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This is my personal side blog where I'm probably going to talk a lot about asexuality and autism! ((Bi/Ace, She/Her))

[itsaspectrumcomic]

A 2pm appointment can take all day when you're autistic

[etherealspacejelly]

I'm autistic and I currently feel like shit checklist

Hi there. Are you autistic? Do you currently feel like shit and don't know why? Try this checklist to see if you can Fix The Problem!

When was the last time you used the bathroom? If you answered "I don't know" or "at least 3 hours ago", go now!

Do you need a drink? Go get one if you don't have one in front of you.

When was the last time you ate? If you haven't eaten yet today, consider eating A Meal, or perhaps A Snack. Something is better than nothing, eat whatever you feel able to!

Is there something in your immediate surroundings that is bothering you? If the light is too bright, turn it off. If there is an annoying sound, make the sound stop or reduce your ability to hear it (earplugs, headphones, etc.). If your clothes are bothering you, change them.

Is your space messy? Pick one area of your room and clean it up as best you can. Clean your whole room if you have the energy!

When was the last time you did An Activity? Scrolling on social media doesn't count. Try actively doing something fun! Play a game you like, read a book, make something, or go for a walk.

When was the last time you Spoke to a Person? Consider talking to a person you like if it has been a while.

How long has it been since you did something Special Interest related? Make some time to do that today. Infodump to a friend, have a nice long research session, look at related images or gifs, make art about it, whatever works best for you!

Try stimming actively! Put on some music and dance, spin in circles, go to the park and use the swings!

If you still feel like shit after trying all of these things, you might be tired or sick. Go to bed early and get some rest. Hopefully you will feel better tomorrow!

Hope that helps :)

[lunarlegend]

y'know, one thing i don't see get talked about much in regards to asexuality is how it feels to never be 'sexually motivated' by anything

and not just when it comes to advertisements using 'sexy' models to try and sell you stuff, but like. in general

sex as a favor, sex as a bribe, sex in exchange for whatever

casual sex, 'friends with benefits' situations, even simple flirting

it all looks a whole lot different from the perspective of someone who's immune to manipulation via sex appeal, who has virtually no understanding as to why sex would motivate someone to cheat on their partner, etc. etc.

sex is worthless to me

i mean, it's useful as a story element in fiction, but it genuinely perplexes me that sex is such a driving force behind so many aspects of irl society & of people's individual lives, for better or for worse

and that it's so deeply ingrained into how the average person views the world & various situations, because the average person feels sexual attraction, whereas i do not

i think the barrier between aces & allos is actually even deeper than it seems on the surface at times, because it's more than just the grating expectation that everyone must want to 'settle down' and have kids, it's also the fact that the majority of the world is sort of 'in' on a joke that aces will never truly be a part of

[teaboot]

Posts that validate my identity

Sex as a form of intimacy? Understand. Intimacy as enjoyable? Understand. Intimacy as vital? Understand. Sex as vital? Does not compute

[magniloquent-raven]

feelings that my ace ass didnt realize werent sexual attraction for the LONGEST time:

goddamb ur pretty i would love to draw you

you look like u give excellent hugs

literally how are you so aesthetically pleasing pls let me look at you for a while but don't make eye contact because that'd be weird

kinda wanna tie you up or maybe let u tie me up

gender envy

massive amounts of gender envy

i love you so fuckin much pls let me squish you i wanna smooch ur forehead

this fictional character just did something badass and it made me feel things; none of those feelings were in my pants, but i have literally no idea what sexual attraction is SUPPOSED to feel like so maybe this is it

getting horny while reading smut even tho trying to picture myself in any of these scenarios is an immediate boner-killer

literally so much gender envy

[slimeandsensitive]

not so commonly talked about autism traits

~poor/abnormal posture ~trouble with left, right, and other directions ~disinterest in sports/physical activity ~rituals with no outcome ~large or unique vocabulary ~lack of organization ~intense compassion/empathy ~intense anger or no anger at all ~connections with animals ~difficulty understanding pop culture, styles, trends, etc

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Credit

[bluehairedspidey]

marina and the diamonds: TV taught me how to feel, now real life has no appeal

me, neurodivergent, has consistently hyperfixated on media ever since i developed cognitive thought:

[autistic-dragonkid]

autistic childhood is like: *hides in library* *is ostracized by peers* *puts hand out car window to feel the wind pulling your hand* *hides under desk* *is forced to hug relatives* *spins in a circle* *is bullied* *screams when something changes* *is whispered about by adults* *hides under bed* *picks a fictional universe and mentally lives in it* *is ostracized by peers* *watches same movie over and over* *acts out the same story with your toys over and over again* *paces* *imitates noises you hear* *is ostracized by peers* *screams when somebody touches your stuff* *accidentally says something rude and is punished* *makes weird facial expressions by accident* *is either loved or hated by teachers* *hides in a bush* *is whispered about by adults* *is ostracized by peers* *hides* *is bullied* *hides* *hides* *is whispered about* *hides* *is ostracized* *hides* *hides* *hides* *hides*

[awn-network]

Current diagnostic criteria for autism excludes children who have been raised in supportive and accepting environments, making them undiagnosable.

“That’s right…. my son’s paediatrician says that my autistic way of parenting supports my son too well for him to be traumatised enough for a diagnosis, so we should let school traumatise him and come back later…

…Which brings me to thinking about how we identify autism in the children who are now being raised by autistic parents in a respectful and supportive way. The children who have experienced acceptance of their autistic neurology from birth and who have never been exposed to harmful therapies.

Autistic children raised by accepting parents, often autistic themselves.”

[star-anise]

It’s true. The current clinical model for Autism is based on traumatized Autistic children. The experiences of happy, well-nurtured, thriving Autistic people have been hugely excluded from the clinical literature. That needs to change.

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The only thing more powerful than a hyper focus is

[witchyw0rm]

Adhd/autistic culture is letting a song play on repeat for hours because it sounds nice™

[too-many-problems-to-list]

Might have these out of order but just a good thread to share.

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[link to the original thread on twitter for screenreaders]

on one hand this thread makes me want to cry a lot and on the other I’m like, well, my brain is a complex system and now I have a sort of entry point to figure out how it works, so that’s good

[fidgetcubist]

Autistic Voices: A Masterpost

Here is a list of resources about autism, with a focus on actually autistic voices, divided by topic. You will find articles, websites, videos, Youtube channels, etc., most of them created by autistic people. If there are resources you would like to contribute to this post, or if you have other suggestions, don’t hesitate to let me know.

What is autism?

Nick Walker: What is autism?

Autistic Self Advocacy Network: About Autism

Autisticality: Inclusive autistic traits

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic: What is Autism?

Neurodiversity

Identity-First Autistic: The Neurodiversity Paradigm

Nick Walker: Neurodiversity: some basic terms and definitions

Nick Walker: The Neurodiversity Paradigm and the Path of Self-Liberation

Nick Walker: Throw Away the Master’s Tools: Liberating Ourselves from the Pathology Paradigm

Elisabeth Wiklander: Neurodiversity — the key that unlocked my world

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic: What is Neurodiversity

Identity-first language vs person-first language

Autistic Self Advocacy Network: Identity-First Language

Nathan Selove: Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Person First Language

Autistic Hoya: The Significance of Semantics: Person-First Language: Why It Matters

Social model of disability vs medical model of disability

Identity-First Autistic: Understanding Disability Models

Autistic Hoya: You are not a burden.

Nathan Selove: Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Models of Disability Discourse

Nathan Selove: Creating A Social Model of Autism Ari Ne’eman at Emory University: Autism and the Disability Community: The Politics of Neurodiversity, Causation and Cure

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #16: Is Autism a Disability?

Functioning labels

Identity-First Autistic: Identity-First Autistic’s stance on ‘functioning labels’

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic: What about Functioning Labels? 

autisticliving: What’s Wrong with Functioning Labels? A Masterpost.

Nathan Selove: Autistic ACTUALLY Speaking: High Functioning versus Low Functioning

AUTISTIC WEREWOLF: WHY LABELS EXPECIALLY HIGH & LOW FUNCTIONING AUTISM IS ARE A LOAD OF CRAP! (cw: use of the R-word)

Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism: The Problems with Functioning Labels

Autistic women

Reese Piper: ‘I Thought I Was Lazy’: The Invisible Day-To-Day Struggle For Autistic Women

Fabienne Cazalis: The women who don’t know they’re autistic

Aspergers from the Inside: Female Diagnosis and Self-Advocacy with Geraldine Robertson

Purple Ella: DIFFERENCES AUTISTIC BOYS AND GIRLS

Seventh Voice: The Gas-lighting of Women and Girls on the Autism Spectrum

  Suicide

AutisticNomad: Speaking to Suicidal Autistics

Science Daily: Coventry University: People with Autism at Greater Risk of Attempting Suicide

Dan Jones: Autism: Diagnosis Saved My Life

Empathy

Rebecca Brewer and Jennifer Murphy for Spectrum News: People with autism can read emotions, feel empathy

Nathan Selove: Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Empathy

Luna Lindsey: Double-Standards: The Irony of Empathy and Autism

Intersectional Neurodiversity: New Research Suggests Social Issues Are Down to Neurotypicals More than Autistics

Self-advocacy

Nathan Selove: Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Self Advocacy

Amythest Schaber: Autistics Speaking: Self-Advocacy in a Culture of Cure

Autistic Hoya: What is Self-Advocacy?

Executive function

Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism: Executive Functioning Problems: A Frustrating Aspect of Being Autistic

Reese Piper: ‘I Thought I Was Lazy’: The Invisible Day-To-Day Struggle For Autistic Women

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #25: What is Executive Functioning?

Aspergers from the Inside: Executive Function (a response to Ask an Autistic)

Purple Ella: AUTISM AND EXECUTIVE FUNCTIONING

Special interests

Musings of an Aspie: What’s So Special About a Special Interest?

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #13 - What are Special Interests?

Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism: Autism and Intense Interests: Why We Love What We Love and Why It Should Matter to You

Stimming

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #1 - What is Stimming?

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic: Living Atypically - Self-Injurious Stims

The Artism Spectrum: Stimming 101, or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Stim

The Artism Spectrum: The Dark Side of the Stim: Self-injury and Destructive Habits

Meltdowns

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #15 - What are Autistic Meltdowns?

Unstrange Minds: The Protective Gift of Meltdowns

Purple Ella: DEALING WITH MELTDOWNS

Shutdowns

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #20 - What are Autistic Shutdowns?

Unstrange Mind: Autistic Shutdown Alters Brain Function

Passing

AUTISTIC WEREWOLF: ANOTHER WAY AUTISTIC WEREWOLVES HIDE IN THIS NEUROTYPICAL WORLD!

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #2 - What is Passing?

Autistic burnout

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #3 - What is Autistic Burnout?

Musings of an Aspie: Autistic Regression and Fluid Adaptation

Autisticality: Burnout

Autism Information Library: “Help! I seem to be Getting More Autistic!”

Inertia

Autisticality: Inertia

Divergent Minds: A Look at Autistic Inertia

Alexithymia

Unstrange Mind: Alexithymia: I Don’t Know How I Feel

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #27: What is Alexithymia?

What not to say to an autistic person

Autistic Hoya: 15 Things You Should Never Say To An Autistic

Radical Neurodivergence Speaking: What to say, and not to say, to an autistic adult

Nathan Selove: Top 5 Well Meaning Things People Should Stop Saying to Autistics

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #12 - What Shouldn’t I Say to Autistic People?

StimNation: S#!T Ignorant People Say to Autistics

Actually Autistic: 10 Things Not To Say To Autistic People

BBC Three: Things Not To Say To An Autistic Person

Non-speaking autistic voices

Amy Sequenzia: Non-speaking, “low-functioning”

Mel Baggs: In My Language

Mel Baggs: Don’t ever assume autism researchers know what they’re doing

Sue Rubin’s website

Autism $peaks/Light It Up Blue/Puzzle Piece

The Caffeinated Autistic: New Autism Speaks Masterpost (Updated 4/4/17)

The Caffeinated Autistic: Autism Speaks *still* does not speak for me

Autistic Anthro: Enough with the Puzzle Pieces

Autistic Anthro: Autism Awareness Month

Amythest Schaber: Ask an Autistic #6 - What’s Wrong With Autism Speaks

Nathan Selove: Autism ACTUALLY Speaking: Lighting Up Blue

John Elder Robinson: I Resign My Roles at Autism Speaks

Autistic Hoya: Co-Opting the Movement: Autism Speaks, John Elder Robinson, and Complicity in Oppression

Autistic Hoya: Responding to Autism Speaks

When autism parents don’t listen

Jim Sinclair: Don’t Mourn For Us

Autistic Hoya: They keep publishing these violent articles

Autistic Hoya: Why we must #BoycottToSiri / An open letter to Judith Newman

Amythest Schaber: #BoycottToSiri

Susie Rodarme: An Open Letter to HarperCollins about TO SIRI WITH LOVE

Kaelan Rhywiol: Why I Believe ‘To Siri With Love’ By Judith Newman Is A Book That Does Incredible Damage To The Autistic Community

Aaron Kappel: When You’re Autistic, Abuse Is Considered Love

Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism: Autism Uncensored: A Dangerous and Spirit-Crushing Book

Service dogs and autism

Nathan Selove: Service Dog Tales

In French

Super Pépette - Julie Dachez’s Youtube channel

La Fille Pas Sympa - Julia March’s blog

[wuvdisc]

special interests are honestly so funny because one moment you dont care about a thing and suddenly your brains like Hey. You Are Now Psychologically Required To Like This More Than Anything Else And There’s Nothing You Can Do About It

[comrade-bastard-deactivated2024]

Am I relatable yet

[lovelystimmy]

when you touch a Bad Texture™ and have to scrub at ur hands until the feeling is gone

[egregiousoveruseofnormalcy-deac]

When your teeth scrape against something they don’t like and your entire body tries to escape the upper atmosphere.

[betaferret]

When your nails drag across an Unpleasant Thing so your arms stop working from the elbows down and your ears ring.

[floraroyal]

when something nearby makes a Bad Sound and you’re actively trying to get onto the astral plane in your corporeal form

[wern]

yeah hyperfixation can be inconvenient sometimes but when i’m between hyperfixations life is like meaningless so