So youāre feeling suicidalā¦
Iām not going to sugar coat it; it happens, especially for those of us suffering from BPD, Depression, and other mood and anxiety disorders.
And sometimes, itās really fucking scary
So hereās my unsolicited advice to you; take it or leave it
*Personally, when I get really suicidal, like the āshit the rope is around my neckā or āthe pills are in my hand just fucking take themā the last thing on my mind is āhow can I save myselfā, soā¦
Step 1: fight the urge. Survive the near attempt. Find a fucking ounce of hope that convinces you to live
*this can be anything, ie: because I love fuzzy sweaters, or because there is so much art I havenāt done
Step 2: ok, so you survived the near attempt, or very scary serious thoughts. Chances are, youāre still feeling pretty agitated, depressed, suicidal, or an impossibly infinite number of emotions. For me, the next step is to focus on something other than myself
*I use an app called āCalm Harmā. It is intended for self harm, but works equally as well for suicidal urges. It gives you suggestions and different tools to help pass the urge to self-destruct. Some are distractors, expressive outlets, or meditative techniques.
Step 2.5: if the urge does not pass, remove yourself from the unsafe environment. I cannot stress the importance or genuine effectiveness of this tool. Go to the library. Take a walk. Do what you have to do.
Step 3: When I manage to ride the wave, pass the urge, I am almost always left feeling numb, emotionless, and terrified of my own mind-more often than not, this makes me want to self harm.
If you are left feeling like you want to self harm, return to step 2: ride the wave, wait for the urge to pass.
If you do self harm- donāt beat yourself up about it. It happens, and usually itās not the end of the world. However, if you do self harm, please take care of yourself afterwords
Step 4: if youāre feeling like you are able to, or if the option is feasible, remove the dangerous objects from your room; ie. pills, ropes, knives, razor blades, etc.
This can be a difficult step to take. Push yourself to take it, but make sure you take baby steps. Removing all coping mechanisms (such as cutting) can make things worse in the long run. So take it slow. Start with putting your pills in the bathroom so that they arenāt there to temp you, or moving the ropes to the garage. Youāll get there, but give yourself time.
Step 5: Self Care. Whether that is cleaning the wounds, making some tea, curling up with a good book or taking a nap, self care is key. You made it. You can do this. This is not the end of your story.
Being suicidal is no easy feat, and each and every time you get through that battle, you are one step closer to winning this war.
Iām proud of you for making it through those feelings and this post.
You have an amazing future.
You just have to do is survive long to find it š¤
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