Notice: The following post mentions adult content, acephobia, and creepy behavior.
I made a lot of adults mad for a dumb reason. Someone on Threads made a “joke” about how “Gen Z is just opposed to sex scenes in movies nowadays.” I wanted to get my views out, so I left a comment saying that I just don’t like it and it makes me feel uncomfortable in the tone of “I’m Gen Z, but I don’t like it for no reason.”
A good number of adults got angry. They told me to grow up. They told me “they had bad news” if I ever wanted kids and said “how do you think you’re alive” as gotcha cards. They tried to get me to change my mind, especially by watching adult scenes in movies to “see how beneficial they are.” They said it was not normal to find it gross. They told me “you do like it, you just haven’t found the right person yet.” They told me I was broken and needed to be fixed.
I am 21 years old and I do not like adult content. It makes me uncomfortable and I think it’s gross. This, my current feelings, and looking at my past feelings has led me to question if I am asexual, where one feels no or some sexual attraction. But unfortunately, there are adults who don’t get that and think that all adults love getting off; regardless if they’re ace or not. These are phenomena known as allonormativity and compulsory sexuality. Allonormativity is the assumption that every person experiences sexual attraction. Compulsory sexuality is the expectation that everyone must like sex.
Not every single adult has the same way of thinking and feeling.
What really sticks out is that most or all of these comments were left by men. Men who don’t get that not every woman wants spice and just can’t keep their feelings to themselves. One just couldn’t get it and kept saying “if you don’t like it, you’re broken and need therapy,” is dying on that hill, and is never going to be convinced otherwise. I told them I was done arguing with them in a way that meant “FUCK OFF. LEAVE ME ALONE” and they haven’t replied since. Personally, I believe that the hateful comments aren’t just a lack of understanding and bullying, but fall under acephobia. As the name implies, acephobia is the hatred towards those who are asexual and on the asexual spectrum. Them wanting me to change my mind shows they want me to do what they want for their desires and is an eyebrow raiser.
Thankfully, there were people calling out the creepy behavior of those people and told them that they shouldn’t be concerned about someone’s life and opinions, that they shouldn’t be forcing their lifestyle onto someone else, and that doing so is strange behavior. Someone even said the behavior was rapey. Some callouts were left by (fellow) aces who said that they found adult stuff disgusting, too. There were friendly people who understood and said that my feelings were okay, which is great.
I know that sex is a natural part of life and that people do it, I am not denying that at all. I’m not a person who thinks it’s sinful. I know it happens, I know it exists, but I don’t like it. Two things can coexist.
People are weird and mean sometimes, and their rude behavior should be called out; especially if they give off the vibes that they are dangerous. People need to learn how to mind their business.