neven & abnur for @tes-gala's free day!!! :) abnur definitely drags neven to all sorts of important events and parties with him, so i think it's very realistic for the two of them to be dressed up together. although neither of them are actually fans of having to attend these things, they'll take any chance to drink a little wine and gossip with each other lol
Repeating what you say without ever changing it when someone doesn't understand, is not effective communication. It actually is the opposite of effective communication.
If someone clearly is not understanding what you say, even when you think it is very obvious and clear what you've said, then getting angry at them and starting to yell at them the same thing you've just said will not get them to understand any better or quicker. You genuinely do have to try and word things differently, or ask clarifying questions to find out where the breakdown in communication is.
None of us are taught the same way when it comes to communication.
Holding this belief that we are good at communication, that we are effective at communication, whilst still falling into the same problems with everyone around us, is a negative mindset to have.
Sure, we will occassionally run into other people who do communicate like us, but this will never be guaranteed for everyone. We can not hold the assumption that we're always in the right just because a couple of people around us do understand us. Sometimes the people who understand us has taken a long time to finally get there, too.
Let's Talk About Security Culture: Why Keeping Secrets is Cool and Sexy
It's a natural impulse -- if you love crime -- to want to talk about how great it is. And if you hate America, it's only natural to want to share your dreams for its future with the rest of tumblr dot com. It can feel brave and transgressive. And there is a drive to share your soul with the world at the heart of social media. Surely I should be posting the most concrete implications of my politics, right? This is the poster's curse.
Security Culture refers to a set of "best practices" developed over the past several decades, largely (in a US context) coming out of radical environmental groups as they faced intense state repression, infiltration and entrapment. If you're not familiar, there's some fascinating crimethinc write ups to give you a window into that world:
A security culture is a set of customs shared by a community whose members may be targeted by the government, designed to minimize risk. Hav
For as long as anyone can remember, the FBI has infiltrated radical communities in hopes of framing people on criminal charges. This has int
Much of it boils down to: don't talk about crimes, past or forthcoming with people who don't need to know about them, and be mindful of the possibility of surveillance and infiltration. And, we can support each other as a community in minimizing risks, with an eye towards enabling bold action rather than getting bogged down in fears and anxieties. The guidelines that make sense for AG-based trouble-makers are different from the guidelines that make sense for posters, but plenty of common principles apply. To speak briefly to our position here as posters:
First, it bears saying that long term anonymity is extremely nearly impossible to maintain. Unless you've never accessed Tumblr without a vpn, and avoided connections with other ppl who can be associated with you/your location, and never shared pictures without scrubbing metadata, and a bunch of other 100% consistent steps, it's trivial for the state to know who you are.
Second, just because something isn't actively being prosecuted now doesn't mean it can't be prosecuted later. The priorities of the state change and a shift in power towards the right or a growth in radical action from the left can suddenly make it a priority to destroy anarchist networks or just find a few ppl to prosecute as examples (who probably weren't that plugged into larger networks before getting arrested. Advocating for specific anti-government crimes or declarations of intent to commit such crimes are likely prosecutable even if charges don't stick they're an easy vector for legal harassment.
Third, it's worth thinking about heat as separate from prosecutability. There are modes of engagement that may not be directly criminalized but signal that you are someone worth watching. Some people choose to be public in ways that make heat unavoidable. But it's worth noting that heat isn't strictly individualized, that it persists over time but also is going to shrink over time.
It's easy on here, ime, to see yourself as a proud member of the crime fandom but not much of a content creator. And it's easy to feel like you've generated an amount of heat where you're locked into that role. But heat you generated 10 years ago is probably pretty well gone. Heat you generated 5 years ago has faded substantially. It's worth thinking about how the world might shift in the coming years and what doors you want to keep open.
The non-individualized nature of heat also means that leaning into the spiciest of anti-state positions will make it a bad idea for people who are acting out those positions end up tied to you. Loudly talking about how "more people should be doing [X/Y/Z]" unfortunately sets you up to remain distant from people who might be doing or thinking about doing such things.
Which brings me back to: keeping secrets is sexy. Not spelling everything out builds intrigue. You can lay out a theoretical position and leave working out the practical implications of that as an exercise for the reader. There's value in opacity. The poster's curse and the drive to confess are extremely convenient for the state, but we can resist them. We can hold dreams in our hearts that we refuse to offer up to the posting spectacle.
[image description: meme showing four steps in a repeating cycle. in the middle is a simple drawing of a person sprawled face down on the ground. the steps read as follows:
faced with important adult task
get scared by at least one part of it & avoid it
blink
months have passed & task is now even more important
do you remember that post about how to clean teslas with lemon juice that got repeated by the stupid AI on google? i just checked and it doesn't show the good tumblr advice anymore.
a pity.
as google will eliminate the search function and become straight up chat gpt soon, do you think we could repeat that deed and spread more lies and falsehoods for the love of the game?
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