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I have big brown eyes and no hope

this post sums up why they feel so bad about male socialisation being pointed out. it's like when you tell white people they benefit from and perpetuate racism and they can't handle it normally, they can't think "hm maybe this should inform how I see the world and treat others", they curl up into a ball and start talking about how it's not their fault they couldn't escape their meemaw's gollywog collection and their dad calling their friend a nigger that one time and how everyone thinks they'll be racist forever and how they should just apologise for being racist forever, because that's what we want. what they are uncomfortable with is the idea of even temporarily having been treated in a manner that made them more privileged at the time.

noblackwomannocry

a lot of transfems' posting about gendered socialisation makes it clear that they think it's something that they opt into/choose to participate in/have to enjoy to be affected by rather than something that happens to people from the time they are born. people start saying shit like "wow what a little flirt!" about baby boys before they've even developed object permanence. people have gendered expectations for babies based on their cries. mothers overestimate their infant sons' ability to crawl and underestimate their daughters' ability. these attitudes affect how people raise their children. these attitudes affect how children develop their attitudes towards themselves and others.

peers bullying you for your sensitivity, parents blowing up at you for liking Girl Things, boys saying you aren't really a boy because you're a pussy are things that happen to boys because they were born and raised male. being the world's sweetest most gentle and sensitive effeminate little child who never hurt a fly or did a misogyny doesn't make the male socialisation not exist. the socialisation one receives isn't an "I consent!" thing it's the way people treat you differently based on your gender. transitioning later in life doesn't magically stop wider society from being homophobic, transphobic & misogynistic and enforcing rigid expectations based upon this on anyone in society.

girlnumbers

Men that have anime girl profile pictures are mentally ill and should be locked up

kittybunprincess

"I could fix her" well actually I like evil women and I'll let her commit crimes in the name of love

2000srotting

doingitatmybirthdaydinner

also gender-non-conformity is cool and normal and doesn't require hormones or surgery or a pronoun or name change but I didn't really have room to put all that lol

ffuscous

“Back Off Boys, They’re Butch!”

10 themed pin-up intaglio prints, each ~2”x3”

maudit

profeminist

RIP Marjane Satrapi, author of the amazing graphic novels Persepolis about living during the fundamentalist revolution in Iran in the 70’s and 80’s. She also created the animated movie based on the graphic novels, which is where these gifs come from.

Gifset source

erebusvincent

Good.

unsentimentaltranslator

Domestic violence, rape and the constant pressure to look like Good Products for men’s consumption are also driving a hidden mental health crisis but no yeah, let’s publish some sexual coercion instead.

bezoarcureforpoison

Ten or 15 years ago, I read a comment or blog post or something in which the writer explained her theory that the reason men fought so hard against being called creepy was because it doesn't leave room for negotiation.

If you find a person creepy, that's a purely subjective stance, so nobody can tell you you're wrong, or why you're wrong.

You can't overcome being creepy by making more money, or being taller or fitter or dressing better or having clear skin and nice hair. You're still creepy.

"Ick" is the same thing. I find you viscerally unappealing in an indescribable way. The end.

So because you can't tell somebody they're wrong if they find you creepy, we have to be subjected to a million think pieces about how mean it is to find men viscerally unappealing.

Fortunately, there are block buttons.

inthesensethat

hexthelex-deactivated20250420

This is true btw

letmeliedown

the podcast If Books Could Kill has a really great episode on the original book and its legacy! just a bunch of misogynist evangelical bullshit really

bathandbodyworkssignaturecandles

My shitass abusive ex was really into love languages, and you'll never guess which one was his "main love language" and what he wanted from me for it!!!!

hugewoman

Literally just the language of “acts of service” should have tipped people off a lot sooner, like the christian husband worship vibes are strong there