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“Old people believe all that bullshit Fake News on their facebook home,” say I, a tumblr youth™, as I reblog an indignant social justice-flavoured post from mic dot com without fact checking.
BTW, mic dot com has multiple tumblrs and some of them are as follows:
micdotcom
the-future-now
the-movemnt
this-is-life-actually
And if you aren’t already aware, they are a shit company that uses its indignant social justice-flavored posts for clicks even as they do things like fire their four-months-pregnant Connections editor the week after her wedding, without warning. AFTER RUNNING A STORY ABOUT HOW THE USA NEEDS BETTER MATERNITY LEAVE/PROTECTIONS.
This, after they DID NOT fire the guy who lied about a death in his family so he could go build a treehouse and blog about it.
Also 99% of their ~top notch news~ is Huffington Post-style aggregation and NOT original reporting.
SO. Side-eye anything and everything you see by them, because there’s a good chance it’s just clickbait.
Thanks for putting out their other blogs, I’ve seen the eye-rolling shit from the-movement already.
Don’t forget blatant misinformation they put out
The founder is also former Goldman Sachs.
somehow it is five thirty in the morning, i am sober, wide awake, and so goddamn hungry. this is like, the opposite of my intended plan.
at least shans of a few hours ago made sure there was also a box of cheez-its on the table. which i am now eating.
tbh that is when I'm at my hungriest. Bodies are dumb.
Reblog if you ARE a woman in STEM, SUPPORT women in STEM, or ARE STILL BITTER about Rosalind Franklin not getting credit for discovering the structure of DNA and the Nobel prize going to Watson and Crick instead.
Funny Story...
So I was at the pharmacy and needed to ask one of the pharmacists some questions about my birth control as I had switched to a new medication. I walk over to the consultation window, pills in hand, and some man arrives at the pick-up window, which is right next to it.
Because at least one mention of menstruation is necessary to discussions about the pill, I unashamedly started to talk to the female pharmacist who was no more uncomfortable than I in getting my questions answered.
However, the man at the window seemed offended by my concerns about my feminine health, saying as an aside to the person behind him that “there is a time and a place for that gutter talk”.
NO FUCKING SHIT, MISTER. THIS IS THE FUCKING PLACE. I thought to myself, mortified not because of the conversation but because this man thought he ought to shame me for this. I exchange a look with the pharmacist, who seems to be having the same thought. Raising her voice slightly above what was considered necessary in a quiet CVS, she pressed for more details on my period, which I happily obliged to supply. And I am POSITIVE the woman assisting him took her damn time just so he would be subjected to imagery about consistency, flow, and duration of my last three periods.
Menstruation is not a dirty word and I will BE DAMNED if a man wants to police it, especially when IT DIRECTLY CONCERNS MY HEALTH, because it makes him feel uncomfortable. I can’t help having a period, but you can help being an ignorant son of a bitch.
100% here for passive aggressive pharmacists who choose their patients health over whiny baby-men behaviour.
just go see an ob-gyn
“Help me, OB-GYN, you’re my only hope!”
22 Things Movies Get Completely Wrong About Mental Illness
Cracked doing the Lord’s work and shedding light on ableism and inaccuracy.
one of these is totally wrong, though, and that bothers me. possibly two.
the OCD one is a little ... uh. no, Monk doesn’t show true tendencies of OCD, but can you really say that people with OCD don’t happen to have a million phobias? a very, very good number of us do.
and the Black Swan one ... I’ve seen many patients just like Nina, and I’ve also been there. I definitely have OCD. I’ve definitely had a psychotic episode. The idea that you couldn’t have both at once because of that sort of black and white thinking is really bad press.
when adults tell teenagers that the dull ache of high school is just a survivable mess that they’re making up to be worse than it is, i think of this:
when i was in sophomore year, i was in an accident and the left side of my face was hit. i sat in the emergency room with a clearly broken nose and blood coming out of a laceration on my cheek. and i did my homework. i did my homework with a black eye swelling up, with little red fingerprints on it.
and he told me to redo it. that it wasn’t good enough. the assignment itself was worth maybe five points out of a hundred. he wouldn’t forgive me for it. when i explained about my concussion, he told me to do it somewhere dark.
we don’t make it up. the value of our lives becomes almost nothing at all. the quality of living that is allowed is so low that students learn to apply it to themselves. they are useless, unimportant, a machine to figure out problems without any food, sleep, family time. nothing. we call teenagers moody because something in them breaks a little. we don’t say: they are stressed beyond measure and they believe their own physical health is less important than the quality of the product they’re forced to produce. we don’t say: wouldn’t you be moody too?
Why the hell would anyone tell a teenager that. High school could not possibly be made to be worse than it is, because it pretty much couldn’t be any worse without no longer being considered ‘school’ on any level and just outright becoming prison.
The only thing I tell a teenager is “high school was the worst years of my life, except maybe for middle school, it could be even. The only good thing about high school is that it ends.”
The Dictionary Of Autism
/sarcasm: A way of implying that a post is sarcastic as a way of helping out people who have trouble understanding and spotting sarcasm.
#actuallyautistic: A tag here on tumblr where autistic people can talk about things related to being autistic.
AAC: AAC stands for “Augmentative and alternative communication” and it’s a term for ways of communicating that doesn’t include verbal speech. Since many autistic people have trouble with verbal speech, we may need AAC to communicate. Common methods of AAC are sign language, letter boards, the Rapid Prompting Method, picture boards and text-to-speech. (If you want to learn more about the different kinds of AAC, click here to watch an informative video.)
ABA: ABA stands for Applied Behavior Analysis and it is the most common “therapy” for autistic children. It is based on a system of punishments and rewards (do as the therapist say and you get a treat or a break, disobey and you get punished.) It can be compared to old school dog-training but where a dog-trainer usually respects their dogs limits, many autistic children are being forced through 40 hours of ABA a week. The goal of ABA is to make autistic children “indistinguishable from their peers.” This means that the goal is to train, reward and punish autistic children into hiding their autistic traits regardless of the consequences that doing so will have for their mental health and their general well-being. ABA therapists sees “looking an acting in obviously autistic ways” as inherently bad and “passing as neurotypical” as inherently good - so they punish the autistic kids for being themselves in ways that aren’t hurting anyone and reward and praise them when they repress themselves and their autistic traits. Being met with the attitude that your natural self is bad and deserves to get punished really hurts your mental health, and many autistic children who are being put through ABA later develops PTSD. (If you want to read more about ABA and why it’s problematic, click here to find a masterpost on the topic.)
Ableism: Ableism is a term for the discrimination and systemic oppression disabled people face in our society just like racism is a term for the systemic discrimination and oppression that people of color face in our society.
Affective empathy vs cognitive empathy: Cognitive empathy is the ability to read and comprehend people’s emotions from their body language, facial expressions, etc. It’s the ability to look at the non-verbal cues in a persons behavior and get to the conclusion that said person is sad or angry or shy or excited and then act accordingly. Affective empathy is the ability to be emotionally affected by other people’s emotional state. That could mean feeling happy for you friend when she’s achieved something she has worked for in a long while or feeling sad and guilty when you discover that you’ve said or done something that hurt someone else deeply. People often mix them up or simply talk about “empathy” but it’s important to differ between them since it’s possible and not uncommon to have trouble with either affective or cognitive empathy and not the other. Autistic people have trouble with cognitive empathy but we usually have normal to high amounts of affective empathy.
Allistic: A person who isn’t autistic. (Unlike a neurotypical, an allistic person may have other psychiatric diagnoses.)
Aspergers Syndrome: Aspergers is an outdated term for autistic people who speak before the age of three years old. Earlier, Autistic Disorder and Aspergers Syndrome was two different diagnoses - as in, the autistic people who spoke before the age of three and had a normal to an above average IQ were diagnosed with Aspergers, and the autistic people who didn’t were diagnosed with Autistic Disorder. Today, the two diagnoses has been combined under “Autism Spectrum Disorder.”
Aspie: Slang for “Aspergers.”
Aspie supremacists: Autistic people diagnosed with Aspergers who find pride in seeing themselves as “high-functioning” and who look down on autistic people who are more visibly autistic/need more help in their everyday life. They often think that some autistic traits are good or even advantages but that autistic people who are more visibly autistic/can’t fit into society should be cured.
Autism: Autism is a developmental disability which affects about 1% of the global population. Autism affects every aspect of how someone sees, interacts with and experiences the world and it’s not something that you can grow out of or cure. (Click here for an introduction to autism and the different aspects of being autistic.)
Autistic cousins: People who have psychiatric disabilities which have many overlapping traits with autism - one example is people with ADHD.
Autism Speaks (AS): Autism Speaks is a big organization which claims to be a charity working to help and support autistic people - but they do more harm than good. Many of their views, campaigns and acts have been deeply problematic and very harmful and the majority of autistic people despise them. Click here to learn more about the many shitty things Autism Speaks has said and done.
Burnout: Autistic burnout happens when an autistic person has put so much effort and energy into not seeming autistic that they gradually lose the ability to hide the fact that they’re autistic - they run out of steam, so to say. They may lose skills and abilities that they used to have, they may go nonverbal, and they may have more meltdowns/shutdowns. Many autistic people who were put through ABA “therapy” and thus were trained to hide their autism from early childhood later go through autistic burnout when their brain and body no longer has the energy keep up the act. To avoid autistic burnout, make sure to give yourself some time and space to be your natural autistic self. (If you want to learn more about autistic burnout, click here to watch an informative video.)
Central Auditory Processing Disorder: People with auditory processing disorder have trouble processing verbal speech - their ears work fine, but their brains don’t manage to process what is being said. This means that while they technically hear the words that are being spoken, they may not understand them and they will thus simply hear incomprehensible sounds. (If you want to learn more about Central Auditory Processing Disorder, click here to watch an informative video.)
Cureism/Cure Culture: A supporter of cureism/cure culture thinks that autism should be cured - that the individual autistic person should be fixed so that they fit into our current society. People who oppose cureism think that we should instead change society so that there’s room for autistic people.
Disability: A disabled person is someone whose brain or body can’t do everything that a brain/body in our society is expected to do. (Click here for an informative video on how autism is a disability.)
Dyspraxia: Dyspraxia is a condition affecting physical co-ordination and movement that causes a person to perform less well than expected for their age in daily activities. Dyspraxic people may have trouble with things like tying their shoelaces and getting around without bumping into things - they’re usually very clumsy and bad at tasks which requires a lot of coordination. Many autistic people are dyspraxic.
Echolalia: Echolalia is a form of stimming where you repeat words and sentences because you like the way they sound, because it calms you, or because you like the repetition and sensory input that it provides.
Executive dysfunction (EF): Executive functioning is what allows us to go from thinking about or wanting to do something to actually doing it, it’s what makes us able to keep the different steps required to complete a task straight in our heads and it’s what makes us able to plan and focus on different tasks. Autistic people often have trouble with executive functioning which makes many everyday tasks that most people can just do without thinking twice about it really hard. Imagine that you want to do laundry but your brain doesn’t automatically come up with the steps required to complete the task - take the laundry basket to the washing machine, open the washing machine, put clothes into the washing machine, add soap, etc - instead you’re just standing there, knowing that you somehow have to go from dirty laundry to clean clothes without knowing how to go about it. This is a problem for many autistic people which makes many everyday tasks hard or impossible to do without help. We may need someone to prompt us to do what we need to do or we may need someone to talk us through the steps or we may need visual or written instructions which illustrate the steps required to complete a certain task. Executive dysfunction is the main reason why many autistic people have trouble with basic, everyday tasks that most people their age can easily do without help. (If you want to learn more about executive dysfunction, click here to watch an informative video.)
Functioning labels: Functioning labels means separating autistic people into rigid categories of “high-functioning” and “low functioning” or “mild” and “severe.” Functioning labels to more harm than good, not just because they aren’t able to give you an accurate impression of how much support an autistic person needs - but because they’re instead mainly used to either silence or invalidate autistic people. Autistic people who speak up about the issues concerning them are labelled “high-functioning” to invalidate what they have to say as being inaccurate and irrelevant for other autistic people and so-called “low-functioning” autistic people are being silenced and spoken over because they are written off as too ‘low-functioning’ to have nuanced, relevant opinions or even communicate at all. Instead oi calling autistic people high- or low functioning, mention the specific ability/lack of ability that you’re referring to - if they’re nonverbal, say that instead of calling them low-functioning and if they’re able to work a normal job, say that instead of calling them high-functioning. (If you want to learn more about functioning labels and why they’re problematic, click here to find a masterpost on the topic.)
Happy flapping: A form of stimming which includes flapping the hands or arms to express happiness - an expression of happiness which is common in autistic people.
Hyperfocus: Being able to focus so much on something that you forget everything else around you - you may forget to eat, sleep and go to the bathroom and you may not notice what goes on around you because your brain is so focused on what you’re doing.. Autistic people often hyperfocus on their special interests.
Infodumping: Infodumping means dumping a lot of information on someone about a topic that you know a lot about. Autistic people often infodump about their special interests.
Meltdowns/Shutdowns: Shutdowns and meltdowns are both responses to extreme distress - they’re often caused by unpleasant, overwhelming sensory input that the autistic person in question is unable to escape, but they can also be caused by strong negative emotions. A meltdown is an outward reaction to said distress where a shutdown is an inwards reaction. An autistic person having a meltdown is a person who has reached a point where they are no longer in control of their own body - they’re experiencing and flight or fight response, so to say. An autistic person may scream, lash out, cry, smash things and run away during a meltdown. Shutdowns are another possible respons to a similar situation - during those, the autistic person may become unresponsive, locked in place, unable to talk, etc. You should never get mad at autistic people or hold them responsible for having meltdowns and shutdowns - they’ve reached a place where they’re so distressed that they’re losing control of themselves and instead of distressing them further, you should help them escape or resolve what’s causing the distress - after you have given them plenty of time to calm down and recover, that is. (Click here to learn more about shutdowns and click here to learn more about meltdowns.)
Neuroatypical: Someone who has one of more psychiatric diagnoses - someone whose brain/neurology is different from most peoples. .
Neurodivergent: Someone who has one or more psychiatric diagnoses - someone whose brain/neurology is different from most peoples.
Neurodiversity: Supporters of the neurodiversity movement think that we should stop seeing people whose brains work differently from the norm as “wrong” and “defective” and that we should instead see them as “different - not less”. Instead of seeing neurotypical brains as “good” and neurodivergent brains as “bad” we should instead accept and celebrate the big diversity in how human brains work and make sure that our society is open to and inclusive of all kinds of brains. (If you want to learn more about Neurodiversity, click here to watch an informative video.)
Neurotypical: A person who doesn’t have any psychiatric diagnoses - someone whose brain/neurology is “typical.”
Nonverbal: Nonverbal means “unable to speak verbally.” Many autistic people have trouble with verbal speech - often we don’t think in words/have trouble thinking in words, at other points executive dysfunction (in this case: how to go from thinking a sentence to actually saying it out loud) gets in our way. Some autistic people are nonverbal all the time and never learn how to speak verbally, other autistic people may go nonverbal when they’re stressed, upset or tired but are otherwise able to speak.
Passing: If you pass as neurotypical, nobody can tell that you have a psychiatric diagnosis just by looking at/interacting with you. For most autistic people passing takes a lot of effort and we need breaks were we get to be our authentic autistic selves. (If you want to learn more about passing as neurotypical, click here to watch an informative video.)
Pressure stimming: A form of stimming which consists of applying pressure to different parts of your body. You can pressure stim with tight hugs, weighted pads/blankets, by squeezing into tight places, by having someone lie on you, by sitting on your legs/feet and in many other ways.
Professional diagnosis vs self-diagnosis: A professionally diagnosis is made by a psychiatrist. A self-diagnosis is made by yourself after months or years of research into the different aspects of the diagnosis that you think might fit your symptoms.
Scripting: Scripting means preparing what to say before saying it, either by writing it down or by repeating it to yourself. Many autistic people use scripting because we can have trouble with putting our thoughts into words and because we thus often need some time to figure out exactly what to say and how to say it. (If you want to learn more about scripting, click here to watch an informative video.)
Sensory hell: An unpleasant sensory situation. Many autistic people might for example find a room with a lot of rowdy, smelly, shouting people and blinking, fluorescent lights to be sensory hell.
Sensory overload: Autistic people and people with Sensory Processing Disorder sometimes experience sensory overload - that means that one or more of their senses become so overloaded that they lose the ability to focus and function. Sensory overload can be caused by any kind of sensory input - loud sounds, bright/blinking lights, strong smells, spicy food, touch - and if the autistic person doesn’t manage to get away from what’s overloading them, it may lead to a meltdown or a shutdown.
Sensory Processing Disorder: Sensory Processing Disorder is a part of being autistic, but it can also exist independently of autism. People with sensory processing disorder are either over- or under-sensitive to different sensory input. People who are over-sensitive (hypersensitive) may have trouble tolerating sensory input that most people can easily tolerate, ignore or block out and they may be really stressed out by and upset about things like loud sounds, strong smells, particular tastes, being touched and bright lights. People who are under-sensitive (hyposensitive) may seek out loud music, blinking lights, bright colors, physical touch, spicy food, strong smells and activities which provide physical activity and deep pressure to get their need for sensory input met. It’s common for our sensitivity to fluctuate - a sensory input which causes pain on a bad day may be fun on a good day. (If you want to learn more about Sensory Processing Disorder, click here to watch an informative video.)
The Social Model of Disability vs The Medical Model of Disability: The Social and the Medical Model of Disability is two different ways of seeing disability in relation to our society. Supporters of the Medical Model of Disability sees disability as an individual fault/responsibility - as in, it’s up to the individual disabled person to find accommodations or conform and thus become a part of society. They see the solution to disability as finding a way to cure disabled people so that they can fit into our current society. Supporters of the Social Model of Disability sees disability and the inclusion of disabled people as the responsibility of a society - as in, it’s up to all of us to make sure that disabled people get the accommodations they need. They see the solution to disability, not in finding a cure for individual disabilities, but in making sure that our society becomes accessible to everyone, regardless of disability.
Speccing: Engaging with your special interest.
Special interests (SI): Many autistic people have a topic or a thing that they’re deeply, passionately interested in. Some autistic people compare having a special interest to being in love - it’s what your mind drifts to when there’s nothing else to occupy it, it’s the only thing you want to talk about, it’s the first thing you think of when you wake up in the morning and it’s the last thing you think of before you fall asleep. This intense level of interest and passion often allows autistic people to excel in their areas of interest even when they may have trouble with basic everyday tasks. Some autistic people have special interests that lasts a life time, other people experience that their special interests change every couple years or maybe every couple months - or in some cases, every couple weeks. Some autistic people have one special interest at a time, other autistic people have many special interests. (If you want to learn more about special interests, click here to watch an informative video.)
Stim toy: A toy made for stimming/fidgeting. It can be something you can play with in your hands, something you can you can chew on, something you can touch/click/wring or spin. You can check out many different stim toys on www.stimtastic.co.
Stimming: Stimming is short for self-stimulatory behavior, meaning a behavior which is meant to stimulate one of your senses. Some common stims are rocking back and forth, bouncing your legs or feet, hand flapping, hand wringing and repeating words and sentences, but a stim can be any kind of repeated movement or action which stimulates on your senses. Stimming can thus be many different things - you can stim by smelling, touching, watching, moving, tasting and listening. The reason behind why autistic people stim is tied up in the fact that autistic people’s sensory processing tend to be atypical - when there’s a lot of overwhelming, stressing sensory input, providing your own repeated sensory input by listening to a song on repeat or rocking back or forth or smelling something you like the smell of may help you focus and calm down. Autistic people also stim to express emotions - it’s a natural part of our body language just like smiling or frowning is a natural part of most people’s body language. We may jump up and down and flap our hands when excited where most people would simply smile, or we may rock back and forth and press our hands against or faces where other people would cry. That being said, an autistic person doesn’t need a certain, deep reason for stimming - we often do it simply because it’s fun and because it feels good. (If you want to learn more about the different kinds of stimming, click here to watch an informative video)
as an autistic who has trained many a dog, I really appreciate this definition of ABA. it’s totally valid. I would never put my dog through what “therapists” put those children through.
(my greatest gift remains my parents: they got me diagnosed in the early 90s and never tried to change anything about me, only get me services that would actually help me.)
(photo via mattbongo)
“You could have safe-worded long enough to call and tell me.”
This post is funny, but I feel I have to add that the fallout of this prank was decidedly not funny.
It cost NYC taxpayers $2.1 million to fix the sign, which diverted from other necessary MTA work.
A ton of out-of-towners got lost because they were looking for the F train; people ended up in the wrong place, there was ridiculous traffic congestion, thousands of folks’ commutes got royally fucked up. Sometimes harmless pranks are not harmless; this one was really, REALLY not harmless.
One of my favorite thing I’ve learned about animals studies is that you should avoid using colorful leg bands when you’re banding birds because you can accidentally completely skew the data because female birds prefer males with colorful bands
Apparently if you put a red band on a male red wing blackbird his harem size can double
So like you can completely frick up the natural reproduction of a group of birds by giving a guy a bracelet so stylish that females CANNOT resist him
I have been involved in a study where this happened. We were so confused at first, and then had to throw everything out re-tagging the birds with ID numbers.
Dear teen girls,
Stop abusing your boyfriends and yes what you are doing is abuse.
Stop:
Yelling at him in front of his friends
Hitting or slapping him when he does or says something you don’t like
Telling him he doesn’t have a choice when it comes to decisions that involve both of you
Telling him he can’t hang out with friends because you don’t like him
Telling him to not talk to other girls even if they are his friend
Forcing him to spend every moment with you
Belittling him and pointing out all his flaws
Calling him stupid or making fun of him for making a mistake
Threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t do what you want
Being emotionally manipulative and crying until he does what you want
Accusing him of cheating every time he’s not with you
Blow up is phone if he doesn’t text you every five minutes
Telling him you are the must thing that has ever happened to him and no one else will love
Physically attacking him when ever you are mad
Forcing him to have sex despite that fact that he said he didn’t want to
Invading his privacy by going through his phone
Getting mad at him for changing his password and demanding he tell you what it is
If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abuse but since its the other way around its considered normal. Throughout High school I saw many girl treating their boyfriends like shit. Sometime even physically abusing them in the hallways and no one trying to stop it because its a girl attacking a boy.
Boys: If your girlfriend does anything on this list leave her. It is abuse and you deserve better.
Girls: if you find your self doing anything on this list to your boyfriend you need to knock it off because you are being abusive.
!!!!!!!! My brother was abused by his babies mom and it started like this and escalated to child abuse and neglect.
You don’t deserve to be screamed at, ignored, or assaulted.
Not showing affection when she wants or not hugging her before class) or missing a phone call doesn’t warrant getting cussed out or hit.
Lol, I lost 5 followers from reblogging this. That’s fine, y'all can go
Whole lot of grown women do this too.
Just wanna throw these in too
Being passive aggressive with him when he wants to spend time with friends or doing other things
controlling when he’s able to go out with friends
Breaking up his friendships with other girls just because you’re insecure
Making him feel like his opinions in decisions that affect the both of you are irrelevant and don’t matter
SENDING HIS NUMBER TO STRANGERS TO TEST IF HE’S LOYAL OR NOT
testing him in anyway in general without his knowledge or permission (example: catfishing! it’s manipulative and weird don’t fucking do that)
taking money/credit cards without permission to spend on things without his knowledge ( had an ex friend do this constantly to her boyfriend and she’d always condone it because “he’ll get over it” )
guilting him for hanging out with friends/family over you and making him choose between you and friends/family
telling him “you don’t love me if you *insert harmless activity he wants to do here* “
being rude or mean to him in front of others to assert dominance or power over him
downloading apps to spy on his phone activity (yes, this is a thing “”regular”” people do) or snooping on his social media to see who he’s talking to
hitting him, slapping him, punching him, shoving him. literally how do people not understand slapping your male partner is bad. people tend to find this funny in media and society and its weird. KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF YOUR PARTNER WITHOUT PERMISSION.
I come from a family of very forward and manipulative women and i see it in media all the time. it’s fucked and people need to not be accepting of young girls acting like snot-nosed, abusive shit heads that think they can get away with manipulation and cruelty because they happen to be girls.
and let me add this. ABUSIVE TEEN GIRLFRIENDS TURN INTO ABUSIVE GROWN ASS WOMEN GIRLFRIENDS WHO TURN INTO ABUSIVE WIVES.
if you have an abusive teen or young adult gf right now fellas, leave. don’t let her use you to get her shit right. you’ll be so fucked up by the time she gets it together if she ever does and believe that most likely she won’t.
Can i just add that ive seen young queer girls do this to their girlfriends. Girls can be abusers and you are right to leave.
Women/young girls can definitely be just as abusive. I knew a young man that got ran over and had his leg broken by his girlfriend because (in her words he annoyed her) He refused to press charges. Another young lady started to hit her ex boyfriend because he wouldn’t take her back because of the abuse. He called the cops on her and they literally started laughing at him because she was very petite in comparison to him. Anyone can be abusive and I wish more people understood that.
I don’t usually post stuff like this but please listen to this, everyone
This. All of this. I see so much of this in insecure relationships coming from the woman (and the guy too, but this post is about women). Idk how many times some woman has told me she:
Doesn’t let her boyfriend talk to other women without her present
Requires her boyfriend to tell her all the passwords to his social media, etc.
Gets mad at her boyfriend when he doesn’t ask permission before hanging out with his friends
A million other stupid ass things. Like seriously. So many things wrong with that kind of relationship. It’s manipulative on top of lacking any actual trust.
As someone who finally got out of a 10 year long abusive relationship and can relate to just about everything in this post, I’d like to include:
Getting into your social media accounts and deleting pictures of you and your interests because she doesn’t like them
Uses your phone, blog or social media disguising as you, to send hatemail to your friends that she doesn’t like in an attempt to ruin your friendship
Manipulating you to steal or be dishonest and break the law to show that you care
Bringing you to tears and then laughing at you because “a man shouldn’t cry”.
High School Bible Club
I just realised that I’ve never told Tumblr about Bible Club.
This was an unpleasant affair which the whole school was required to attend during our lunch break every Wednesday. Students would hide in every nook and cranny in the school to escape, only retuning for the real classes, but every effort was put forward by the faculty to compel attendance.
Once gathered, various teachers would take turns lecturing us about biblical topics. There was also a fair bit of discussion between teachers and students. Here I shall reproduce one such conversation I participated it, as I recorded it in my notes back then, reformatted for Tumblr:
Information Technology Teacher: …Can you imagine if you had been called to witness back in ancient Israel? I mean, it wasn’t as gentle a place as the world today. There were no cellphones or Facebook or television. Childbirths ended in death for the mother eighty percent of the time -
Me: Wow wow wow, hold on, sir. An eighty percent fatality rate? That, that’s not actually possible, though.
Teacher: Well, you see, medicine was a lot worse back then…
Me: …No, I mean literally impossible. Just from the fact that humanity still exists, that couldn’t have happened. The average woman needs to have at least two children to avoid population decline, and that can’t happen if eighty percent of women die after just one. In fact, if all the survivors of the first birth have another child, and eighty percent of them die, that still won’t be enough. Actually, if every woman keeps having children until one of them kills her, with all femme fatalities being caused by childbirth, that still wouldn’t be enough. That only gives you… a birthrate that tends to… one point two five, at the limit? I think?
Teacher, who’s been frowning slightly this whole time: …No, really, it was eighty. I guess you made a mistake.
Me: Are you sure? Maybe… Maybe we’re thinking of different things? Like, what if you mean eighty percent of female deaths were caused by child birth? Each woman had a few kids, but most of them got killed by one, eventually.
Teacher: Nope, eighty percent of births.
Me: …Maybe it was temporary? There was a plague for a few years that made childbirth extra-dangerous?
Me: No, that is just how it was back then.
Me: …What if you meant eighty percent of babies born died in infancy? Like, that sounds high, even for pre-germ-theory infant mortality, but it would be a bit more plausible…
Teacher: No no no. The mothers. I meant what I said.
Me: But sir, that doesn’t make sense! It’s beyond unsustainable! That’s a worse population collapse than Japan! No one beats Japan at amazing-yet-messed-up things, like population implosion!
Teacher: Jesus can beat Japan.
Me: No, sir, this isn’t a good thing!
Teacher: Look, I know what I’m talking about. It’s all in the Bible.
Me: …The Bible says “Four in every five women throughout the land passed away in childbirth”?
Teacher: Pretty much, yeah.
Me: …Sir, does God accept bug reports? I’d like to let him know that the universe’s “Math” module if broken. All of it.
Wait wait wait I can fix this
in parshat shmot(the first section of exodus) the jewish mothers are described as having had 6 children each all as sextuplets(based on some…drasha[derivation from the verses] stuff, the nights are long in babylon and rabbis dealt with it by inventing fables, w/e, ignore my rampant heresy)
Therefore, if this fact was only true about jewish mothers, the average fertility rate goes to 1.2 at least. However, we also see in midrash that Shifra and Puah(the two jewish midwives) were described as having the ability to make all births go well for child and mother(I remember this midrash existing but am less sure of it)
We know that the desert generation(~80 years after moshe was born, and Puah(yocheved) stopped working) was at 600,000 men from 20-60. Approximate this as 600,000 male births in the last egypt generation, or 600,000 women giving birth on average. We also know the jews entered as 70 people, of which-oh, wait, nope, The wives of Jacob’s sons are uncounted. So let’s assume…4+4+12+1…21 women are entering. 21 to 600000 in 7 generations is 4 new women per old woman, at a rate or 8 children per woman. Or, assuming X birth litters, 8/6X percent children survive.
Now, in the last generation, Shifra and puah needed to be at (8/(6x)-.2)*600000x=800000-12000x births.
…wait, crap, that doesn’t work at all. Um.
Hmm.
Come back to me.
If all pregnancies are at least twins, if not triplets or quadruplets, it might work.
[Insert biblical pun here]
well, this at least would make pharoah’s worries of overrunning by the jews realistic
also, damn this would make the plague of the firstborn so much darker
god
@janothar I thought you might perhaps enjoy this
Judaism and epidemiology in one post, this is kind of the best. This post was made for me.
This is the most terrifying commercial I’ve ever seen.
Class just spent a while tearing it apart and talking about everything that made this campaign a bad idea, but at the same time the prof echoing it with “ANAL CANCER” in announcer voice was pretty amazing.
At least it was replaced with a really awesome one, which I’ll also link when I can actually locate a copy of it on Youtube, but ...
anal cancer
dementia
stigmatize HIV more while trying to aim a campaign at a community where being HIV+ should actually be normalized
thanks Obama
reblog between now and jan 20th 2017 to thank Obama
(expired reblogs still count)
I know we all mockingly said “Thanks Obama” whenever bad shit happened too but for real, thanks Obama.
we love you Obama. never forget 💜
Like, 90% of infomercial style products were designed by/for disabled people, but you wouldn’t know that, because there is no viable market for them. THey have to be marketted and sold to abled people just so that any money can be made of off them and so the people who actually need them will have access.
I think snuggies are the one example almost everyone knows. They were invented for wheelchair users (Do you have any idea how hard it is to get a coat on and off of someone in a wheelchair? Cause it’s PRETTY FUCKIN HARD.) But now everyone just acts like they’re some ~quirky, white people thing~ and not A PRODUCT DESIGNED TO MAKE PEOPLES DAY TO DAY LIVES 10000X EASIER.
But if at any point you were to take your head out of your own ass and go “Hey, who would a product like this benefit,” that would be really cool.
This makes informational make so much sense now.
Like… of course there’s no reason for that guy to knock over that bowl of chips. However, the person it was actually designed for has constant hand tremors that would make this pretty rad, but since we don’t want to show that in a commercial, here’s an able bodied guy who can’t remember how gravity works.
Shit. Those commercials suddenly get a lot less funny when you realize it’s pretty much just people ineptly trying to mimic disability.
Or like the thing for the eggs? Like, oh, it cracks eggs perfectly, you only need one hand? IT WAS DESIGNED FOR PEOPLE WHO ONLY HAVE THE USE OF ONE HAND. Or the juice bottle pourer? For people who’re TOO LAZY TO POUR THEIR OWN JUICE? Or FOR PEOPLE WHO HAVE DIFFICULTY BEARING WEIGHT IN THE HANDS.
It’s amazing how with just a few words by a few people, my whole perspective on something can shift entirely.
I feel so ignorant for never having realized this before.
Most people I know who own infomercial products are elderly, disabled and poor.
thank you - best public service announcement I have seen in a really long time
As the person the juice bottle pourer was designed for, whose life is VASTLY IMPROVED BY THIS THING I CAN POUR MY OWN DRINKS (previously only feasible when containers were almost empty) this is an always reblog.