasting effects after scenes and having marks for my tops to fuck with so I don't usually do that last one).

My leathersex is risk aware, not risk averse. I know generally what my body can take and what it can't, I have a sense of what risks I'd be okay having actually happen as a result of my play. I discuss with my tops/doms the components of that and we make decisions based on both of our risk tolerances. And, I know that there are things I cannot know about before they happen because bodies are unpredictable and the leathersex I have does have risk to it!

What I need around risk in play is a security that my partner and I have plans in place for dealing with consequences and that we trust one another to hold each other and support each other if something does go wrong. If you don't have that with a play partner - do not pass go!

So, could I get some kind of yeast infection from nettles on clit? Maybe. I could also just... get a yeast infection from existing. And I would have tools to manage it either way. Could I have gotten some other kind of weird medical side effect? Totally possible, my body loves to do weird shit! But I can't control every aspect of my play, and I and my partners understand that other consequences may happen that we can't initially predict. So, for me, that wasn't a reason to not do the play itself.

Bottom line, know your body, talk to your partner, make some plans for if something goes wrong, and know that leathersex can be unpredictable even when you are thoughtful and intentional about planning your scenes. And keep having freaky, fucked up fun!

[fatartappreciation]

Lift (2017) by artist Erin Sandsmark

[sanrio-stud]

put ya armpit on the phone i miss her

[podcastlesbian]

Reposting from onehandedpress's bluesky account for bigger reach (link to original post).

[pam3pr]

Powerhouse bar scene, SOMA, 1347 Folsom Street San Francisco 1992

[sharps-al]

Happy leaf torture season to all who celebrate 🍃

Spent an hour hiking to pick the nettles and an hour and a half getting edged by my beautiful butch wife with nettles on tits and cunt while watching Bound. Woke up to a text from another one of my butches saying she's been thinking about putting nettles on my clit 🖤

As usual, everyone say thank you butch sadists.

[giveherswords]

Phyllis Christopher. Michou & Cooper, Alley South of Market, San Francisco, CA, 1997. Silver gelatin print

[scythesfordykes]

‘tribe 8’ (1997) by chloe sherman

[bsidebutch]

[mescalinecowboy]

send a piss video so i know u got home safe

[fromthebloodychamber]

My friend did such beautiful work on me today <3

[marcelshorjian]

anatomy of a humiliation

[adorned-femme]

I think a lot of the people coming to our events don’t understand that they aren’t yet part of the leather scene

it’s not just kink

it’s not just an aesthetic

it’s not just a party at a bar you show up to once a month

leather is a distinct culture & it’s highly community based

if you aren’t showing in solidarity for our local Onyx chapter or our bootblack guild, learning our history and talking to our elders, talking to the leather folks who are different from you, or showing any interest in engaging in community outside wearing your doc martens & amazon dot com bulldog harness to a bar to play pool (with the friends you came with), sorry babes but that’s not leather!!

don’t show up to our space and be disrespectful to fat butches, trans women, and bipoc leather folks. I can see when you are only talking to other skinny white people.

don’t show up to our space and side eye the leathermen at the leatherdyke event who have been allies to us, even when we weren’t in the room. we personally invited them, you just saw a flyer on the internet.

don’t show up to our space if you don’t want to learn and do the work outside the bar. it’s not cute to be incurious about the community whose event you are entering.

we vet for a reason, we are watching the new folks.

I don’t want to see our culture get diluted because we created more visible entry points.

[d3monl0ver]

bike chains, severely underutilized impact toy!